Why is the union of a man a woman called marriage. A good deed will not be called a marriage! so why all the same marriage? Is a good thing called marriage

Words that denote events that are most long-awaited for some appeared in our speech so long ago that we cannot even imagine how they arose, and what meaning was originally laid in them.

But if you break the words into syllables, find out the history of each part of the word, then it becomes clear why a wedding is called a wedding, marriage is a marriage, etc.

We have already written about what words the word was formed from. "bride": unknown, unknown, who knows who, who knows where ... A young man brings a girl into his family that no one knows - unknown. It comes from nowhere.

With a word "groom" is also understandable. He brings a woman, which means - Groom.

And finally, "who knows who" and "bringing wives" perform a ritual, which means that they will be together - get married, become spouses from "who knows who" and "Groom" - play a wedding.

There are several versions of the origin of the word "wedding". According to the first version, "wedding" comes from the name of the ancient Roman goddess Svada. The Roman goddess Marriage was the patroness of fun and festivities. Wedding - fun - vyaselle - wedding.

According to another version, the word "wedding" comes from the verb "reduce", "connect".

If you believe the third version, then "wedding" comes from the word "saint". After all, the Slavs considered marriage a sacred union, that is, holy.

Another version says that the word "wedding" was based on the word "matchmaker". A matchmaker is a witness to a conspiracy between the families of the bride and groom.

A wedding is a ritual that results in a marriage.

Word "marriage", which means the union of two people, has nothing to do with the word "marriage" - a flaw, a flaw. The origin of these words is different.

The word "marriage", as a family union, came from the verb "to take." And the verb "to take" turns the suffix -k into a noun. Take + -k = marriage. Get married. And to take, therefore, means to marry. In Ukrainian, for example, the word "married" will be so - "got married."

And the word "take" from our ancestors meant "kidnap", "steal". But in the old days, this is exactly what they did with brides: for a braid, in a bag and on a horse. This is how brides were taken, that is, they were married.

Once upon a time, the word "marriage" meant both a wedding and a feast. But today we call marriage a matrimonial union - matrimony.

Dahl's dictionary explains that the word "matrimony" comes from the word "match". And the spouse (wife) is conjugated, conjugated by marriage. Also in the dictionary it is explained that the word "matrimony" comes from "conjugation", "couple", "yoke".

Yoke... Not the best word for marriage. However, the esteemed Mr. Dahl put this very word next to the word "marriage."

By the way, another "ancestor" of the word "marriage" is the word "marriage". Spouse - a pair harnessed together.

And this is what happens: they brought together, engaged (wedding) - got married (marriage) - and went in one team (matrimony).

The second version is much less scientific and difficult to verify, but much more interesting than the first.

According to the tribal traditions of the Slavs, Vesta is a girl trained in all the wisdom of marriage, i.e. knowing / knowing, caring mother in the future, good housewife, faithful, wise and loving wife. Only after the girl acquired such knowledge did she have a chance to become a wife. They did not marry brides, and if they did, then such a thing was called marriage. It is no secret that the integrity, atmosphere and happiness in the family is almost entirely dependent on the woman. Vesta cannot have a bad husband because she is wise. Most likely, the ancient Slavs did not even know what divorce was ...

MARRIAGE - among the ancient Slavs, this rite was called the sacred marital union ... Wedding stands for SVA - heaven, BO - gods, DE - deed ... But in general - the Heavenly Act of the Gods ... Marriage was invented by Christians ... The Slavs interpret it in such a way that one of those entering into this union - with marriage - before the wedding he had "contact" with others ...

