Sokolovsky and Dakota are expecting a baby. Rita Dakota: “When I found out that I was pregnant, I didn’t make any surprises for Vlad - I ran out of the bathroom and just poked the test in his face Rita Dakota and Vlad Sokolovsky are expecting their first child

The musicians became parents The baby, whom happy parents named Mia, completely changed their lives. And, as the artists themselves admit, for the better. Rita and Vlad, exclusively for the site, told how their life goes in a new status, and presented their baby to the public. Meet Mia! She is only two weeks old in this photo.

The artists did not dissemble: they, like all parents, experience difficulties, but all the chores for them are pleasant moments that they will remember with a smile.

Rita: We try to somehow treat lack of sleep and some difficulties with humor. And we understand that this fate - colic, teeth and everything else - awaits everyone.

Star parents say that they themselves throw themselves new difficulties. For example, they flew away for a few months to Bali with a newborn baby. And now they have become real professionals in the field of "family holidays". In their YouTube vlogs, the couple proves by their own example that even becoming parents, you can remain mobile and productive.

Vlad: I can say right away that traveling with a baby is not very convenient. When you fly with a two or three-month-old baby, you take food, diapers, a stroller, all kinds of sun loungers, toys ... A huge number of things! We took the minimum for ourselves and the maximum for her.

We flew away with a child who is two and a half months old, and we will return when she is four and a half. These are three different sizes! Mia has a lot more things than us.

With Vlad and Rita, not only the way of life has changed, but also the inner perception of the world. They have become more reverent, sensitive and responsible.

Vlad: You worry all the time... Sometimes stupid thoughts come into your head. Here you are holding the child in your arms, everything is fine, you are standing with your feet on the ground and everything is cool, but some thought appears in your head: “What if you slip now.” And then you start to wind yourself up, although everything is in order.

Rita: Enhanced vigilance mode is activated. Even on such rare evenings when Vlad and I can go somewhere in the evening to hang out, like on the island of Bali (you can see it in one of our vlogs). Once we were at a Leningrad concert and drank wine. Everyone was drunk, but we weren't. We drank several glasses, but we didn’t have one in our eyes, because the vigilance mode turned on.

Despite the boundless love for their child, Rita and Vlad continue to do their projects, household chores and creativity. In part, Mia helped her parents learn how to properly plan their day.

Rita: We have become more organized in terms of time management. Previously, we could spread all our affairs for the whole day, come home between business to eat or do something else. Now we are trying to make a schedule for the day, so that in the first half of the day we can do the maximum number of things, and spend the second half with the child completely. But save, of course, grandmothers. God bless them.

Now the artists have already gained experience and can share it with other young parents. Vlad, for example, now knows everything about strollers. However, this was not always the case. Some moments really surprised the couple as they prepared for their new status.

Rita: There are some little things that you never think about. For me, for example, it was a great discovery that a newborn baby does not need a pillow. It seemed to me that I needed something softer, more comfortable, but it turned out that a pillow for a newborn is dangerous.

Or, for example, the most difficult moment for us in household things to care for a child is cutting our nails. In the rock-paper-scissors family, we decide who will do it, because everyone is afraid to take some wrong step.

Rita and Vlad can no doubt be called the parents of the year. A warm atmosphere reigns in their family, and they share this warmth with fans in their vlogs on the Sokolovsky & Dakota YouTube channel and on Instagram every day. They honestly tell what is really going on in their lives. Like all people, sometimes they break down. A tearful Rita picks up a camera and talks about failures... But this, as the artists themselves say, is real life, without embellishment.

Rita: We are learning to re-adjust to our freedom, because it looks a little different now. But it's really cool! It's growth, that's for sure. We have become better, we have become stronger. This is a very cool stage, and we are grateful to the Universe for it.

Their relationship is ideally characterized by such a slightly outdated concept as “partnership”, when between people there is not only love, not only attraction and passion, but also friendship, partnership. and not just a couple, they are a family. And very soon in this family replenishment is coming!

It's early morning now, it's raining outside, but it doesn't seem to concern you - your mood is upbeat!

Rita: What are you, we overslept! Yesterday we worked until four in the morning! We'll order breakfast now and start chatting right away, okay?

(Rita orders porridge, Vlad orders an omelet.)

R: And I knew that you would choose this.

How long ago did you start talking like that?

Vlad: It's always been like that.

R: Yes, from the very beginning, this is not an acquired experience.

