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A distant relative is crying: his wife is disgusted, fat, infantile, even the thought of intimacy with her is demonic

I don't want a wife anymore - she's turned into a fat, lazy cow

A distant relative is crying: his wife is disgusted, fat, infantile, even the thought of intimacy with her infuriates. He does not get divorced, because the daughter keeps, and the material resources are invested a lot. But he doesn’t know how to live with her, he no longer has the strength to look at this domestic ruminant animal. His claims are a drum to her, she knows that she will not go anywhere.

What should he say to that? Tie the organ in a knot, if you don’t want to, don’t do it, they don’t force you, get a mistress and all the business?

Nothing would have delayed me in such a situation where there is no moral and physical satisfaction. Child? Who does not allow him to communicate with him after the divorce. But when he raised the issue of divorce, his lover was furious and called him traitor.

Why change something? Everything suits her, after the decree she never went to work, hiding behind the fact that the baby is often sick, and they do not get out of hospitals.

I quote the injured party - the husband:“Yes, I don’t mind that she is sitting at home, only if there was a benefit from this. She turned into a fat cow with greasy hair, things scattered around, a mess in the kitchen that you don’t want to go in, let alone eat. How many times he hinted that it would be nice to take care of her appearance, she has everything for this. But after that, scandals began, then he would attribute my ex, then he would arrange jealousy scenes for a colleague. A total lunatic. What kind of sex life, if I'm already sick of it. """

Many go through cooling and there are enough reasons for this. But I don’t understand women at all who, when they get married, turn into a kind of Freken Bok - a huge woman in an apron. They are willing to put a big fat end to their sexiness and attractiveness, simply because they are so comfortable and lazy.

It turns out that the traitor in this situation is not a husband at all, but a wife who doesn’t care what feelings her husband feels when she sees her. Is not it?

Fatshaming is, in fact, bullying people who are overweight (or just overweight): fatshamers constantly remind overweight people of their weight, publicly accuse them of not wanting to lose weight and openly insult them, calling them “fat pigs”, “fat pigs” and “piles of fat”. ". Moreover, the object of ridicule and insults are most often women, not men. This is a serious problem. In the modern world, fat shaming has reached such proportions that in response, the Body Positive movement has appeared, the main goal of which is to encourage people to accept someone else's appearance as it is. But, alas, in our society this idea has not yet found a response. Let's see why.

"Fat is ugly, I don't want to look at it"

Not really. Fat is not ugly in itself, fat is considered ugly now. At the same time, everyone knows that this was not always the case: few people have not seen the figures of the Paleolithic Venuses or reproductions of paintings by the masters of the High Renaissance. Our personal criteria for beautiful and ugly are not personal at all, they are based on society's ideas about the beautiful, and a beautiful body has been a thin body for many decades. It was either just thin (from Twiggy to “heroin chic”), or athletic (from supermodels of the 90s to modern fitons), but it was not full. But times are changing: plus-size models began to appear on the catwalks, curvaceous actresses began to be invited to the main roles, but society is still not ready to accept this. Why?

Because we began to confuse ideal pictures with real life. There is too much visual information around us - information that is not real, invented: pictures perfectly smoothed in photo editors, films with special effects. We very often see beautiful things, so often that some have decided that they have the right not to see what they consider ugly. "Be fat, but don't show your pictures to anyone, we hate to see it." And it’s also unpleasant for some to see fat people in tight or open clothes: “Ugh, cover up.” But why, in fact, why? Why not then forbid people with malocclusion from talking and laughing? And people with crooked or wide noses should wear medical masks - thin, straight noses are in fashion.

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But no, only being overweight is a reason to openly insult people and demand that they do not "stick out their fats." Because…

"Fat people are just lazy"

Lazy and weak-willed people, unable to "just pull themselves together and lose weight." Having attributed to people with great weight the sins of laziness and gluttony, the society went further. Fat people are considered stupid and face discrimination in education and careers: if you're not stupid, why can't you figure out how to lose weight? Being overweight is also associated with poor hygiene: since a fat woman is too lazy to go to the gym, then it’s probably too lazy to wash. Thus, society stigmatizes people with great weight, puts a stigma on them. And this, as it were, gives indulgence to the fat-shamers: they do not just insult and humiliate people, they denounce the “terrible” vices of fat people, which means they are doing an allegedly good deed. Who, if not they, will point out to these zhirobas that they live wrong?

