About earthly love. And its differences from romantic love

Where are you, my unearthly love?
The bright blood beats and boils in the veins!
Scarlet blood beats and boils in my veins!
Where are you, my unearthly love?

I left everything, I'm looking for you,
For me there is neither sun nor day,
Only...

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Space and time. I merged with the field of beauty and harmony, with the field of perfection. Indescribable unearthly sensation. The thought came from somewhere: this Love. This is the one Love, which permeates, fills and holds our entire world. I felt that this was the Highest... I wanted to be alone. I wanted to forever merge with the excitement that had just surged, to imprint in my memory this meeting with Unearthly With love. But the doctor’s voice finally brought me back to this world: “You had cardiac arrest.” But now...

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Schedule with past dates.
Rock has reached its limit.
Troubles disintegrated into atoms,
Memory smokes with fog.

We are waiting for magic from the future,
So that for the soul and avidly
Happiness for us to taste gushchevo
Until darkness so.

Crystal castles are being built
On the...

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It can be focused on one person, or it can be focused on everyone. If it is focused on one person, then it is called love, if it is focused on the universal, then it turns into a prayerful state. The state of love is as natural as breathing. If... by me." If you obey, you will become dead. You cannot say, "Love only in my presence." There is no monopoly on Love. All this does not mean that we have to love everyone, but we must be in a loving state of mind. How is that...

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Much more often than in past centuries, and this is encouraging, there is hope that after all Love and good will overcome evil and cruelty. Internal understanding and application of the true qualities of human love and love... by talking about high things”... The desire to comprehend the feelings and principles of Cosmic Love is the criterion by which the vector and level of development of civilization can be determined. Love Cosmic - for many, unfortunately, it is still little known from the practical side: and this includes humility, and independence, and acceptance, and...

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Love

Love - what could be in that word?
Just the letters in the word, that's all.
Just think a little about how much native there is,
And how much tenderness for your heart!

A child is born and is immediately loved,
He grows up, and his mothers dote on him.
Behind...

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Love goes where it's expected

Love goes where it is expected.
Love comes to those who believe in it.
Larisa Chugunova

Love goes where it is expected.
Love comes to those who believe.
Who is ready to give shelter to a feeling?
And he himself will open the doors to the soul.

Love is not a fairy tale, not a game
And it doesn't happen...

The investigation of a blatant criminal case is being completed in the garrison military prosecutor's office of Vladivostok. Sailor Yuri Polezhaev was killed in a military unit. And his parents were told for more than a year and a half that their son had run away. And they did not report the guy’s death even after his skeleton was accidentally found 500 meters from the shore by amateur divers. When Polezhaev’s father and mother found out the truth, Yuri had already been resting in the Russky Island cemetery for three months.

IMPOSSIBLE GREEN EYES

Russia, 2002
Production: "REN-film"
Director: Georgy Shengelia
Scriptwriter: Alexey Timm
Producer: Dmitry Lesnevsky

There is probably not a single person who would not like to look at the stars and make wishes when some of them fall: “Look how something flies in number more than five over house four, breaking through the light barrier,” Boris Grebenshchikov sang. And he was, as always, right: after all, sooner or later, everyone thinks that these are not just beautiful little dots, but huge celestial bodies, only they are very far from us. And around them, like around our Sun, planets revolve. And since there are planets, it is possible that people live there - or rather, aliens...
These guesses can be developed ad infinitum. All the same, there is nothing else left, because humanity will not reach these stars very soon (if at all). In the meantime, we can only watch foreign creatures on film and television screens. The REN TV channel will delight you with a meeting with an alien civilization this November in the series “Impossible Green Eyes.”

