Elementary rules of etiquette.

All of us have long been accustomed to, coming, wherever it was in rainy weather, to immediately open an umbrella. Yes, indeed, this is how it dries the fastest, but according to the rules of etiquette, such a maneuver is completely unacceptable. Why? Everything is very simple: if you open an umbrella in the office or in any other public place, others will do the same, the umbrellas will fill the whole space and it will be quite difficult to move around such a “field”, so the umbrella must be folded (but not twisted, otherwise through an unpleasant odor may appear for a while) and place in the umbrella stand. If one is not at hand, you can lean the umbrella against the wall.

Bag on the floor

All residents of Europe put handbags on the floor, often it causes some bewilderment for us, which is not surprising, we are used to forever hugging our bags, and meanwhile, this is contrary to all the rules of etiquette. The good manners rule says: you can put a small clutch on the table next to you, as for other bags, they must be hung on the back of a chair (but not put on the next seat) or placed on the floor, they definitely won’t interfere with anyone.

Hats must be removed indoors.

If today you decide to leave the house in an elegant hat and gloves, then you can safely enter the room in this form - the rules of etiquette do not prohibit this (naturally, if you do not plan to spend the whole day in a hat or decide to go to the theater in a hat) , but it’s better to take off your hat and mittens. In the end, if you have already decided to be a lady, you need to remain her to the end, even in forty degrees of frost.

Keep track of decorations

According to etiquette, the number of jewelry items that are simultaneously on a woman should not exceed thirteen units, and jewelry buttons are also in mind. In addition, it is completely inadmissible to wear a ring over gloves, but a bracelet is completely. The high cost of your jewelry should also be taken care of, the main rule here remains the same: the darker it is outside, the more expensive and larger the jewelry. Avoid combinations of several jewelry made of different metals. It is not recommended to wear gold and silver at the same time, as well as to combine jewelry with real jewelry or with products made from natural materials. The same applies to precious stones: only pearls and diamonds are combined with all stones, and colored sapphires, emeralds, rubies should not be worn at the same time.

How to pay for an order in a restaurant

And although we women love to talk about “he should pay for me,” this statement is only partly true. So, for example, if you invite a man to a restaurant, with the specific wording “I invite”, then you thereby confirm your willingness to pay not only for yourself, but also for the invitee. The same is true with a business lunch (dinner / breakfast): if a woman invites her partner to a restaurant, she pays. Only the phrase remains saving: “Let's go to a restaurant”, only in this case the bill can be divided in half, and if you come across a noble companion, then, most likely, he will pay for you.

Don't talk about diets

Our favorite topic is weight loss: new types of fitness, diets, miracle drinks and so on. But if you do not want to give the wrong impression to others, you will have to leave all the talk about lost pounds at home. Your interlocutors, unless, of course, this is your best friend, are absolutely not interested in exactly how much you have lost over the past month, how exactly your body reacts to plums or cottage cheese, or plums with cottage cheese, and why your cellulite does not want to disappear. It is especially ugly to refuse the dishes offered to you at a party, etiquette prescribes at least a taste prepared by the hosts, it’s better that the food on your plate remains almost untouched than you publicly declare that the diet allows you only water and green apples, which, as luck would have it, there were no guests.

How to behave in the auditorium

If you ended up in a theater or in a cinema hall later than other spectators, and your place is in the middle of a row, you need to make your way to it only facing those who are sitting. However, it is interesting that in Europe there is a completely opposite rule. It's about mentality, I guess. So, if you are walking down a row in an auditorium somewhere in France, you must turn your back to those who are already sitting, otherwise people will consider you ill-mannered, the same goes for the elevator. Turning your back in Europe does not mean disrespectful at all - on the contrary, in this way you clearly demonstrate that you do not encroach on the personal space of your neighbor.

Rules for the use of perfume

This rule is incredibly concise: do not overdo it with perfume and toilet water, if by the evening you still smell your perfume, be sure that everyone else has already suffocated.

How to eat sushi

It is quite natural that at home you can afford to relax and eat sushi the way you want: with chopsticks, hands, a fork or even a spoon, but in a restaurant you still need to use only chopsticks. True, there is a slight indulgence for men - they are allowed to eat Japanese dishes with their hands.

