How to perform a lap dance for your man. How It Works: Male Striptease

Where the club manager kindly agreed to talk about the intricacies of this type of business. I am not a frequent guest of such establishments, so I tried to ask literally everything, about this is my further story.

Not everyone can become a stripper. It is clear that the main factor in hiring is external data. Such girls are usually tall and undeniably attractive. But the main thing is weight and size. In the club I studied, girls with a clothing size no larger than 44 work. I nervously smoke on the sidelines with my 54-56. That is, not a gram of excess weight. Therefore, girls are constantly on diets, which is very exhausting. As pretty as Demi Moore was in the film Striptease, she would most likely be considered too fat for a striptease.

With such a complexion, the size of the breast is usually 2-3. But there are 4th and even 5th. But this is either a nugget or a banal breast augmentation, which, oddly enough, is not very common among strippers.

The age of the stripper is short-lived. As a rule, girls from 18 to 30 years old are taken here. Most of them are not even 25. And the average stripper has only a few months, a maximum of 2 years. Why is that? Very often, girls here find their soul mate and simply leave this profession. Few are married. It is unlikely that anyone will tolerate a spouse sitting every evening on the lap of other men.

There is a club that is not thematic, then the girls in it are usually Slavic - Russian and Ukrainian (with a work permit, of course). There are no problems with employment also for citizens of Belarus and Kazakhstan. Oriental girls are very rare - they are not for everyone.

According to American films, we basically imagine a typical street club, when men sit in a bar, in the middle there is a stage with a pole and girls can only be seen on it. In reality, while one (two) girls are on stage, the rest of the girls are in the hall with clients, creating an atmosphere of relaxation. Usually this is a light flirtation, you are unlikely to be able to discuss the philosophy of Kant, especially since loud music is not very conducive to conversations.

Strippers make pretty good money. In Moscow, this is an average of 70 - 100 thousand for a part-time work week. The employer often pays for a beautician, provides housing, and so on. And to this you can add bonuses from customers - booze, monetary "gratitude" and so on. In general, there is a big catch with monetary gratitude. There is such a thing as "consummation". This is when a girl persistently enough encourages a client to spend money in a bar - on himself and on the girl herself. From this it has a certain percentage. In this case, this is no longer a vacation, but some kind of sucking money, which is not very pleasant. Try to choose clubs where this practice is prohibited. Burlesque is just one of those.

In addition to the bar, the girl can suck out the client’s money as a “thank you” for communication, company, etc. Again, there are clubs where the girls are not paid salaries, they only earn directly from the clients. This is a very harmful practice, since every visitor immediately becomes the object of persecution. The obsession of girls in this case is annoying.

Contrary to popular belief, girls can and should be touched. Stroking, caressing is normal. It is clear, within the bounds of decency and certain rules, but "hands off" there is no. In a private room and in a private dance, more is available, but, most importantly, do not bring the matter to direct sexual intercourse. The rules of the indicated club are in this respect displayed in the form of these plates. I confess, I was lying like a log at a private dance ... which even somewhat embarrassed the girl)))

A particularly piquant issue is sex with girls. It is clear that in decent establishments this is prohibited. But most clubs do not disdain this. The stripper that the client likes usually agrees and, for a certain fee, receives a leave of absence at the club, that is, she temporarily stops working there. Pleasure is not cheap. If, say, an hour with an ordinary prostitute in Moscow costs from 2000 to 5000, 8000-10000 per night, then here you pay the club around 30,000 rubles and take the girl. You want to party with her, you want to take her to the cinema, you want to drag her to bed. It is clear that the club takes most of the money, and maybe even all of it. Even on the Red Light District in Amsterdam, it's much cheaper. But, again, this is not always possible everywhere.

Striptease clubs, of course, are different and designed for different audiences. Above, basically, a classic strip club was described, but there are clubs for narrower audiences, lovers of certain girls - age, vest, uniforms, etc. There are clubs for older clients, there are for students. Every niche is occupied and there is a lot of competition in this area. There are many striptease clubs in Moscow.

It is clear that there is not much point in going to a strip club with an empty wallet. Even if you paid for the entrance (it is usually inexpensive, a little more expensive than a regular club), then sitting all night (or standing if there are a lot of people) and just staring at the stage is a very mediocre pleasure. It is better to have money for a few glasses of booze, 1-2 private dances, well, and a few notes of "thank you" to the girls you especially like. This is, so to speak, a standard set. Drinking costs like in any club - from 300 to 500 rubles per glass (glass) on average, a private dance is about 1000 rubles (5 minutes). The main thing in the morning is not to be left without a just received salary. Leaving money in a strip club is as easy as leaving money in a casino. In this case, I advise you to take a strictly defined amount of money with you, with which you are potentially ready to part. Naturally, there are ATMs in the clubs, but you can use them as long as you are adequate, it will be difficult for a drunk person to withdraw money.