The young man Alexander Litvinov (Evgeniy Stychkin), who is about to turn thirty, is not very lucky in life. He works as an agent in a real estate office, but his career stubbornly does not work out. He is married, he has children, but there are continuous discords in his family. He tries his best to meet the standards of life imposed by his environment and glossy magazines, but due to his average, or even rather low, income, nothing works out for him. In short, everything is going to hell, but Sasha is given one last chance. For his company, he must acquire a plot of land on which a pioneer camp was once located. However, it turns out that the earth is occupied by aliens who are conducting experiments on people there. Sasha has no choice but to become a hero and save the planet from evil space creatures, to whom, it turns out, nothing human is alien. Love, for example.
When we went to filming in the Istrinsky district of the Moscow region, we wondered all the way what these same aliens would look like. To our disappointment, it turned out that they would be absolutely no different from people. And this is the main intrigue of the series: where the strangers are, where our own are, the viewer will find out only at the end of the film.
“The dramaturgy in this film is very unexpected,” Sergei Nikonenko shared with us a little later. “You won’t immediately understand what’s happening here.” Despite the aliens, there is little that is invented here: we encounter all this “fantasy” in life every day. When I read the script, I discovered our reality in which we live. In terms of difficulty, I probably haven’t played anything like this for a long time. These people we portray here think a little differently. And to pass their nature, their thinking through your circulatory system, to make it yours, so that it heals in you, is the main difficulty. And the director chose the ensemble of actors very well, and I don’t know whether I’ll fit into it or not. I am always very demanding of myself, I want to find my place so as not to be crossed and play with all the artists in the same key. (Because of such fears of “not fitting in,” Sergei Petrovich even persuaded the director to arrange an audition for himself, although he was ready to take the famous actor just like that. - "ICB".)
A little over an hour's drive from Moscow and we are there. More precisely, in the forest. A lopsided iron gate loomed ahead. They explained to us that once upon a time there really was a pioneer camp here, and now the main part of the filming takes place here. In a small wooden gazebo, which was dragged to the shore of a surprisingly dirty pond completely covered with duckweed, Evgeny Stychkin and Sergey Nikonenko were sitting at the table and having a nice cup of tea. Nikonenko plays a certain Colonel, who poses as the director of this camp. Sasha Litvinov is trying to find out what kind of object this is and who these people who live here are. The colonel assures him that he ended up in a boarding house for relatives of wealthy people. But Sasha has the complete impression that he ended up in a madhouse, where the patients killed the entire staff and themselves acted as medical workers (for example, shortly before this, one of the doctors listened to Alexander with a pioneer horn). The colonel keeps avoiding answering. At this moment, a boy of about ten with a pistol appears from the bushes and aims at Litvinov. Sasha leans under the table, and then a shot thunders...
“This camp is the most decent of the abandoned ones, at least there is electricity here,” director Georgy Shengelia told us. “We’re filming in two more camps, because it’s quite difficult to find all the necessary scenery in one place, but there’s practically nothing left there at all—sheer devastation. Are you asking if there were any problems with the rental? Well, yes! We live in a different world: everyone wants to get a dollar for their square meter. The owners were immediately found... (Then the director added a few words that we cannot reproduce for ethical reasons.)
“The most decent of the abandoned ones” - this is said very, very conditionally. It's hard to say how scary this camp is at night, but even during the day it's pretty creepy. Especially if you go deeper into the thickets, where no sounds can be heard from the set. While the actors were having lunch, we went to explore the area. Sweltering thirty-degree heat, ringing silence, a cloying smell emanating from some flowers, and a road that leads to an unknown destination... All this is very reminiscent of the Zone in the film "Stalker", although the director assured us that he tried to do everything to make it it didn't feel like Tarkovsky's Zone. Suddenly some buildings appeared from behind the trees. This, in fact, was the camp itself with residential buildings, a dining room and other administrative buildings. The foreign car standing on the path was in sharp dissonance with the desolation reigning here. It belonged to the main artist of the picture, who happily agreed to show his possessions.
