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Each of us imagines (well, at least approximately) how to make a man fall in love with us, and how he will behave after the emergence of tender feelings. First dates, tender touches, long night correspondence and sudden meetings at any time of the day... But all this may not happen if the beloved man is married.

A free guy has nothing holding him back, and he can behave relaxed and calm (read the article for how exactly). With a married man, it’s a completely different story, if he is not a professional reveler.

How a man behaves will depend primarily on his moral qualities, no matter how pretentious it may sound. And also on how important family is to him. If he is determined to save the marriage, only languid glances, subtle touches and sad sighs await you.

A suffering man makes not only himself unhappy, but also the women around him

arrow_left A suffering man makes not only himself unhappy, but also the women around him

If he is a decent family man, it will be difficult for him to openly show interest. There is a constant struggle going on inside: the desire to be close to his beloved and touch her comes into conflict with shame in front of the woman whom this Casanova has already managed to marry.

It is more difficult for a married man to allow himself to fall in love “in an adult way” if he is not yet ready to break the ties of Hymen. He won’t be able to show love openly either; you need to pay attention to hidden signs that a man simply cannot control.

So, a married man is definitely in love if he:

constantly trying to catch your eye;
turns his body towards you even if he is talking to someone else;
smiles at you with or without reason;
always ready to help;
next to you he becomes cheerful or thoughtful;
writes on any occasion.

The desire to get closer competes with the need to keep your distance. Another sign of falling in love: a married man looks like a schoolboy who has been overwhelmed by sympathy for the first time. No matter how old he is, teenage behavior will still hatch. Embarrassment, ridiculous phrases, even reddened cheeks - all this can give away even a brutal alpha.

Secret love correspondence is a pleasant and exciting thing, although dangerous.

arrow_left Secret love correspondence is a pleasant and exciting thing, although dangerous.

If you have already met before, it is even easier to understand whether there is sympathy or not. The psychology of a person in love forces him to curry favor with his sweetheart in every possible way and awakens the desire to be (or at least seem) better than he is. Otherwise, how else can you make a woman fall in love with you?

You can read even more signs of male love in the article.

Psychologists say that a man who is ready to cheat will involuntarily touch the wedding ring, twisting it. This is a sign of a desire to remove it along with the marriage shackles.

If you are a single woman interested in a long-term serious relationship, you shouldn’t rush headlong into the pool. A more important task appears: to understand what exactly the married man wants - to simply fall in love and take advantage, or is he ready for a deeper relationship.

Do you have plans for a married man? Of course, you don’t have to give them up right away. But keep in mind: the unspoken vital statistics are disappointing. Most men are simply looking for entertainment on the side and are not going to leave their wife. Therefore, do not have any special illusions, even if his every action looks like a sign of sincere feelings.

Romantic relationships should bring positivity, not sadness.

arrow_left Romantic relationships should bring positivity, not sadness.

It’s better to start with neutral communication, more like friendship than love. The chronic Don Juan is only interested in bed games. He won’t listen for hours to your stories about childhood, whereas a man who is truly in love is important to every fact about his sweetheart.

If you managed to make a married man fall in love with you, and he realized that you are “the one,” no one will delay the divorce. But constantly making excuses and looking for reasons why this cannot be done is a bad sign. A romance that means nothing to a man can drag on for years, and it will end with the phrase “Sorry, I still love my wife.”

This situation is described in detail in the article. True, there she is viewed from the wife’s side, but still read it in order to better understand the motives of such a man.

Sooner or later, he will still understand who he needs - his legal wife or a new lover. And the truth is that for the sake of what he wants, he will be ready to do anything. If he wants, he will move mountains, and rush in in the middle of the night with fruit, and go to the registry office to file for divorce. But only if he really wants to.

Even if the husband is sure that he is the real Stirlitz and the God of conspiracy, it is almost impossible to avoid a puncture. Men often forget how picky and attentive to detail women are. It is O N who may not notice the twentieth new dress or the changed hairstyle of her missus, but SHE will notice everything.