"Marriage" from ar. "KARB" - "twinning", when individuals of different sexes become relatives (akriba) through a joint fetus. Slavic "marriage" - from "take", i.e. take on a woman of a different kind. And at the same time, they say: "marriage will not be called a good thing .., why .., MARRIAGE" production from the Arabic "KHARAB" - "destroy, spoil" ..., And the German "marriage" means "a broken thing" ... all these troubles with a wedding, a veil, rings, etc. came from Judea, later, after the emergence of Christianity, this custom came to Russia. Before, everything was much simpler with us: whichever girl you catch in the forest, that one is yours. So, in Hebrew, “blessing” is bracha. Here is your marriage. There is another opinion: “to take”, as well as “scold” (initially - a campaign for prey, and one of the catchy “images” of prey in ancient times is girls, potential wives) is more natural to bring them closer to the word under discussion. By the way, the word "branca" once meant "captive". At the same time, I do not exclude that the term “marriage” is also associated with the word “burden”, and if so, then there is an analogy with Hebrew: “נישואים” (“nisuim”, Ar. ”, and the root here is the same as in the word “לשאת” (“laset”) - “carry” (“nose”, “נושא” - “carry, carry, carry”). Accordingly, married - “נשוי”, “nasuy” (zh. R. “נשוא”, “nesuA”), i.e., as it were, “burdened” .., well, since the burden and burdened, it means to bear both spouses owe it, with all the ensuing consequences ...

Many words that have served us as protection and certain taboos since ancient times have been distorted and turned inside out, replaced by alien ones. Therefore, perhaps our life has not been arranged for some time now and life is uncomfortable. We have lost harmony not only in understanding ourselves, but primarily in the definition of others, what is happening around us as a whole. Again, we will look for the guilty, causing confusion and becoming weaker, or, we will try to correct the situation on our own, live and speak as Our Ancestors bequeathed to us - the Laws and Rules of which are still impeccable, because they were guided by RIGHT and CONSCIENCE. And most importantly, LOVE for Your Mother Earth ...

And it is not surprising that today, according to statistics, almost every second family breaks up. After all, they enter into MARRIAGE with the bride ...

Well, admit it, you also wondered why the union of a man and a woman is called MARRIAGE. What a not-so-good word, right? Well, perhaps there is some kind of original and completely opposite explanation for this?

But nifiga! I knew it was all straight forward. Look here 🙂

In ancient times, among the peoples who spoke the language from which the Russian language grew, a mature and trained girl was called vesta. The training of the girl consisted in the skills of building relationships with a man (it was believed that relationships are the responsibility of a woman, and future men were trained to be earners and protectors). And the girls were taught by the "Witches" - the mothers in charge (this status was worn by elderly women who lived happily with their husbands and raised at least 12 children). So, back to marriage. If a trained girl (Vesta) got married, then this was called a union or family, and if the girl was not trained by that moment (NeVesta), then this was called marriage.

I like this version, but in fairness, let's find out other versions:

1. Marriage (marriage).

The word “marriage” (matrimony) is borrowed from the Old Slavonic language, in which it meant “marriage” and is formed using the suffix -k (like, for example, the word “sign”) from the verb “brother” - “take”. The connection of the word “marriage” with this verb is confirmed by the expression “to marry”, the dialectal “brothers” - “marry”, the Ukrainian “broke” - “married”. The verb “brothers” (originally meaning “to carry”), when applied to marriage, means “to seize”, “to steal”. The fact is that the basis of marriage among the ancient Slavs was the abduction of a girl from another clan or tribe. The timing of the word "marriage" is disputed. The Old Slavonic word “marriage” already meant the rite of “marrying”, and then marriage itself, that is, matrimony. Old Russian “marriage” is also “wedding”, “feast” and “matrimony”. Similarly, the Bulgarian word “marriage” means both “marriage” and “matrimony”.

2. Marriage (marriage). The second version, in my opinion, is more romantic :).

Before getting married, a man asks… what? Yes, that's right, HANDS to your beloved! That is, marriage this is a joint of hands to walk through life together. And no matter what happens - be together "both in sorrow and in joy."

In Italian: braccio (il braccio) - arm from hand to shoulder.

In French: le braccia (le braccia) - hands, le bra - hands.

Latin: brachium (brachium) - arm (shoulder).

