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Questionnaire for parents “Your family and its traditions. Quantitative and qualitative analysis of the questionnaire "Family traditions and values" Questionnaire of the values and traditions of our family

After analyzing the results of the survey conducted for adolescents and parents, the following conclusions were made:

1. Most respondents do not know about the origin of their surname, but nevertheless, parents know more about the origin of their surname than teenagers.

2. Also, parents are 12% more aware of how their relatives met and got married, unlike teenagers.

3. To the question “Does your family keep photographs? Is there a family album? Most of the study participants answered that families kept records using photographs and photo albums.

4. 28% of adolescents found it difficult to answer the question whether their family has letters, postcards, other handwritten evidence of the past, however, most parents confidently answer the question.

5. 25% of respondents (parents and adolescents) have relics at home, such as: a watch, a jewelry box, an icon, a portrait, a piece of jewelry. 65% of participants in the study among adolescents found it difficult to answer this question, but most of the parents answered that there were no relics in their families, which, in our opinion, is an omission in family education.

6. To the question “What is “home” for you?” 1/3 of the respondents answered - family and parents. Slightly less (29%) answered - comfort, warmth. Third place - safety, reliability. 6% of the respondents could not answer this question.

7. The most favorite and popular place in a house (apartment), according to respondents, is a personal room (48%). It is inferior to the kitchen, which gained 24%. The living room, which 20% of respondents like to visit, closes the list.

8. We found out that 43% of respondents prefer family gatherings on holidays at home, 20% less gather in nature or in the country (23%), 14% gather at the dinner table, 6% of respondents do not find an opportunity to gather with their families at all.

9. Among the respondents, the most family and favorite is the birthday (29%), only 1% behind the New Year. 20% scored wedding ceremony.

10. 46% of all respondents have a daily routine or joint meals at home.

11. More than half of all respondents answered that they have their own family values and follow traditions, 6% of teenagers follow traditions, but do not know about it.

12. Most often, the respondents' families discuss successes at school and at work (42%). 38% discuss news and past events. Closes the top three - the discussion of gifts for the holidays (12%).

In addition, the respondents were tasked with completing sentences on the topic “family is….” and “family values are…”.

To the question “family is ...”, the parents, in the majority, answered that it is mutual assistance, love, happiness, respect and close people. And teenagers answered that the family is parents and children, love, as well as relatives

According to most parents, family values are mutual assistance, what is valued in the family, love and happiness, family achievement. For teenagers, family values are love, children, mutual assistance and respect.

Based on the results of processing the questionnaire, diagrams (Appendix 2) and tables (Appendix 3) were built.

Based on the results of the questionnaire, we can conclude that the formation of the moral culture of adolescents in the family will be effective if the personal example of parents in observing family traditions is used and the activities of parents in the formation of the moral culture of adolescents will pass through traditions.

Observation results

For the purpose of clarification, the head of AET triumph was asked questions, the purpose of which was to reveal the peculiarity of the moral education of the team members, such as:

1) respect for peers and elders;

2) ability to work in a group;

3) the manifestation of empathy in the team.

For the effective development of the moral culture of adolescents, methodological recommendations for parents have been developed:

"The role of family traditions in the education of adolescents".

For children and adolescents, the family is an environment in which the possibilities of its physical, mental, emotional and intellectual development are formed.

Family values are the building blocks of a strong foundation for a family. This is something that cannot be bought with money, inherited or stolen. Family values can be acquired and carried through life together. Family values, such as family traditions, can be brought into life.

The real desire for family happiness and family well-being finds its justification in the creation of family traditions. Once upon a time, traditions were an obligatory feature of a “united” family, reflecting the moral position of its members. Early involvement of children in the discussion of all issues of family life is a long-standing good tradition.

Family traditions are the spiritual atmosphere of the house, which is made up of the daily routine, customs, lifestyle and habits of its inhabitants. So, some families prefer to wake up early, have a quick breakfast, go to work and meet in the evening without questioning or talking. In other families, joint meals, discussion of plans, increased attention to each other's problems are accepted.

Each house, during its existence, develops its own ritual. The home energy structure of the family changes under the influence of traditions. Traditions are relationships that develop between family members. If the family fixes traditions for themselves as obligatory, then they can serve them well. Often following traditions helps to live. And no matter how strange they may seem, one thing is important: family traditions and rituals should not be cumbersome and far-fetched. Let them come into life naturally.

It is extremely difficult to form a family tradition if the children have grown up and have already formed a common attitude towards the family. Another thing is young families, where parents are free to show the teenager all the beauty of the world, envelop him with love and form a reliable life position throughout his life.

How teenagers will subsequently relate to themselves, others and life in general depends entirely on their parents. Life can be presented to him as an endless holiday or an exciting journey, or it can be seen as a frightening outing into the wilderness or as a boring, thankless and hard work that awaits everyone right outside the school doors.

If most of the usual family rituals are not restrictions, but only joy and pleasure, this strengthens the sense of family integrity, a sense of the uniqueness of one's own home and confidence in the future. That charge of inner warmth and optimism that each of us carries within ourselves is acquired in childhood, and the more it is, the better.