You can be stressed if:

the husband suddenly decided that scrambled eggs in lard are the enemy of his long-lost abs, and he urgently needs to sign up for the gym;
shabby T-shirts and washed family shirts were replaced by new fashionable wardrobe items;
at night, instead of the usual snoring, a quiet clicking sound is heard on the mobile phone display;
bed games are replaced by the dry “I’m so tired, maybe we should just sleep?”;
the aroma of shower gel was replaced by expensive perfume.

Unfaithful husbands often forget that the wife knows exactly what her husband becomes when he falls in love: she has already been through all this.

Each man experiences guilt in his own way. Someone begins to fuss more about the deceived spouse, who may not yet even suspect it: sudden gifts or flowers “for no reason” (remember: has this ever happened before?), unquestioning fulfillment of household duties, even those from which he usually disowned.

The hero of “Love Actually” seriously messed up on a gift. And adultery did not bring happiness to anyone

arrow_left The hero of “Love Actually” seriously messed up on a gift. And adultery did not bring happiness to anyone

Such an attraction of unprecedented generosity can abruptly give way to a negative manifestation of guilt: a man suddenly becomes a beech, refuses any conversations and takes out his irritation on the nearest woman. And immediately after this, obedience returns, and the husband tries in every possible way to correct his mistakes...

Of course, such “symptoms” are not 100% proof that the spouse has found someone else. But you shouldn’t ignore sudden changes either. And how to deal with the third wheel is up to you.

And finally

You want to spend as much time as possible with the object of your passion, especially during the candy-bouquet period. But even a banal trip to the cinema can become a real problem if the beloved is expected home after work, and on the weekend he has to go to his mother-in-law’s dacha.

Falling asleep and waking up next to your lover is very pleasant, and such actions also have meaning for men. But can he guarantee such joy at least once a week? Yes, and it’s hard to realize that the man you love has left your bed for the house where his wife is waiting.

It’s worth thinking three times about how necessary such a relationship is. A married man and a free woman is an old fairy tale that rarely has a happy ending.

Finally - an unusual technique

Let's do a thought experiment.

Imagine that you have the superpower to “read” men. It’s like Sherlock Holmes: you look at a man and you immediately know everything about him and understand what’s on his mind. You would hardly be reading this article now in search of a solution to your problem - you would not have any problems in your relationship at all.

And who said that this is impossible? Of course, you can’t read other people’s thoughts, but otherwise there is no magic here - only psychology.

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Are you over 30, but still not married and don’t have a girlfriend? Have you been a confirmed bachelor all these years, but now you realize that something in your life is going wrong? Are you ready to give up your single life, but don't know how to find your soulmate? You are not alone in your search!

Thirty years is an interesting stage, both in the life of a woman and in the life of a man. Especially if the man has not started a family before this time. Who are you, an unmarried man over 30?

For any man, the most valuable value in his life is freedom. And the younger he is, the higher the price of freedom. A man views any woman, even the most beloved and beautiful one, as an encroachment on this super-value. He is partly right - sweet and naive girls, starting from about 18-20 years old, want to receive family happiness from a man (that is, a stamp in the passport, love, protection, children and other family joys). And a man of this age wants exactly the opposite - to enjoy his freedom to the fullest. He is faced with a choice: to sacrifice freedom for the sake of his beloved girl and family, or to maintain freedom, but lose both girl and family. Those who chose the first option, for the most part, live quite prosperously. But for those who could not part with freedom, a turning point begins at the age of 30.

For an unmarried man over 30, his freedom is gradually turning from a super value into a super burden. Yes Yes exactly! What's going on? Saturation sets in - short-lived romances with girls you don’t know well no longer bring satisfaction, the girls themselves become painfully similar to each other, but the worst awaits you at home. There is a beast waiting at home, whose name is loneliness. The life of a bachelor is mostly depressing: eternal chaos in the house, monotonous food from semi-finished products for breakfast, lunch and dinner, in the interlocutors there is a TV or a computer. Your married friend is jealous because he can't bring a prostitute home like you can, but you know the truth - you don't need prostitutes. You need what you frivolously gave up several years ago: a cozy home, varied food, washed clothes every day, care and attention, the knowledge that the one who loves you is waiting for you at home...

