How you can charm a man just by talking to him. How to charm a man, or What not to do
Do you know who gets the most attention from men? Not the most beautiful at all, but the one whose look and movements radiate kindness, sincerity and, a bit of coquetry.
Here she comes in: gracefully turns her head, looks at everyone from under her half-lowered eyelashes, smiles charmingly, straightens a curl that had accidentally escaped from under her hair...
All eyes are directed in her direction because she has perfect command of her body language, she is the queen of flirting.
Most of the information, namely 55%, is conveyed by a person using body language. When going anywhere, don’t forget about some signs that attract men so much.
LION'S MANE
Shake your head so that your hair flows beautifully over your shoulders.
Demonstration of lion-cat habits is a combination of grace with soft, exciting aggression, which is a great turn-on for representatives of the opposite sex.
LET US HANDLE
A decent gentleman kisses a woman's hand from the outside. But if he has some kind of desire for a lady, then, looking into her eyes, he turns her hand and touches her wrist with his lips.
Try to show off your wrists to him in the best possible way. For example, during a conversation, make several hand gestures in his direction, trying to open your wrists. If you are sitting with your face in your hands, turn your hands so that he can see them inner part. It's great if you wear bracelets. Thin and massive, ringing and shimmering, they are designed to attract male gaze.
SHOOTING WITH THE EYES
It is with the help of gaze that many women successfully meet men.
There are several options for a charming look:
- Among the many looks, psychologists consider the most attractive to be “the look of the shy Dee,” as the press dubbed it. tilting your head to the side, look at your interlocutor through half-lowered eyelashes. A look like this makes men want to get to know a woman better in order to support and protect this gentle and reverent person.
- Another option is to slightly lower your eyelids, look at the man until he notices your gaze, and then quickly look away (for special flirting virtuosos, you can also blush slightly). This gives a mesmerizing sense of voyeurism and a tantalizing hint that you are being secretly watched.
- A sideways look due to a raised shoulder is often used in commercials because it attracts male attention.
- An intimate look is ideal when acquaintance has already taken place, but it’s not yet a date. Look at him and then lower your eyes to his chin, lips, neck and collarbone. The bravest ones can go below the shoulder line.
WE SIT WELL
When you sit, you have a wonderful opportunity to attract his attention. Lean back in your chair, cross your legs and let the shoe hang loosely on your toes, bouncing carelessly different sides. It’s great if at the same time the ankles of the legs are exposed, which attract men no less than women’s wrists.
And most importantly, before being liked by others, we must be satisfied with ourselves. To do this, it is enough to live with positive emotions. And then the gait will become more confident, the smile will be more sincere, and the sparkle in the eyes will be brighter! Learn to feel beautiful every day.
LESSONS IN PERFECTION
If you don’t have a good relationship with the mirror, there is reason to think about your own perception of the world:
- Pay attention to your demeanor. Movements and gestures loving person unfussy and free. And don’t forget to keep your spine straight—the “antenna” of our mood.
- Smile more often! When we laugh, everyone relaxes facial muscles, emotional stress is reduced.
- Don't get bogged down in your past. Living in yesterday, you deprive yourself not only of the future, but also of the present.
- Find yourself a passion. Once you achieve success in something, you will begin to be proud of yourself and become more confident.
- Don't dwell on your physical flaws. Most of them are not noticeable to others.
Regularly try new perfumes and lipsticks, bombard him with playful text messages. But all this does not guarantee the desired result. Therefore, we are concerned with finding new, more effective ways charm a man and make him lose his head.
1. Establish a mental connection
IN next time When he calls, say in surprise that you were “just thinking about him” or “just about to call him.” Whether this is true or not is completely irrelevant. The main thing is that he begins to think that you have something special with him.” mental connection" People are actually very superstitious and tend to mistake random coincidences for a system. Therefore, it is likely that he will take a series of such “coincidences” as a sign that you “feel” a friend of a friend and that you are a special girl for him!
2. Copy his way of speaking
Do you work in the same field, like the same music and eat at the same diner, but still can't hold a conversation for more than ten minutes? Secret successful communication not in the topic of conversation, but in the way you speak.
And often problems arise in people who have different leading modalities (modality is a term from the creators of neuro-linguistic programming - author's note). There are three basic modalities: visual, auditory and kinesthetic. You just need to find out what type your handsome guy is. If he is a visual person, then in conversation he will often use words associated with the image (“you see what I’m talking about!”). The auditory will ask first of all to hear it (“this probably sounds crazy, but...”). For people with the leading kinesthetic modality, that is, those oriented to touch, sensations are important (“you can’t imagine what I felt at that time...”). Once you determine the communication style that is most comfortable for him, you will be able to adapt to him, and your conversations will no longer be interrupted awkward pauses. This will help you much faster charm.