At first he took us to see the Colonel's office. Having risen to the second floor, we found ourselves in a long corridor, on both sides of which there were chambers. The only reminders that someone had once lived here were the iron beds and the dilapidated nightstands around them. At the end of the corridor there was a rest room, which was converted into an office. In its entirety it truly resembled a madman's asylum, although there were no unusual things there. On the walls hung children's drawings, which the film crew collected from archives around the world. Unfortunately, the tattered wallpaper and half-peeling stained glass on the windows were not inherited: the artists had to do it all themselves by hand. The same applies to all the inscriptions and drawings on the walls both inside and outside the houses - in total, 2,000 square meters had to be painted. In one corner of the room there was a bust of Lenin, in the other there was a pioneer banner, and next to it lay that same notorious bugle. In general, the whole room was dotted with long-forgotten attributes from the pioneer past, there was even a poster with the words of the oath. In the middle of it all was a massive table.
Then we went to another building to look at the hospital ward. It was a small room with one single bed, on which lay a terrible-looking dirty mattress. The artist told us that the day before our arrival, an actress was tortured here: in the story, the orderlies tied her character to a bed, since, in their opinion, she behaved very violently. It was not very easy to leave the building, just as it had been before to enter it, because half the steps of the staircase were broken. Holes of various sizes gaped in the floor and inside the rooms... The artist dreamed of showing us a medical office in which aliens conduct experiments, but we could not get inside: the lock was jammed. Therefore, climbing knee-deep into the nettle thickets, we went to look through the small windows. It was difficult to make out anything through the glass that had not been washed for years, but it is clear that nothing pleasant awaits the experimental people there. Everything we saw made us even more uncomfortable, and even the understanding that these were just decorations did not make the situation more joyful, and we hurried back to the people, leaving the artist alone with his creation.
The first person we came across was Boris Korchagin - the same boy who would shoot Litvinov. We tried to find out from him who he really was, but the child behaved like a partisan and did not tell us anything. Nikonenko didn’t reveal the secret either. “When you find out who this boy is, you won’t wonder much,” was all Sergei Petrovich said. But we also turned out to be intelligence officers and found out that Borya plays almost the main alien, who reincarnated as a child, but in fact is an adult, almost an old man. And the role of the main alien went to Grigory Siyatvinda.
— Grisha is a dray actor, simply fantastic! - said Shengelia. “The fact that the boss of the aliens is black is written in the script.” The producers and studio were ready for me to call in a foreign actor. They were ready to pay for any black person - from America, from Uganda, from Brazil... But I convinced them that no one would play the way Siyatvinda would play.
In general, getting at least some plot details from the director turned out to be almost impossible. Unless the “impossible green eyes” belong to the main character, played by Lyubov Lvova.
“What I really like about this story is that our planet is saved not by the Americans, not by the French, not by the Chinese, but by the love that happens in our Moscow region,” Georgy Shengelia finally shared. — Love that weighs on those who came here. They suddenly understand something, and a particle of the air we breathe penetrates into them. Love will save the world, and not only love for each other, but also for all living things that surround us.
He is echoed by the “main savior of humanity” Evgeny Stychkin:
— It’s very difficult to say what this film is about. Nothing. About love, about people, about what, in addition to beauty, can save our world... About everything.