V .: We were constantly surprised by this, laughed, and then we just got used to it. We call this phenomenon the united biofield.

You've known each other for ten years, right?

Before the interview, I studied your Instagram. You speak so frankly about your relationship, about love, you easily and openly demonstrate your emotions to the world.

V: Is it bad?

This is very good! It’s just that now only the lazy one doesn’t say in an interview that happiness loves silence.

R: Rather, envy loves silence. And silence just destroys happiness. How many chic songs would not happen if everyone thought that happiness should be kept quiet! If Stevie Wonder, when his daughter was born, had not written the stunning beauty of the song Isn't She Lovely ...

V .: Bob Marley would probably not have ninety-nine percent of the songs if he did not want to share his feelings with the world.

R: Yes, and in general, if you listen to the public, subscribers in the same Instagram, then you can go crazy, you can get bipolar disorder. At first they wrote to us: “Why are you hiding that you have a relationship? Are you ashamed?" When we announced that we were a couple, it began: “Why are you telling everyone about love, it’s secret!”

Do you often ban subscribers?

B: Yes, often!

R: Almost every day there are twenty people.

V .: It is clear that among our one and a half million subscribers there are people with completely different opinions. There are people who are shaking over their relationship - they are afraid to jinx it. But this is a very dangerous game, in my opinion.

R: The evil eye is a separate issue altogether. I recently read a joke under a photo of a mother with two children. The eldest girl is five years old, the second child is a newborn. And the baby's face is erased with a smiley. The comment was very funny: “That's right, the eldest is already an adult, let her fight off the evil eye herself!”

Now you are talking about the fact that you will soon become parents. Surely you will find something to say about this.

R: Yes, you can imagine! All the same people who wrote “When is the baby already? It’s time!”, they will start saying: “Why are you so early, would you take a walk again!” ( Laughs.)

Didn't you think it was too early? Did you plan for this development?

R: We wanted children, but I don't like the phrase "planned child", it's terrible. When two people have been married for two years, it is strange to consider a child unexpected. This shouldn't come as a surprise; this is the normal development of any healthy couple's relationship.

Not all couples are ready for such a turn in life.

V .: Yes, there are those among our friends who openly say that they are child-free. This is their choice, their position. But when we just started living together, we immediately discussed, among other things, the “children's” issue. I honestly said that I see no point in just dating - going to the movies or drinking coffee in a cafe.

Why does a kid need a relationship at all if he wants to stay free? If you can hang out and change girls, why bother? And if you are already ripe for a serious relationship, if you are making plans for the future, thinking about a wedding, then you should be ready for the appearance of children.

Judging by your accounts, you travel a lot - constantly on the move, always on the wave. But every time it's not just a vacation - you shoot clips in different parts of the world, combine business with pleasure?

V: Yes, it does. And since last year we generally worked almost without rest. I released an album, then a single in September, Rita launched her solo project in the fall - the premiere of the video "Half a Person", which blew up the Internet and music charts. We toured throughout December, planned to shoot my video in January, filmed it in Bali in February and released it. In March, we filmed two clips for Rita in New York at once, when we found out that we were expecting a baby: one, so to speak, for the future and another video for the song “I'm afraid yes,” which is now breaking all records for views. And recently we shot another video - for my new single "Come to me", which I dedicated to Rita. So in May we went on holiday. They just returned from the Maldives, where they did not work for a single minute. ( Laughs.) They did nothing - sunbathed, ate, enjoyed each other, read books ...

R: Exactly half of my suitcase was full of books!

V .: The second half - swimsuits. ( Laughs.)

So you are able to pause and turn off your inner motor?

R: We call it grounding. We have a certain period during a big vacation, when at first we do nothing at all. For example, when we were in Bali, it took us a week to ground. During this time, we could not even go to the beach or leave the house, we just “sealed”, woke up at whatever time we wanted, did what we wanted ...

V: Come to your senses. If we imagine a tired person in the form of a ball, then we seemed to be unwinding ourselves. You unwind yourself, unwind yourself, don’t look at the time, don’t think that you have to go somewhere, go, hurry... And after about a week you are so renewed, fresh, relaxed...

R .: And you think: “Well, that's it, let's go!”

And again shooting clips and recording songs?