On the other hand, not all is lost! 30 years is a fruitful age at which you can build a family. It is possible, but not as easy as it seems. Girls under 30 are looking for guys their age, and women over 30 have either already found their happiness or don’t need a husband at all. Taking a closer look, you realize that neither one nor the other just wants to take care of you and make your life easier. You must not only receive the necessary care and warmth, but also give something in return. If you have something to offer a girl, you can be congratulated. But, most likely, you have nothing special to offer. While enjoying your freedom, you did not develop your potential, but simply spent your strength and health on satisfying your desires. It is not surprising that even young and naive girls look at you condescendingly. The only thing left to do is either persistently continue to look for the one who will become your family, or sign yourself up as a convinced bachelor out of despair...

But, as Chinese folk wisdom says, from any hopeless situation there are at least 42 ways out. Often men over 30 are accompanied by unpleasant companions - mild apathy or depression and alcoholism generated by it. Are you likely to suffer from depression too? Or is it just mild apathy? It's time for you to see a psychologist! In order to radically change your life (and this is exactly what you want to do, isn’t it?), you must first remove apathy at the root or get out of depression and shake off the alcoholic stupor. A few sessions of psychotherapy - and you are ready for battle!

Having recovered, you understand that any woman needs to offer something in exchange for care. Don’t even think about being offended by the female gender for being too commercial; it’s better to think about what the situation looks like from her side: she maintains order in the house, works to provide for herself, and may already be raising one or two children. In general, my mouth is full of worries. And then a certain man over 30, who, in fact, is nothing of himself, wants her to take care of him too! Does she need it? The answer is obvious.

The most commonplace way to attract a girl is to provide yourself with a decent income (allowing her, for example, not to work, but to do housework). The idea is not bad, but most likely you have already realized that it is not so easy for a person with wasted potential to earn a lot of money in our turbulent world. We need another option.

The first time I realized this was when I was about thirty. I communicate a lot and with pleasure with people, and it must be some strange property of my head that makes me often think about life.

You know, I came to the conclusion that nature had a great laugh at us, making us completely different not only in our bodies, but also in our brains. And from these inconsistencies the eternal dramas of life grow.

Let’s say, what does the average girl, up to twenty-five years old, think about?

It's simple. The average girl doesn't want to be alone. She wants to have a beloved man, ideally - to go with this man to the registry office, give birth to a child, or better yet two, and live a long time as a happy and friendly family.

What does the average boy, up to twenty-five years old, think about?

Although it’s clear here, I’ll give you a hint. It’s not for nothing that the phrase “I haven’t worked up yet” is used much more often specifically for men.

Boys are the wind. No, they probably also want to have a girl, but a few are better, and for the most part, there’s no talk of going to the registry office and having a child.

But five years pass. Or seven. Or ten. And everything changes. The boys suddenly realize that girls alternating with a kaleidoscopic frequency are, of course, funny, but... require too much investment - and not so much material as moral. Because while you’re still crazy, while you go through this whole pre-bed ritual of semi-marital dances... but in the end everything is almost the same.

And you still have to get up and look for someone. For what? For sex? Funny. Very funny. This all becomes both complicated and lazy with age. This is where the realization comes that this very freedom that boys are so afraid of losing in their youth is, in fact, a whore.

Over thirty and free - go wherever you want. But, in general, there’s nowhere to go. What, really, should you get up and go to a tavern, and sit there, drink beer, or whatever, and look out? Or on a dating site? And then persuade her, take her out for a walk - is it necessary, will it be worth it?

