The girl doesn't give it to me though. Why can't a girl cum? Psychological attitude: don’t focus on the problem
Love, sympathy, attraction - the feelings are quite strange. They bring adrenaline and brightness of sensations, richness into our lives.
Experiences and fullness of emotions. True, they can be both positive and negative. And cause great joy or endless sadness.
First reaction
It’s a familiar picture, isn’t it: he escorts her home or meets her at the entrance with flowers; invites you to a movie or a concert; invites you to sit in a cafe, wander through a quiet autumn park? He tries as best he can, but... And then the question arises: “What to do if the girl does not reciprocate?”
The very first thing a person experiences at such moments is resentment. Guys are no less vulnerable and mentally vulnerable than representatives of the fairer sex. And they worry just as deeply and strongly. Anyone who thinks that this is a manifestation of mental weakness is deeply mistaken. Being upset and sad about failure is a natural human reaction. But a young man definitely shouldn’t fall into panic and depression. What should I do? What to do if a girl doesn't reciprocate? We will talk about this in more detail now.
To the very essence
So, the first thing to do when the first wave of experiences subsides is to soberly assess the situation. Try to determine the cause of indifference, find out whether it was a consequence of any actions and deeds of the guy himself or was it initial? What to do if a girl does not reciprocate because of the boy’s mistakes and miscalculations? Naturally, try to correct the situation, make amends. Maybe the girl needs to be given time so that she can cool down, rethink, reconsider her attitude towards the fan. And then everything will gradually improve on its own. In this case, the guy should ease the pressure, step aside a little, and then gradually begin courtship again. Another question is “what to do if the girl does not reciprocate at all, initially.” In this case, the situation may indeed turn out to be hopeless.
Psychological attitude: don’t get hung up on the problem!
Remember the proverb: “They knock out a wedge with a wedge”? So try to follow it. After all, there are a lot of cute cuties around. And probably many representatives of the opposite sex like the rejected admirer. Therefore, instead of racking your brains over the question “how to get reciprocity from a girl,” it is better to direct your energy in a different direction. True, there is no need to rush too much. Let unfortunate Romeo move away from his sad thoughts and brush his feathers. And carefully, unobtrusively, prudently (remembering the water and milk that is blown on) begins to establish new relationships. But just don’t do it to spite someone. Or to make a past passion jealous. There will be no sense from such a “wedge”. Everything should start from a new leaf.
"Learn to control yourself..."
What you should never do if the girl does not reciprocate:
Avoid public scenes of jealousy. While hysterics are somehow forgivable for girls, they are completely out of the question for guys. Subtlety of mental organization and female nervousness are far from the same thing!
2. Deliberate contempt, indifference and ignorance are also undesirable. They reveal the guy’s vulnerability and emphasize that the past holds him in its hands. Alas, here the guys themselves, and even more so the “ex” and her entourage, can laugh at him to their heart’s content. And who needs it? Just try to cross paths with a capricious young lady less often, and if a meeting does occur, behave with dignity, restraint, but naturally. And in general - read the classics, it says everything!
“The less we love a woman...”
Yes, still the same great Pushkin! He was an excellent ladies' man; he read a woman's heart like an open book. What does the classic advise? Has the girl stopped reciprocating? Pay attention to this phrase - the key word here is “stopped.” This is a signal that should not be ignored. Try to talk to the lady of your heart, find out why she is dissatisfied. And, if possible, discuss controversial points, so
so that they no longer become stumbling points. Another positive point of the conversation is that if the old relationship is not resumed, when a new one is formed, the guy will not step on the rake again. A “retired boyfriend” can also play on a girl’s pride and jealousy. But only if he has a good understanding of the character of his beloved fastidious girl, values her very much and wants to regain her favor. To do this, you should calculate the steps like an experienced chess player and play the games.
We're just friends"?
Another option is when a conflict arises on personal grounds - when a young lady sees in her gentleman a purely knight, a friend, almost a being of the same sex. She often consults with such a young man, talks about problems, and shares her experiences. Maybe even cry on his chest or kiss him on the cheek, saying goodbye. But hugs, kisses and other caresses, alas, are not included in her plans. What to do? Make it clear: yes, you are ready to become her confessor and adviser. However, we do not intend to limit ourselves purely to this role and only agree to more.
If you're going on a date with a girl or have recently started dating someone, take a look at the following list of 15 candidates who will make your life hell. If you see similar tendencies in your girlfriend, talk to her about it. If she doesn't agree to change, you're setting yourself up for an unbearable relationship, so think twice before it goes too far.
#1 Stuck
When a girl is too attached to you and loves you a lot, it is obvious that she wants to spend a lot of time with you. But has she crossed the line from “I want to be with you” to “I can’t be without you”?
