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Modern children: what are they?

If you think about tomorrow - this grain, if 10 years ahead - plant a forest, if 100 years ahead - raise children. (Folk wisdom)

Parents and teachers are experiencing significant difficulties in the upbringing and education of modern children: the diagnostic methods that they used successfully before do not reflect the current level of development of the child today. If earlier a 5-year-old child assembled a picture from 5-6 parts, and this was regarded as normal development, today children at 2-2.5 years old easily assemble puzzles from 12 parts. Should this be regarded as giftedness or as normal development?

Grandparents often turn to teachers for help, who “do not understand: how to raise their grandchildren”, since the methods that they used to raise their children “do not work anymore”.

According to the teachers, the children “have changed a lot in recent years”: “they have a low concentration of attention”, “they cannot concentrate for a long time”, “they do not hear the teacher’s instructions or pretend not to hear”, “very mobile”, “it is difficult for them to organize”, “think differently”, etc. The problem of hyperactivity and the causes of its occurrence is especially sharply discussed.

Parents and teachers note that today's children "show increased physical activity and hyperactivity", as a result of which "they have reduced attention", "children do not want to follow the instructions of adults" and "protest, up to aggression, if they are forced to do something ".

Most parents blame the educational system for all the difficulties that arise, but those who are involved in the educational field blame their parents. Psychologists believe that neither one nor the other can be blamed, since the entire modern world, our entire high-tech accelerated civilization, is to blame for what happened.

We note only some features of the modern world, which, of course, have an impact on the upbringing and development of our children:

• changes in the ecological environment.
• changes in the information and technological space (information and computer technologies). Nowadays, the filter that previously separated children from the outside world, and really allowed them to be a little bit of a child, is becoming thinner thanks to television and the Internet.
• socio-cultural and economic conditions and their impact on the modern family and educational space. Interestingly, the higher the cultural level of the family, the greater the stress received by children, since the children themselves perceive the stress received by their parents every day.

The modern world is constantly changing. The rate at which our lives are undergoing transformation is much faster than it was twenty or thirty years ago. Our children grow and develop in the post-industrial information society. From birth, they are faced with modern high-tech achievements. All technical innovations become the life of the younger generation. How does technological progress affect the psyche of a child? What is the modern child? Today, scientists are seriously puzzled by this question.

Since the time of the classics, reflections on the conflict between fathers and children have been known. Discussions on this topic continue, and, in all likelihood, will never stop. Toddlers were ignored in these disputes, as it was generally accepted that they were innocent angelic creatures that needed to be groomed and cherished. But relatively recently, adults began to notice that these kids are not at all the same as they were before.

Previously, for all children of preschool age, Ilya Muromets, Ivan Tsarevich were good heroes, villains - Koschey the Immortal and Baba Yaga. For many modern children, the good ones are Spider-Man, Batman, Captain America, and the villains are Galactus, Outlander and other monsters, and for many adults, all modern heroes, both good and evil, are just some kind of monstrous freak monsters. And this, of course, is not all the differences between the children of past years and modern preschoolers. Such children are incomprehensible to many adults and cause anxiety. Scientists are trying to help adults (and not only scientists, sometimes just people who think that they understand the issues of education), write various programs and works on the upbringing and development of modern children. But the behavior of adults who seek innovations in education does not always bring joy to children. Looking around, we less and less notice the joyful angelic looks of the younger generation. Maybe they need help?

Many modern children are able to do what their peers could not do 10-20 years ago. But not because the mental development has become different or the children themselves have changed: but because the requirements of adults to what the ideal child should be have been transformed. If earlier a sympathetic, kind and honest little man was considered such, now an intelligent and independent Person is considered such. Therefore, in modern children, the development of social emotions begins to lag behind - empathy and sympathy, aesthetic experiences and feelings, but intellectual emotions are very developed - surprise, joy from knowing the world and self-knowledge, etc. Self-conceit is growing .