Family traditions and rituals:

allow the teenager to feel the stability of the way of life;

In the family, what is instituted will take place;

give the teenager a sense of confidence in the world around him and security;

· tune in to optimism and a positive perception of life, when every day is a holiday;

create unique memories that a teenager will someday tell their children

pride in yourself and your family.

You are quite capable of creating several family traditions, which, perhaps, children and grandchildren will adhere to! Remember only three main rules:

a recurring event should be bright, positive, memorable;

a tradition for that and a tradition to be observed always;

The main thing is that there should be something in this traditional action that affects feelings and perception. What can be family holidays and rituals? Instead of the usual "hello - bye", a friendly family can agree to greet each other with a special "code" word, understandable only to "their own"! For example: "Hey, hero!" or "Hello princess!" It's funny if, when greeting, someone says the first half of the word, and his interlocutor - the second. You can also come up with special forms of farewell - like cheerful wishes or advice to each other for the whole day. Great scope for creating family traditions is hidden in the kitchen and culinary talents of one of the family members. It’s great if everyone gathers for a family lunch or dinner on weekends. The main thing is that it should not be a dull eating of delicacies, but be remembered by the appetizing smell of delicious dishes and the smiles of the household. It will be even more interesting if you give the opportunity to master your "crown dish", which will take pride of place on the table. Or offer to learn something new together every Sunday. Kitchen experiments are good because the result is always visual, tangible, and smells very tasty! You can also organize holidays of "national" cuisine - one or the most different! So a teenager will be able to learn a lot about the world around him, and learn exotic features of behavior at the table, for example, how to hold chopsticks or drink from a saucer. Here are some more ideas for enduring culinary traditions: a variety of preparations for the winter, a unique way of making tea or coffee, or a traditional picnic on the first weekend of summer.

The best tradition associated with a birthday is to celebrate this day as the best holiday! Many adults sadly recall that in their family "it was not customary to celebrate birthdays."

Birthday as a noisy fun holiday with exactly those guests whom the hero of the occasion wants to invite is the best gift. Let the teenager feel his importance for loved ones, learn to receive guests and get used to the tradition of celebrating birthdays without fail! And for adults, this holiday is an occasion to fantasize about special rituals. Many families started to create a gallery of photographs. In other words, do something that will help him, then remember his childhood. Together with a teenager, you can start compiling a family tree or start collecting some kind of collection, the scope for imagination is endless! The main thing is to feel that it is really "yours" and brings joy to all family members.

A great option is an annual trip with the whole family to the sea or out of town for a picnic. During such trips, the family gets even closer, settling internal troubles.

Sunday joint viewing of films not at the cinema, but at home, is very uniting. Whether you are trying to keep old home traditions that are dear to you or your husband, or trying to invent and instill new ones, remember that childhood shapes a child for life. And the main thing in childhood is that the child has it. Try to know when to stop: the overly strict rules by which the family lives, which do not leave teenagers any “freedom of maneuver”, overstrain the teenage psyche.

The absence of a stable household structure and predictable household rituals, soothing with their indispensable obligation, convey to the teenager a feeling of insecurity at home and the precariousness of the universe.

Conclusion

The purpose of the research work - to study the role of family traditions in the upbringing of adolescents, was carried out with the help of:

1. definitions, the concept of the family as the main factor influencing the formation of personality. Family and family relationships play an important role in the mental and personal development of a teenager. The family world has its own characteristics in comparison with other social groups. Each family has its own history, experience of communicating with each other, mistakes and blunders, successful experience in solving emerging problems, as well as its own principles, tasks, methods and means of moral education.

2. allocation of basic means of moral education in the family. In this paragraph, the most common means of moral education were highlighted, such as: joint work, joint rest, personal example, encouragement and punishment, family traditions. The use of which will help to educate a moral person who is ready to live his life with dignity and pass on his skills and family traditions to the next generation.

3. revealing the role of family traditions in the upbringing of the moral culture of adolescents. Based on the results of the questionnaire, we can conclude that the formation of the moral culture of adolescents in the family will be effective if the personal example of parents in observing family traditions is used and the activities of parents in the formation of the moral culture of adolescents will pass through traditions.

This work can be used by students of the Vyatka College of Culture in the study of the MDK "Pedagogical foundations for teaching creative disciplines" on the topic "Professional and pedagogical activity", students of pedagogical universities, parents, as well as teachers and leaders in educational institutions and in institutions of an additional type.

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Applications.

Appendix 1.

"Family and Family Values"

№	Question	Answer
	Do you know the origin of your last name?
	Do you know how your grandparents, parents, other relatives met (married)?
	Does your Family keep photos? Is there a family album?
	Do the family keep letters, postcards, other handwritten evidence of the past?
	Do you have family heirlooms?
	What is "home" for you?
	What is your favorite room (place) in your house (apartment)?
	Where and when does your family get together?
	What holidays do you consider as family holidays? Which ones are your favorite?
	Do you have a daily routine at home? Are shared lunches and dinners accepted?
	Are there family habits? Traditions?
	Do you have a family discussion about something? If yes, then what?
	Family is…
	Family values are...

Appendix 2

Questionnaire "Traditions of my family"

1. Genealogy.

How much do you know about your ancestors (according to the stories of thenyh and relatives)? If not enough, why not?

How many generations do you know? Can you draw genealogical tree?

Do you know the origin of your last name?

Are you related to distant relatives? Are there manyyou?