When she becomes too annoying or wants you to participate in everything she does, she doesn't notice it, but she starts to "smother" you. Moreover, she ceases to be an individual, but simply becomes an extension of you. This begins to irritate you, and she cannot understand why you are trying to distance yourself from her.
#2 Overly possessive
At first glance, her possessiveness may flatter you, but if she does not let you go out with friends or do something without her, you begin to quietly hate her without realizing it. The owner will always be nervous if you communicate with other girls, even if you are just friends. And before you know it, you'll be fighting every time one of you has to go to a meeting alone.
#3 Girl user
Some people see you as just a guy who can open the door to a better world for her. Maybe you have good connections or are cooler than others. She will think that being seen next to you will make her popular.
The relationship may start out great, but after a few dates you realize that she prefers spending time in the noisy company of your friends than alone in a romantic setting. And over time, when she has already used you as a stepping stone to high society, she will in every possible way ignore your attempts to return her former passion.
#4 Girl Unable to Apologize
Are you dating a girl who can't apologize or accept her mistake? She may apologize for something trivial rather than something important; she would rather play the silent game with you than admit her guilt.
It's best to avoid this type. At first glance, she may seem cheerful and sweet. In fact, she is very selfish, and would rather break you than accept her defeat in front of you. She is confident that she cannot make a mistake and is too proud to accept her mistake. Taking into account the fact that from time to time in a relationship it is necessary to give in, in such an alliance the guy falls into a trap where only he gives in, and she constantly strokes her pride.
#5 Whiner
This girl always complains. She never has positive topics to talk about. She complains about how bad her job is, her sad life, and her constant depression. If your girlfriend doesn't see the bright side of things, maybe she's too negative about life. This negativity will affect you too, you will feel defeated after every meeting with her.
#6 Unsure
These types of girls never know what they want. She can never choose, and if she does make a choice, she is not sure of it.
She flirts with guys all the time, and it's possible that she views you as a backup guy she'll go to if she's not getting enough attention from everyone else. The worst thing is that she can easily leave you if she finds a better candidate. Dating such a girl will make you weak and tired, and it can also hit your pride: no matter how good you are, she will always look for a better option.
#7 Demanding and dominant
Such a girl constantly demands something from you. She is very domineering and wants everything to be her way. Maybe you're a good boy who cares about your girlfriend, but that's not enough for her. She loves to be important and controls your life and everything that happens to you.
#8 Too stubborn
It's good that everyone has an opinion, even if your opinions differ, sometimes it helps to prove your point. But this girl goes too far. She always has her own opinion, and she will not change it for anything in the world, even if it is wrong. She can change her mind only if she wants to, but she will never believe your arguments or suggestions.
#9 Spy
She spies on you all the time, or whenever she has the slightest opportunity to do so. You may not go to the left and always tell the truth, but she always has reason to doubt it. She watches you, looks at your mobile phone, asks your friends questions if you say that you are late because of a meeting with a friend. If constant interrogation bothers you even a little, avoid these girls. This is not normal for a good relationship.
#10 Cutie without an opinion
She seems wonderful. She doesn’t complain about anything, she doesn’t contradict anything. But she's too accommodating, no matter what you do. She has no opinion, and no matter how much you ask her, she will never offer anything.
You might think she's just shy or too secretive, but she's actually a ticking time bomb. It seems to you that everything is fine and she is happy with everything, but perhaps for some reason she just keeps all her thoughts to herself. And one day, when she doesn’t like something, she will simply stop talking to you, instead of expressing her thoughts and resolving the issue together.
#11 Girl fighter
She should be feared in anger. Her face turns crimson red and she feels like she's about to explode. She might even punch you in the face or make a scene because she is too hot-tempered and when she gets angry she can't control herself.
If you can handle her tough temper, you have nothing to fear. But if you want to live in peace and not be afraid every time something makes her angry, it's better to stay away from her.
#12 Too accessible
A girl like this might be sweet, but she's too flirtatious and friendly for her own good. She will be very nice to a guy if he just invites her out. Even though she is dating you, she goes on dates with others. You see her flirting left and right. Even if you tell her directly who she was seen with, she will pretend that she doesn’t understand anything.
When you date a girl like this, you will become exhausted and insecure because you will not be able to change her.
#13 Tormentor
This girl will resort to emotional blackmail and manipulation just to get everything she wants. She can be helpful and sweet, and sometimes she won’t even insist on having her way to please you. But if she needs something, she will stop at nothing. She will emotionally manipulate you. “I do so much for you...”, “After what I have done for you, can’t you do this little thing for me..?” Sound familiar?
No. 14 Parents' favorite
This girl is very close to her parents, either her father or her mother. No matter what you talk about, she cannot make a final decision without consulting her parents.