This is emotionally, but in the will - what? Weakness, and brought up by their own parents. Basically, they show their will where something needs to be achieved from adults, but not where it is required to submit their behavioral motives to the public “should” or “should not”. In addition, despite the sense of self-reliance and independence brought up in them (by the way, it often concerns only the expression of their desires and opinions, and not practical orientation in the world around them and the corresponding competence), they often have an inferiority complex (paradoxically: and this high level of conceit) and are afraid ... that they are not loved.

The most frequent problem in recent times is disharmonious development. This is a lag in the development of the emotional-volitional sphere (children are infantile, dependent, motivation is reduced) against the background of intelligence developed by age.

The inability of children to play attracts attention. Modern children would like to learn how to play themselves, but they cannot: today, the children's subculture has actually been destroyed, which would pass on gaming experience to younger and older preschoolers from one generation to another. There are practically no mixed-age groups in kindergarten. In the yard, they do not add up (and parents are afraid of this like fire, preferring to take the child with all kinds of sections and circles). In a family, most often there is one child with whom adults have no time to play, or they prefer to engage in more important activities for his development - reading, writing and counting (you can still draw and make crafts together, but this is already the "ceiling" of the creative activity of parents). Meanwhile, play activity is the leading activity of a preschool child, which determines the specifics of the social situation of the child’s development: mastering the social position “I and society”.

Experts note that in many modern children, emotions are manifested in a negative aspect - babies show aggression towards the world around them. There have indeed been more requests for psychological help with such children in recent years. Modern children are more prone to stress. This is influenced by frequent birth injuries, and life in a big city, and troubles in the family where the child lives.

A child does not come into the world as a blank book. The child is already a given character. How many children - so many characters. We do not send children into the world. We can only spoil or save them. The main thing, according to psychologists, is not to strive to return what cannot be returned, but simply to convince children that they can do a lot, and as a result, self-confidence should return to them, which will undoubtedly help to live.

Educators and parents can't help but notice that our children are very different in many ways from the children who grew up before the digital revolution hit us all. They have many wonderful qualities: they are more daring, open, responsible, energetic, unique. But at the same time, today's children are not easy to grow up. Parents do not have the experience of generations of how to raise children in high technology and quick access to any information. They make mistakes and get lost in the flow of conflicting information.

On the one hand, parents understand that the digital world dictates its own rules, and children cannot be hidden from it. On the other hand, there is a need to show the world to children not only through the screens of their gadgets. Mother of four, teacher and play therapist Becky Mansfield shared her thoughts on the problems of today's children. And she gave advice to parents on how to avoid many problems in the upbringing and development of a child who is not always influenced by positive trends in our lives.

Why our children are less patient, more lonely and honest than generations ago

Study after study confirms what is already obvious to everyone: today's children are less patient, more lonely and more spoiled than previous generations.

This is a terrible truth facing our children. This is an incline path.

As a teacher and therapist, I have worked with various children and parents for many years. I see with my own eyes how the social and emotional skills of children are constantly deteriorating, not to mention their academic performance. Today's children are not prepared for life. They expect more but deliver less.

They go to school but find it difficult to study and concentrate. They want to do more, but they can't focus.

Loneliness, impatience, high expectations… Where does it all come from?

The reason is simple: the way we live today affects our children. All these latest technologies, modern trends and latest inventions. Although we all want the best for our children, unfortunately we ourselves lead them down the path of least preparedness for life.

Screen time problem

Children spend too much time in front of screens. This robs them of time for games and reading.

As a result, their attentiveness decreases, the habit of instant gratification develops, etc.

Children lose the ability to focus and listen carefully because they get used to the fact that everything should be fast and certainly interesting. From virtual reality, it is very difficult for a child to return to the real one.