Is there (was) a tradition of correspondence between relativeskami in the family, family?

2. Family stories.

Do you know vivid facts from the history of the clan, family (ininteresting, funny, curious)? Tell some of them.

Have the traditions about the life of the family been preserved in varioustoric periods? What do they like to remember and tell about morecall grandma, grandpa, parents and other relatives?

Are there any interesting, memorable events in the history of the family (kind)teas, biographical facts that are told to children,remember when relatives get together?

Are there any family stories related to the professionalnoah activity?

Are there any family stories about pets, growingniyah?

3. Heredity and ties of relatives.

Are personal traits inherited in your family?properties, abilities, interests, professional inclinations?

Which family member do you resemble or would like to be?similar?

Would you like to raise your child to be like someone else?that of relatives? On whom?

The love and care of which of the relatives do you feel onyourself the most?

Do you have a family tradition of keeping the memory of the deceasedour relatives? As usual, the dead are commemorated in yourfamily?

4. History of relationships.

Can you call your family friendly?

What is your relationship with sisters and brothers? What aresuch relationships in other generations of the family?

Were there cases of separation of close relatives, theirlosses for many years or forever due to external (historical)ski) reasons?

Were there significant cases, including unexpectednyh, meetings of relatives?

Did you have to accept a new person into the family?

5. Events of family life.

Do you know how grandmothers met (married) andgrandparents, parents, other relatives?

Have significant events related to the wedding of grandparents and parents survived in the family?

Are there any interesting memories associated withthe birth of children?

Was there (exists) a special tradition in the familychoosing a baby name?

Why (in honor of whom) were you given your name? Are there specialstories associated with the names of other family members?

6. Family heirlooms.

Does your family have family heirlooms? What are they withconnected?

Does your family keep photos? Is there a familyalbum? Which of the photographs are especially dear to you? Whether there is ainteresting photo captions?

What period does the oldest photograph belong to?kept in your family?

Is there a home archive? What does it include?

Do the family keep letters, postcards, other manuscriptsnew evidence of the past?

7. House.

What place do you consider your homeland?

What is "home" for you?

Have there been movings in the history of the family, what is connected with them?

Do you (your children) like to come home from the traindock, travel?

Where and when does the family get together?

Holidays.

What holidays do you consider as family holidays? Which of themfavorite, why?

How do you celebrate birthdays? Are there any differences incelebrating the birthdays of a child and an adult family member?

Do you celebrate name days, angel days of family members?

Do you celebrate other religious holidays: ChristmasChrist, Easter? Was it always like this in the family?

How is the New Year celebrated in the family? Are there traditionsconcerned with the preparation for the holiday, the celebration itself?

9. Everyday communication.

Do you have a daily routine at home? Are there jointnye lunches, dinners?

What forms of greetings and farewells do you use?

What are the forms of parting words on the road at any partingaccepted in your family?

Do your family members have "home" names?

What forms of address, formed from the words "babushka”, “grandfather”, “mom”, “dad”, do you use in the family?

Target: To draw the attention of parents to the importance of cultural values and traditions of the family in the development and formation of the personality of a teenager as a future exemplary family man.

Tasks:

To update the importance of the cultural values of the family for the development of a full-fledged personality of a teenager

Analyze the presence of traditions and customs in modern families.

Form of the meeting: dispute

Members: Class teacher, parents of students, teachers of additional education.

Preparatory stage:

Anonymous survey of students on the topic of family traditions and customs in your family.

Test: "Alone with myself" (about relationships with parents)

Do you think that you have a mutual understanding with your parents?

Do you talk heart to heart with your elders, do you consult on “personal matters”?

Are you interested in your parents' work?

Do your parents know your friends?

Do you have them at home?

Do you participate with your parents in household chores?

Are you bored at home, do you prefer to spend your free time away from home?

Do you have communication with elders, activities and hobbies?

Do you participate in preparations for family holidays?

And "children's holidays" - do you prefer that your parents be with you, or do you want to spend them without adults?

Do you discuss the books you read with your parents?

What about TV shows and movies?

Do you go to theaters, museums, exhibitions and concerts together?

Do you go on walks or hikes together?

Do you prefer to spend your weekends with your parents or not?

Score two points for an affirmative answer. If the answer is expressed by the word "partly", "sometimes" - one point. If it is negative, it is zero. Calculate how many points you have scored.

If more than 20 points - your relationship with the elders in the family can generally be considered successful.

If from 10 to 20 - the relationship can be assessed as satisfactory. But not versatile enough; think for yourself in what they should be deepened and supplemented.

If less than 10 - your contacts with parents are clearly insufficient. We need to decide how to improve them.

Questionnairefor students

When answering questions, you can choose only one of the proposed answers.

What would you like to receive from the family in which you live?

good organization of life,

the joys of communication

peace and security.

Are you alone in your family?

Do you want your future family to be like your current family?

What do you think your parents care about the most in family life?

children health,

good education for children

labor participation of children in family life,

the mood of children and the reasons for its changes.

Which of the following attitudes in life is the most significant for you?

be financially secure,

meet love,

to have many friends,

Do you have secrets from your family?

What is an evening at home for you?

joy of communication

opportunity to be yourself

torment and torture.

Are you familiar with the moral and material problems that exist in your family?