And then the words "marrying" mean "taking each other's hands."

3. Marriage (poor-quality product). Borrowed in the 17th century. through the Polish language, from the German language, where Brack is “unusable goods”, that is, “scrap” is a derivative of the verb brechen - (brechen) - “to break”. School etymological dictionary of the Russian language. The origin of words - M .: Bustard N. M. Shansky, T. A. Bobrova 2004.

Strange, right? marriage is and poorly made And union of man and woman simultaneously? How to explain it? I found a simple explanation quite recently. In ancient times, among the peoples who spoke the language from which the Russian language grew, a mature and trained girl was called Vesta. The education of the girl consisted in the skills of building relationships with a man (it was believed that relationships are the responsibility of a woman, and future men were trained to be earners and protectors). And the girls were taught by the "Witches" - the mothers in charge (this status was worn by elderly women who lived happily with their husbands and raised at least 12 children). So, back to marriage. If a trained girl got married ( Vesta), then it was called a union or family, and if the girl was untrained by that moment ( Bride), then it was called marriage.

So draw your own conclusions, my friends. It turns out that marriage is absolutely right now called marriage.

And here are the comments that users gave on another site:

I have been thinking about this since childhood, asking my mother, friends, laughing that no one knows why the family was called a marriage and did not even suspect that the answer could be so simple. This article amazed me! Now, indeed, ALL the girls without exception are Brides! There is no one to teach! In the country, you can probably count on the fingers of women who managed to raise 12 children in their lives and live happily with their husbands! Our parents and even grandparents have already lost the culture of building relationships.

In fairness, it must be said that guys are now not taught to be protectors and earners (fathers have weakened physically and morally, just as mothers have ceased to be women in the full sense of the word). So it turns out a double "marriage" for most people !!!

P.S.: It is necessary to make a training program "Marriage-2" - how to build love :)

Oh, where to find the "Witch" :)
I really don’t want to create a “Marriage”, maybe there are still “knowledgeable” mothers in distant villages? :)

Don't worry, we're all married now
Your future husband probably is also not trained in his craft, and you are already going to "learn" for him, to look for a witch in distant villages :)

You talk weird...

I don't know if you're a "guest" - a boy or a girl, but I don't understand what you're saying. If I am trained in at least some basics of building relationships in the family, I can create a happy family with any man, even if he is not very trained in his craft, as you say.

And there is another reason to learn - the principle "like attracts like" - this means that if I am trained in my "female" area, then I will meet a man who will be trained in his "male" area. For some reason I believe that this is exactly what will happen :)

From correspondence on this topic

In such an alliance, there are many more chances for failure (marriage) than for a successful project. And, only thanks to the work of each of the spouses on themselves, comes the wisdom that cements the family. And, if nothing helps, then it is better, having thanked for the experience, to "destroy" the marriage and give a chance to create two families.

What if the marriage already has children?

The best thing that parents can give their child is a space of love! But, if this is not between the parents, then, just for the sake of the child, it is a sin to play false roles! The way out is to calmly instill in the child respect for his parents and continue to follow the path of creation and development, harmony and search! Otherwise, we break ourselves and our children as individuals. After all, the main thing is to agree with yourself !!! It is quite possible that people converge for a short time only for the sake of the fact that it is from this couple that a beautiful child is planned from above to come to earth! Then, moreover, there is something to thank each other for. After all, our life is a lot of lessons and exams that need to be passed with dignity!!!

divorce is not an option!

divorce is better? You, dear Guest, are not right even on the tip of the nail. especially when there are children. The easiest thing to destroy is that it has already been built. The meaning of marriage is to learn to live in harmony with your half.

And love? you ask

Love is for children and youth. Love is in any case the notion of the near future! 2-3 years and nothing remains of the former feeling of falling in love! those couples who have understood that happiness is not in love, but in understanding and supporting each other, they live and raise offspring. And if we leave love as a reason to be together in modern times, this is at least stupid. it is necessary already in the initial stages of marriage (relationships) to look for more compelling reasons. For example, a child is one of the most compelling reasons not to get divorced. But even a fool understands that it is necessary not to endure each other with gnashing of teeth, but to beat softer to yield, obey, teach and learn, etc.