There are times when there is not enough money to pay. In this case, no one will beat you and will not force you to wash the dishes, even here, alas, you won’t have to wash the girls’ robes. If the client is regular, it is easier with him - you can leave a receipt, a photocopy of your passport. If the client is new and it is not known what to expect from him, then in addition to this they may be asked to leave something valuable as a deposit - a phone, a watch, jewelry, etc. In extreme cases, you will have to wait until someone brings the money or go home with an employee. 21st century in the yard - everything is civilized.

I was preparing an article here about the male striptease association and decided that it would not be fair to tell about someone else's man, but not to tell about my own. So I decided to post an article from last year. The husband gave an interview to a women's magazine about his work and the work of strippers in general.

When the interview came out, I laughed a lot, because the journalist, of course, made a little laugh))) especially about the fact that I didn’t let him work. This is absolute crap, never happened before. Of course, the profession is difficult, you won’t say anything, but what can you do now ...

Anyway, somehow everything is not written in his language and not like that, we often go to work together and I didn’t notice my jealousy, and my husband knows how to get out of any difficult situation with “aggressive” ladies.

By the way, most often difficult situations are created by the leading clubs themselves. Once, two and a half hours were spent arguing about the lady who was chosen by the leader for the dance, the lady of course turned out to be "snow white" and knowing her husband's "dark specific past" still remained on stage. The problem was solved with the help of the pneumatic pistol available at that time, which was very similar to the real one, and if you do not turn it around with the muzzle, then the diameter of the hole is not visible and you can mistake it for a combat one. The sound of a shot in the air for the tipsy crowd also passed for combat. And immediately the people diminished. The husband was with a partner and after hanging out the remaining three or four idiots, they left for home. And the presenter probably already slept at home and the club's security did not particularly deign to fit in either.

Still, quite recently, one presenter came up with a stupid competition in which, on the contrary, the girls of the spectators had to dance and seduce for him. I yelled, they really tortured him)))) ruined his hair, constantly grabbing his head for some reason, didn’t move to the beat of the music and almost spoiled the props.
It was miserable ... I was ashamed of the girls, and I feel sorry for them. It seemed to me that contests were invented for visitors, and not for the fact that all the working staff would be going to neigh ... Everyone should be fun and pleasant, and first of all, the guests of the institution should be in a winning light, then they will want to come to this establishment.

But we moved away from the topic, so what do male strippers tell about their work: Maxim has been working as a stripper for 5 years. “At the age of 15, I saw the series “Club” on MTV and really wanted to work in a nightclub, I found a job as a striptease and GO-GO dancer, on the night of my sixteenth birthday, I started working in a club.” And since then, he has remained in this profession.

Not everyone can be successful strippers. What criteria and qualities help a striptease performer to do his job well? “The ability to dance beautifully, catch the rhythm of the music, have the skills of choreography, well, the costumes also play a big role.” As already mentioned, in male striptease, theatricality plays a big role. The costume and image help to achieve the desired result on stage. All women have different tastes, and in order for the work to succeed, you need to be able to diversify your images. “All women have a different attitude to striptease. They love images, both brutal (for example, a Cowboy) and playful (like a Hare). Yes, the Hare is also popular!
Among other things, a male stripper has a very specific job. This profession requires a lot of attention and a special attitude from the female side. “When I am on stage, some women look at me with excitement and awe. Expect to see a male body."

This, of course, is understandable, but one question remains unclear. After all, it is interesting to know the look of a woman on a male stripper, not only when he is on stage! I wonder how women react to strippers in everyday life? “In most cases, women react positively to me. Of course, it happens in different ways, but artistry is always with me! It happens that spectators try to meet with me after performances. Sometimes, I communicate with them. Although, often, girls understand that striptease is just a game and perceive it accordingly as a beautiful dance, with elements of undressing. They just enjoy it." Of course, all women are different. And this is the life experience of one person, but it becomes clear that charm is the key to a good relationship. It is clear, and quite acceptable, that unfamiliar and unfamiliar people treat the performer of male striptease easily.