Over thirty and free - do what you want. But, it turns out, there’s not much to do. Especially in the evenings. And you sit, scratch your belly, stare at the TV and remember who else is there in your address book - and either you’re already busy, or all this happened and happened, and you don’t want to anymore.

And suddenly it dawns on yesterday’s boys that playing in bed every time with a fresh bird is, of course, not bad, but... it’s boring, and this bird also needs to be taken somewhere.

And you, already slightly beaten by life, just want to sleep more and you, while still rare, already have a ache somewhere in the back area...

And that’s not even the main thing - you already want someone to just cook you that same borscht, delicious, pour it with sour cream, and watch, smiling, how you, hungry, having come from the cold to a warm apartment, sit and gobble it up on both cheeks . And to hell with the boring dumplings that have long been petrified in the freezer.

And then for someone to bring you tea.

And then they would clean your cup and plate after you, and you wouldn’t have to wash them. And it’s not even about the plates or the borscht, but about the fact that you want to come to an apartment where someone is waiting. To an apartment where your shirts appear clean and ironed themselves, where your bed has already been made by someone, and there is no centimeter layer of dust on the windowsill.

To an apartment where it’s just warm and cozy.

And suddenly the understanding comes that the very sex you were chasing is now more regular not with you, but with your married friend. Because you still need to find it, this sex, but with a friend - yes, here it is, always at hand. And even though his wife is not so ideal, and not at all a model, and she has developed sides and a tummy, she is just there.

I noticed a long time ago: the age of a little after thirty is the very rubicon after which still unmarried men en masse want to get married. They suddenly realize that it’s not so good to be alone, and they begin to seriously look and search.

And this is where it turns out that nature is a big joker! - I had a great laugh at everyone. And I laughed heartily.

And it suddenly turns out that there is no one in particular to marry.

Young birds are increasingly looking towards the same young gentlemen (who then, “without having enough of a walk”, will leave them with the children), and why the hell did you, an old thirty-five-year-old horseradish, with the first gray hairs in your hair, surrender to a young girl?

Well, if only you were immensely rich, if only you had a jeep and a lot of money...

But no, you - well, admit it! - completely average, you go to work from nine to six from Monday to Friday, and your salary is the same, the average. And you understand: if you start a family, then in order for you to live normally, your woman must also work, and even if you manage everything, it will be with great difficulty.

No, the young cockerels that the young hens look at are just as poor as you, but they, these cockerels, have a main and undeniable advantage: they are young. And you're not very good anymore. And that’s why younger girls didn’t put you and your gray hair on their lists.

And you begin to look closely at those ladies who are already older. They are also good and have aged like wine, and they clearly know how to cook that same borscht, and...

And this is where the main ambush awaits. They, older women, are already too “sophisticated” to just be with you. Simply because you are you.

They are already drunk on this life, they have already gotten divorced for the first time and are dragging their children, and the main thing is that they already understand too well that a family is not only the ease of being, but also shirts, and socks, and dust on the windowsill; and that a man is nearby is another concern.

And a woman has enough worries, besides a man. Especially if there are children.

And they no longer look at how beautiful and funny you are, they look at what you can give in return, for taking care of yourself and for that very borscht.

But if you think about it, you can’t give a damn thing.

Salary? Do not make me laugh. You are average, she is too, and therefore she earns no less than you (and sometimes more), and therefore only you will benefit from this union: she will provide for herself without you, only now she will have more household chores, because historically it turned out that way : Housework is always women's work.

And what she could previously put off until later, or not do at all, will now have to be done, because there is you with your borscht and shirts that need to be ironed for you.

Sex? It's funny. Only she has blossomed sexually, and she needs and needs, and you are slowly fading away, and now you are lazy once a week - quite enough to feel serene.

But not enough to look after you for the rest of the time.

Are you, as they say, “hands-on”? How many hands does that apartment need? Look, it's not a house in the village. Is it true that “hands are golden”? Or do you have to be asked ten times until you hammer in that notorious nail?