What is true love and does it exist? Does unconditional love happen? Love and infatuation - what's the difference? What is "unearthly" love? Is there happiness on earth (or are we living in hell)? What is the secret of happiness, isn’t that the secret of love?[From the answers of a family psychologist-psychotherapist “The correct answer is born from correctly asked questions” (“Psychological and psychotherapeutic community Pandora Center” and “Community of practicing psychologists, family psychologists and psychotherapists Psychologist O. D.”)]

"The correct answer comes from

correctly posed questions,

addressed to oneself"

True love (earthly with an unearthly flavor) is when you dissolve in another person (beloved), becoming one with him, that is, your personal “ego” disappears. Sometimes, if you are lucky, you discover (realize, understand) that your “ego” never really existed, did not exist (illusion, maya).

In this case liberation occurs. Peace and bliss comes to the soul. Love is not sensual pleasure. Sensual pleasure from another person is falling in love, which has a temporary effect (like any state of mind). Falling in love is a state of mind, it is not a state of soul. Love, in other words, is “giving of oneself” and giving “not as punishment, but as pleasure.” It is considered unearthly because it does not occur often (this is usually considered for known reasons (i.e., so as not to work on oneself, not to lose “one’s” “ego”). True love rarely happens, because most people have a very strongly developed sense of “ego”, a sense of separation from each other, so a big “ego” cannot “survive” love.

For most people, “attracting” love into your life requires serious work on yourself. This comes both through learning to live alone (gaining satisfaction from solitude, loneliness), and through overcoming difficulties in existing couple relationships, and most importantly, through developing the right attitude towards difficulties (and not an artificial, not false attitude). And this requires certain knowledge in certain areas, as well as a certain understanding. Often it is necessary to change not only one’s attitude to what is happening, but also a change in worldview, ideas formed since childhood (or under the influence of society), and personally colored emotional reactions.

That is, it requires a revision of all those rigid, distorted ideas about life that do not make a person initially happy, or at least striving to proceed from the idea (or faith in oneself and the world) that there is happiness (in this earthly world).

A person is born for pleasure, but often this (hidden) truth of life requires not easy and not simple work on oneself, including work on personal growth, getting rid of the ego, finding one’s “calling”, ... - i.e. any from what will allow you to start living from a state of fullness, instead of substitution in the form of an endless desire to fill your emptiness or receive happiness (or love) from others.

By and large, love is familiar and accessible to everyone. It’s just that this experience is hidden in simple, unnoticed things and in things that come into life without effort. This experience can be expanded, freed from the “blocks” and “ballast” of unnecessary things.

In reality (for capable people), even a partner is not a necessity to experience love. Relationships are needed to realize love, through overcoming one’s “ego” (self-interest, the feeling of “mine”).

If you are interested in the topic of love (overcoming loneliness, building harmonious relationships with the opposite sex, growth in relationships, psychological treatment of relationship crises, etc.), you can read articles by modern family psychologists and family psychotherapists. But it is better to do this selectively and professionally (practically), i.e. receive information on issues of love and the psychology of relationships between men and women, (especially issues of building relationships and issues of environmentally friendly ending of exhausted relationships!) in consultation with specialists, since what suits one may not suit another, and even the same approach is not a permanent scheme (today it works, but tomorrow it doesn’t). Some underlying mechanisms and patterns can be studied in articles on

You see, despite the fact that all people are different, in a crisis situation everyone behaves the same.

1. Despite the obvious ambiguities and the fact that family is a team game, they put their resentment first and hide behind it. Ah, I was offended/deceived/betrayed! Ah, I was exchanged and devalued! On this basis, they write themselves down as unconditional righteous people, their opponents as unequivocal bastards, and with a proud look they destroy everything “that was acquired by back-breaking labor.” In a fair share of cases (if not to say in the majority) it is completely in vain.

2. Those who, although it’s offensive, think not only about the fact that “Soviet people have special pride, and traitors should be shot on the spot,” but find the strength and ability to think about the reasons for what happened, as well as the cost of behavior in paragraph 1. Of course, it’s not a fact that “the train hasn’t left yet,” but it’s impossible to cook an omelet without breaking eggs.