The man on the left

According to the rules of etiquette, a man should always walk along the street to the left of a woman. This custom has its own history: a few centuries ago, a man could not afford to leave the house without a weapon, as a rule, it was a saber, rapier, sword, dagger or saber, which was attached to the gentleman’s belt on the left, so that the weapon would not hit the beautiful lady on the knees, the gentleman had to go on the left. Today, once forced necessity has become a sign of a good upbringing. The only exception here is the military - they are supposed to go to the right of the companion in order to perform a military greeting if necessary, or, more simply, to salute.

Smartphone on the table - a sign of bad taste

If during a meeting with friends, and even more so - a business lunch, your phone will certainly lie in front of you, and besides, you are constantly distracted by it to check what's new, then you are extremely uninteresting with your interlocutors. By doing so, you show how important the communication device is in your life and how indifferent you are to those in front of you.

When a man should be first

Contrary to the stereotype, a man does not always have to let his lady go first. So, for example, if you can’t go up the stairs side by side, then when ascending, a man walks behind, and when descending, in front. Everything is very logical: if the lady "decides" to fall, then she will fall down. And then on her way there should be a man who will not let her do it. Also, you do not need to skip the lady ahead when entering the elevator. But the lady should go out first - the elevator is still considered a transport of increased danger.

III. Features of wearing individual items of military uniforms 15. Fur hats with earflaps are worn by military personnel with a golden cockade for full dress and everyday uniforms and a protective color for field uniforms. Wearing fur hats with earflaps lowered is allowed at an air temperature of -10 ° C and below, and with headphones tied at the back, when servicing weapons and military equipment, at chores and in other cases by decision of the commanders of military units. With the headphones raised, the ends of the braid are tied and tucked under the headphones, with the headphones lowered, they are tied under the chin. 16. Woolen servicemen wear caps with a golden cockade and a braided cord (lacquered strap). The officers have woolen caps with a braided cord, the rest of the servicemen have a varnished strap. Senior officers wear a woolen cap with gold-colored embroidery on the crown. All servicemen wear field caps in camouflage colors with a golden cockade - with everyday uniforms, khaki - with field uniforms. 17. Woolen military caps are worn with a golden cockade. 18. Fur hats with earflaps and woolen caps are worn straight, without tilt. Caps are put on with a slight slope to the right. In this case, the visor of the woolen cap should be at the level of the eyebrows, and the lower edge of the fur earflap cap and cap should be at a distance of 20-40 mm above the eyebrows. The removed headgear in the ranks and when performing drill techniques is kept as indicated in the Combat Regulations of the Armed Forces of the Russian Federation. Out of formation - in the left freely lowered hand: a hat with earflaps, a woolen cap and a cap should be facing the cockade forward; the lower edge of the cap with earflaps and woolen cap should face the soldier's leg, and the lower edge of the cap should face down. With headgear, military personnel wear 2 needles with white and black threads, which should be: in fur hats with earflaps - under the visor; in caps and wool caps - under the forehead; in field caps - on a finishing tape under the left earpiece. 19. Fur collars are worn only with a woolen coat. For senior officers - from purebred natural astrakhan fur, for other officers - from refined fur sheepskin. 20. Outerwear is worn fastened with all buttons or buttons (textile fasteners), and demi-season raincoats and jackets, in addition, with a belt fastened with a buckle. 21. Woolen military personnel wear jackets zipped up to the level of the coquette. It is allowed to wear a woolen jacket, buttoned up to the top in inclement weather. A cape and a winter field jacket are worn with or without a hood. The distance from the floor to the bottom of items: coats of woolen and demi-season raincoats (except for female military personnel) - 380 - 400 mm; coats of woolen and demi-season raincoats for female military personnel - 380 - 420 mm; skirts - 400 - 440 mm. 22. Shirts (blouses) with long sleeves are allowed to be worn: with a tie, without a woolen tunic (woolen jacket, woolen jacket) in summer (in service premises - in summer and winter) full dress and everyday out of order uniforms; with an unbuttoned top button, without a tie, without a woolen tunic (woolen jacket, woolen jacket) in the office (except for foremen, sergeants, soldiers). Shirts (blouses) with short sleeves are allowed to be worn with the top button unbuttoned, without a tie, without a woolen tunic (woolen jacket, woolen jacket) with summer casual clothing, as well as with a tie - by decision of the commanders of military units. 