She discusses everything with them, and after the telephone conversation she hangs up and tells you her opinion, although, in fact, not hers, but her parents’. Perhaps if she's still acting this way, even if she's old enough, she doesn't think you're incapable of making an informed decision on your own.
#15 Constantly dissatisfied
She constantly compares your life to the lives of others, especially if they are doing something interesting. She registers on Facebook, sees photos of friends vacationing at resorts, whines about how unhappy she is, or how insolvent you are. No matter where you go or what you do, her happiness is always fleeting.
She may feel happy for a few hours, but then she will remember about others and everything will start all over again. Such a girl is always sure that others are doing better than her.
If your current girlfriend is showing some of the signs above, talk to her about it. If this does not solve the problem, then it would be better to end the relationship before it goes too far.
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I’m tired of reading and listening to all sorts of instructive materials about how, once a guy is classified as a “friend,” he loses the chance to sleep with his “girlfriend.” Tired of stupid advice from under-pickers on how to try to get a young lady excited. I'm tired of these stories and cunning schemes.
The other day we read that a girl determines in the first 20 seconds who she is dealing with: her potential lover, or a loser who will give her gifts and receive a smile in return. That's all. And then nothing can be changed.
This is all nonsense, guys. We asked around non-muslin beauties and identified 8 real reasons why they might refuse to copulate with a male. And the “friend zone” is just a specially invented nonsense so as not to “take a long time to explain what’s wrong.” We have nowhere to rush - pay attention.
1. Odor and dirt
Just let’s not say “That’s what a man smells like”! For some reason, everyone else smells like soap and hat, but here, here, there’s a stinking guy in there. You yourself sniff the girls and feel how excitement grows from this. It is foolish to believe that the aroma a la a downed jerboa will not repel the chosen one. She could probably handle a long-distance conversation, but that's about it. If the problem is not that you do not wash, then you should consult a doctor. Most likely, digestive problems. It is strongly recommended to remove dirt in the ears and under the nails.
2. Non-brutal defects
We fully believe that if there is a beard, she will say “yes.” But if you have a runny mustache, it’s definitely a no. So, any mustache already calls sex into question. Whatever it is, a beard does not always tilt in the desired direction of the bed. And the hairstyle. To hell with excess vegetation! Now let’s take a mirror and see what else to send to it: unaesthetic moles, warts, ripples and we don’t know what else is located on your face. What? How to remove it? Put your shyness in the back of your mind and look into a beauty salon.
3. Yellow teeth and chapped lips
What did you want? Okay, if you choose ladies whose oral cavity is also not great. But when you’re targeting queens, and the cleansers themselves use are Dirol without sugar, and your lips look like they’ve been sanded, then you shouldn’t hope for the best. We have information about teeth whitening, but buy a hygiene kit. But don't show it to anyone! Let this be your highlight, not for someone else’s compote.
4. General style
In short, unless you're dressed like the Alphaman from JQ. Go get some new clothes, otherwise you won’t attract mamzel in a vest with big pockets and poor pants. Woolen tights won't drag you into bed either, will they?
5. An utter heresy comes out of your mouth
Remember. You didn't have any exes. No one has ever abandoned you. You doubt who is better: Palahniuk or Bradbury, reading both in one gulp (and read! At least something.). Less about herself, let her speak for herself. Repeat her last words sometimes. This creates the appearance that you are listening carefully. By the way, you don’t have a mother either. And there is no God. These are all anti-sexual topics. Get her on the path to frank conversations. And more seriously. A pun can be brutally broken right at the finish line.
6. Saggy or swollen body
Continuing with the selection of queens. When breasts are larger than a woman’s, when jokes about beer pregnancy become more frequent, when a small person can only be seen in the mirror, or when, on the contrary, arms and legs seem glued together with matchsticks, then the gym becomes a temple. Where you have to sacrifice yourself 3-4 times a week.
There are different periods in any relationship, and even if there was passion between you just a couple of months ago, everything can change in one day. One of the common problems is that a girl no longer wants her partner as much as before. For some reason, she tries to limit close contact and avoids you more and more often. But before it was completely different... What happened and can it be fixed?
Why the girl I love doesn’t want me: answers to questions.
It all started well - almost immediately you had intimacy, and you saw that she liked it. And then a few weeks or months passed, and everything changed dramatically. Your girlfriend has become more distant and does not allow you near her body. Well, you suffer quietly and think that the problem is you. Is it so?
“Why doesn’t the girl I love want me?”- boys and men are increasingly asking this question. After all, the relationship was passionate and it seemed to you that everything was fine with you. If your girlfriend begins to refuse you more and more often, you need to change your relationship.