Which path you will take is up to you and only you to decide. This is your life, your decision, your path and, therefore, your responsibility. However, I want to emphasize again - family is strictly a team game. Therefore, it is naive to think that “my mistakes are just minor things, but his action is unconditional meanness.” For it is precisely from the transition to such a position - this is mine, and this is his - that the marriage falls apart. Any. At least as long as you like and once incredibly happy. Try to understand that only you yourself know what you THOUGHT. He judges you based on what and how you DID, or DID NOT (!!!) DO. Which, as you understand, is not the same thing at all. It’s not for me to explain to you the simple truth. Incorrectly spoken praise can quite reasonably be perceived as an insult, but a well-formulated insult, on the contrary, as praise. Based on this, as well as from what happened to you, I dare to assume that over the past few years, mutual understanding in your family has sharply decreased. While isolation, on the contrary, has increased significantly. As a result, either both of you, or, more likely, your husband, have a strong feeling that your feelings for him have practically cooled down. That you are bound only by obligations and what is called “it just happened.” House. Life General farming. That your life together (!!!) has turned into almost completely protocol events. That she began to be perceived as something separate from her own PERSONAL life. Probably, both you and he, at different times, tried to improve something or do something good. But you find yourself “out of phase”. You yourself probably know that when you are expecting a clear, simple and short answer, but they answer you in detail and in detail, it is not pleasing, but rather annoying. So it turned out that while fulfilling his “obligations” at home, the husband was deprived of the mental comfort and pleasure he needed (specifically to him and precisely in the form he needed). What exactly could this be expressed in - there are a lot of possible options. Can't describe it in two sentences. Here the conference format, alas, is too cramped. If you want, knock on the soap. But for now, accept it as a fact - this is exactly what happened. Whether someone likes it or not. This is precisely what prompted the attempt to satisfy this need “on the side.” It is very likely that it all started with a completely innocent flirtation. You, too, sometimes didn’t want to go home or just break out of the house to “talk” with someone. Just for a change of scenery. Just to be freer for at least a while. More natural. Without thinking about “how he will understand me.” And you absolutely rightly did not see in this any basis for treason or crime. But in his case, it was not a matter of a momentary desire to TEMPORARILY escape from home, from too many domestic conventions. The basis of his behavior was, most likely even clearly unconscious to him, the need for “a personal life.” It is in “personal life”, and not the banal desire to climb under the skirt of another woman. Therefore, having begun as just meetings with a pleasant woman - a friend, they, little by little, began to develop into affection, and she - into a feeling. You yourself know that the feeling of love is simply a craving for the person with whom you feel good. First of all, it’s good mentally. You didn’t feel it at an early stage. Why is also a separate question. At this stage, only the final result is important - you haven’t felt it. It seemed to you that everything was going quite NORMALLY. That's what happened.

Brief summary.

1. I do not seek to justify or blame anyone in this situation. In a team, either everyone wins or loses, but of course everyone does too. The whole team as a whole. Therefore, it only makes sense to talk about who made what mistakes. But in no case - which of you is more or less to blame.

2. The final result now depends to a very large extent on two things. From how deep the alienation went in your souls (especially his). With the right approach, a crack can always be repaired until it is completely invisible. But even a very skillfully glued cup will still remain broken. And on how you behave in it. If from a position of being deceived and insulted, that’s all, consider that the cup is completely broken. If from a position - damn unpleasant, but unpleasant for BOTH - then there are serious chances of getting the family back again.

3. Don’t hope that if you manage to save your family, it will be the same as before. Those who say that the past cannot be returned are absolutely right. That family will never exist again. But those who say that if THAT family does not exist, then you should no longer dream of happiness are also mistaken. You (including both of you) have a chance to start a new family. Based on past experience. Experience mistakes. But also the experience of happiness. Which allows us to very reasonably expect to create this family much happier for both. But don’t you want family happiness, including for yourself personally?

4. Don't count on instant results. Only nuclear explosions and divorces are instantaneous. Everything else is UNDER CONSTRUCTION. And you know perfectly well what something that was built “as quickly as possible” looks like... It will be difficult. But having said “a”, you need to say all the other letters of the alphabet. If you want to have a happy family of your own, then you will have to work hard on this. For both of you, and for you personally.