But is it hard to build relationships with the opposite sex, being a stripper? “In my personal life, relationships are going well. I have a girlfriend. We are all great. She knows about my profession. Only, he is constantly jealous, furious and sometimes does not want to let go to work. Of course, in different respects, in different ways, but, in my opinion, it all depends on how smart the girl is and how much she understands that this is such a job. She has seen my performances many times. Jealous of the audience, but understands that this is just my work and that I live by dancing. Of course, striptease is a very difficult profession, in which one must be able to maintain the thinnest distance between the performer and the viewer. Moreover, this must be done delicately so that the viewer is satisfied and not offended. “There is one rule in striptease. A stripper can touch the viewer, but girls can't touch me! The maximum that is allowed, according to the rules, is that I take her hands and put them on my body. Here, the place where I hold her hands, she is allowed to touch! Of course, it happens that a lady allows herself liberties, but if without "fanaticism", I allow myself to be touched. If the line is violated, you need to be able to take her hands away, as if in a dance. It's like it was meant to be."

I wonder if there are funny cases in the profession of a stripper, and what kind? “Of course they do! It happens that the fastener on the thong sticks or with the suit, something is wrong. This is very funny, and you feel stupid at this moment. You just need not to get lost and continue the dance while you are trying to open and remove all this. Yes, the work of a man in a striptease is not easy! But there's nothing to be done... Such a profession!

"Oh, fu!"- my friends say when I share my impressions about the men's strip club, which I happened to visit. “I’d rather look at a woman. And these ... in oil, and everything is shaking, and rubbing against you! Well rub and rub. I, of course, also winced for the first half hour. But, you know, there are worse things in the world, but here there is no perversion, just half-naked guys, to whom girls put 500 rubles for a string of thongs. Another thing is that I don’t want to return to the country of pumped-up torsos in oil and imitations of orgies on stage, and there are girls who spend there every weekend. How a bachelorette party turned into a random investigation, read in our material.

It was a friend's bachelorette party. An hour before the trip to the “secret place”, her fiancé gave us a pack of dollar (no rubles, everything is serious) bills - they will come in handy. Of course, we immediately understood everything. And they got excited. Personally, I have never been to a strip club.

Our trip coincided with halloween. Of course, they dressed up (albeit without bruises instead of lipstick) - the bride warned in advance that dresses were needed (which I later regretted very much).

At the entrance, near the wardrobe, we were greeted by a bar with alcohol - some multi-colored shots. The guy in the suit (fully dressed, yes) nods with a wry grin. "It's a must to enter". I have to knock over a stack to dive behind the heavy velvet curtains into the hall.

We came when we were still just getting ready, and the guys (not so naked) were rehearsing dance numbers on a small stage. Sat at a pre-booked table. "Something ugly", - one of us looked around the club. The bride winked, saying, be patient.

The hall is dark, all in pink-orange lights and velvet upholstery. A half-naked bartender behind the counter and even more naked waiters who got confused with face painting and creepy masks. Hairy chest is not listed here. The guys are all completely smooth and shiny, with perfect figures, you even want to touch it to check - is it all real?

The behavior of our waiter at first confused me. Whenever he approached the table, he approached one of us and stroked her leg or hugged her waist, while whispering something in our ear. It looked insistent, but we felt awkward. "Do you want anything else?" he asked, and his palm crawled along my leg under the dress. "No thanks"- I smiled stupidly and crawled away (although there was nowhere) on a high leather chair. The bride just laughed at us.

Gradually the club was filled with women (and not only). The audience gathered was very different: young (and more liberated than us) girls, married women, and very wealthy ones, and even ladies aged 50 and above - my grandmother would see them! In addition, men, and absolutely heterosexual - they did not look at the naked dancers, but they stared at the girls.

There were also more and more oiled guys, as if they were coming out of some conveyor belt where perfect men are being churned out, like from a cookie ad. "Bonjour"(we're sure you don't remember cookies, but you do remember ads). The music got louder and we got drunker.

So, at some point, the presenter appeared on the stage in shorts and a jacket and announced the number that would open the evening. So we saw the first performance of the best guys of the club (and then the second, third, and then lost count ...). It’s strange: either from the drunk (after champagne we switched to cocktails), or from the oily bodies nearby, we too quickly lost our dexterity and the hands of those passing by Jack Vorobyov And Voldemort from the knees (and not only) have not been removed. And in general, felt much more comfortable.

I think, if not for cocktails, all this would seem to me to be completely wild. Just imagine: some unfamiliar guy (and an hour later each of us has already looked after a personal Halloween villain) comes up to you, touches you, starts kissing you. Naturally, many questions arise in the head: how to behave, whether to reciprocate, and why, in the end, do they all have a permanent erection? Yes, absolutely all the guys were in "combat readiness". "I wonder what they take?"- a friend whispers in my ear, and then turns to her "villain" and asks, pointing to neon shorts: "What did you put in there?" He reacts instantly: "All real, touch".