Children immerse themselves in smartphones, tablets and laptops headlong, and then get annoyed when they are distracted. In the ordinary world, they are "bored" - they are used to constant stimulation.

boredom problem

We are always busy, therefore, so that the child does not get bored, we habitually put him a phone, tablet or player. But the problem is that we are hurting him!

Why? Because we deprive him of the opportunity to entertain himself, to find a solution, to use creative thinking.

In turn, we also spend little meaningful time with our children (joint sticking into the tablet screen does not count). We don't communicate with them.

Kids depend on gadgets because we don't know how to entertain them, and they haven't learned how to entertain themselves.

The problem of self-decisions

In giving their children whatever they want, parents are guided by the best of intentions. We all want the child to be happy, feel loved and smile.

Unfortunately, this is how we educate people who are unable to experience happiness.

I often hear from parents: “She doesn’t eat vegetables, so I don’t offer them to her”; “If he goes to bed at the time when I speak, he will wake up too early”; "She doesn't like to hold my hand in the parking lot."

The problem is, kids are kids. They are not yet mature, mature and smart enough to make such decisions on their own.

Children need vegetables for health. Healthy sleep is necessary for them to get enough sleep and concentrate on the lessons. If you do not hold the child by the hand, he may be hit by a car.

The Problem of Salvation

Give children the opportunity to express themselves. Don't rush to "rescue" them in every situation.

Has your child lost their cell phone? Teach him that he can save pocket money until he saves up for a new one.

Forgot to do your homework? The path itself will try to explain itself to the teacher.

It is not simple. No parent wants to see a child suffer, get upset, or get angry. But by solving all the problems for him, we do not let him learn this on his own.

Of course, children need help. But let them also learn to deal with the consequences of mistakes. It’s better to feel the consequences of small mistakes now (didn’t do homework - got a bad grade) than in adulthood (didn’t pay the mortgage - was left without a home).

The problem of lack of live communication

Research has shown that time spent on social media can make children feel jealous and falsely believe that everyone else has a more interesting and successful life.

Today's children and teenagers communicate too little live. They do not go for walks and visit each other. They don't play games together.

As a result, they do not learn to recognize emotions and provide support.

But these are the most important social skills, on which success in life largely depends! Social skills plus intelligence are the key to any high-paying job.

And according to some reports, the ability to communicate is even more important in building a career than intelligence!

Reward problem

Another important problem of our time: children are waiting for a reward for everything.

Of course, there is nothing wrong with rewarding a child, but NOT FOR EVERYTHING. This not only makes him spoiled, but also teaches him to wait for external rewards instead of an internal sense of satisfaction.

“What will happen to me if I study perfectly?”

“What will you buy me if I keep quiet in the meeting?”

“And what will they give me for doing the cleaning?”

The problem is that although it may be easier for us to reward the child so that he does not complain, his future boss or spouse will not play these games. No one will give him a bonus for doing the job on time. No one will give him a discount for paying the rent on time.

Yes, these are hard lessons, but it's better to let the children learn from you that life is NOT ALWAYS interesting and enjoyable.

So what to do about it? Don't despair, there is a solution!

Children can be retrained. We teach children how to go to the toilet, brush their teeth in the morning, or sit patiently in church services. These are not innate skills, but acquired.

Similarly, you can change their other habits if you do it consistently and consistently.

10 minutes a day

Allocate 10 minutes a day for communication with the child together. No gadgets, no TV!

Let the child choose what to do. Play games, talk - all this will benefit both of you.

let them get bored

Don't give your kids gadgets when they're bored. Let them miss you!

This will force their brain to start working and come up with their own entertainment. And this, in turn, will disaccustom them to expect instant gratification.

Boredom is the best way to know yourself.

Replace external rewards with internal ones

When I cleaned my room as a child, I did it at speed: I entertained myself. While doing my homework, I pretended that I was a teacher: I entertained myself.