V: Not only. Here I am learning, let's say, a new profession for myself. Over the past six months, I starred in two films. Unfortunately, it is still impossible to talk about one project, but this is a very popular series on a very popular channel. I play the role of a young correspondent there. And the second film is a historical film for the Rossiya channel about the noblewoman Saltykova, played by Yulia Snigir. And I have one of the key roles there. It just so happens that this is my first big dramatic story.

Did you decide to audition yourself, or were you invited?

For the last year I have been auditioning for very different projects. They didn’t take it somewhere, they took it somewhere, due to the crisis situation, many projects were curtailed. But the ice broke, and everything went, went.

Aren't you afraid that they will say: "Another singer decided to become an actor"?

I really don't care what they say. I listen only to those whom I consider authoritative in this or that issue. Everyone else can keep their opinions to themselves. In this sense, we both have developed such a good indifference ...

R: In the sense that we have no illusions, we try to remain honest and adequate. We do not have such that we want to be in time everywhere. Here Vlad is a real artist. I cannot call my husband only a musician, he is an artist. And I'm the purest musician. Before my first solo work “Half a Human” thundered, suddenly breaking all records of downloads and reposts and giving me a kind of kick in the ass to sing further, I sat in a closet for almost seven years and wrote hits known throughout the country to top artists. The country knows and loves the songs of Loboda, Yolka, Ani Lorak, Anita Tsoi, but no one knew that their author was Rita Dakota. I really can’t call myself an artist, and when, for example, from the same company where Vlad went to audition, they call and offer me to come too, I refuse. I'm not an actress...

Q: You're just skeptical about it...

R .: No, I'm not skeptical about this, I deeply respect acting, it's just that I can't do it, and I don't do what I can't do. I don't fry meat, for example. I can't do it as cool as you...

V .: But you didn’t even try to fry it!

R: I've tried a thousand times, but it doesn't work for me.

V .: You just didn’t try to fry it with me! You put a cool piece on the pan - and three and a half minutes on one side, three and a half minutes on the other, cut it, look - that's it, medium, let's move on. ( Laughs.) In fact, I myself did not believe in this acting story for a long time. There were so many different proposals, they say, you try, these were filmed and those were filmed. But this is not my profession. I am a ballet dancer, singer, composer, sound producer - anyone, but not an actor, I didn’t dare to call myself that.

R: Here it is, my favorite type of people - when a talented person does not know that he is talented. Adore you!

Q: Plus, what did they offer? Play yourself, of course. And I didn't want to play myself, it's terrible at all! Sorry, of course, I don’t want to offend anyone, but I think that if you play yourself in a film, then this is complete garbage, you can’t watch it without tears at all, just some kind of failure ... But then there was a project on Channel One “Theater Estrada, where I agreed to take part. It became interesting to me, because there are many genres, many different images, and it's very cool. I won there by the audience vote, and Stas Kostyushkin, with a small margin, by the jury vote. And somehow I played there. ( Smiling.) I got an agent, we went on trial for a year, at first it didn’t grow together, but at some point a hop - and it clicked. It is not clear how, maybe because at first I was not serious about this, but, in general, it went.

Vlad, you said that you listen only to the opinion of people who are authoritative for you. Did you mean parents?

V .: I meant respected people - rare professionals in my environment, as well as parents, family and closest friends.

Do you think parents should tell their children the truth, just the way it is? Or do you still have to stroke the head?

R: You know, it's hard for us to give some examples based on our family. Our case with my parents is generally unique ... We have a family chat where Vlad's parents, mine, we and, in general, the whole family. We discuss everything there. That's just everything that happens in life. Frankly, no embellishment. They will praise us there, and they can send us too, if there is something for it. It seems to me that if someone read this chat, then our parents could be deprived of parental rights for certain passages. ( Laughs.) It's just that our relationship with our parents cannot be called the usual example of a father-son relationship. Of course, we love and respect them, listen to their opinion, ask for advice. But they are more our friends, our company. Maybe this is how a family should be?

V .: Yes, we were told a long time ago, even at an early stage of the relationship, that “guys, no matter how things turn out for you, we are now one family.” Parents both with us and already without us travel together. And mothers can go shopping on Skype - one in Moscow, the other in Minsk.

R .: Yes, our mothers have already divided our children, they say, when “these” go on tour, I will sit, but in December they already have concerts, which means I will take them to Minsk for a month ... I say : “We haven’t even given birth to anyone yet!” ( Laughs.) And I think it's great. There is an opinion that a child needs a mother 24/7, such as this is wrong when the mother works with at least someone other than the mother, it is bad and wrong if grandmothers sometimes take care of the child. Vlad and I somehow decided to discuss this dogma and unanimously came to the conclusion that, on the contrary, it is very cool when a newborn baby already has an awesome real big family - with grandparents, uncles, aunts who are waiting for him, love and want to take part in his life as much as possible.

