Signs that the husband has a constant mistress. How to find out if a husband has a mistress? Change of daily routine and standard excuses

This story is about sadness and hope at the same time. About the state on the verge - on the one hand, despair and the collapse of everything, on the other hand - victory and happiness for everyone. This is how a woman feels, to whom her husband returned after "intrigue on the side." He says: “That’s it, there’s definitely nothing else there.” And you don’t understand how to find out if the husband and his mistress finally broke up, can he be trusted?

I was asked: Write how to figure out, all or not all?”I answer honestly - I can’t figure it out. Neither the psychologist, nor you (that is, the wife), nor the husband himself will figure it out. I'm honest now.

The psychologist will not understand, because the male head, although logical, does not have buttons, indicators and toggle switches inside, by which it would be possible to accurately determine the ongoing processes.

The man will not understand, because he is now being thrown from side to side. He doubts everything. But - it is saved by logic. We will talk about this later.

The wife will not understand, because it hurts a lot. The pain of betrayal overshadows all other feelings, thoughts. One has only to try to believe in promises - and the moments when you learned the terrible truth come to mind again. I want to believe, but I can't. Let someone prove that now everything will be fine! With evidence, as I said, everything is very deaf.

Oh, how I wish that in the seconds before the fact of infidelity, when the thought appears in the head of a man or woman: “ Why not? It won't get any worse!”, a huge neon sign would light up in the air:“ It will definitely get worse!»

Let's move from lyrics to practice.

Who knows if the husband broke up with his mistress or not?

Surprise dear ladies! Most likely to figure out whether the relationship on the side has really ended, not with your husband, not with a psychologist - but with you!

Because:

• You do know this man very well.

And don't tell me that he managed to cheat on you and you didn't see it. Yes, you have a lot of mistakes in your behavior that influenced your husband. But NO ONE knows him better than you. As one of my clients said: Let him be a goat, but MINE!

• He came to you, he chose you.

Even if there was something on the side, if he was cunning and playful, he still came here, to you. Why, why? Because he cares about your relationship. He appreciates them, he strains for them. Even just to say: “I want to be with you!” is already a step. I understand that you are now all bubbling. It is the bubbling in the soul that prevents you from believing. Therefore, by the way, at the consultation, we first let all the emotions spill out.

• The future depends on you no less than on him.

Of course, he can start "sinning" again. But you already understood where exactly you were wrong. Remember, I said in one of the articles: "Cheating is a symptom of a family disease." Diseases of the relationship between husband and wife. Now is your chance to heal your relationship. Together with her husband. You correct your mistakes, he corrects his. That's what we'll be thinking about!

How to behave to the wife to whom the husband returned?

From all three points it follows that only you yourself have the answer to the question from the topic of the article. This answer can change very often.

You went to the hairdresser, you cut your hair very stylishly, you like yourself in the mirror. Think: " From such a beauty, he definitely will not go anywhere now! And he will not go away, because this beauty will work on relationships, fix them.

Or in the evening, longing “covers” you, you saw a photo of your husband’s “passion” on the social network, got upset and thought: “ Let it roll where it wants. Back to her, or to another! And he will roll. Because he will feel in his spinal cord that you did not give him a chance, although it seems that he was accepted back.

It's called an emotional swing. So much has already been written about them. To put it simply, it's going from one extreme to another. They are absolutely not connected with objective reality, they are only in the human soul. Depending on your mood, you are carried up on these swings, then down.

Over time, this will pass. But for now, you are going through an integral stage of rebuilding relationships. At this stage, you need to speak out a lot, not to let feelings - resentment, disappointment, pain, anger - stay inside. Only in any case not to her husband, but to a psychologist. In extreme cases, some very faithful friend who will not run away from you after the third round of accusations against her husband, who managed to “eat a fish and not climb into the water.”

This is the first thing a wife, to whom her husband has returned, needs to do - remove all the “dirt” from her soul away.

The second is to start thinking about the disease itself in the relationship. Think for yourself and discuss with your husband. But, to be honest, few people succeed in discussing with their husbands. Most often, such discussions end in disputes and quarrels: “ And you!…. And I….!”So it’s better to rehearse, again, with a psychologist, so that later you can not switch to insults and accusations when talking with your husband.

What to do if the husband says: "Trust me"?

Think about it, what is trust? Trust is confidence in the predictable harmlessness of behavior. As a human being, you trust if you know exactly what to expect in advance. You can know for sure in advance only based on your experience.

So how is it possible to talk about "turning on" the trust at the request? Especially after "such"?

No psychologist will teach you to trust your husband after infidelity. Only your husband can do this with his time and effort. If you want to trust him, just don't interfere. Tell: " I want to believe you! But so far I haven't been able to. Please keep up the good work, I'm trying.»

What does it mean to continue like this? Either I was so lucky, or is it really true, but men, after all, when they return, try to be “good boys”. They do not give reasons for jealousy, they warn about being late, they do not block phones, do not change passwords on social networks, wean themselves from hastily closing tabs in the browser, write touching messages to you in the middle of the working day. Maybe not all of the above at once, but at least they do something for the sake of their wife.