3. Act like you're already a couple
Instead of saying “Would you like another beer?”, say “Should we order another beer?” By using this “we”, you are subtly putting into his head the idea that you are a couple. This will psychologically prepare him for the long haul. life together in sickness and in health. However, make sure that this “we” does not become too intrusive. Phrases like “what are we going to do next weekend?”, on the contrary, can scare him away: it may seem to him that they want to limit his freedom.
4. Make his heart beat faster
Take the object of your affection to a place where he will experience an adrenaline rush. This could be a concert of his favorite rock band, a roller coaster, or a joint parachute jump - anything that can make his heart beat faster will do. And when he experiences powerful emotions, it is very likely that he will... fall for you! Extreme sensations and sexual arousal have a lot in common and manifest themselves almost identically: sweaty palms, increased heart rate and a surge of adrenaline. So by forcing him to experience pleasant extreme sensations, you can fully expect that he will subconsciously associate them with you. Believe me, this is exactly what you got you will charm.
5. Control it through color
Singers sing songs about the “woman in red” for a reason. The fact is that the color red easily attracts attention and even causes excitement. So wear a scarlet dress or a ruby blouse to your next meeting.
And if you need to soften some unpleasant news, for example, that your parents definitely want to meet him or that your ex-boyfriend, then it would be best to dress in blue: Blue colour, on the contrary, has a calming effect.
6. Be his mirror
Mirror behavior is a great tactic if you want to close the distance between you. The fact is that when you copy the movements of another person, he unconsciously learns that you are similar to him, that you are on the same wavelength as him, and begins to trust you. It's as easy as pie to do this: if he crosses his legs, do the same a minute later. If he takes a mug of beer right hand, take your left.
7. Say his name
Which favorite word every guy? His name. Our names are a very personal sphere, and by pronouncing these treasured sounds, you establish more intimate relationship. Just be careful not to overplay it. Say, say his name three times in half an hour: at the beginning of the conversation (“Hello, Maxim, good to see you”), in the middle (“That’s right, Max, I once had the same story…”) and at the end (“Bye , Maksim!"). If you say his name more often, it may look strange.
Do you want to charm your man? Let's remember instructive stories about sorceresses from the legends of King Arthur and the knights Round table, which forced the knights to behave according to the rules of the so-called “courtly love”.
Under the spell of their powerful spells, brave and cruel warriors learned to be well-mannered and obedient, and in return received devotion and sexual attention far beyond their wildest dreams. And even the most powerful of mortals were defenseless against the seductive power of sorceresses.
Now it’s your turn to be a modern sorceress and change a man’s attitude towards you. Here are some tips to help inspire him to be your knight in shining armor, willing to do everything in his power to be worthy of you and your love:
Be like a jellyfish. Have you ever seen jellyfish swimming in the sea or an aquarium? Their lack of even one rigid part of their body makes them soft and pliable, and their movements appear almost sensual. When you are with a man, let the image of a jellyfish make you more sensual woman. Focus on softening your face, muscles and relaxing your shoulders, hips, etc. (wherever you are tense). This will help you experience more intimate moments: reaching out more slowly than him, making your body language more free and longer, showing a more emotional reaction when he flirts...
Control yourself. The moment you feel the urge to do something to deepen the connection between you and a man (call him, fill all the gaps in the conversation, make plans, cross the room to sit next to him), stop yourself. Leave everything as it is, without making any moves towards him... or away from him (don't fence yourself off or play hard to get). Just be available to receive his advances using the jellyfish image.
Use your intelligence . A lot of smart women trying too hard to show men how smart they are. These brilliant ladies don't realize that they look stuck up, bitchy or even unsafe for men. You don't have to prove anything to a man. Use your intelligence to make him think you're not a pushover: start a witty conversation and give him a chance to see how sexy you are in your verbal cat-and-mouse game.
Don't pretend that you are a "star". If you're not a people person and don't have a fabulous life filled with champagne and glamorous charity balls, then don't tell him what you don't have. If you actually spend your Friday night eating ice cream and watching TV with your cats, then be honest! Don't apologize for who you are and don't entice him with brilliant ideas. I'm sure you can come up with a lot of fantastic, funny and interesting ways make your life intriguing for him, no matter how many cats you have.
Don't break your personal boundaries. When we love a person, we panic if he moves away in any way. The worry that you might lose him makes you break personal boundaries: beg him to stay, sleep with him too early... You settle for “pieces” of him, although you know that you deserve the whole “pie”. And your self-confidence begins to fade. Make a list of your personal boundaries and make a promise to yourself that you will never cross them out of love for another person. Wear a bracelet on your wrist if you need to constant reminder about this, as a symbol of this pact with herself.
Don't reward him for bad behavior.