V .: The child, of course, must have an understanding that there are two main people in his life - dad and mom. But how can you deprive him of the rest of love?

R: I can judge by the way we were brought up. I remember my childhood quite well, but I can say about my husband, because I see him in society, I see him in the family, in relation to me, in relation to people. And for me, Vlad is an example of what a person should be.

IN.: ( Ironic.) Oh, you just don't know me well yet...

R .: It's like in that joke: "Husband, we are not yet so closely acquainted that I weigh myself in front of you!" ( Laughs.) So, I can say that Vlad is a free man in every sense of the word "freedom". I know very well how he was brought up, how his parents took him on tour with the X-Mission group (Vlad's father Andrey Sokolovsky was the leader of the team. - Note. OK!): a suitcase in one hand, little Vlad in the other. And I think it's cool. So I was very homely, I was my mother's child. I didn’t go to a nursery, I didn’t go to the garden, so I had a painful attachment to my mother.

V: Was there? ( Laughs.)

R: It still exists, yes. Maybe I'm just now beginning to learn how to exist without her. I remember when my mother was late at work for twenty minutes, I ran out into the street to look for her, shaking, if something terrible had happened. If I’m flying to another country now, and Vlad and I haven’t turned on roaming yet and I can’t write SMS that everything is fine, then I start to panic and go crazy. Sometimes I take care of my mother so much that I do. I sit on the shore and watch intently how she swims so that she does not start to sink. God forbid. ( Laughs.) Mom sometimes says: “I'm fifty years old, you can leave me alone, I'm an adult. I want to go to the store alone, leave me alone!” ( Laughs.) In short, I understand that this hysterical overprotection of my mother, who sometimes annoys not only her, but also myself, is a perfect example of how I should not treat future children. I will try to control myself in relation to the child, I will bring him up socially adapted. I’m already setting myself up for the fact that I gave birth, sat with him for a couple of weeks, then calmly gave it to my mother, if you need to go on business for a couple of hours, and it’s okay, you don’t have to call every five minutes ...

V: We'll wait and see.

R: Yes it is. Sometimes you are sure that you know everything about yourself, but life shows that you know nothing about yourself at all.

What are you talking about now?

It happened when I was offered to head the “Creativity” direction at the Federal Agency for Youth Affairs, where I had to manage a large team. At first I was a little afraid. I thought that a tattooed singer would not be perceived as a leader and specialist. In the end, I unexpectedly turned out to be a monster! That is, with Vlad at home, I’m like “mi-mi-mi”, just a girl-girl: “If Vlad said that it was necessary, then it’s okay, so be it, the same man said.” And then she just turned into a tyrant! ( Laughs.) The boss even called me and asked me to be gentler with people, like they cry, they say that you are very demanding, they don’t let you sit down for two seconds. I didn’t expect this from myself, I thought that I would be a creative slob.

So Rita will be the "evil cop" of the two of you? Vigilant, caring, but horror how strict?

R: Well, no.

It seems to me that a child just needs to be loved very much. Many people think that a child is such a responsibility, it is hard work and almost heroism. In fact, I think it's all too exaggerated. If there is love, everything else will follow.

Sometimes, when I call my mother in tears and say, “Ma, what kind of mother am I, I can never be like you!”, She tells me: “Rita, at first I didn’t know what to do with you either, when you screamed at night. I rocked you in my arms, and thought to myself: “Well, please, my love, shut up already, shut up, shut up!” ( Laughs.) But somehow it came, it's okay, and it will come to you.

V .: She never shut up ... ( Laughs.)

R: There is. Therefore, nothing definite can be said yet ... It would be good if I looked like my mother. She was perfect in every way. She is perfect in every way. Vlad loves it very much when she comes: “Teshenka will come, cheers, it will be delicious, fun, clean, cool!”

V .: Well, everything, mamsik will read this material and then every time he will come and clean our hut. ( They laugh.) Mom, relax, we have people who get paid for this!