Remember, I said a few words above about male logic? So, most men are still guided by the rule: "I decided so." That is, if a roasted rooster has already pecked, and a decision needs to be made, then the man will accept it, and will try to drive all temptations away from himself with logic. Yes, logic does not always win. But the chances are great!

Perhaps you know what you personally need to restore trust.

One of my clients asked her husband to put a beacon on her phone so she could check where he was at that moment. Husband installed. At first, the wife checked it out of interest, and then forgot. And my husband forgot about him. Although it was a great confirmation of honesty: "I have nothing to hide from you." I draw the attention of women to the fact that this is, after all, a rare case! Most often, such female requests are perceived by the husband as an attempt to control.

Yes, yes, believing is not the same as controlling! These are opposites. The husband himself must control himself for the sake of relations with you. And you - to believe that he controls himself well. And behave in such a way that he wanted to control himself. This is back on the topic: “Fixing Relationship Mistakes.” If a man sees that he has returned to a family in which something is changing for the better, then he himself will want to be worthy of this family.

I hear your indignant thoughts: How?! And I still have to change something for him, I have to correct something?» This is the same pain that speaks in you. We give her the floor, she will speak. And then you will understand that if you do not change anything in the relationship, then the situation may repeat itself. Not because the husband is a womanizer, but because the relationship is still sick.

This is how trust will gradually return.

Very often, I give a few more tips to couples:

• Create new rituals and traditions.
• Change something not only internally, but also externally: in yourself, in the house, so that the scenarios of behavior change.
• Learn the elementary rules of dialogue, say "I-messages".
• Completely ignore situations when a mistress tries to remind her husband or wife of herself.
• Accept the idea that in a “love triangle” situation, there are no participants who would be fine. Everyone is bad! Husband, wife, and mistress. Do not think that "she sits there and rejoices." Bad for everyone. The only question is who can bounce back faster.

Let me say a few words about statistics. About my personal statistics, from practice. If a man came to his wife and said: “I want to be only with you!”, then this is exactly how he is going to behave - to be only with you, in sickness and in health, in joy and in sorrow, until the very end.

Love triangles are one of the main problems of family well-being. Any girl, having received the coveted engagement ring, will try to avoid the position of a deceived wife. The bitter experience of betrayal is experienced by about 60% of families. Don't give up. A few tips will help you plan your next steps.

First of all, find out if your husband really has a mistress. Leave emotions, try to reason objectively. Set up a test of sorts. If the husband has a mistress, then signs will certainly appear:

1. Appearance. Does the husband have a new passion will give out appearance. The infidels are changing on the outside, trying to look appropriate for the newly elected passion. The wardrobe is updated, the beloved suddenly begins to attach importance to hair, perfume, clothes, especially underwear. Shaves more often. Often this behavior occurs if the mistress of her husband is young.
2. Cold. Whether the husband has a mistress, the atmosphere at home will show. Indifference of gaze, lack of attention, unwillingness to talk are unfriendly signs. The opposite behavior, expressed by a sudden display of tenderness, should also arouse suspicion. Having changed, the perpetrators feel remorse, so they try to cover the offense with an excess of care.
3. Decreased sexual activity. The usually pushy spouse who abruptly stopped pushing for sex is likely to have found another sexual partner. Having spent his strength, satisfying needs outside the home, he ceases to show sexual desire at home. Particularly active thrill-seekers manage to maintain intimacy with both. Treason will give out excessive ingenuity: new poses, unusual skills that have appeared. The experimenter is trying to bring into the marital intimate sphere the acquired extramarital experience.
4. Business trips. Work is a classic cover-up. Try to find out the real reasons. Perhaps the partner is honest. Nevertheless, business trips are the most common type of excuse.
5. Reducing financial income. The breadwinner who works above the norm should bring in more money. If a husband has a mistress, part of the finances require courtship: flowers, sweets, gifts, jewelry. Home the traitor brings the usual amount, perhaps less. Ask your lover directly what use was made of money. It is undesirable to blame ahead of time. Suddenly, there is still an explanation, you risk offending a loved one. A liar is always looking for an opportunity to get out. Better to wait.
6. Details. That the husband has a mistress, various nuances will confirm. Found hair of a different color, an unfamiliar smell of perfume, frequent calls are unfavorable signals. Examine the wallet: the likelihood of finding evidence (contraceptives, checks, notes) will help you find out if your husband has intimate third-party relationships.

How to save a marriage

If your husband has a mistress, try to remain calm - you can not panic, show emotions. First, realize the fact - the husband has a different one. Then you need to make an important decision - to leave or save the family.

My husband has a mistress what to do next? Calm down, try to avoid depression. Be reasonable. A difficult period forces you to remain calm. Is it hard to figure it out? Try asking for help from experts. The advice of a psychologist will individually tell you how to behave if your husband has a mistress.