Teach this to the kids. Let them figure out how to turn a boring activity into an interesting one, and let their reward be the knowledge that they did a great job.

speak

Talk at lunch, talk in the car, drop everything when the child comes home from school, and talk with him for a couple of minutes (find out what is happening in his life - academic, social, emotional). Eliminate the TV, phone and tablet from the family dinner.

Assign responsibilities

Responsibilities increase a child's self-esteem. They teach him to work, they teach him to watch and take care of things.

Give the child tasks so that he can feel the benefit.

Set boundaries

Set a specific bedtime.

Set clear rules about snacking (no snacking before lunch, no more than one junk food a day, etc.).

Set a mandatory reading time.

Set electronic boundaries

We have a simple rule at home: no electronics during the school week, except for family TV. The laptop may only be used for educational purposes.

Set similar rules. Do not allow uncontrolled sticking to the phone.

Encourage open communication

Let your child know that you are always ready to listen to him and help him. Remind him often: “If you are sad, if you can’t cope with something, then you can always tell me about it.”

Put away YOUR phone

Make it a rule to limit your screen time around your kids. Set a time after which you put away all gadgets.

Children need to feel connected to their parents. Once I heard a 6-year-old girl say: “Mom's phone is more important than me. She looks at him all the time, even when she talks to me.”

Kids notice everything!

Set an example

If you want your child to change, you must first change yourself. Show your child what your priorities are.

Behave the way you want your child to behave, and soon he will follow your example. Let him see you reading a book, washing dishes, cooking, talking to a person without being distracted by the phone. Demonstrate kindness, consistency, diligence.

Being a parent is the hardest job in life. We have only 18 years to instill in a child qualities that will last a lifetime.

Advice for parents

"Modern child - what is he?"
If you think about tomorrow - this grain, if 10 years ahead - plant a forest, if 100 years ahead - raise children. (Folk wisdom) There is no doubt that today's children are very different from the children of 20 and 50 years ago. The main reason for this is, of course, that today's children grow up in a completely different, tens and hundreds of times more saturated information field. They, like a sponge, absorb the information that the modern world provides in abundance. Today, the process of changing educational standards is actively underway, the ways and means of teaching children are changing. There is only one principle - modern education for modern children. And modern children - what are they? More and more often you can hear that they are somehow different. Let's see what's wrong with them, shall we? According to teachers
, children "have changed a lot in recent years": "they

low concentration of attention", "cannot concentrate for a long time", "not

hear the instructions of the teacher or pretend not to hear”, “very

mobile”, “it is difficult to organize them”, “think differently”, etc.

The problem of hyperactivity and its causes is especially sharply discussed.

occurrence
. Parents and teachers note that modern children
"show

increased motor activity and hyperactivity, due to

which “they have reduced attention”, “children do not want to follow instructions