It's like there are no rules here - do what you want. Often my "villain", who was called Sasha(but in fact - the devil knows), came up with the word "relax". And I obeyed, and my dress crawled up. And the dollars were leaving too quickly, there was even some excitement in it. So, if you have never had to put money in someone's underpants, it's worth visiting a strip club just for this.

After they brought us a very sexy hookah (2800 rubles), which, as it turned out later, was on absinthe, we decided to make a gift to the bride - a private dance. It costs 2000 rubles, and you can find it in the so-called Crazy menu. True, we never found out about what happened in the private room, the bride returned too mysterious ... “Well, they didn’t sleep,” my friend whispered in my ear.

There is also an item on the menu according to which you can take the guy you like with you (price on request). Although some regulars, according to my villain, with whom we decided to chat after another hot dance, just wait for the guy they like until his shift ends, and then offer to continue the night. For free . And many agree - after all, strippers are the same men as everyone else.

"Are you so nice to everyone?"- carried me after I don’t remember what cocktail, when we Sasha danced again (another joy - in the hands of these beefy guys you feel like a feather). "No, only with you"- he answered memorized, but for some reason I believed. Yes, there was also a whole set of phrases about what a gorgeous figure I have, how this dress suits me (I got under my skirt again), what beautiful hair I have, a bewitching look, and in general, he had never met such a person. I don’t know what kind of training these guys go through, but it all works flawlessly.

Already closer to the morning, when we experienced stage orgies (with the participation of female dancers) and moved a little away from the killer hookah, I was able to talk to him. Well, he had a higher education - technical. Came from Petersburg, where he worked as a model, then traveled to different countries, and eventually settled in Moscow. Now he is trying to develop his business (he assured that he had nothing to do with striptease) and takes several shifts here so that there is some kind of “bonus”.

« They come here for attention, − explains Sasha and comically beats his chest, − Or for a vest. I think it's all obvious". No, I don't agree. Okay, you came here for a bachelorette party, birthday, or out of curiosity, but what is there to do here every weekend? “Well, everyone gets rid of complexes in their own way and increases self-esteem. We are here to make women feel happy. At least for one night. You know, it seems to me that it’s better to kill depression by going here than to fill the refrigerator with all sorts of rubbish and cry in front of the telly, ”continued my interlocutor. And when I came to my senses and stopped attacking him to my favorite music, he said: “I really liked you. Will you write down the phone?

I lied that I have a boyfriend. But she still took the phone.
And with the dawn, our whole company, throwing a “mandatory exit condition” at parting, left the institution.

And recently I met Sasha at the casting of one music channel. Dressed, without erection and oil.

Irina Kulicheva
regular visitor to male strip clubs

Girls of all ages come to men's strip clubs. There are also very old women. By the way, men also go - in such a place it is much easier for them to meet a girl. There are luxury women who really come to have fun and buy boys for themselves: some enjoy their attention, while others simply cry into their bare torsos. And the boys are listening.

Oddly enough, it is quite possible to find a boyfriend or friend there. Unfortunately, I had this experience. I fell head over heels in love with a stripper and we started a relationship. That's probably why I stayed there for so long. It's like a swamp, these clubs are addictive. For two years (I first went there on my birthday - my girlfriends made a surprise) I went to the same place almost every weekend, and nowhere felt the same as there. I still can't name it. But there, at first everything seems wild to you, and then - this is the most comfortable place on earth, and despite all your life principles, character or complexes. All the girls there are equal, and no one tries to compare themselves with each other, perhaps because each one feels special. Of course, you perfectly understand that boys have such a job, but this does not prevent you from creating the illusion of uniqueness for yourself.

Here, of course, you need to be ready for anything (especially if you still started dating a stripper). And if you are jealous, it will be hard for you. It was very difficult for us together, I was worried, and it all ended badly, we are still completely different people. It’s not that he wasn’t going to sacrifice his work, for him it was not a priority - just earnings, but for me it was very difficult to accept all this on an emotional level. And it's a great experience.

All the guys there are really interesting, many with higher education, with wives and families. And for them to come to the club as a shift is like going to the office in the morning.

There are cool numbers, everyone dances professionally. But over time, you don’t even look at the dancers, you just have to be in this place. For me, an important factor was that when you dance there, men don’t pester you (of course, if you yourself don’t want it), so I could completely relax there.