23. Ties are attached to the shirt with a gold-coloured bartack between the third and fourth buttons from the top. Bow ties are worn with a gold-coloured hairpin. The hairpin is placed in the center of the main details of the bow tie. 24. Woolen trousers for officers and ensigns - with cornflower blue piping in the side seams, for senior officers - with cornflower blue piping and stripes. 25. Winter camouflage field suits are worn with or without a blue-black scarf. It is allowed to wear winter field jackets in camouflage colors with an unbuttoned top button, without insulation, in inclement weather - with a hood, turned up collar, and for officers and ensigns, in addition, without a waist belt out of order. Winter field camouflage trousers are worn tucked into boots with high berets or boots. It is allowed to wear trousers over shoes by decision of the commanders of military units. 26. Summer field camouflage jackets are worn over trousers with a buttoned or unbuttoned top button (with sides in the form of lapels), with a hemmed white collar, the upper edge of which should protrude 1 - 2 mm above the collar. Officers and warrant officers are allowed to wear a summer field camouflage jacket without a collar. It is allowed, by decision of the commanders of military units, to wear field camouflage jackets in hot weather without a T-shirt (t-shirt) and with sleeves rolled up to the lower edge of the sleeve pockets. Summer camouflage field trousers are worn tucked into boots with high berets or boots. It is allowed, by decision of the commanders of military units, to wear trousers over shoes. 27. The scarf is worn neatly tucked in so that the upper edge of the scarf protrudes evenly over the collar by 10 - 20 mm. 28. Gloves are worn with winter uniforms. Otherwise, gloves are not required. 29. Instead of black socks, female military personnel are allowed to wear beige, gray or black stockings (tights). It is not allowed to wear faded socks, unspecified color and pattern. 30. Capes of camouflage colors, raincoats of khaki color are worn by military personnel in inclement weather over clothing. It is allowed to carry a cape in a bag for carrying a cape, and a cape in a roll - on a duffel backpack. 31. Black waist belts are worn: over woolen coats, woolen tunics, woolen jackets, field camouflage jackets; under woolen jackets, shirts - with a holster for a pistol. Waist belts should be located: on woolen coats (except for female military personnel) - between the first and second rows of buttons from the bottom, and behind - be laid behind the strap; on the coat of female military personnel - above the second button from the bottom, and behind - close the belt of the coat; on woolen tunics - close the second button from the bottom; on woolen jackets, camouflage field jackets - at waist level. On the waist belt, on the right thigh, they wear a holster for a pistol. 32. When wearing a field uniform, military personnel wear equipment (waist belt) or an unloading (transport) vest and (or) body armor with equipment elements determined by the commanders of military units: a flask in a case (left rear), a bag for grenades (left front), small a shovel in a case (rear right), a bag for shops (front right); if necessary, attach a raincoat folded into a roll with a back strap of equipment, passing the ends of the belt into the loops of the raincoat; a case with protective stockings and gloves is fastened to the waist belt on the right rear (behind the case with a shovel). The raincoat is folded in the following order: the raincoat is folded four times (bending up and down) with the front side out so that the loops sewn on its lower corner are on the outside of the canvas; the folded canvas is folded twice and then rolled up so that the loops are on the outside of the roll. In the event that the raincoat is not used, it fits into a duffel bag. They put in a duffel bag: a raincoat, spare footcloths (socks), a bowler hat with a mug and a spoon stowed in it, a combat ration of food (or dry rations), a steel helmet in a masking case (in cases when it is not used), toilet accessories, towels and household items - in the pockets of a duffel bag. If necessary, a sleeping bag and a heat-insulating mat are attached to the bottom or to the valve of the duffel bag. Protective raincoats, stockings and gloves are not allowed to be placed in a duffel bag. 33. Field bags are worn on a belt (left back), worn on the right shoulder over items of everyday or field uniforms. 34. Items of military uniforms of military personnel are required to wear established samples, serviceable, clean and ironed. Woolen trousers must have longitudinal smoothed folds (on the front and back halves of the trousers). On other items, the folds are not smoothed out. Shoes must be in good condition and cleaned, shoes must be neatly laced. Wearing shoes with damaged uppers, worn out soles and heels, boots with lowered or wrapped tops is prohibited.