adults” and “express protest, up to aggression, if they are forced

do something."
Today's children have much greater opportunities than we had. The general level of well-being has grown, families have become more prosperous, and children are more spoiled in material terms. Now no one is surprised by the fact that a child with his parents several times a year goes on vacation abroad or goes to study at a prestigious foreign university. Children can see the Egyptian pyramids or the Eiffel Tower live.
Progress does not stand still, the electronics industry is developing at a rapid pace. Now they no longer ask for chess or checkers as a birthday present, everyone wants a new cell phone or laptop. Our children master new household appliances faster than we do, they can use a computer and a TV remote control “from the cradle”. This proves that they are more developed intellectually, as they have more memory than previous generations. Teachers of preschool institutions "created" a portrait of a modern preschooler based on their own observations: developed, inquisitive, intelligent, erudite, liberated, aggressive, whiny, pedagogically neglected, impulsive, brought up by the TV. Nowadays, modern children are very well informed. They talk about “adult” topics, watch series, understand the intricacies of storylines, remember everything that happens to the characters well and can tell the series in detail to grandmothers and mothers. Preschoolers often make such unexpected conclusions and conclusions in non-childish situations that adults seriously begin to think about the premature maturation of modern children. But at the same time, modern children can be dependent on the simplest things: tie shoelaces, find clothes, make the bed. A serious problem in preschool children lies in their hyperactivity and speech quality. They speak a lot, loudly, but they pronounce the sounds poorly, they do not try to translate the quantity of these sounds into quality. Almost every 5-year-old child now needs the help of a speech therapist in developing correct and competent speech. Not only articulation suffers, but also the vocabulary, which in modern children is much poorer than their peers from the 20th century. Such an influence on them is exerted by the constant neighborhood of TV and computer games instead of books. In society today, close friendly ties between children have been violated, they have almost nowhere to communicate and play without the supervision of their parents or
educators. Previously, this function was performed by children's courtyard groups and clubs. Today it is too dangerous to let a child go for a walk alone, so the role of children's play has come to naught. The child still has educational games in kindergarten, but free creativity is becoming more and more irrelevant, therefore the child's fantasy is not so bright. Children also do not have heroes who could teach them the moral foundations by their example. Modern heroes are bright, cheerful, but for the most part empty, the child simply has no one to adopt the best patterns of behavior from. early
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for all children, good heroes were Ilya Muromets, Ivan Tsarevich, villains - Koschei the Immortal and Baba Yaga. For many modern children, the good ones are Spider-Man, Batman, Captain America, and the villains are Galactus, Outlander and other monsters, and for many adults, all modern heroes, both good and evil, are just some kind of monstrous freak monsters. Modern children are less romantic and more pragmatic. Their world is filled with material values. They rarely make independent decisions; their parents decide everything for them.

These kids are more talented. They have more opportunities to develop their abilities, starting with early development schools. They can find any information at any time. The modern world is a world of individuals, and these children have everything for its development that children of past generations could only dream of. Many modern children are able to do things that their peers could not do even 10-20 years ago. But not because the mental development has become different or the children themselves have changed: but because the requirements of adults to what the ideal child should be have been transformed. If earlier a sympathetic, kind and honest little man was considered such, now an intelligent and independent Person is considered such. Therefore, in modern children, the development of social emotions begins to lag behind, but intellectual emotions are very developed - surprise, joy from knowing the world and self-knowledge, etc. Self-conceit is growing. This is emotionally, but in a strong-willed way - what
?
Weakness, and brought up by their own parents. Basically, they show their will where something needs to be achieved from adults, but not where it is required to submit their behavioral motives to the public “should” or “should not”. Attention is drawn to the inability of children to play
.
Modern children would like to learn how to play themselves, but they cannot: today the nursery is actually destroyed.
a subculture that would pass on gaming experience to younger and older preschoolers from one generation to the next. In a family, most often there is one child with whom adults have no time to play, or they prefer to engage in more important activities for his development - reading, writing and counting (you can still draw and make crafts together, but this is already the "ceiling" of the creative activity of parents). The main problem of the modern child is that the cultural environment in which he develops, the exploitation of the huge potential of his memory occurs to the detriment of personal development, vital at this age, based on love, warmth and attention to his personality. That is why the main task of educating preschoolers today is to preserve (or revive) the conditions in which the child plays with peers, cooperates with other children in solving various cognitive tasks, shows cognitive initiative, satisfies his own curiosity, develops his own imagination and creative abilities. A child does not come into the world as a blank book. The child is already a given character. How many children - so many characters. We do not send children into the world. We can only spoil or save them. The main thing, according to psychologists, is not to strive to return what cannot be returned, but simply to convince children that they can do a lot, and as a result, self-confidence should return to them, which will undoubtedly help to live.

When I was a schoolgirl, all the older members of my large family said: "You will be a teacher!" I was angry, answered: “Why me, and not my sister or brothers?”. Grandfather replied: "I just know that you will be a good teacher." In those early years, I chose the profession of a financier for myself, received the appropriate education. But fate has developed in such a way that I am now a teacher. And I'm happy that it is!