Assess your confidence and comfort level. The first thing you need to consider is how comfortable you will be working mostly naked in front of large crowds or surrounded by noisy, drunk people. If the thought of this makes you cringe, you better consider another career.

Train. Strippers help people visualize their fantasies and most people dream of someone who is fit and toned. Work to improve your natural physique - if you are naturally lean and athletic, do low-intensity exercises but repeat them often to improve your physique without becoming bulky. If you are more stocky, focus on building muscle. Remember to eat properly; cut down on fat, sugar, and salt, but make sure you're getting enough healthy calories to build muscle. A good body shape will help you feel confident while striptease.

Pick a suit. Ripped clothes are a popular option for male strippers. A tailor or seamstress will help you add fasteners to your clothes. Make or buy luxurious and seductive lingerie.

Choose your music. Think through the numbers at different paces - fast, medium, and slow. Most strippers like songs with strong bass or drum lines. Burn a CD with 3 or 4 songs to perform and make several copies of the CD. If you are working at a private event, you will leave your disc when you leave.

Practice your dancing skills. Practice your presentation 3 times a day. Focus on making your movements look slow and effortless, and making sure your facial expressions make the right impression on the audience. Some male strippers also pole dance; you can develop your skills by setting up a pole at home.

Choose your stage name. Your stage name should reflect your personality as a stripper and tell people what to expect from you. Choose something seductive and exciting.

Take a close-up photo. Take your black and white photo and start emailing it or taking it to agencies. Be aware that some agencies will try to charge you for posting photos and call it a fee.

Sign up with a reputable agency – Choosing the right male stripper agency to represent you is vital in your quest for success. There are many good reputable agencies, but there are also very bad ones who want to make a quick buck instead of taking care of their performers or clients. When joining an agency, make sure they are registered as a ZAO or LLC company and have full liability insurance. Civil liability insurance can only be obtained by a registered CJSC or LLC company. There are many agencies run by one person from the comfort of your bedroom, so to be on the safe side, ask the agency you are thinking of signing up for their identification code, their TIN, and a copy of their liability insurance. This way you will be 100% safe and know that you have signed up with a reputable agency.

How to perform a lap dance for your man? It's sexy, it's fun, it's harmless, it's liberating and your partner will love it!

Attention: This article is intended for persons over 18 years of age.

Steps

Set some ground rules.

• Never, during the entire dance, do not let your partner touch you. You can touch it, lick it, rub it and caress it all you want without letting it get cold. Slow seduction is a sure way to a successful dance. The whole point of a private dance is to drive a man crazy with impatience and desire.
• You are in charge. Take your time, take control and have fun teasing him.
• If he reaches out in your direction or starts to spread his arms, hit him on the wrist and let him know that if he does it again, the dance is over for him, no exceptions.

1. To enjoy private dancing, you must feel comfortable. You won't look sexy if you don't feel sexy. Accept your body the way it is and enjoy, no matter your shape or size. Any woman can do a striptease or lap dance, whether she's shy or thinks she's not perfect. Not all lap dancers are supermodels, they just act like supermodels. Now is your time to cherish, release your sensual spirit and be seductive. Leave inhibitions and prejudices. You are a sexy goddess.

   Choose clothes that make you feel hot and sexy and the rest will follow. There is a huge selection of clothes! These are bras, panties, garters, belts, stockings, shirts, robes, soft toys, swimwear, clubwear, fetish clothing with oversized buttons at the top of the shirt and much more. The bottom line is to put on something that will be easy to take off. Dare! When doing this, remember that you will be teasing the man, so it is important to expose some of the flesh.