And this problem is not only a problem of excess weight. This is the problem of a society that creates artificial limits - in order to have a reason to kick those who do not fit into them. And women are the first candidates for a place outside the box. Because "a woman should." She must be beautiful, she must take care of herself and her figure - in the first place. A typical patriarchy, in which one cannot be a worthless commodity, otherwise one will become a pariah.

“Obesity is unhealthy, these people are sick!”

A frankly hypocritical statement: no one, except neophytes from a healthy lifestyle, condemns people who are not passionate about physical education. No one is worried about how often strangers do fluorography. No one wants to know how smokers and alcoholics harm their health - until they invade someone else's space with their smelly smoke and drunken brawls. No one is interested in how long ago a neighbor in the stairwell took a blood test and in what condition his vessels and joints are. But for some reason, the vessels and joints of overweight people are of interest to everyone. Why, it would seem, why? Everyone takes care of their own health, who cares about someone else's hemorrhoids?

The matter is very simple: it is not a question of health, it is a question of power. Thin people are very fond of telling fat people exactly how they need to eat in order to lose weight, how to be treated in order to lose weight, how to move in order to lose weight. The very fact of being overweight in a fat person seems to turn any thin person into a strict teacher Maryivanna: “Now I will teach you, fatty, to live correctly, and you will listen and obey. Come here, pigs, I will reveal the truth to you. Thus, any person who is unable to achieve success in the chosen field of activity has the opportunity to amuse his sense of self-importance, to assert himself at the expense of another: I am thin, which means I am more successful than a fat man, smarter and generally better. I have been assigned the role of teacher and mentor. And the more aggressive the fatshamer, the more likely it is that the small size of clothes is his only achievement in life. It's likely just genetic.

Another important point is the accusation of overweight people of promoting an unhealthy lifestyle: “Our children are watching this! They might decide it's okay to be fat!" Children are generally a universal shield, they can cover anything. Including their own unwillingness to somehow raise these same children. Because the habit of a healthy lifestyle as a norm is brought up by a personal parental example. But doing exercises in the morning with the children is too hard. It's easier to stigmatize the fat ones. True, some fat ones are still children, and it is a sin to poison children. But then you can poison their parents who allowed this. “Yes, for sure, it’s their fault, not us at all,” that’s exactly how the fatshamers think.

“It’s your own fault, how could you let yourself go like that!”

In general, the feeling of guilt for weight as such is imposed on people with a large weight by default. The only question is the degree of this guilt. There are not very guilty ones - these are those who have become stout due to health problems. A fake has been circulating on the network for a long time that there are allegedly only 5% of such people. This is absolutely not true, but this is a great reason to stigmatize all the fat ones in general: you just got hot and it's your own fault! This is typical victim blaming. In fact, everyone understands that it is not good to humiliate other people for your own pleasure. But if you make these people guilty, then it seems already possible. After all, they chose this path for themselves, they voluntarily grew fat, which means they must be ready for the role of outcasts. Who does not want to be humiliated, he does not eat three throats. another indulgence: it was not I who was cruel, it was I who was provoked, they themselves wanted it.

The other side of this coin is hypocritical pity. At the expense of a fat person, you can always be kind: I will tell you how bad it is to be fat, and I will immediately become a good and caring kind person. Thank me! Who else will open your eyes to how you launched yourself?!

"Fat people have no right to happiness"

And here fat-shaming turns its ugly face exclusively to us, to women. Because an overweight man has the right to happiness, but a woman does not. At the same time, both camps will attack her. And if men with their valuable opinion on the subject “I wouldn’t blow it!” can be ignored, then women cannot be ignored. Because it's a matter of hierarchy in a patriarchal society: you're fat and I'm not, so my status is higher. It would seem, well, and rejoice, because the more fat women, the less competition for status males, who naturally prefer thin ones. Why poison losers, they are not your competitors?

Everything is very simple, let's go back to point 1: beautiful is what society agreed to consider beautiful. If you don’t poison the fat ones, tomorrow they, don’t bring the universe, may be considered beautiful. And this means that all the benefits assigned to the beauties will go to them, and not to you. Because status males give goods.

The second point is the idea that happiness must be earned, preferably through hard work and severe restrictions. Years of plowing in the gym and sitting on chicken breast with buckwheat - and for what? So that some fat woman who has been chewing cakes all her life gets the same piece of happiness? Yes, for what reason? Let me get it first!