R: By the way, I wanted to add to the conversation about subscribers. Now some people write us malicious comments that our colorful life will end with the advent of a child. Type enjoy-enjoy while there are no children. They simply project their complexes and their fears onto others. But I think you should not pay attention to those who present motherhood as heroism, who say: “Forget about yourself for a whole year, because first hormones, then colic, then teeth ...” I like Vlad’s position: “U we will be as we are."

V .: There is a beautiful phrase that our whole family loves. She is very hilarious, but there is a lot of morality and depth in her: “Everything is as you want.”

Guys, judging by your mobility, you will fly somewhere to the islands or to the States to give birth ...

V.: No, we will do it in Russia. We have the entire active phase of pregnancy - this is summer ...

R: Fruits, cherries...

V .: That is, we can go out of town, to our parents. If pregnancy fell on a cold gray season, we would never give birth here.

R .: We had two options: to go to give birth in Bali and not to go to give birth in Bali. ( Laughs.) Having weighed some temporary overlays on movements and so on, we decided that, probably, we will give birth to the first child at home. My friends advised me a wonderful doctor from the perinatal medical center "Mother and Child" in Sevastopol, Tatyana Olegovna Normantovich (she is the head doctor there), and I fell madly in love with her from the first meeting. It's funny, at some point in the center they told me not to worry that they have a separate entrance for public couples, a comfortable suite, but I, honestly, do not care at all, with Tatyana Olegovna I am ready to give birth even in the field! This is very important - a doctor who guides you during pregnancy. It would be nice to coincide with an ordinary doctor in terms of attitude, but here such a responsible task! I called her the other day: “Tatiana Olegovna, I want coffee so much, I’ll just die now as I want!” And she replies: "Well, drink." I say: “You can’t have coffee, they say that caffeine has a bad effect on the fetus, that the child will be small, thin ...” And she told me: “Rita, please don’t read the Internet, only romance novels! Order yourself a latte, if you want a double from me. Bye". Or I also had fads: “Tatyana Olegovna, all pregnant girls take vitamins, there are millions of vitamins for pregnant women, which ones should I buy?” And she says: “You don’t need any vitamins, exhale, please, your tests are perfect. If suddenly you need something, I will tell you what vitamins to drink. And everything in this spirit. That is, I’m not a crazy “pregnant” at all, I’m super relaxed and calm. And my doctor is the same.

After giving birth, you will probably still fly to Bali to spend the winter?

R .: Yes, we are giving birth, hanging out for two months outside the city with our parents, with our crazy family ...

V .: ... And with her we bring down to Bali for two whole months.

R .: I already anticipate the comments of especially sensitive subscribers: “He's small, how will he fly? There are malarial mosquitoes, there are tarantulas, homeless dogs are everywhere!”

V .: And here the exhaust gases ...

R: By the way, the kid will need to make a map in order to save miles. So that by the age of twenty he would save up for a round-the-world trip ...

V .: ...And an account with a million subscribers.

R .: Yes, by the way, we do not want to cover the face of the child in photographs on the Web. Because, firstly, we think it's very natural and very cool, and secondly, we hope that we will convince someone not to be afraid to get married and have children. We also recently decided that we would make our own blog - a kind of family channel on YouTube. We will show there that life after childbirth exists. ( They laugh.)

V .: We are already planning a huge number of trips, work, we are buying an apartment. It will be, in fact, a blog designed for a very different audience - from mothers with recommendations on what to choose for a child, to those who now need advice on choosing building materials.

Well, I wish you every success!

R: Is that all? And you don't want to hear the story, how it all happened, where?

V .: Rita ... ( Smiling.)

R: What? This also happened in Bali ... Exactly in the same place where Vlad proposed to me two and a half years ago, think about it! Right in the same place!

V .: Yes, in our first Bali I proposed, in the second Bali we were already husband and wife, in the third we had a baby, and next year, it turns out, we will already be with a sling ...

R: Bali is our magical place! Just a couple of days before conception, I quit smoking! I was such a heavy smoker, everyone knew about it. “Dakota promotes smoking in the Gloves video. True, I had several attempts to quit, but something always bothered me. And in Bali, I received several signs in a row, and such that it’s just awesome! The last one really got me. I broke the pack, stuffed it under the stone and told the Universe: “That's it, I understand everything!” And then, three weeks later, I found out that I was pregnant. Can you imagine? ( Laughs.)

Text: Evgenia Beletskaya. Photo: Yaroslav Kloos

Style: Alesya Matyashchuk. Makeup and hairstyles: Yulia Yakovleva