Men's rules of etiquette

1. On the street, a man should walk to the left of the lady. On the right, only military personnel can go, who must be ready to give a military salute.

2. It is necessary to support the woman by the elbow if she stumbled or slipped. But in a normal situation, the decision to take a man by the arm or not is made by the lady.

3. In the presence of a woman, a man does not smoke without her permission.

4. At the entrance and exit to the room, the gentleman opens the door in front of the lady, and he goes behind her.

5. Climbing or descending the stairs, a man secures his companion by walking one or two steps behind or in front, respectively.

6. A man enters the elevator first, and at the exit from it, a lady should be skipped forward.

7. The man gets out of the car first, he bypasses the vehicle and opens the door on the passenger side, while helping the woman out. Provided that the man drives the car himself, he must open the door and support the woman by the elbow when she sits in the front seat. If the man and woman are both taxi passengers, they are supposed to ride in the back seat. The lady is the first to sit in the salon, the man sits next to him.

8. Entering the room, a man should help a woman take off her outer clothing, leaving the room, it is worth giving her clothes.

9. In society, it is also customary not to sit down if the ladies are standing (this also applies to public transport).

10. According to etiquette, a man should not be late for a meeting with a lady. On the contrary, the gentleman should come a few minutes earlier, because his delay can embarrass the lady and put her in an awkward position. In unforeseen cases, it is necessary to warn and apologize for being late.

11. Any woman of any age should be helped to carry large objects and massive bags. They do not include a handbag, a light fur coat or a coat, except in those cases when, for health reasons, she cannot carry them herself.

12. In society, a frank conversation about a lady with a third person is unacceptable, and especially in a male company.

13. During a conversation, a man should not fold his arms over his chest or keep them in his pockets. Also, do not twist different objects in your hands - this is disrespect for the interlocutor.

14. Good to know: A man always enters the restaurant first, the main reason is that on this basis the head waiter has the right to draw conclusions about who is the initiator of coming to the institution and who will pay. In the case of the arrival of a large company - enters first and pays the one from whom the invitation to the restaurant came. But if a porter meets visitors at the entrance, then the man must let the first woman through. After that, the gentleman finds free places.

Women's rules of etiquette

1. You must not take off your hat indoors. Exceptions are cases when you are in the room for more than 10 minutes and cases of work necessity (for example, business negotiations).

2. If they give you a hand for a handshake, you must give yours: for a handshake, the right one, for a kiss - the left one. It is not necessary to remove the glove.

3. Never walk with your hands in your pockets, even in sportswear.

4. Leaving the car, a man should give you a hand. But if he does not do this, it is permissible to go out unaided.

5. At the door, the incoming person lets the outgoing person through, and the man - the woman.

6. It is not permissible to light a cigarette in the presence of a man. If a man does not react in any way, you can ask for a “light”.

7. Do not tilt the bowl of soup in any direction: neither forward nor backward.

8. When you have finished your meal, put the knife and fork on the plate - this is a sign to the waiter that it can be taken away.

9. It is not allowed to use toothpicks at the table, only in the ladies' room.

10. You can not be late for meetings, especially business ones. In extreme cases, the delay is reported by phone and the partner has the right to reschedule the meeting.

11. All drinks are poured by a waiter or a man, even tea.

12. The ideal distance between interlocutors in business negotiations is one meter, between a boss and a subordinate - one and a half meters.

How can it be explained historically? Why does a boy, a young man, a man, entering the room, take off his hat? Why does a boy, a young man, a man go down the stairs in front? In the Middle Ages, a knight, entering a house, raised his visor, thereby showing that he had come with peaceful intentions. In the past, women wore long dresses with a train. In order not to step on this train and knock over a candle on it, the man went down the stairs in front of his companion, illuminating her path.