But the point here is not at all that only fat people allegedly do not have the right to happiness. The fact is that women do not have the right to happiness. For no happiness, except for the one that society recognized as the most correct: be thin and beautiful, attract the attention of men, grab the right one for yourself and never, never get fat or grow old.

If you think about it, living in this paradigm is a great misfortune. For all of us.

And the other 10% hide it. Is there any truth in this joke? We asked fans of puffy ladies on men's forums to respond. It turned out that there really are a lot of them! Here's what they say.

Alexander, 27 years old:
I don't understand people who don't like donuts. And do not say that they are loose. Do you like Monica Bellucci? And she is by no means skinny. Have you seen her photoshoots? Where is the looseness? I am for feminine forms without looseness and cellulite. There are such plump women, which is just a feast for the eyes. But everything should be in moderation.

Eugene, 18 years old:
And where did such an opinion come from that if a woman is with forms, then she must definitely be with cellulite and very fat. For some reason, we have such an opinion, and here around me every day I see young ladies in the body, who are never loose - but at the same time with muscles, with smooth skin, it looks very nice, in my opinion. The issue of friability is a matter of nutrition (the ratio of products), cellulite also happens in thin people. And a woman simply must have big breasts and buttocks. And I also noticed that full ladies always look younger in face, and they have fewer wrinkles on their faces. So if a woman is not shy about her weight, then I think that as a life partner she is very suitable.

Kirill, 34 years old:
In my opinion, there are different types of fullness, and I have different attitudes towards curvy women. There are full-figures - it's very beautiful and sexy, and there are square-aunts-without-bends. They are all big and square. Everyone's tastes are different.

I like curvy women more than skinny ones. But the main thing is that a plump and curvy woman does not become square.

Victor, 43 years old:
I think that a woman of size 50 - many consider this size to be already fat - is even nothing. Much better than size 40. I never fell for thin people, they seem to me to be teenagers, and, as a rule, they have teenage figures with undeveloped and very small breasts. Let a size 50 be better than sleeping with a teenager.

Anatoly, 30 years old:
And it seems to me that everything depends on charm, on femininity. I have a girlfriend, Rubens would be happy - she is always well-groomed, always with manicure-pedicure-epilation-fashionable haircut, dresses beautifully. And there are just a lot of men admiring her. She radiates sexuality, she is self-confident... And there are thin people who have longing, anger, dissatisfaction in their eyes...

In general, it seems to me plump women more cheerful and bright, there is something exciting in them.

Artem, 40 years old:
Yes, they really do! Moreover, such "serious" donuts, not one name. Well, there is 110 kg with a height of 155 cm - like my size. Well, like it! I can’t explain this in any way, just as you won’t be able to explain why it is customary to consider thin women the standard of beauty, and stigmatize fat women.

Andrey, 29 years old:
It's hard to say why you don't like thin people. Well, they don't put it in. There is no attraction, some kind of spark. But the “donut” (not any, of course, but the one that you liked) is ready to “torn apart”. In a good, of course, sense to tear to pieces.

Alexander, 35 years old:
I don't remember who wrote: “Men pretend to like thin women, dry wines and adventurous lives. In fact, they love fat women, sweet wines and a quiet life.”

I think many men like buns, remember our history: village women have always been in the body, ruddy and healthy, or rather hefty.

Maxim, 37 years old:
For some reason they don't marry models. I personally have ideas about female beauty formed quite a long time ago. Everything goes according to Freud, from youth. I really liked Fedoseyeva Shukshina (“Stoves of the shop”, “Kalina Krasnaya”). Here, after all, much depends not only on centimeters or kilograms - grace, gait. It happens that a villager is walking - as if a swan is swimming. And if you look at the "model" with a can of beer - you want to puke.

Andrey, 28 years old:
Needless to say, it's sad that most men often forget that plump women are sometimes able to wipe the nose of even the most pontoon fashion model. Well, yes, a beautiful stylish figure, but what about in the soul, in character?

Dumplings are distinguished by the fact that they, unlike slender ones, know how to truly love, they are softer, kinder, more natural. Personally, I am drawn to fat women and plump women, but I simply don’t recognize all this thinness.

Alexander, 22 years old:
It seems to me that everyone is different, someone likes larger forms, someone is pleased, as they say, to “feel” a woman. Just when you hug a plump girl, she is so soft, pleasant. I would like to eat it. Although my psychologist friend said that everything is simpler, it’s just that overweight women have more pronounced sexual characteristics, and we, males, are attracted to this on a subconscious level.
I don’t know if this is true or not, but still I want to find a chubby girlfriend, although they don’t choose love, they find love.