Modern children are easier than any adult to master computer technology, while reading fewer books and more difficult to converge with people. But this does not mean that today's children are worse. I understand the responsibility I have taken upon myself by becoming a teacher. After all, I directly influence the formation of the personality of the student. Therefore, I am not just a teacher of history, but first of all an educator.

I have been a class teacher for 5 years now. My kids are in 11th grade. Once upon a time I could not even think - how is it? What is it like to be responsible for the life and health of other people's children? What is it like to be the keeper of children's secrets? How does it feel to care for them like family? I can't just say "children" to them, they are "MY children"! It is a great joy for me, as a class teacher, to see that my guys are friendly with each other, love each other. I am sure that they will carefully carry this friendship through all their lives.

I often communicate with the parents of my students. And I often hear from them that modern children are different. Children are said to look aloof, constantly wearing headphones, playing telephone and computer games. Many adults perceive this as a manifestation of selfishness and indifference towards elders. But you cannot compare a modern child with children of the last century. Today's child is a new person. Its main feature is just what adults often take for selfishness. In fact, the child of the 21st century simply looked inward to find the answer to the question “Who am I in the world today?”. This is the answer the children have been looking for and are always looking for. But modern children find this answer on their own.
or better peers from the past. They are just different.

After the collapse of the Union, the process of global restructuring of social mechanisms began. By the beginning of the 21st century, a new world had formed with new social values ​​and social order. The Soviet man, brought up on the ideals of the past, had difficulty adapting to the new society. One of the important changes concerned the ways of building a career. In the USSR, there was a clear scheme: first a person goes to school, then chooses a specialty, graduates from an institute, and then he is assigned to work. If earlier the state decided for the person, then today you have to make a choice on your own. In conditions of high competition, in order to remain in demand, a person has to either master specialties related to the main one almost every 5 years, or radically change his profession.

Children born in the 21st century do not know examples from the past. For them, the new world is the only possible one. Therefore, from an early age, modern children are ready for competition, for the struggle for survival.

The second change that influenced the change in the child is not so global, but no less important. The courtyard as one of the most important social institutions of the Soviet era has disappeared from the life of modern children. If earlier a child came from school and ran to the street, where he communicated with peers, thus learning to interact with society, then for modern children this experience is less important. Now, sitting at the computer, the child decides with whom to communicate and with whom not. On the one hand, it's not bad. But on the other hand, a child, getting into the real, and not the virtual world, may turn out to be helpless and unable to interact normally with other people.

Changes in the modern world are so significant that the formation of a child's personality is now more intensive from the first months of life. If earlier, by the beginning of schooling, the child was tabula rasa, then the child of the 21st century by this time has a certain set of knowledge and values. Children have lost many strong-willed qualities, their general cultural outlook has decreased. The older generation perfectly memorized excerpts from works, quotes from films, today's children do not have such a need. They know from childhood that it is pointless to store extra information in their heads, because you can always turn to the Internet. It is possible that because of this, today's children have a decrease in memory.

A child of the 21st century, unlike peers from previous generations, does not ask questions about the world. He sees that planes are flying, phones are ringing, and emails are arriving a few seconds after being sent - and this is the norm. Children cannot imagine that people once lived in another world. It is more important for them to learn new things about modern life. My task is to develop children's interest in history. After all, whoever does not know the past will not be able to understand and navigate the present and the future.

However, another issue of modern life is more dangerous. Society and parents are overly determined to succeed. Even from preschool age, the child is set up to achieve results. Children are forced to grow up in an environment where they are constantly compared. Under the influence of society, parents put pressure on their children, demand high results from them, forgetting about other values ​​- self-respect, free time, play, family leisure. If a person constantly raises the bar and does not form a positive self-esteem, he will never be satisfied with the results. Not achieving a result, a person feels guilty. Hence the neurosis, which is difficult to cope even with an adult, formed personality, not to mention children. It is very difficult to be in the conditions of an incessant race. The child is deprived of ordinary joys and constantly thinks about how to make his parents happy, to justify their hopes.