   • Start by choosing your underwear, as this will be the last thing you have left. Sexy bra, thongs, stockings (easier to work in) and possibly suspenders.
   • The panties should emphasize your buttocks while the back of the panties should reach as high as possible. Try high bottomed panties, thongs sticking out of shorts to see what works best for you. Panties that, when removed, leave marks on the body, will have to be removed - they are probably too tight and should be avoided.
   • Thigh high stockings or no garters are a sexy addition to almost any outfit. Try a pair that is easy for you to move in. If you don't plan to remove your stockings and garters throughout the dance, put your panties on the outside so that you can take them off without having to untie the garters.
   • For a top layer, try little shorts, an innocent thin robe, sexy high school teacher/student uniforms, vamps, desperate housewives, or something else, like a classic red or black evening dress with retro lingerie underneath.
   • Avoid corsets or clothes that are too tight and difficult to slip out of. Also avoid clothes with back zippers or lots of belts, which take a long time to remove.
   • Shoes with high heels are usually the most suitable for any outfit. It makes legs matte, smooth and longer. Even if you are a little uncomfortable, try it - you won't have to walk in heels for a long time. Otherwise, wear what you feel comfortable in. At the very least, dance barefoot.
   • Take off as many things as you want. You can choose from full nude, topless, sexy lingerie, lace dress or fully clothed. However, your loved one must remain fully dressed.
   • If you choose shoes with buckles, think about how you will take off your clothes without removing your shoes. Elastic clothes or light dresses can be removed with shoes, but you should make sure in advance. None of the shoes fit? Dance barefoot and turn your man on as hard as you can.
   • If you're doing this in heels, don't take them off (except taking off your stockings, or better yet, leave the stockings on). It may be necessary to put on the shoes again after removing the stockings. Shoes without webbing and straps are easier to remove than shoes with straps or buckles.
   • If you have chosen something that can be easily removed over your head, gliding seductively, pull the clothes from the bottom to the sides, while standing straight and without hunching.
   • A button down shirt can be a very sexy piece of clothing when taken off. After unbuttoning the last button, play with bare shoulders on each side, and then let the shirt slide slowly to the floor.
   • Tight pants or jeans will take a long time to remove. The pencil skirt can be easily unbuttoned and pushed down. Do this during a slight tilt, and when it subsides, “get out” of it. Skirts can be removed without removing shoes and stockings.
   • Practice removing stockings ahead of time. For added balance (and teasing), place your toes between your legs or on the arms of your chair as you take each stocking off, slowly roll or roll them up the length of your leg.
   • Don't forget to tease him. For beginners: take your time to remove each layer. Pull your skirt or underwear down a few inches before removing it. Grab the sides of your pants, skirt, or underwear with one or two fingers and pull the garment down slightly to tease your loved one.
   • Pull the straps of your bra over your shoulders before lowering them. The classic way to remove a bra, which professional strippers resort to, is to turn around with your back to your man and let the bra fall to the floor, or standing with your back to him, hold the bra over your head before dropping it to the floor. Then turn around with your hand on your chest and slowly move it across and away from your chest. It will look very sexy.
   • When taking off your underwear, try sliding them over your shoes, or when you're standing upright with bare feet. Do this by bending a little at the waist and guiding them all the way to the floor, and then come out of them. If this is not easy for you, try bending your knees or taking off your clothes while lying on your back. Don't squat too low.
   • Do not undress completely until the very end, and when you do, tease the man's imagination until his patience runs out.

2. Choose 2-3 sensual songs that both of you like. Think of something cute and seductive. Avoid songs with big vocals. It would be nice to take something from pop singers and divas of the 60s, anyway, if you want something romantic. The sensual rhythm will guide you through the entire dance. It's best if you can feel the music and feel comfortable in it. Start with 2-3 songs.

   • The first song is for warm-up. This is your time to lead your partner to a chair, sit him down, explain the rules, and begin seducing him slowly and with ease.

3. You don't have to start from the very beginning of the song. Take your time, walk around your loved one, touch him, run your fingers through his hair and feel the rhythm.

   If you have chosen 2-3 songs, you won't have to worry about finishing the dance in a hurry. You are free to choose short sweet songbooks or long and languid ones. You will probably be at the peak of your passion for their ending, so you can safely choose a dozen songs, then the pleasure at the end will be unforgettable.

   • If possible, burn all the songs to a CD or create a playlist on a portable player. Don't stop there, look for new songs and update your CD.

4. Beginners will need to catch the rhythm and take their time in the process of seduction. Close your eyes, feel the music, go into a trance and start rocking.

   • Spend 30 minutes the night before trying on clothes and rehearsing poses and movements. Dance on your feet and on the floor. These may be things that you have never done before. Try sliding down the wall and then climb up. Walk at your fingertips.
   • Standing on the floor, try opening and closing your legs or leaning on your knees from one side to the other. Experiment with different angles. Sit on a chair. Caress your thighs, neck, belly and legs. Close your legs and then open them with your hand spreading your hips. Open up again. Close your eyes if you are shy.
   • If you feel uncomfortable while dancing, think of it as an aerobics class. Stretch, bend over, sit on the twine. Use your hands, stretching them out to the sides, and pull your hands towards your fingertips. If you have practiced martial arts, yoga or Pilates, apply your knowledge to create your own sexy look.
   • Think of your dance as a tai chi session at the gym. Slow movements and a general sense of well-being are all that is needed for a good dance.