Family problems - solution (advice to men)

The main problem of people when they are looking for a future partner is that they do not know exactly who they need. You must first create this portrait in your soul with all the qualities and possible shortcomings that you may even like, or that you will be able to forgive, since there are no people without shortcomings.

Then, when choosing, it will be easier to realize “yes, I like this girl, she is attractive, and I see that she also likes me, but this is a “spring desire”, I like this state, but I see and feel in her a character or a predisposition to actions, who will hurt me in the future and I will suffer from this, this relationship cannot be fixed for a long time, I need another woman.

You need to be observant.

I don’t argue, even when you find that person who fits the ideal of your partner for creating a family and love from you to each other is a fountain, scandals still arise. There are such scandals in any family, because this or that person is in a bad mood, or trouble has happened somewhere and he brings this negative feeling home or simply does not add up in life.

It is necessary to understand this and forgive each other, I repeat to each other once again, both must do this.

Scandals arise if spouses feel that they are not noticed, from intimate dissatisfaction.

My husband says that the best remedy for scandals is bed.

The problem may be that it is more difficult for a woman to realize her desire, that she is furious precisely because she lacks this, her hormones are sausage and subconsciously she understands that there is a person nearby who could satisfy her, and this bastard of this does not. And when you say directly, let's do it - you don't have to say no.

Conclusion: a prelude is needed. The main thing with words is not even to hint at what you are achieving, but to show with actions, gently touch your hand by chance, gently look into your eyes, speak in a slight whisper (you can just tell the events of your day).

It is necessary, like a cat to tease, so that the desire comes to realization, then everything will work out.

Another tip every day to each other say "I love you." Then even after living for several years, you will feel as if you met yesterday. “I love you” is not only a declaration of love, it is a recognition that you believe in your partner, support and that he does not forgive him, you emphasize emotional reliability for each other. Any free time should be spent together, your spouse is not for show in your passport, but to go through life together.

In the film Let's Dance, the wife of the protagonist says that they are getting married so that there is a witness to our life nearby.

When you see that your wife is starting to have some kind of crisis, she is gloomy for an unknown reason, tell her that you are glad and happy that you have the best woman in the world, women around cannot even compare with her.

Every couple has a turning point.

Each couple has some kind of turning point when the heart begins to
knocking in a different rhythm, everyone feels that something has changed, and what,
it's hard to say, suspiciousness begins, winding oneself up, scandals.
It's just that the couple is moving to another stage of life and it is necessary to accept it,
learn to live in a new way, take it for granted, as it won’t be before, but
will be different and maybe even better.

Surely everyone at least once thought about why marriage was called marriage. At first glance, this word has nothing to do with family relationships. Therefore, it is worth digging deeper and understanding this issue.

Official version

Why is marriage called marriage? According to the official version, this word came from the Old Slavonic language. It is connected with the verb "brother", which meant marriage (to take a bride). By adding the suffix -k, the word was obtained in its modern meaning. Also, some analogies can be found in the Ukrainian language. The word "brother" means "marry".

But what about the common jokes about the meaning of the word "marriage"? Like, why was marriage called marriage, if this term means a flaw? In this context, the word has a German meaning and was introduced into the Russian language during the time of Peter I. Thus, these are two completely different marriages that are in no way connected with each other.

unofficial version

Why is marriage called marriage? The unofficial version sends us back to Slavic mythology. In accordance with ancient beliefs, she knew everything about the intricacies of marriage, raising children and housekeeping. This is a kind of standard of a loving and caring wife. Like all the girls who acquired such knowledge. Only they were accepted to be married.

But those girls who did not have family wisdom and knowledge were called Bride (that is, not ready for marriage). But if alliances were nevertheless concluded with them, then they were called marriages (something wrong). But this version does not claim to be scientific.