How can it be explained historically? Why do we shake hands when we shake hands? Why should a young man, a man, walk to the left of a girl? In the past, knights put cold weapons or brass knuckles into their hands to repel danger. The outstretched open hand was a sign of friendliness. With this gesture, the knight showed that he had nothing in his hand. In the Middle Ages, a knight wore a sword to protect himself from attack. In order not to hit his companion with a sword, he walked to her left, ready to draw a weapon at any moment. Today, only military personnel should walk to the right of the girl in order to be able to salute military honor.

One of the Russians invited to the house of the British, wanting to show himself a well-mannered person, kissed the hand of the hostess when greeting, complimented her: “What a beautiful dress you have,” and often used the word “gentleman” in conversation. The owners of the house no longer wanted to invite this Russian to visit. Why? Our compatriot made several unforgivable mistakes. Firstly, the restrained British do not allow themselves to publicly kiss the hands of the ladies, to compliment them. And as for the word "gentleman", the English themselves say that the true gentleman is the one who has never uttered this word.

If your friends in Spain asked you to stay for breakfast, what would you do? In Spain, the first invitation is only a form of courtesy and should be refused, just like the second. And only the third invitation expresses the true desire of the owners to see you in their house.

If you want to meet friends in America, will you go to them at the address you know as soon as you arrive in the States? It is not customary for Americans to visit without warning. The visit must be arranged in advance by phone.

Masha: Hello, Katya, is that you? Mom: No, this is not Katya. Who is asking her? Masha: Yes, yes, friend. Where is Katya? Mom: She's not at home. What to give her? Masha: Damn, she promised to wait for me, but she herself disappeared somewhere! Mom: I'm sorry, I can't talk to you like that anymore.

Mom: Hello, I'm listening to you. Masha: Hello, Katina's classmate Masha is calling you. Mom: Hello. I'm listening. Masha: Is Katya at home? Mom: Katya is not at home. What to betray her? Masha: There is nothing urgent, we just have to arrange a meeting with her. Can I call you back? Mom: Yes. Call in two hours. I'll tell you that you called her. Masha: Thank you. Goodbye. Mom: Goodbye. Masha: Hello, Katya, is that you? Mom: No, this is not Katya. Who is asking her? Masha: Yes, yes, friend. Where is Katya? Mom: She's not at home. What to give her? Masha: Damn, she promised to wait for me, but she herself disappeared somewhere! Mom: I'm sorry, I can't talk to you like that anymore.

SITUATIONS FOR TEAMS You have come to an institution, for example, to the House of Children's Creativity. You have been sent to a lecture, but you do not know what kind of lecture it is, where it takes place. Your actions? Two couples met on the street. Two boys and two girls. One boy knows one of the girls. How should they introduce themselves to each other?

BOYS The boy is sitting at the table in the room. A girl entered the room. How should he greet her? The boy has to ask the girl to dance, but he does not know how to do it. What way would you suggest? FOR GIRLS A girl wants to meet a boy, but does not know how to do it. What way would you suggest? One princess at the ball was invited to dance by two princes at once. If this princess knows etiquette, what will she do and with whom will she go dancing?

The first to greet: a man - with a woman, the youngest (by age and service) - with the elder, who entered - with those already present. And if the director of a large factory met in the store with his beloved grandmother? Who should say hello first? If the lady has dropped something, the man must pick it up and return it to the lady. What if she dropped the candy? What should happen according to etiquette?

Etiquette says to thank even for the smallest service. If a friend put black pepper in your tea, and now helpfully offers his handkerchief, is it necessary to thank him according to etiquette? A polite man should help his lady get dressed, but she has a briefcase in her hands. What to do6 take a briefcase, and let her put on a coat herself? Or submit a coat without noticing the briefcase?

A polite son opens the door for his mother and lets her go ahead, as it should be according to etiquette. And what does he need to do if immediately behind the first door is the second one (as, for example, at the entrance to the school)? When guests come to the house with flowers, according to etiquette, they are handed over to the mistress of the house (and if there is at least one man among those who came, he will certainly do this). But you want to give a bouquet to your girlfriend, because you were invited to her birthday. How to give a bouquet to a birthday girl according to etiquette, if her mother, the mistress of the house, is at home?