5. You need to start by increasing the degree of mutual tolerance. Without this, it is impossible to know and understand the reasons that led to this result. And without understanding they cannot be corrected. And without correction, nothing can be done. Without correction, you can only get a divorce. 06/12/2004 01:40:26,

The term “unearthly love” is used in “The Charm of Femininity” as the personification of the highest degree of tender love of a man for a woman or a woman for a man, a love that rises from the level of mediocrity to the level of heaven. These are flowers instead of weeds and a festive dinner instead of dry crusts.

Does your husband experience this kind of love when he says he loves you, remembers your birthday, invites you to dinner, or shows generosity and kindness? Not at all necessary. He may do or say all these things out of a sense of duty, without any feeling of real love.

Unearthly love is not love out of obligation, it is spontaneous, hot and tender love. When a man truly loves a woman, he experiences a deep inner feeling. At times it can be strong and intense, like pain. Sometimes he feels captivated and enchanted, experiencing a strong desire to protect and protect his beloved woman from evil, danger and difficulties. Then a deeper, more spiritual feeling arises within him, like worship. But these comparisons are not enough to describe this multifaceted amazing experience called love. Below are vivid examples of a man's true love for a woman.

John Alden and Priscilla

An illustration of unearthly love is Longfellow's story about John Alden and Priscilla Mullen, in which John says this about Priscilla: "There is no land more sacred, no air more pureand more useful than the air that she breathes, and the earth thatcontains traces of her feet. It's here, next to her, that I want to stayforever and like an invisible patron to protect and protectkick her away."

Love of Victor Hugo

A tender, protective feeling of love is revealed in the words Victor Hugo wrote about Adele Fouche, the woman he loved in real life: "Do I exist foryour own happiness? No, my entire existencededicated to her even independently of her. And by what right do I darecount on her love? What does it matter if it's nothurt her happiness? My debt— stay close to her, surround herher with his presence, to serve her as a barrier from all dangeroustey; present your head like a stone, with the help of whichthen she could cross the river of difficulties; incessantlybut to stand between her and her sorrows without demanding rewardand without expecting compensation... Alas! If only she'd let meI should devote my life to anticipating everyher desire, her every whim; if only she would let me withreverently kiss her lovely footprints; if only sheagreed to at least sometimes lean on me in the midst of difficultlife."

Woodrow Wilson

Perhaps one of the most striking examples of true and enduring love is found in the love letters of President Woodrow Wilson to his wife Ellen. After seventeen years of marriage he writes: "Everything that I am and everything that I amhave in life, I owe you. ..I couldn't be who I amif I had not drawn such serene happiness from my union withyou. You are a source of pleasure; and as long as I have youthere is and as long as you are happy too, nothing can come to me,except goodness and strength. Oh my incomparable sweet wife, may Godbless and keep you."

And after twenty-eight years of marriage, he writes from the White House: "I adore you! No president before me had one like thiswives like you! I am certainly the happiest man in the world.those". And in another letter: "When I write, I can't think of anything,except you. My days are filled not so much with anxiety and darknessside sense of responsibility, how much they are filled with you, my precious wife, who, even being away from me, playsplays a major role in my life every day and every moment.” These lines are taken from a collection of their love letters called “A Priceless Gift.” Each of these letters is filled with love, warmth and intimacy.

Some of you may feel that your husbands are incapable of having such feelings, or at least not being able to express them. That's another question. President Wilson's warm, tender letters were a surprise to those who knew him personally. His character was distinguished by the restraint of a school teacher. Every man is capable of being tender, romantic and adoring if the woman he loves awakens all these feelings in him.

Shah Jahan's love for Mumtaz Mahal

In the northern Indian city of Agra is the Taj Mahal, an exquisite white marble tomb built by Shah Jahan in honor of his wife. Even though the tomb was built in the seventeenth century, it is still considered one of the most magnificent buildings in the world and one of the most luxurious tombs that exists. This is a monument to the true love of a man for a woman. I quote the description of the Shah’s love for Mumtaz Mahal from the book “Three Wise Men of the East” by Elizabeth Byland.