5. Seduce your loved one with passionate glances. Your facial expression will reflect your sexual thoughts and activate the sexual tension in the air. Look at your body, touch it, enjoy it, and then look at your loved one, eye to eye, and notice how he reacts to you and your body. Maintain eye contact at all times. If you are standing with your back to your partner, look at him over your shoulder.

   Add some accessories for your daily dances, items you love to play with. You do it for your own pleasure.

   • Blindfolds will help keep your partner's feelings on their toes. He will be intrigued to know what will happen next.
   • A pair of handcuffs or a silk scarf can be used to keep your partner's arms down if they break the rules.
   • Use a soft pen to draw it across your partner's body. Sit on a chair and, keeping your body upright, slide the feather down your legs and slowly draw it from your neck to your inner thighs.
   • If you wear button-down shirts, you can use a tie. Tie a noose around his neck to pull him closer to your face, or tie his hands if he breaks the no-touch rule.
   • If you are the kind of girl who loves to be naughty, use your favorite toy for your pleasure and his "torture".
   • Tease him with a handkerchief or silk cape, or use it to cover up if that makes you feel more comfortable.
   • Use your hair. As you stretch your torso while kneeling or sitting, pull back your hair and let it fall again. Use them for seduction.
   • Use an ice cube from a cocktail. Place the cube in your mouth and roll it over your lover's body or run it over his nipples.
   • Your lips and eyes are powerful agents of seduction. Try the classic pout or smile. Play with facial expressions.
   • With a little practice, use a hat, scarf, cane, or riding gear to seduce and seduce a man.

6. Create the perfect atmosphere. Subdued lights, perfume, lit candles. To candles, you can add the light of a floor lamp or garlands. Candles will add a soft, warm glow to your body. Indirect lighting will be both flattering and more intimate. Avoid fluorescent lights or white LED fixtures.

   • Make sure the room temperature is comfortable, not too cold or too hot, otherwise it will distract you.
   • Turn off all possible distractions - TV, mobile phones, and so on.

7. Clear the area where you will be dancing so you don't crash into anything.

   • Make sure the chair your partner will sit in can support both of them. Sit on him and imagine yourself in his place, and then - as you sit on his lap.

8. Send him a seductive text message or a cryptic email, but be careful not to get it too late. The invitation will intrigue him and make him burn with anticipation all day. Alternatively, don't send anything, but surprise him. In any case, you will need time to prepare the “scene” and also to calm yourself, especially if this is your first time.

   Turn on the music and guide your loved one to a chair. Let him sit with his legs crossed. Start by looking him straight in the eyes with a teasing smile. Move around the man, touch him, run your fingers through his hair and move to the rhythm of the music. Explain the rules and start dancing slowly, lightly and seductively.

   Switch your gaze between him and yourself by touching certain parts of your body. Run your fingers through your hair, then move to the back of your head, across your chest, then down to your hips and across the front of your body. As you move your hands, imagine that they are his hands. Enjoy the touch of your (his) hands on your body. Constantly touch your body and move them from side to side towards the back of your head. Look into his eyes and try to slowly and gently wrap your head around his head (head falls forward and then back up) letting your hair fall over his face.

   Then try moving your hips. Move so that your groin is in the area of ​​his knee, then lean in as if you are about to kiss him, and linger in this position so that he can smell your perfume, and then abruptly pull away.

   Take a few steps in front of your partner. Think sexy and show it in your movements. Start moving your hips to the beat of the music in gentle circular motions. Close your eyes for a few seconds and enjoy the moment. There is nothing around you but your partner. Take your time, slowly approach him, putting forward one or the other leg, in a cat style. Once you get close enough, take your lap dance to the next level.

   Try to continue the lap dance, swaying between your partner's legs, bumping parts of your body against his groin. Turn around and sit between his legs. Bend over, sit on his lap and move slowly (and carefully).

   Step back and start taking off your clothes. The top must go first. Seductively and gradually remove another item or two of clothing (perhaps a skirt or shorts) and return to your partner again. Get close enough to practically sit on his lap. Lean sensually on him, and let him feel your hot breath and soft, passionate moan. Gently nibble on his ear or touch his neck with a brush, inhale the scent of your loved one to show him how pleasant his scent is to you.

   Throughout the lap dance, keep caressing yourself and don't get too close to your partner for too long. Come just for a moment. Remember that eye contact is very important. Let your eyes convey all those sexy thoughts, and don't forget to smile.