Questionnaire for parents

(Distributed in advance along with an invitation to the parent meeting, filled out by parents at home and handed in before the meeting.)

When answering questions, you have the right to choose one priority quality.

What do you think your child expects from the family in which he lives?

good organization of life;

the joys of communication;

peace and security.

What worries you most about your family?

children's health;

good studies,

labor participation of children in family life.

Is your child alone in the family?

Do you think your child will want his future family to be like yours?

Which of the following life attitudes is, in your opinion, the most significant for a child?

be financially secure

meet love,

to have many friends,

realize their intellectual potential.

Is your child familiar with the moral and material problems that exist in the family?

Does your child have secrets from his family?

What is an evening at home for your child?

joy of communication

opportunity to be yourself

torment and torture.

3. Individual tasks for parents.

Dear Olga Petrovna, write about the place of sport in your family.

Andrei Vladimirovich, please write down your point of view on the subject: “How do you instill in children a love of books?”

Furnishings, equipment and supplies :

Chairs are arranged for group work.

Exhibition of books about raising a child in a family.

Board layout:

The family is the primary environment where a person must learn to do good.

V.A. Sukhomlinsky

"What the father does, the son tries to do"

"One good example is better than a hundred words"

“The vices of a child are not born, but brought up”

Meeting progress:

Introductory speech by the class teacher.

Good afternoon dear parents! Today in our class there is another parent meeting, we will talk about the culture of behavior in the family, about the importance of the cultural values of the family for the development of a teenager. It occupies a special place in a number of meetings due to the importance and seriousness of the topic under discussion. We need to think about the question, how do you want to see your child in a few years, what role will your family play in his development? “Family is the first recognition for every person. Not for the sake of work, we were born into the world, The exception is only for geniuses and highly gifted ”- the statement of M. Boyarsky.

The child learns what he sees in his home:

Parents are an example.

Who is rude with his wife and children, who loves the language of debauchery,

Let him remember that he will more than receive from them everything he teaches.

Now it has become out of fashion to behave decently, and usually.

And the female sex, disgracing himself, began to use foul language in conversation.

Husbands are examples for their wives, and children learn from them.

If children see us and hear us, we are responsible for our deeds.

And for the words: it is easy to push children onto a bad path.

S. Brandt

Pedagogical education on the topic "Family Culture".

The culture of the family, which leaves its mark on all spheres of its activity (everyday life, relationships, the nature and content of leisure, etc.), is one of the most important prerequisites for the full-fledged upbringing of children, as well as its other members. Given the wide range of the concept of "culture", it can be assumed that the quality of family education will be largely determined by the cultural values that family members adhere to and the ability to use various types and genres of art for the benefit of the child's development, for example, music: there is no other art, which would so powerfully invade the emotional world of a person, subjugate him to itself. But music has an educational effect only if it is perceived as art. In one family, a child from the cradle gets used to music as to everyday noise, which sounds from morning to evening from a tape recorder, radio, and TV. Perceiving music "under the ear", the child is unlikely to learn to listen to it seriously. And in another family, the old traditions of an intelligent family have been preserved: attending concerts, opera performances, choral singing during leisure hours ... Families profess different cultural values and, accordingly, receive different results of education. There is no doubt that children in those families will significantly "win" in development, especially moral and artistic, in which people close to them not only "consume" culture, but create themselves, involving the whole family in this process: they draw, sculpt, sing in chorus, arrange concerts, play home performances, keep a family chronicle, compose fairy tales, etc.

Parents who are concerned about the fate of the child take a more serious approach to choosing a kindergarten, school, additional education institutions (sports section, circle, music school, etc.). Sharing part of the concerns about the education and development of the child with public educational institutions, parents are looking for ways to interact with professional teachers, in every possible way support their authority in the eyes of their son or daughter. Such parents willingly take part in the life and activities of the institution where their child is brought up.

The type of child's behavior is formed on the basis of the family's value ideas about what is "good" and what is "bad". Value orientations in different families differ significantly. One dad believes that the son should be kind and compliant, the other, on the contrary, sees the ideal of a man in physical strength, in the ability to fend for himself. In word and deed, parents approve, encourage, stimulate the behavior of the child, which corresponds to their idea of a “good” person. And if a child acts contrary to these ideas, then he is punished, shamed, and condemned. So every day a system of norms and rules is introduced into the mind of the child, they form an idea of which of them are acceptable and which should be avoided. However, despite the prevailing opinion that the child is the "mirror of the family", he does not learn the "moral code" of his family from "A" to "Z". Passing it through the prism of personal experience, the child “creates” his own rules of behavior, relationships, activities and follows them out of habit, and then internal needs.

The values of the family, which determine the meaning of traditional behavior, underlie the traditions of family education. Modern scientists (I.V. Bestuzhev-Lada, D.S. Likhachev, A.V. Mudrik) include family traditions and customs among the important conditions that have a noticeable impact on the characteristics of education.

The family, like other social institutions, exists by reproducing traditions, historically established and passed down from generation to generation customs, customs, rules of conduct. So, for example, in many families there is a tradition of planting a tree in honor of a newborn baby or newlyweds; celebrating the day the child enters school; transmission from father to son of the first self-read book; maintaining a family photo chronicle (and today - a video chronicle), etc. Their purpose in society remains unchanged: they are designed to serve to strengthen family ties and relationships that function as mechanisms for transmitting such personal and socially valuable human qualities as love, kindness, compassion, mutual understanding, readiness to help a loved one (A.I. Zakharov, A.B. Orlov, A.S. Spivakovskaya).