Alexey, 31 years old:
I like everything in full women! Well, just full women are beautiful in themselves! Everything is beautiful with them: breasts, tummy, and ass, and chubby legs in stockings - wow! Sexy and exciting.

Stanislav, 20 years old:
Plus to your love of donuts. I will add: the moral oppression of fat women makes them more adaptable. This means that they not only have a softer body, but also a character, it is easier to communicate with them and live with them.

Andrey, 42 years old:
Fat women are appetizing, sexy, cute, in sex there is no better one. As we say, a woman without a belly is like a house without a chiffoner.

Dmitry, 29 years old:
My ex-wife was 46 kg, and I always liked girls in the body, but I was young, stupid, shy. "What will your friends say?" I am thin and not very tall. But what could be better than a soft, warm body? In winter it will warm, and in summer it will hide in the shade. Okay, this is a joke.

I really like tall plump women with hips, tummy and divine breasts. Maybe someday I'll find my happiness!

I have an amazing friend who always strikes with optimism. She is very funny, talented and beautiful. On the street, men turn to her, and the number of fans is always huge. But the most interesting thing is that her appearance is different from what we are used to seeing in glossy magazines.

My friend's name is Marina. And she weighs about 90 kg. Of course, she will not tell anyone the exact weight, but in appearance - much more than modern fashionable models. But this does not spoil it at all, but gives it a special charm. I've always wondered why the opposite sex loves her so much. We came up with this theme together with her.

What attracts thin men

Today's young people spend too much time on TV. And he dictates his ideals of beauty. And anything that deviates from what the screen shows is considered uninteresting. These are imposed norms that are very difficult to resist. But surprisingly, most people do not meet these generally accepted standards.

But man is a social being. And if suddenly one decided that his general rules do not apply, then others can point fingers at him, and this is already the fear of being rejected by the environment. And although it is rare for someone to reproach for choosing a plump companion, many do not try to make such a decision. Opinions change only with age, when experience and understanding come that the body is not the only thing that makes a person beautiful. And yes, it does change over the years.

A woman is now less perceived as a mother. Today, they are looking for a girl not for, but for a good pastime. When motherhood was valued, everyone understood that it was much easier for ladies with forms to bear and give birth to children. Previously, rounded shapes were a symbol of health and beauty. It was by rosy cheeks that the condition of a person was determined, and not by protruding ribs. But after giving birth, many girls continue to "round up", which quite often makes them more feminine.

Many men want to look more masculine. But life has not endowed everyone with an athletic physique. And next to a fragile girl, it is much easier to seem more impressive than next to a “fatty”. The contrast is noticeable, the shoulders seem wider, and the height is higher. But this is the strangest way of self-affirmation that you can think of.

It also scares men away. If a woman weighs more than 60 kg, she often feels uncomfortable, she is notorious. And, of course, a man does not want to be close to one who is not ready to be liberated and love her body. The modern strong sex understands that it is more interesting to communicate with a cheerful, bright girl than with one who is constantly on a diet, unhappy with her weight and denying herself a lot.

Really full girls are not needed?

My friend's example shows that plump girls are very popular. It is only important to present yourself correctly. First, you should forget about the complexes. Of course, it is difficult to immediately abandon what has been cultivated by public opinion for so long, but it is worth a try. And even if it doesn’t quite work out, try not to talk about them among other people.

Men love those women who love themselves. You need to learn how to take care of yourself. A good manicure, styled hair, heels attract the opposite sex. To see if a woman loves herself is very simple - you just have to look at her wardrobe. If it is “gray”, dull or monotonous, this indicates that the girl does not seek to please. It is worth diversifying the contents of the closet, buying new things, starting to pay more attention to yourself.

You can choose things that not only hide excess weight, but also emphasize dignity. For example, you can focus on the bust or beautiful hips in the wardrobe. Things should emphasize the best in the figure, sit perfectly. Do not get carried away with flashy tones, but brightness is welcome. Today, even many fashion houses make a collection for curvy women, so there can be no problems with clothes.

Self-love can be expressed in how you care for your skin, body, hair. Massage, relaxing baths, not only improve appearance, but also relax, have a great effect on morale. Any such procedures cheer up, which means they make the girl more noticeable.