It is important! When a person acts in an unchivalrous manner, we see him withdraw and feel terrible. So we try to attract him back with love and attention. However, if a man is being a jerk and you call him to talk about it: asking for forgiveness so he can feel comfortable coming back, or showing him how much you miss, love and need him, you are indirectly telling him, that he will receive more attention and affection from you when he acts badly! Accept him with love only when he deserves it, and be strong enough to refrain from doing so in bad times(don’t nag or dramatize, because negative attention is more exciting and pleasant than no attention).
Become sexier! Nobody cares that you've been married for years or what you still have Honeymoon: Find ways to add some sparkle to your relationship. If text messaging existed in the Middle Ages, what do you think the sorceress would have written to the Knight of the Round Table? Well, certainly not “How was your day, sir? Dinner in the outbuilding." Be creative and smart with your words. Make him think about his own female magnetism when he is not with you.
Have exciting activities... outside of your relationship. When you find a new hobby or passion, you create excitement in your life. You light fireworks in your dull everyday life, and this is something that he will certainly notice. He'll probably even be jealous of this new passion of yours for losing some of your attention, and may start fighting for it! Men don't like competition.
Be a little vain. A man's charm begins with your ability to bask in the rays male attention. If you can fall in love with yourself a little, he will find you much more attractive. He will see that you enjoy the attention and game of seduction. Do you love your eyes? Your hips? yours firm breasts? Love yourself by focusing on your favorite part of your body, and then every time he gives you sexual attention, tell yourself that that part of you turns him on. Give yourself permission to feel loved!
Stop being mysterious. I roll my eyes when I read advice that women should refrain from exposing themselves to men in order to create an atmosphere of secrecy. Of course, I don't want you to dump all your emotional baggage on a man, treating him like a priest at confession. However, the real mystery of a woman begins when she is revealed. When you can talk to a man, recalling the beautiful and touching memories of childhood or the secret pleasures of his mischievous youth, he may feel like both a vulnerable and multi-faceted female goddess appears before him in all her glory, and will be conquered.
The modern sorceress playfully seduces men, being true to herself and her femininity. If you follow these tips, you'll be on your way to courtly love with your knight.
yourself and increase your self-esteem. After all, they intuitively feel how they feel about themselves. They pay attention mainly to self-confident people, those who consider themselves attractive. Therefore, take up auto-training. Every morning get up in front of the mirror and repeat Nice words about your appearance, character and attractiveness to the opposite sex. There is a rule - if you consider yourself beautiful, then you are!
Self-hypnosis alone is not enough. We need to change. Reconsider your hairstyle, put your head in order, choose optimal color hair. Try to take care of yourself, dress harmoniously and tastefully. It’s not that you have to spend crazy amounts of money on clothes. Create stylish look possible without investing large sums, but by showing imagination and ingenuity. The main thing is that the style is yours, that it reflects your inherent individuality. Get a manicure - your hands should be well-groomed.
Try to develop yourself, find hobbies that you will be passionate about. After all, if you are interested, then you will become interesting to others. You must radiate positive emotions, smile, beam with energy. This attracts people, including. They should be drawn to you.
Most important stage- direct conquest of the guy. To do this, you must study his habits and hobbies. Next, you need to try to separate them, let your subject understand that you are similar to him, the same as he, you understand this.
Try to cross paths with him more often, as if by chance. Find common topics for conversation, but do not delay the communication itself. He should always remain a little hungry, waiting for your reappearance. Keep some understatement, a mystery. Men love to solve them.
Let's make it clear (but not directly) that you have a lot of fans. Men are often guided by herd mentality. Never talk about your likes, only hint at them. And when he becomes interested in you, you will be able to graciously accept his advances.
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Sometimes it’s useful to look meaningfully straight into the eyes of the guy you like, and then look away in embarrassment.
If you like a guy, don't play coy. Your task is to charm him as quickly as possible. You don't have to wait for him to realize that you are interested in him. As a rule, men are not very understanding in these matters. Take action and you will succeed.
Instructions
Adjust your appearance. Fix what you don't like yourself. if you have excess weight, exercise and learn to eat right. If you don't have much beautiful hair, do nourishing masks, change their color, fix them bad hairstyle. A new image will help you in matters of the heart.
Ask his opinion. Men love to show themselves as an authority in all matters, even if they do not understand them very well. Ask for his help from time to time, he should feel at least like your guardian angel or savior. Don't forget to thank him, after he helped you or expressed his opinion, you can even kiss him.
Give him compliments. Men fall for flattery, even rude ones. Increase his self-esteem, then you will stand out from other girls. You should not criticize him under any circumstances. He must be sure that he is the best for you on the entire planet. Don’t be afraid to go overboard; there are never too many compliments for men.