In modern society, single-parent families have become almost the norm. Children born in such families perceive marriage and family relationships differently. Families are less valuable to them. For a child, the family has ceased to be a support, a place where he can be helped to solve his problems. Such a child relies only on himself. Therefore, he is forced to look for ways to adapt in society on his own.

Digital technologies and the Internet help them in this. Here, new ways of personal development are opened for the child. Thanks to the departure of older children to the Internet space, juvenile delinquency has decreased. Most teenage subcultures are quite peaceful. Anime lovers, hipsters and other communities are completely harmless. This means that the “teenager-world” confrontation is gradually disappearing.

On the Internet, modern children can communicate anonymously or openly with the same children, help each other solve similar problems. On teenage forums, they share their experiences and give each other quite adequate advice. There is no aggression in the general mass, children sympathize and empathize. At the same time, the Internet and social networks are fraught with many dangers. Law enforcement agencies are sounding the alarm that communities are gaining popularity on social networks in which a child can be pushed to commit suicide. Parents and teachers need to be very careful at all times.

A modern child is an independent person, able to make decisions independently at an early age.

Modern children are not affected by the tactics of instilling guilt, they almost do not respond to coercion, lectures, punishments, prohibitions and other generally accepted methods of education used by teachers and parents.

What they respond to is respect - respect for them as individuals, respect for their problems, which are no less difficult for them than adult difficulties for their parents. Children respond to respect for their choice and ability. They know how to make good decisions. They just need help. They really want their abilities to be noticed and recognized as something meaningful.

They don't always behave correctly. There are difficult children. But each of them should be given the chance to receive advice from an adult that will encourage the best that is in them. So they can realize that they "can do it all" - and will not lose their dreams about the future.

They expect mutual respect and love from everyone around them. Under no circumstances will they approve of lies, manipulation. Children demand clarification and are almost never satisfied with “because I said so” excuses. In addition, they respond best when they are treated like an adult.

Kids today need to be understood. The best way to get to know children is to interact with them. The main thing to remember is that honesty, trust, frankness and sincerity are brought up by one's own example!

Modern children can "read" adults like an open book, quickly notice and quietly neutralize any covert attempts to manipulate them. If a child notices that there is an ulterior motive in an adult's attempts to get them to do something, they stubbornly resist and at the same time feel that they are doing absolutely right. Therefore, if a teacher encounters resistance from a student, then he needs to analyze his behavior. The results of revising your attitude towards children, cooperation with them, and not attempts to impose your worldview, will exceed all expectations!

Teachers have a huge responsibility to our society... to Humanity. His highest duty is to forge the happiness of every student, of the whole society, to promote the prosperity and development of life on Earth.

I am proud of my profession. I try to be a friend, a support for my children. I consider it my duty to fight for a good attitude towards the child of all adults around him.

The great French writer Victor Hugo said one wonderful phrase: "It is a great happiness to see today what the world will see only tomorrow." Before our teachers' eyes, the future is growing! The future of our Motherland! Great scientists, talented artists, writers, inventors, politicians and businessmen, kind doctors and wise teachers… Take care of children, love children, understand children! This is our Future!

Each new generation is unique, and each individual child is unique. A modern child is an independent person, able to make decisions independently at an early age. Today it is impossible to apply the approaches and methods that were relevant many years ago in raising children.

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Modern children. What are they?

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Comparing the world of social relationships, the world of knowledge, the world of culture and history of children of the 20th century and modern children, we see and understand that children have changed. They didn't get better or worse. They have become different. What are modern children like?

Modern children are easier than any adult to master computer technology, while reading fewer books and more difficult to converge with people.