Positive girls get more attention. Only a liberated, contented person can laugh merrily, joke and have a great rest. Many dream of such a companion in order to forget about everyday life and relax next to her. And then a cheerful disposition comes out on top, and the figure remains in second place. Many will prefer a cheerful fat woman to a gloomy thin one. But you should not forget that excessive gaiety and licentiousness is not the best option, everything should be in moderation.

You need to look after your appearance, no matter how much you weigh. Rounded shapes can be perfectly combined with tightened skin. Stretch marks and cellulite can be removed. It is also worth keeping the muscles in good shape. This does not mean that you need to work out in the gym around the clock, but it would be nice to do a set of exercises at least a couple of times a week. This is good for health, and will help to avoid the appearance of unpleasant shortness of breath.

And most importantly - to remain desirable, you need to be feminine. Of course, modern representatives of the fair sex can perfectly open the door and bring food. But still, men want to be knights, do not deprive them of this opportunity. Let them solve problems, build houses, earn money. Let them see you not as a partner who can do everything himself, but as a muse who needs to be looked after and who can be helpless in banal situations.

It turns out that you can become desirable in any weight category. I saw this on the example of a friend, wrote down all the advice and thought about it. Although I weigh a little, the tips are excellent and suitable for any girl. And thanks to them, I revised my wardrobe, and for tomorrow I already signed up for a salon - I will change my hairstyle and take care of myself.

Sigmund Freud believed that most men, when meeting, prefer women who look like their mother. Many studies have proven him right. From this it should be concluded that thin girls and girls have the same chance of getting married. It is believed that the ideal of female beauty is now models whose parameters are 90-60-90.

At the same time, plump women exhaust themselves with diets, trying to get at least a little closer to the standard of beauty, but few of them know that the problem lies not in weight at all. It's all about the character and temperament of the girl. Men love to look at slender beauties, but no one wants to marry an empty picture. A person needs warmth and affection, cleanliness and comfort in the house. Not all slender women are able to give a man everything he needs. But fat women very often have a flexible and soft character.

What kind of men like bbws?

As a result of research by psychologists, the following pattern was revealed: men who give their preference to full women with a large bust are very often quick-tempered and impatient. A number of representatives of the stronger sex, who prefer fat women, like to be in the spotlight. Some of them are very smart, however, there are touchy and weak personalities. If a man chooses women with his hips, he is often aggressive in life, active and likes to change his home, in addition, he is a big fan of cleanliness. Such men often lack family warmth and affection.

Men subconsciously choose a future mother who can give birth to a healthy child.

Also, bbws are liked by some men whose age has already crossed the forty-year-old border, for which the appearance fades into the background after the personality of a woman. Men of a more mature age already understand a lot in life, and for them “not the cover, but its content” becomes the main thing. For a man, it is important that a woman knows how to keep up a conversation, and is also cheerful and sociable.

Many cannot understand why tall mice sometimes give their preference to short gray mice. Psychologists sometimes explain this by the fact that, knowing about his complexes, a man begins to disguise himself. During the experiment, it turned out that 74% of men, when viewing photos of girls of various physiques, made a choice in favor of obese women.

A survey conducted in Russia showed that 63% consider a woman's accuracy to be her most important quality, and, of course, Russian men like women with a cheerful disposition and good character.

Most of the representatives of the stronger sex prefer cheerful and sociable companions of life, so it doesn’t matter if the woman is fat or not, and most importantly, it should be pleasant and easy to be around her.

Some women sometimes think about whether the stronger sex likes fat women. It is clear that men very often pay attention to slender long-legged beauties. However, in order to please a guy, it is absolutely not necessary to be thin.

What kind of women do men like?

Men have different character traits, so they also have different preferences. Someone likes women in the body, and someone likes girls without unnecessary components. That is why in the life of each of the ladies you need to find exactly your man who will love her for who she is.

In ancient times, a plump woman who can bear and protect her offspring was considered the standard of beauty. This is what men paid attention to when they chose their wife. Remember the pictures that were painted in past centuries. Do they show skinny girls? On the contrary, plump women with wide hips and magnificent breasts flaunt there, from which a feeling of health emanates.

At different times, the preferences and tastes of people have changed. And today, men pay more attention to girls with a standard average figure.

Scientists note that when a man is under stress, he pays more attention to the full, as it seems to him that they will be able to protect him with their body. The studies were carried out in this way: the representatives of the stronger sex were shown photographs depicting women of various physiques. Ignoring accepted standards, men in times of stress chose curvaceous women, because in this state they idealized those properties that contributed to survival. Statistics show that thin, puny men most often choose fat women as their wives.

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