In one family, for example, the tradition of celebrating a child's birthday is realized in a children's holiday with congratulations, wishes, gifts, fun games, singing, dancing, a joyful memory of which will remain for many years not only for the hero of the occasion, but for all those present. And in another family, a child’s birthday is an occasion for another adult feast with copious libations, drunken showdowns, behind which the child, his holiday, his need for joy are completely forgotten. From such a “celebration”, the child will retain bitterness and resentment towards the closest people for a long time. In the first example, tradition is the basis of present and future joys, it encourages goodness, stimulates elements of creativity, in the second, it is the cause of many of today's and tomorrow's troubles and upheavals of the child, a clear evidence of the abyss between them and their parents, through the prism of which the whole world around them seems hostile and cruel.

Despite the hustle and bustle of modern life, in many families the tradition of family meals has been preserved, which make up for the lack of constant live contacts between family members, confirm its integrity and the interest of all family members in it. There is an exchange of current news, family matters that concern all or any of the family members are discussed. The tradition of family meals, while retaining its value, is a kind of symbol of nepotism.

Organization of a discussion of the importance of the cultural values of the family for the development of a teenager, a future family man.

Parents are offered questions for discussion in groups, followed by a presentation and discussion. A certain time is given.

How were you raised by your parents?

What values were prioritized in your upbringing?

What values and traditions have you carried over into your family?

Have you ever had disagreements with your parents about values and norms of behavior? How did you deal with these disagreements?

How do you deal with this problem with your own children?

Experience exchange.

Analysis of student questionnaires

The most precious thing in the family for our children is …..

Have an idea about the family traditions of … students.

They do not imagine that there are traditions in the family of ... students.

The most expensive of all family traditions are the following ...

It is reported as a percentage - a successful relationship, satisfactory, no contact.

In preparation for the meeting, a questionnaire was conducted among students and for parents using similar questions. Now we have the opportunity to compare the positions and views of the two sides. The school psychologist first invites parents to recall the questions of the questionnaire and make a prediction about which answers their children preferred. Then the psychologist reports what the true state of affairs is, i.e. conducts qualitative and quantitative data analysis. The results of a survey of parents are also analyzed.

Performances are stories of pre-prepared parents about their family traditions and customs.

Speech by the school psychologist about the influence of the characteristics of family relations on the level of moral development of the child, about four types of families.

More than once or twice teachers, psychologists, sociologists have set themselves the task of comparing the nature, characteristics of family relations with the level of moral development, and invariably it turned out that there is a clear connection between the one and the other. It is even possible to single out different groups of families and, accordingly, different types of adolescent behavior.

harmony of relations in the family;

features of parenting efforts.

The conducted researches have allowed to allocate several groups of families.

In the families of the first group, the relationship between parents and children is built on mutual respect, care for each other, goodwill. The contradictions that arise are not protracted and are resolved without conflicts. Such families maintain close ties with the school, parents and teachers work together. Adolescents brought up in such families have some common features: sociability, collectivism, a friendly attitude towards the people around them, and respect for elders.

The second group of families There is also consistency in family relations, but, unlike the first group, the attitude towards the upbringing of adolescents is more passive. The relationship between parents and children can rather be called coexistence. In such families, the authority of parents is low. In adolescents from families of this group, along with certain positive qualities, negative ones can also be noted: laziness, stubbornness, hypocrisy.

The third group of families Their most characteristic feature is conflicts. In pedagogical terms, such parents are untenable, and children brought up in such families are often classified as "difficult".

The fourth group of families These are families in which no one is interested in the inner world of the child. Their main rule: "to study well and behave decently." Relationships between parents and children are devoid of intimacy, mutual understanding. And the result of such upbringing is the child's complete rejection of the moral norms of his family.

Thus, parents should always remember that the moral character of the child - his views, his attitude towards people - to a large extent depend on how the teenager sees his parents at home, in the family. A child is a mirror in which his parents can see themselves.

Summarizing

Closing remarks by the class teacher

Thanks to all the participants in our discussion. Dear dads and moms! Today we discussed the important laws of family life. Let's talk about it at home, in the family circle together with our children. Draw serious conclusions about relationship problems in the family and how they affect the formation of your child. And our reminders will help you with this.

Reminder for parents

"Creating a Favorable Family Atmosphere"

Remember: how the parents wake up the child depends on his psychological mood for the whole day.

Time for a night's rest is required for each individual. There is only one indicator - so that the child gets enough sleep and wakes up easily when his parents wake him up.

If parents have the opportunity to walk to school with their child, do not miss it. A joint road is a joint communication, unobtrusive advice.

Learn to meet children after school. You should not be the first to ask the question: “What marks did you get today?” It is better to ask neutral questions: “What was interesting at school?”, “What did you do today?”, “How are you at school?”

Rejoice in your child's success. Do not get annoyed at the moment of his temporary failures. Patiently, with interest, listen to the child's stories about the events in his life.

The child must feel that he is loved. It is necessary to exclude shouts, rude intonations from communication, create an atmosphere of joy, love and respect in the family.