   If you are in a playful mood, approach him again as if you are going to take him with all your passion, but instead kiss him on the cheek, step back and put your clothes back on. Then go to another part of the house or go for a walk. You may have to run.

   Try it a few times in different costumes, styles and with different music and you will soon become an expert in all kinds of sexy dancing. The possibilities are endless and the results are always great.

   At the end, take off all your clothes and tell him that your body belongs to him. Your partner will love it!

   Get ready for sex. Don't forget about contraception!

• You already know how to take off your clothes, because you do it every day. So you can safely start practicing striptease - just change tactics, shoot it so as to remain naked or half-naked. Unbutton your shirt with one hand, keep the other on your hips. Take your jeans off slowly so that your underwear is visible first, and then push them down slowly, rocking your hips from side to side. You can do the same with a skirt, and when it is on the floor, “get out” of it. Roll tights or stockings gradually down, one leg after the other, until you roll them up at the very feet. Practice removing your bra by holding it over your head. Pull the panties down, then let them fall to the floor and get out of them. You already know all the moves, you just need to revive the memories a little.
• Always be mindful of your hips. They are the basis of every movement, gesture and proposal. Keep them moving.
• Wear sexy lingerie more often so that you feel comfortable in it. Wear sexy lingerie under your work clothes or when you go to the supermarket, and practice taking it off slowly when you get home. Practice and more practice.
• As you lean towards him with your arms crossed over your chest, gently squeeze your breasts together to create extra volume. Your chest will become rounder and bigger if you apply pressure from your forearm.
• The key to successful lap dancing lies in the ability to move and touch your body before moving on to more intimate caresses, when the "victim" is already helpless.
• You don't have to take off all your clothes. Behave sexually, do everything to make his emotions go wild. You don't have to be completely naked to arouse him. The main thing is that you feel comfortable at the same time.
• If you're dancing barefoot, or once you've taken off your shoes, try dancing on your toes. Dancing on your toes will help you achieve the same physical effect as wearing shoes and make your legs look longer, thinner and firmer. This will force you to straighten your chest, arch your back and accentuate your calves as an added bonus.
• The key to successful erotic dancing lies in the multiple layers of clothing and how you take them off one layer at a time.
• As you move your hip from side to side, keep your arms up in the air with your wrists crossed. So the chest will be more visible. Other than that, it's a great stretch.
• Each time you place your hand on your hip, make sure your fingertips point up and your wrist drops so that your hand and wrist form a V. In this position, your shoulders stay straight, your body lengthens, and a beautiful hourglass effect is created.
• Slow hot dance will make you feel sexy. Walk confidently with your hand on your hips and show off your body.
• Some classic lap dance songs:
  • Prince - Cream
  • Prince - Peach
  • Madonna - Justify My Love
  • Gwen Stefani - Luxurious
  • Justin Timberlake - What Goes Around Comes Around/My Love
  • Nine Inch Nails
  • Timbaland - The Way I Are
  • Beyoncé - Freakum Dress
  • Kylie Minogue - Chocolate
  • White Stripes - I just don't know what to do with myself
  • Goldfrapp
  • Kyuss - Gloria Lewis
  • Jimi Hendrix - Hey Joe
  • Joe Cocker - You Can Leave Your Hat On
• Imagine that your hands are his hands. Touch yourself where he would like to touch you.
• Use your environment. Lean back against the wall, squirm, squat down, and rise again. Use a spare chair. Move back and forth or sit away from him to remove the stockings with the leg straight in the air, one at a time.
• Stand at a slight angle and turn your head towards him. The angled profile in soft light looks very flattering. Hollywood movie stars do not just use this technique in the movies.
• Remember, you must feel comfortable.
• Stripper stance: arch back, chest forward, wear stilettos or stand on tiptoe, walk slowly with toes extended whenever the foot leaves the floor. Each time you lift your leg, bend it back and up before putting it down. As you walk, try to place one foot directly in front of the other, like a runway model, only slowly. Practicing this walk will make you feel taller, more dominant and sexy.
• After taking four or five steps in one direction, pause, stop with one or two hands on your hips, and look into his eyes.
• If you drink, take a few sips of wine or a cocktail to calm your nerves. Have your partner take a sip as well, or as much as you decide to let him, to keep him on his toes.
• If you're nervous, practice in front of a mirror a few days before the event. Then, when the time comes, just imagine that you are dancing in front of a mirror.
• Start wearing stockings instead of pantyhose. Wear thigh highs or stockings with a garter belt under your jeans while doing housework, or wear them to the supermarket if you're too shy to wear them with a skirt.