Greetings to everyone who came to my site! Today's theme is men's. Hat etiquette for men will help you avoid embarrassing situations. Let's talk about it.

A hat is one of those accessories that even the most elegant men often dread. If many do not dare to wear because they do not know how to tie it, then they do not risk with hats just because, in principle, few people wear them now, which means that there is always a danger of being branded, at best, a black sheep, at worst - an ignoramus.

But they don't wear it in vain. It is difficult to come up with a more suitable headdress for autumn than the good old felt hat. And straw is ideal for summer.

Types of men's hats

• The top hat is a hard brim hat with a flat top. At the time of Pushkin, only the aristocratic elite of society wore it, now it is the uniform of circus magicians and horse dressage athletes.
• A bowler hat is a solid men's hat with a round top and narrow brim. Bowler hats were invented by the British, but they became part of American fashion in the 19th century.
• Fedora is a soft felt headdress with a gathered ribbon around the crown, invented in the 1880s and named after the operetta popular in those years. There are three “hollows” on the crown, so the hat can be easily lifted with three fingers. The fedora was worn by gangsters and Hollywood stars of the 1940s, as well as by Frank Sinatra himself.
• Homburg - similar to a fedora, but there are no two depressions on the sides of the crown, and the fields are slightly bent up around the entire perimeter. The homburg is not as formal as the top hat, but more ornate than the fedora. Such hats were loved by politicians and diplomats in the 20th century, as well as by gangsters.
• Trilby - reminiscent of fedora and homburg, but less formal and associated with jazz culture. The crown of the trilby is deeply dented, and the front brim is slightly lowered.
• A boater is a French straw hard hat with a cylindrical top and straight brim. It has not lost popularity since the beginning of the 20th century.
• The cowboy hat was invented by John Stetson in the 1860s. It is still popular in the southwestern United States, northern Mexico and the western provinces of Canada. It is an attribute of American cowboys and ranchers, as well as country music performers.

Nowadays it is a stylish and elegant piece of clothing. As a rule, a hat is worn with a classic suit, although some types of it look quite natural with jeans and a T-shirt.

hat etiquette

When to take off your hat:

• During the sound of the anthem, men must take off their hats when raising the flag.
• At church, or during religious services, weddings, funerals (with the exception of a few denominations)
• When talking to a woman. Remaining at this point in the hat is considered rude and disrespectful.
• Restaurant, during meals (an exception may be fast food establishments).
• Indoors: theater, auditorium, workplace, etc. In lobbies and corporate elevators, you do not need to take off your hat - these places are equated to the street. When removing a fedora, one should not take on the fields, but on the very top of the head.

Women love them!

When to lift:

Greeting strangers as well as to show your respect. Acquaintances are usually greeted with a slight nod and a touch on the edge of the hat. It should be raised as a sign of gratitude and appreciation, and also if you are going to ask permission for something.

When can a man keep his hat on?

• During outdoor activities such as sports events.
• In an elevator when there is no woman in it.
• During some religious ceremonies, men are required to wear a headdress.
• In public buildings such as airport, hotel lobby, etc.

Accessories attached to the hat band should be on the left side. Although hat etiquette is a dying art, taking off your hat in an elevator when a lady is in it or when a woman enters the room you were in is the true act of a gentleman.

"It's all about the hat" - why do they say that?

There are several versions of the origin of the expression, meaning that everything is in order, the job is almost done.

1. Previously, officials who handled court cases took bribes in hats. If an official took a bribe, then the issue can be considered resolved.
2. In the old days, when mail did not yet exist, documents were delivered by messengers. In order not to lose important papers, they sewed them under the lining of their hats. Thus, the most important "cases" were in the headdress.
3. In some cases, cases were decided by lot, and the lot was drawn from the headdress of the judge. In other words, the whole thing was decided in a hat. This version is considered doubtful by many linguists: the word "hat" came into the Russian language a little later.

Hat etiquette for men - be yourself!

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