Valentina Bogatyr
"Family traditions". Questionnaire for parents

Questionnaire for parents"Family traditions"

Dear parents!

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traditions?

Yes, definitely;

2. What kind?

Birthdays of family members;

Days of remembrance of the dead;

Family creation day;

professional holidays;

Making photo albums;

Sunday family dinners(dinners);

Holding family councils;

Fishing;

Pets;

Chess;

Computer games;

Needlework;

Collecting;

Fishing;

Pets;

Chess;

Computer games;

Needlework;

Collecting;

Granny;

great-grandmother;

Granddad;

Other relatives.

Joint reading;

Walk outdoors;

Needlework training;

Educational games;

Sports activities;

Thank you for your cooperation!

Questionnaire for parents"Family traditions"

Dear parents!

Every family has certain traditions. Good or bad, consciously and purposefully created or formed by themselves. It is known that family traditions are very important for the upbringing and development of the child. In order to determine the amount of attention family traditions in your family, please answer the following questions.

1. What do you think, should the family have their own traditions?

Yes, definitely;

Perhaps if they formed themselves;

No, these are relics of the past.

2. What family traditions you observe?

Birthdays of family members;

Days of remembrance of the dead;

Collective visits to cinemas, theaters, museums, etc.;

Religious ceremonies (visiting a temple, religious holidays, etc.;

Family creation day;

professional holidays;

Making photo albums;

Sunday family dinners(dinners);

Holding family councils;

3. What hobbies do your family members have?

Fishing;

Pets;

Chess;

Computer games;

Needlework;

Collecting;

4. What hobbies do you involve your child in?

Fishing;

Pets;

Chess;

Computer games;

Needlework;

Collecting;

5. What work unites your family?

Working in the garden, repairing an apartment, caring for pets;

Individual labor activity;

There is no common labor, different duties are distributed among all family members;

6. Are there non-working adults in your family involved in raising a child?

Granny;

great-grandmother;

Granddad;

Other relatives.

7. Do you organize special activities for the child?

Joint reading;

Walk outdoors;

Needlework training;

Educational games;

Sports activities;

Our child is independent, he finds his own business;

We do not specifically deal with children, we involve them in what we do ourselves;

8. Your proposals to the teaching staff of the preschool educational institution.

Thank you for your cooperation!

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To activate the attention of teachers to the topic of the master class, to create a friendly attitude.

Conduct form: round table.

Seminar participants: teachers, class leaders.

Equipment: presentation; tables for holding meetings, handout for work music; reminders for parents; drawings on topic: « Family traditions» ; sheets of paper; board.

Hall decoration: on the walls are posters of sayings of great people, proverbs.

Event progress.

Today I want to give you a master class on working with parents, show how I spent parent meeting on:

“Family traditions are important to us”

Teacher: I invite you help me with this event.

(Everybody seated at a round table to the music).

Teacher: To attract parents at parent meeting, I am doing preliminary work - these are colorful invitations for meeting to conduct a survey parents on the topic« Family traditions» preparing a presentation for parents on this topic.

Today we gathered to talk about how in our difficult time to save family, family traditions, emphasize their importance in cultivating respect for the family and the older generation in children of older preschool age. About moral health families, its spiritual values and, consequently, its potential educational opportunities can be judged by the established in it traditions. Tradition translated from Latin means "broadcast". Tradition is that what has been passed down from one generation to the next, what has been inherited from previous generations (views, tastes, ideas, customs). (Dictionary of the Russian language by S. I. Ozhegov). If you speak the word "childhood" and close your eyes, then along with your loved ones, native walls, something special arises in your mind, inherent only to your family. it "something" and eat family tradition. And it is remembered only because it was repeated many times, firmly settled in children's memory and is inextricably linked with a certain reaction to any event.

Teacher: Each of you has your own definitions families which have developed from your personal experience, observations. How do you understand the word family? (Answers)

Teacher: (summary answer) Family is the most important thing that each of us has. Family is the place where we will always look forward to returning. Where family and friends are always waiting for us and love. It's not in vain they say: "My family is my support, my family is my castle". O family and its meaning is well said in a poem by Tatyana Bulkovskaya "What can befamilies are more expensive ?»

What could be families are more expensive?

Warmly welcomes the father's house,

Here they are always waiting for you with love

And escorted on the road with good!

Father and mother and children together

Sitting at the festive table

And together they are not bored at all,

And five of them are interesting.

The kid is like a pet for the elders.

Parents are wiser in everything,

Beloved dad - friend, breadwinner,

And mom is the closest, relatives.

Love! And value happiness!

It is born in family,

What could be more precious

In this fabulous land!

Teacher Q: Now let's think about the concept « family traditions » . How do you understand the word traditions? (answers).

Teacher:

family traditions is a huge workshop in which weave Everybody: inspiration, game, joy, skill, precision, art.

It is known that each families have their own"alive soul", in which there is a flowering garden and springs "living water". Kind traditions like these springs strengthen - give life family. In each family have their own way of involving children in common family traditions.

I will show you and tell you about the most common family traditions that need to be introduced parents(slide show).

1. family meals(lunches, dinners):

wonderful tradition to gather all together at the same table for communication, to tell each other about the events of the day.