First of all, we need to talk . Perhaps her reluctance is explained by problems in the family, at work or at school. In this case, you just need to support the girl and wait out this unfavorable period.
The second reason why she may refuse you is that she lacks passion and adventure. Try to fix this, try to diversify your bed life. Try new positions, buy some toys from an adult store.
The most unpleasant and painful reason for refusal is that the girl has lost her love for you . Some representatives of the fair sex quickly fall in love and just as quickly “burn out.” If your girlfriend told you that her crush on you has already passed, we advise you to start looking for a new girlfriend.
It is also possible that you are not satisfying your girlfriend as a man. She is not happy with your technology or she thinks that you are too quick to cope with your needs and ignore her desires. Don't be selfish and give her more attention and time, she will definitely appreciate it.
In addition, you must take into account the individual needs of your girlfriend. Perhaps her body does not need frequent intimacy and once every 1-2 weeks is enough for her. If this does not suit you, you will have to look for a more active girl.
Another reason why your girlfriend has lost her fire and passion - romance has disappeared in the relationship. This often happens when people date for a long time. To avoid repeating the same mistake, try to go for walks more often, visit cafes and cinemas, give her flowers and inexpensive little things.
Too much criticism towards her
Come on, remember if you criticize your girlfriend too often. For example, this thing doesn’t fit well on her or she’s overweight, you don’t like this makeup, etc. You can criticize, but in moderation and correctly. If she constantly listens to comments in her direction, it is unlikely that she will want to give you pleasure in bed.
What to do if a girl doesn't want you?
First of all, you should not draw premature conclusions. Only the two of you can solve this problem, so you cannot avoid talking alone. Ask her to explain why she began to treat you differently. Based on the girl’s answer, you need to look for a way out. It is important here that both compromise and want to change the situation. Help her solve her problems at work, support her other half, give her a nice gift, diversify her leisure time with toys for adults. If all these techniques do not help and the relationship remains at the same level, it will lead to a break.
If your partner doesn't satisfy you, don't ignore your own needs and put up with it. In the end, this will lead to betrayal. Even though breakups are painful, why don't you look for another girl?
Not all women can enjoy all the delights of sexual life. There are various sexual problems that mainly answer the question - why a girl cannot cum.
Let's turn to science to explain the phenomenon when a woman does not experience orgasm; in popular words, a woman cannot cum during sex.
Frigidity
Frigidity refers to sexual coldness, in which a woman is indifferent or averse to sex. Women enter into intimate relationships, but only in order to live as a family and give birth to a child.
Why a woman can't come is much less of their concern than how to pretend she's having an orgasm during sex. Typically, such women have no idea about their illness, since they do not know what to compare sensations with during sexual intercourse.
Anorgasmia
A distinctive feature of anorgasmia is that women are able to experience pleasant sensations during intercourse, but the girl does not cum. In this case, the woman does not understand what to do and makes attempts to either make changes in the sexual relationship, or change her partner. The problem is not solved, but new ones appear.
Statistics: according to research, 45% of women suffer from anorgasmia to one degree or another. 25% of women have never experienced orgasm. It is difficult to obtain exact figures, since not all women agree to take part in such a delicate study. And men are still looking for an answer to why a girl doesn’t cum for a long time and who is to blame.
Of course, an incompetent partner could also be the reason. After all, every woman enjoys various caresses, some need to be properly warmed up, some love fast and sparkling sex - everything is individual.
Causes of sexual coldness in women
The causes of frigidity and anorgasmia can be the following:
- Disorders of orgasm and sexual sensitivity are a disease of an endocrine and gynecological nature. It may be a consequence of intoxication of the body, as well as damage to the brain or spinal cord, depression, fatigue and overwork, or taking medications.
- Retardation anorgasmia and frigidity are the result of delayed psychosexual development as a result of isolation from peers of the opposite sex, excessive preoccupation with studies, and communication problems.
Psychogenic anorgasmia, frigidity - occurs due to mental reasons of inhibition of sexual functions. This can be triggered by fears associated with sex (for example, fear of unwanted pregnancy), very strict upbringing, sexual violence, negative impressions from the first sexual experience, mismatch of sexual temperaments in a couple, a conflict situation in a couple, a man ignoring the individual characteristics of sexual arousal in a woman, disappointment in partner
Constitutional frigidity is the same as being born without an ear for music. But some believe that sexologists came up with this myth to justify ineffective treatment.
How to treat sexual coldness
Treatment must be under the supervision of a sex therapist. Special medications, physical therapy, psychological counseling and psychotherapy are often recommended. If a man does not turn away from his beloved, but lends a helping hand, the couple has every chance to solve the problem in their favor and plunge together into the genuine world of sexual pleasures.