Well, admit it.

A man in the house who will protect her from life's problems? Oh-oh!

She will most likely get a sloth with a pot belly and old pants.

So it comes to a circle, if you think well, that when you get married, you will receive borscht, shirts and care for yourself, and she... extra work in the house and, by and large, another child. Adult only.

And she understands this perfectly. And therefore she looks at you much more than you look at her.

“We choose, we are chosen, how often this does not coincide...”

There, at the beginning, I said that closer to thirty I realized something.

So, I realized that a man over thirty needs a family much more than a woman of the same age.

But nature joked even more. Ask what? I'll tell you, it's very simple.

Women are psychologically stronger than men, this is a known fact. Women are mentally tougher.

Yes, man is a paired creature, that’s for sure. And we all, at least somewhere, in our souls, are afraid of being alone. And women are afraid too. But often a sober look at the potential “man nearby” and what he will bring to a woman’s life outweighs this fear. And besides, women most often have children at this age. And they are with her. And what about a man?

And it is men of the “pro” age who need a family like nothing else.

And it is men who, out of loneliness, most often begin to drink too much. And go down.

No, we are not talking about marginality at all, it’s just that everything becomes somehow not particularly necessary, and it simply doesn’t make much sense. Achieve something - why? For whom or what?

And there’s no point in taking special care of yourself anymore.

Put next to ten average women without husbands, aged about forty, and ten of the same average men without wives - and you will understand everything yourself.

It’s just how it was and how it will always be: it’s the woman who makes the man.

And he doesn’t just do it - it is women who ultimately look after men and it is they, women, who most often keep men afloat.

And therefore, men, right now, tear your butts off the sofas and go kiss your wives. Well, those men who have wives.

And for the rest - well, the rest, God grant that they find...

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Why do men remain single? Especially at the age of 30, when most of their peers, if they have not acquired numerous offspring, are already discussing this issue with their wives and brides. There are 10 types of 30-year-old bachelors, and each has its own reason. One of the most famous network figures, Tim Urban, author of the Wait By Why resource, which provides “help with procrastination”, decided to understand these reasons: there is something to distract you from work.

1. Mister Perfect

Mr. Ideal is smart - he graduated from a good university. He is an athlete, musician and experienced traveler, handsome and well-groomed. Mr. Ideal has an excellent career, but is not a workaholic. He is excellent in everything, but there are difficulties in his life.

It is very difficult for him to find a girl who will be worthy of his greatness.

Yes, a girl who suits the Ideal must be the limit of absolute perfection. She is beautiful, charming and charismatic, the soul of any company, a rising star in her field and the object of adoration of many friends. She is unusually good in bed, an excellent cook, she is loving, forgiving and selfless. And yes, she also speaks French, plays tennis, sings beautifully, reads a lot and loves history. His Juliet.

It's no surprise that Mister Perfect is single. In his soul there is a terrible battle between high standards and the fear of remaining alone at 40 years old. A forty-year-old bachelor is something too far from ideal.

2. Suddenly free

As long as people know him, he has always been part of a long-established couple. They didn’t look particularly happy, but everyone was sure that sooner or later the union would be crowned wedding. Then a painful breakup, followed by a painful adaptation to loneliness, and suddenly - wow! The guy was covered with a wave of delight. He doesn't really understand what it's like to be alone, but he's happy as hell, and screw it all, he's going to party.

The suddenly free one is watched with quiet melancholy by the humble groom. His relationship is no better than it was with Free, but everything somehow goes on as usual, comfortably, by inertia, and there is no need to tell him what Suddenly Free has come up with again.

3. Representative of the nation

If he marries a girl who is not his own nationality, his mother will never, ever speak to him again.

Finding a person with whom you want to live your whole life is not too easy, but now your parents have made the task almost impossible. He, of course, tried to rebel, but his mother simply did not let his last girlfriend into the house, the girlfriend cried, and the Representative of the Nation resigned himself.