Family meals - this is a gala dinner every Sunday, when all family in the collection, and a festive service was removed from the sideboard - then, after many years, the elderly parents will not sit at the Sunday table alone.

It can also be dinners, together with relatives, to which they come with their treats. This is a great way for members families(brothers, sisters, grandparents, etc.) brag about your culinary skills.

If you decide to host these dinners every month, make them themed. Bring printed recipes for everyone at the dinner party so they can prepare your meals at home.

It is very good if in your families have preserved the traditions of family meals, which replenish insufficiency of constant live contacts between members families, support its integrity and the interest of all households. Current news is exchanged, discussed family matters affecting all or any of the members families. Family meal tradition, retaining its value, is a kind of symbol family.

2. Joint leisure.

A good continuation of the lunch will be joint leisure, for example, you can play some kind of board game or go to nature and spend time outdoors actively.

This is a Sunday trip to the grandmother or a holiday in honor of the first snowfall. Meet the summer - the first summer days of the whole family in nature. It can be a full-fledged barbecue feast, or just an outing with ready-made sandwiches and vegetable salads.

Very common holiday tradition(annual holiday with children) or home travel edge: visiting various cities and historical places, from which you will definitely bring various knick-knacks and souvenirs that keep warm memories of your family vacation.

Very good if family has a tradition collect some collections at home, if not, then it's not too late to start doing it. What can be collected in family? These are shells, pebbles, driftwood, etc. It is good to collect stamps, postcards, candy wrappers. tradition trips can also become, where children have a lot of new things to do, not at home classes: firewood, tent, backpack, fishing rods, new duties and new experiences.

Don't forget about this family tradition as a joint work parents and children at home, in the garden. Saturday cleaning, when the roles are distributed, to whom to vacuum the carpets, to whom to wipe the dust, to whom to lay out toys, to whom to wash the floors. And after that, the smell of cleanliness throughout the house. I think you will agree with me that every member families should have his daily duties around the house. Constancy, orderliness for the child ensures the safety of the world, realize an important need for him. Household duties, from an early age include the child in life families, give the right to share responsibility on an equal footing with all households, allow you to take care.

Even watching TV can become a kind of ritual, when in the evening after a hard day all family comes together to include an interesting film, and after it ends, a discussion necessarily follows.

(Sheets are posted on the board. Groups present their work).

3. Next family tradition what I want to talk about is family holidays. This is a celebration of significant events in life. families: birthdays, anniversaries; public, state holidays: New Year, Christmas, February 23, Maslenitsa, Easter, Victory Day. These public holidays in each family have become a tradition. But you in this tradition you can bring something of your own that your children will remember for a lifetime. In each family absolutely their own special . But each of them is shrouded in the mystery of love, warmth and tenderness. family hearth.

One of the main family holidays - this is the birthday of children - this is one of the first significant events in the life of a child. The holiday should emphasize the importance of each member families, bring joy, mood. Special preparation, gifts, treats distinguish him from a series of others. What can be done to make it memorable for your child? (hand out handouts)

New Year is the most favorite holiday - the holiday of hopes. Everyone meets him family. You can decorate the Christmas tree with the children, you can decorate when the children are sleeping to surprise them, or you can, if possible, decorate the forest beauty on the street with handmade toys, treats for birds. It can become a tradition that everyone does together. Traditions should come from adults, be primarily supported by them and not be planned as entertainment for children.

February 23, March 8 - usually on this day it is customary to give gifts. Giving gifts is a solemn moment and it needs to be extended, made memorable.

On Maslenitsa, find an opportunity to ride children on a sled, burn unnecessary things with them so that everything old is gone, it would be nice to teach children how to bake pancakes.

Easter, don't forget this wonderful tradition- decorate Easter eggs and bake Easter cakes. Actively involve the children in the process of turning an ordinary egg into a colorful decoration. Create your own recipe for a large cake or make small personalized cakes for all members families.

Victory Day - on this day it would be nice to introduce tradition to come with children to the monument to those who died in the Second World War and lay flowers, you can read stories to children about how our soldiers fought, look at photographs, awards with your child, talk about relatives who fought, remember them, if they are alive - be sure to congratulate. We have preserved in the village tradition, on this day, cook soldier's porridge, always at the stake. And this mess to commemorate all those who died in the Second World War.

For the full development of a child, a holiday is necessary like air. A holiday is an event. And when we sing, draw, read poetry, dance, put on makeup, listen to music - isn't it educate we are their children aesthetically?

For you, Dear guests, we also prepared blanks for you to draw and present your family and talk about the tradition of your family (perform the task ) .

4. « Family tradition » -this is family pedigree. Today many families trying to figure out their pedigree history, learn more about ancestors Who were they, what did they do. There are many people around each of us, relatives with whom we are connected, and each of us is the successor of a kind. And the roots of each kind, like the roots of a tree, go back to antiquity. And that kind is strong, who remembers and protects his ancestors. It will be very good if parents in the family they will begin to collect the history of their kind, to draw up a genealogy. It will be a kind of bridge between generations. Family archives are not the past, they are always tomorrow. Family should have its own archive - certificates of honor of grandfathers and fathers, the history of their merits, their work, the history of family and surname, a biography, simply and intelligibly retold for grandchildren.