Sounds different but the meaning is the same

Why is marriage called marriage? To understand this issue, you need to study the etymology of the word and analyze its meaning in different cultures. So, we have already dealt with the Old Slavonic meaning of "marriage". In both French and Latin, this word also means "to take, to have." And now let's turn a little to the ritual of marriage itself. After all, people exchange rings and take each other's hands. Thus, in almost all cultures, "marriage" is the union of people through the clasping of hands. This is a kind of symbol of a strong union of husband and wife.

Dictionary Dahl

Why is the union of a man and a woman called marriage? An indirect answer to this question can be found in Dahl's dictionary. In it, the word "marriage" correlates with the word "brashno", which means food, food. Thus, marriage is a feast. And what goes with almost any wedding? Of course, a magnificent feast. Here's an analogy.

Modern reasoning

It's no secret that today's young people do not take the formalization of relationships as seriously as, for example, their parents, as well as grandparents. Therefore, when asked why the union is called marriage, they have their own opinion. So, many believe that love and law are incompatible things. Some even find confirmation in the Bible: "For in iniquity was he conceived ...". That is, people were not bound by any official ties.

Why is cohabitation called civil marriage?

From the point of view of modern legislation, the phrase "civil marriage" does not correspond in any way with cohabitation without formalization of official relations. In accordance with just the same, there are officially registered family relationships. But if you delve into history, it becomes clear that people use this term, denoting cohabitation, is not at all unreasonable.

The fact is that until 1918 in Russia, marriages were concluded exclusively in the church (that is, through a wedding). But representatives of some religions (sectarians or Old Believers) for religious reasons could not go through this procedure. Therefore, their relationship was formalized by recording in the register of births. It is this phenomenon, from the point of view of representatives of the church, that was called "civil marriage". Moreover, it had no legal consequences. That is, at the termination of cohabitation, the spouses could not divide the property. And in the event of the death of one of them, the second had no right to be the heir.

Why is the term "civil marriage" so widespread in modern society? Yes, simply because the word "cohabitation" has negative associations. In addition, the definition of "actual marriage" is more suitable for such relationships, but it has not taken root in society.

Types of marriage in accordance with modern legislation

When it has already become clear why marriage is called marriage, it is advisable to study the types of this phenomenon in accordance with modern legislation. So, in the Family Code and other regulatory legal acts, the following varieties are distinguished:

• Civil marriage is a relationship registered and formalized in accordance with the law and without the participation of the church. In domestic legislation, this type of marriage is the only one to which legal norms apply.
• Church marriage is a relationship formalized through weddings. In some countries, it has legal force on a par with what is registered with government agencies. Nevertheless, under domestic law, church marriage is not official and does not have any legal force. In this regard, in many churches, priests conduct a wedding only if the marriage was previously registered in the registry office.
• Actual marriage is an unregistered marriage-like relationship, which is more often called cohabitation in the legislation. Even if people run a joint household and have common children, they do not have any marital rights and obligations.
• Civil partnership (or union) - common mainly in Western countries. This is an intermediate form between cohabitation and registered marriage. Despite the fact that the relationship is not formalized, the so-called "spouses" have some rights and obligations. A feature can be considered that this form of marriage is available to same-sex couples.
• A fictitious marriage is an official registration of a marriage without the intention of the parties to create an actual family in the generally accepted sense. Usually the motives for entering into such an alliance are obtaining citizenship or political asylum, claiming an inheritance, receiving state benefits, or any other selfish goals.

Conclusion

There has been a lot of controversy around lately. For example: why is marriage called marriage? After studying all the theories of the origin of this word, as well as getting acquainted with its meanings in other languages ​​​​of the world, a person gets the impression that the version associated specifically with the word "hand" is the most plausible. That is, the spouses are people who hold hands. No matter how many jokes there are around the word "marriage", it is this word that is generally accepted and appears in all legal acts.