If only my mother would give up trying to set him up with someone.

4. Misogynist

As you might guess, he hates women, and women hate him. The misogynist knows absolutely nothing about women, but he knows for sure how many he has slept with - 214. All these connections happened before, when he was young and more or less attractive. Now only a person with very, very low self-esteem would agree to have sex with him.

The Misogynist is a close relative of the Serial Cheater. They are, of course, different people, but they understand each other well.

5. School star

Once upon a time, a long time ago, he was the ultimate dream of any 17-year-old girl. High self-esteem helped him a lot during his studies, and no one was surprised when, at the age of 20, he found himself a sweet, smart and beautiful girl, quite worthy of a ring. However, he is just beginning to live! How much has not yet been tried, not explored, he told himself, and he broke up with his girlfriend when he was 24.

Seven years later, his hair had thinned and his fame as a high school basketball player had faded. He began to notice that girls like his ex-girlfriend no longer paid attention to him. Realizing that time was ticking and we weren't getting any better, he took a deep breath and lowered his standards considerably.

6. Former botanist

The complete opposite of the previous type, this guy by the age of 30 had lost weight, learned to dress and succeeded in his work. The former botanist receives more female attention every day than in the entire first 25 years of his life. Girls just go crazy about him - they can't understand how such an attractive man can also be so sweet and respectful. The answer is simple: deep down, he still believes that he is unworthy of female attention.

7. Not yet met

He's a normal guy, he just hasn't met his one and only yet. It happens, and you don’t need to look at him with such sympathy.

He likes his job, his friends, his life. He is in no hurry to start a relationship, but is sure that one day he will meet his girlfriend and get married.

He doesn’t quite understand why everyone he knows is worried about him. His parents never miss a chance to ask if he is dating anyone. Friends every now and then offer to introduce me to someone. The person who has not yet met him is glad to receive the support, but he really wants those around him to stop thinking that there is something wrong with him.

8. Desperately Seeking

The guy simply cannot believe that he is still not married. He always had a girlfriend, even in school. Both in college and when he was twenty and older, he was always the guy who had a girlfriend. He felt sorry for his single friends for years, and at the age of 30 he found himself in their place.

He has four accounts on dating sites, and when people ask him if he's dating someone, he says he's too busy with his career to be in a relationship.

9. Uninterested

He is almost the perfect example of a man: handsome, well dressed, with a great job. He is funny, charming and a pleasant conversationalist. The picture is spoiled by one tiny “but”: he is not interested in women at all.

10. Surrender

From the very beginning he didn’t try too hard, but now he’s stopped even pretending that he’s trying to get to know someone. He doesn't like bars, he refuses online dating, and the main place in his life is taken up by the sofa, the screen and the game console.

Deep down, the Surrenderer is afraid of everything, and therefore lives frozen. Only one thing will help him: if a very persistent girl likes him. Until that moment, don’t even pester him, it’s useless.

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Something like this: I didn’t eat today, I’ll eat tomorrow, because it’s not going anywhere. It is always there. Unlike the previous hunt, when if not now, then it’s not a fact that later. Excuse me, “maximum hour,” but what’s the minimum? 11.10.2006 16:45:23, yyy. Well, half an hour. And what? Little or much?

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for women the norm of words per day is about 3,000, for men 2,000. Each person spends 2,000 per working day. 09.28.2001 10:21:00, Ku. You know, apparently I’m almost like that, at least >. 1st: Well, how is family life? I’m single and everything is fine! 2nd: What do you bachelors understand!! I...

If it used to be considered a shameful vice for a woman to date a “married man,” now it is somewhat depressingly ubiquitous. The psychology of relationships with a married man is no longer surprising to anyone. Although it would seem natural that this is wrong and bad. What to do and how to act in a situation where, as in the song “I love a married man”?

Psychology - the “Why” aspect

So why are women constantly drawn to the seemingly forbidden? They are not blind, not stupid, and are often fully aware of what they are doing. As well as the consequences. But all the same, as if into a pool, they rush headlong into dangerous, dubious relationships.