Family the album is a huge, meaningful space of life, on the one hand, simple and understandable to a child, on the other, mysterious and amazing. For example, wedding photography parents. For a child, a wedding photo on the wall is a whole fairy tale. You can tell him the background of the birth, when dad met mom. Such stories will tell the baby about his inviolability families, that mom and dad have always been and always will be. What can compare with the quivering feeling that everyone experiences when leafing through the pages of an album, touching the history of their families, dear people. Each photo keeps the touch of the hands of our relatives, loved ones, fills us with energy.

Relics families. Many houses have antiques. The person is no more, but we keep and protect his things, and they live. This is also our traditions. These relics are dear to us, as a memory of our relatives. The history of a thing is the history of man, the history of families, the history of the people. This is wonderful tradition of many families. Relics of my families- these are embroidered towels, pillowcases, a samovar.

5. Bedtime story, family readings when they read not only parents families, relax, chat and leave in the memory of the child an unforgettable experience about these evenings. Even if the child is still very small and does not understand what you are saying to him, your voice alone will be of incredible benefit to the baby. Should be carefully relate while to the choice of fairy tales. Books should teach a child bring up and develop certain qualities in it. You can try to compose instructive tales yourself, focusing on that educational element which you consider necessary. And if all these tales are written in a separate notebook and on the anniversary (18 years)- give a child, it will be real family gift, which your child will save and pass on to their children by adding something of their own.

Teacher: You can give many examples of different family traditions. What they have in common is the trepidation with which they are remembered, the desire to transfer them to their family. If in your parents' family, No traditions Let them come up with them. This will make their life and the childhood of their children much richer. Formation traditions must start at the very beginning families when the children have not yet appeared or are still small. Very difficult to work out family tradition when the children have become adults and have already formed relation to family. Traditions should be simple, but not as far-fetched. In building family traditions have no rules. And no one can tell which one tradition is good, and which not so much. While creating family traditions you need to take the initiative, think creatively and act. Create your family traditions and they will strengthen your family.

Summing up the results of the master class.

In conclusion, I would like to highlight one more tradition- we have in the Bersenev boarding school tradition end any event with a good bright song. (song playing). Thank you all for your attention.

Reminder for parents.

« Family traditions »

Family traditions are mother, telling the children a bedtime story every evening, this is dad, who turns into Santa Claus secretly on the stairs, and a million little things that are only in your family and who stay sweet with you childhood memories.

1. family meals(lunches, dinners, the smell of pies on Sundays)– wonderful tradition get together at the same table for communication.

2. Joint leisure (games, outdoor recreation, vacation trips, travel, Sunday trips, watching TV, working together).

3. Family holidays birthdays, nationwide holidays: New Year, Christmas, February 23, Easter, March 8, Maslenitsa, Victory Day, etc.) family completely special family holiday traditions.

4. Family album, family pedigree. That kind is strong, who remembers and protects his ancestors. It will be very good if you family you will begin to collect the history of your kind, to draw up a family tree. It will be a kind of bridge between generations

5. Bedtime story, family readings when they read not only parents, but also older children, grandparents - this is a great opportunity to spend an evening in a circle for the benefit of business families, relax, chat and leave in the memory of the child an unforgettable experience about these evenings.

7. Casual traditions(ritual of meeting and seeing off, caring attitude towards each other, the ability to reckon with the desire of everyone).

Tradition should be enjoyable and enjoyable for all members families.

Tradition should be done regularly, not on a case-by-case basis.

Tradition should be natural, no need for far-fetched and pretentious rituals, simple, but tasteful, as they say.

Form tradition with love, for the good, not to establish cruel educational framework.

Reminder for parents

What can you do to make your child remember the holiday?

1. You can prepare invitations with your child (make an application, draw, you can prepare invitations in poetic form (compose your own poems).

2. Consider how to decorate the room (this will create a festive mood).

3. Think over the scenario of the day birth:

a) it can be a puppet show (decorations and puppets, cook with the child, during intermissions the children go to "buffet"- sit down at the table;

b) games, hide and seek, round dances;

c) cutting toys with closed eyes;

d) win-win lottery;

e) game "Look for a gift"- by notes.

4. You can draw and hang a holiday newspaper with your child. In the center of which is the birthday man, and around to portray the intended guests in a humorous way and leave room for wishes.

5. The holiday will be decorated with surprises, and fairy-tale characters, costumes that adults can dress up in (put in memo).

6. Here is another idea for family traditions- funny caps for birthday. Such a hat is made or bought once on the first birthday of the child and then "worn" all life. They are stored in a chest of drawers from holiday to holiday and are "official" outfits for all birthdays.

Questionnaire for parents "Studying the effectiveness of family traditions of raising children"

Instruction. Read the questions carefully, most of them have possible answers. Choose one or more of the answers that match your opinion and circle the letter in front of it. If the question has no answer options, then write down your opinion after it.

1. What is your current main occupation?

1. work at a private, privatized enterprise

2. work at a state or municipal enterprise

3. work in a budgetary organization / military unit / state and city government bodies

4. work in a public, non-profit organization (foundation, party, trade union)

5. pensioner (ka)

6. housewife

7. temporarily not working (th, unemployed (th)

8. other (what exactly) ___

1. What is your job position?

1. head, deputy head of an enterprise, institution

2. head of division, department, specialist