“The young Indian ruler found in this Persian girl the embodiment of all his lofty dreams and imagination. Their lives were so closely intertwined, she was such a strong inspiration for him, that the image of one is inseparable from the image of the other. The feelings of the Shah are expressed in the following poetic lines: “He preferred the throne of the world to the smallest of curls, which fell on her graceful neck.”

In the culture of his time there were virtually no constraints, be it law or public opinion, that would control the Mughal emperor's desires for women... He was absolutely free to take women from wherever he wanted and use them. -call them at will. However, it is clear that Shah Jahan never subjected his wife to competition with other women. He had two more wives, but with them he was in a political marriage, not a marriage of love.

The Shah also built a beautiful palace made of white marble for his wife, probably the most luxurious home in the world at that time. It was an exquisite palace with marble columns carved like lace and magnificent mosaics of birds and flowers made of precious stones. While building a house for his beloved, the emperor created a truly unique work of art. And on the ceiling, into which lush columns rest, is the famous inscription, made in gold paint in beautiful Persian handwriting: “If there is a paradise on earth, then it is here, it is here, it is here.”

Mumtaz died in childbirth when their fourteenth child was born. In an old Persian manuscript we find the following description: “When the emperor learned that she would die, he wept bitterly from the great love he had for her, and one would have thought that the stars had gone out in the sky and a flood had fallen on the earth. There was such a strong cry in the palace, as if the day of the great judgment had arrived. The Emperor, sobbing and beating his chest, repeated the words of the poet Saadi: “As God has no peace inin the hands of a spendthrift, so patience in the heart of a lover is like water in a sieve.” But grief awakened his talent, which was realized to the highest extent. He decided that a beautiful wreath of love should be laid on the grave of his beloved.

Famous buildings, as a rule, were monuments to pompous and proud kings or temples of the gods, or monuments to rich and arrogant cities. But he, in the beauty of white marble, for the first time expressed the true love of a man for a woman, not physical desire, but the union of spirit with spirit. He spared no effort or expense to bring to perfection the last home of his beloved queen. Twenty thousand workers worked hard on it for seventeen years.”

Notice one thing: Mumtaz Mahal belonged to a culture that expected women to be submissive and dependent and to know their place in a woman's world. In this culture, women did not dominate, did not demand equality and did not try to be equal with men. But she still managed to get what every woman strives for - respect, respect and the devoted love of her husband. The Taj Mahal that Shah Jahan built for Mumtaz was the most precious gift of love that a man ever gave to a woman.

Is this selfish?

Do not think that the desire to be loved with great tenderness and devotion is selfish. Your husband's love for you is a source of great joy for him. Because of his love for you, he can be a real man, and he has a real incentive to succeed in life, an incentive that provides him with something for which he can work, live and, if necessary, die. Awakening your husband's love will help him find happiness and fulfillment in life. If you don't do this, you are depriving your husband of one of his greatest pleasures in life.

A reward awaits you too. Your husband's love will be the center of your happiness. You will be able to devote yourself more adequately to your family and household chores. Love will improve your health and enrich your emotions, help you blossom and feel like a queen.

Love in a marriage is the most important element of its success, and a happy marriage is the foundation of a successful family. There is not a single real chance to create a truly successful family without a happy marriage based on sincere and constant love for each other, and this means that love is not only desirable, but obligatory. In a happy marriage, happy children grow up, develop normally and prepare for their future life. A happy family is a worthy contribution to the welfare of society, a contribution that brings peace rather than discord arising from lack of love.

Your love for your husband

The true form of "heavenly love" can only exist if you love your husband as much as he loves you. Since we are discussing only those principles that awaken the love of a husband for his wife, consider how your love for him can become deeper and stronger? Usually women answer like this: “He must do something for this, become better.” While your husband's pursuit of self-improvement would certainly increase your love for him, the miracle of The Feminine Charm is this:

1.When you put our lessons into practice, you
you will begin to understand better and appreciate your husband more, learn
try to see his best sides and thus be able to
her to love him.