If earlier a child came from school and ran to the street, where he communicated with peers, thus learning to interact with society, then for modern children this experience is less important. Now, sitting at the computer, the child decides with whom to communicate and with whom not. On the one hand, this is not bad, but on the other hand, the child, getting into the real, and not the virtual world, turns out to be helpless and unable to interact normally with other people. Communication in social networks, on forums is psychologically much easier than personal communication.

Children have lost many strong-willed qualities, their general cultural outlook has decreased. The older generation perfectly memorized excerpts from works, quotes from films, today's children do not have such a need. They know from childhood that it is pointless to store extra information in their heads, because you can always turn to the Internet. It is possible that because of this, today's children have a decrease in memory.

Children look aloof, constantly sitting in headphones, playing telephone and computer games. Many adults perceive this as a manifestation of selfishness and indifference towards elders. In fact, the child of the 21st century simply looked inward to find the answer to the question “Who am I in the world today?”. This is the answer the children have been looking for and are always looking for. But modern children find this answer on their own.

Modern children do not ask about the past, they cannot imagine that once people lived in another world. It is more important for them to learn new things about modern life, to keep up with technological progress. But the task of adults is to develop children's interest in history. After all, whoever does not know the past will not be able to understand and navigate the present and the future.

More dangerous is another issue of modern life. Society and parents are overly determined to succeed. Even from preschool age, the child is obsessed with achieving results. Children are forced to grow up in an environment where they are constantly compared. Under the influence of society, parents put pressure on children, demand high results from them, forgetting about other values ​​- self-respect,

free time, play, family leisure. If a person constantly raises the bar and does not form a positive self-esteem, he will never be satisfied with the results. Not achieving a result, a person feels guilty. Hence the neurosis, which is difficult to cope even with an adult, formed personality, not to mention children. In pursuit of success, people do not ask themselves the question “Are those who are set as an example to me happy?”.

It is very difficult to be in the conditions of an incessant race. The child is deprived of ordinary joys and constantly thinks about how to make his parents happy, i.e. justify their hopes.

In modern society, single-parent families have become almost the norm. Children perceive marriage and family relationships differently. Families are less valuable to them. For a child, the family has ceased to be a support, a place where he can be helped to solve his problems. Increasing alienation from parents, lack of attention or, conversely, overprotection, introduce an imbalance in the relationship between parents and children.

Observance of the rights of the child in the modern world is also becoming a problem, which is also recognized by the children themselves: they are fighting for their rights, legal aid centers for children are being created, etc.

A modern child is an independent person, able to make decisions independently at an early age. Over time, the difference between the children of the past generation and the modern child becomes more and more obvious. Today it is impossible to apply the approaches and methods that were relevant many years ago in raising children.

But parents need to remember:

children need to be understood.

The best way to get to know children is to interact with them!

If adults want children's dreams to come true, they should pay more attention to them, take the time to understand their true intentions. Respect their rights, openly show their love to children, allow them to learn from the natural consequences of actions, and not from a system of punishments and rewards, use even children's mistakes as an opportunity to instill self-confidence in them.

Only by being attentive to the feelings, experiences, to the inner world of children, adults can expect that they will also become attentive and responsive to their problems and the problems of other people.

them. And they do it in such a way that others sometimes do not realize it!

If children notice that there is an ulterior motive in the attempts of adults to make them do something, they stubbornly resist and at the same time feel

that they are doing the right thing. From their point of view, if adults are not doing their part in maintaining relationships, they have every right to challenge them.

Therefore, if parents constantly encounter resistance from children, the first thing adults need to check themselves, their behavior.

Parents help the little person in the development of his body and the cultivation of cultural skills. But if they try to remake the character ... That's when difficulties and problems begin. It is a good idea that we should not educate children, but cooperate with them. The results of such cooperation will exceed all expectations. If parents really have something to say to their children, it should be done easily, without tension and with joy. Then they will learn it faster.

Each new generation is unique, and each individual child is unique. Today's children will be able to create a society of professionals who value personal freedom.