We can start with the fact that, of course, how many people there are, so many different opinions. Each woman had her own reason for starting such a relationship and each of them answered the question - Is it worth it? - differently. And, nevertheless, there is a specific number of reasons:

Everything is ready. A married man is, as a rule, already an accomplished person. Both in the family, in society and in career.

Freedom. You don’t need to wait for him to come home in the evening, cook his food, wash his clothes, or somehow keep track of your actions. Another woman is already doing all this. The mistress has much more free time, which she can spend on herself.

Celebration atmosphere. If the wife sees a man in all his remarkable and not so beautiful, then the woman on the side is familiar only with his positive qualities.

Money. Comments here will be unnecessary.

Reluctance to get married. Sometimes a situation happens when you want love, but getting married is quite the opposite. Then the point about freedom and easy relationships results in this one. A married man will not demand any special obligations from his mistress.

Low self-esteem. The thought that there are catastrophically few good men around and the fear of loneliness sometimes push women to do something else. Therefore, they are content with “what is”.

Hopes. Love is evil... or, to use the proverb: without fish, there’s cancer – fish. Especially if this “cancer” every now and then promises to leave his family for her, beloved and unique. And the woman believes these words. And this belief in her exclusivity, that everything will be different for her than everyone else, forces her to remain in such relationships. But life is not a film with a lyrical ending or a love book. In reality, such promises often remain empty promises.

Relationship with a married man

What to do if a woman nevertheless decides to start a relationship with a “married man”? The psychologist’s advice on this matter is based on the basic principle: you need to be realistic. That is, ready for the fact that such love can suddenly end at any moment. And you certainly can’t gossip about such a relationship with your friend.

The main plus and at the same time minus is that no one owes anything to each other. It is not difficult to sleep with a married man whom you love, but it will not be easy for a woman to start dating him and, moreover, to keep him close to her and make some plans. Under no circumstances should meetings be advertised, otherwise this will immediately undermine trust. You shouldn’t put pressure on a man with your connection either - he understands perfectly well that he has no obligations to you. He already has a family with a wife and children. If he needs a relationship on the side, he can always find himself another, less demanding passion. Therefore, if the goal is to win the heart of this particular man, you will have to work hard, measuredly and carefully, making him fall in love with you and everything that will be associated with her.

But it’s still far from a fact that a man will leave his family for his mistress. The fact is that a man cannot just pick up and go to where he will be better off. Most likely, if the marriage breaks up, it will not be because of the lady he loves on the side, but because of the great discord in his own family. Only if the legitimate relationship did not show itself well or burned out, turning out to be a mistake, then the man will divorce and go to his passionately awaiting mistress. Otherwise, no forces of great love will force him to leave his native nest called “family.”

Exit from the cage

Sooner or later, the realization comes that the man is still not going to leave the house with children and a married woman, but he no longer wants to put up with this. How to end such a relationship?

The advice of psychologists is quite simple: you need to mentally prepare yourself before breaking off a relationship with a married man. Write down all his shortcomings on paper and look at this piece of paper more often. Think about the question: is it really necessary? Most likely, the mistress of a married man has no prospects in terms of her own family well-being. And sooner or later, every woman will want to have her own children and a normal family. Then karma will definitely not be on this woman’s side...

How to end a relationship?

Secret meetings and constant secrecy can also adversely affect the general background of life. Especially with a man who is younger than his second chosen one. You need to decisively declare this intention to your married partner, calmly and rationally convey your point of view to him. This relationship does not have the future that you want. You will have to come to terms with the separation and be sure to ask them never to bother you again. This is difficult, but otherwise, instead of a period, a blurry comma will appear in the relationship. Especially if a man tries to dissuade his mistress from such a “hasty decision.” It could be a parting gift in the form of a last date or something similar. But in reality, this is just a trick to avoid ending the relationship.