Avoid scandals

If the wife found out that her beloved is cheating, she often starts a scandal. Proceed with caution. It is undesirable to throw tantrums, throw away the things of the offender. Above all, they value home comfort and tranquility. Be sure to act confidently, but judgment is needed. You can let off steam in another way. For example, cry, speak out to friends.

start a conversation

How to behave if it is undesirable to change is to hush up the offense. Fearing to be left alone, most are afraid to raise the issue of betrayal. Statistics say: out of a hundred cheaters, eight go to the homeowner, and later half returns. If the spouse has not left in six months of third-party love affairs, then the chances of the temptress are negligible.

It is wrong to be silent. Allowing campaigns "to the left" to continue, the woman, both in front of the traitor and herself, lowers self-esteem. A marriage preserved by a victim of self-worth leaves moral dissatisfaction, destroys inner harmony.

Suppression of resentment causes serious harm to health. Hidden negativity manifests itself in the form of diseases of the female organs. The body reacts to severe mental pain with the appearance of various diseases. Offended should focus on positive thinking, be distracted. A balanced mental state is the key to good women's health.

Learn the advantages of a rival

The wife has a number of advantages over the lover. Remember, a legal wife is more important than a mistress. The unfaithful will try to maintain the comforts of home. Years of married life are more important than thrills. Therefore, it is necessary to realize the winning side of the situation.

In someone else's representative of the weaker sex, the adventurer wants to find the old qualities that the beloved has lost over the years of living together. Try to understand what advantages of a homeowner are worthy of attention. It is a mistake to assume that age is to blame. Activity, brightness, energy attract male interest.

Improve yourself: take more time for yourself, attend yoga, learn how to cook interesting culinary masterpieces, change your style, tidy up your house. Take a break. Visit friends, organize joint shopping, various events.

Men are hunters by nature. Having made their beloved wife, they lose interest. Provoke to hunt.

Enjoy the home atmosphere

Keep the abuser busy with household chores. Ask for a host's help. Provoke communication, contact. Help will benefit both. Common activities bring together. Give the culprit a chance to redeem himself.

Try to unobtrusively use the old pleasant moments . Remember small family traditions, look for any reason to get closer. Have you watched your favorite movies before going to bed, visited a cozy cafe, visited friends every week? Repeat the past experience again. Be interested in the life of your spouse, find new common interests. Show friendly support.

You Can't Forgive Right Away

A quick forgiveness gives the perpetrator the opportunity to repeat the betrayal. Understanding the impunity of actions encourages loving behavior. Show your dignity. Let the cheater experience the fear of losing his beloved. The main thing is to negotiate calmly, peacefully.

The staging of leaving will make the offender worry, beg his beloved to stay. Traitors are afraid of losing their beloved. So they ask you to start all over again. It must be said - for forgiveness, you will have to try hard. A second chance means repeat courtship: dates, restaurants, flowers, gifts. In a word, the guilty spouse must first earn an attempt to return the past.

Errors:

• Belittling the wrong person to stay is a mistaken action. You can't afford to lose your dignity. If the wife is humiliated, it is difficult to get a positive result.
• Revenge by retaliation. The problem will not disappear, only disgust will appear.
• To expel the traitor, her husband's mistress will only be glad of the imminent reunion.
• Do not act risky if there are common children. Moreover, it is impossible to involve offspring in parental disassembly.
• It is undesirable to leave the house for a long time - there is a possibility of a complete loss of control over the situation. You can stay with a friend for a few days. Cool down - come back.
• If your husband has a mistress, do not show family problems to your friends. Clarify the relationship exclusively among themselves, do not interfere with third-party people.
• Remove your parents too. In the question of how to behave if the husband has another woman, the help of a compassionate mother often only hurts.
• Cause physical harm. The mistress, as herself, did not want to console herself with moral relief, she would turn the situation around in a different way. The deceiver will pretend to be a victim, the defender will want to feel sorry for the unfortunate. The chances of defeating the temptress will decrease.

Conclusion

So, the husband's mistress is eliminated, the family is restored. It remains to sincerely forgive a loved one. Forget past mistakes, erase painful memories. Don't bring up past misdeeds. Endless reproaches can cause a series of new insults. Having decided to preserve the family way, sincerely consider your beloved a worthy person.

If forgiving the betrayer seems unrealistic, perhaps the conflict should be resolved by parting. However, do not rush, try to put aside the option of divorce. Family is worth the effort, time will heal the soul. The main thing is to restore sincerity to marital relations. Become best friends again, win the interest of your lover, and family happiness will return.

14 105 0 Hello! In this article we will tell you about what to do if your husband has a mistress. Many couples face infidelity. The news of the betrayal of a spouse often comes as a surprise and knocks the ground out from under their feet. So what's now? Forgive or divorce?

How to find out if your husband has a mistress

Finding out that a man has another one is not difficult for most ladies. Something, but intuition and flair for rivals in women are developed by nature. The feeling that something is wrong does not give rest, the soul requires proof or immediate refutation.

To convict a spouse of treason, many go to humiliating things: they follow him, secretly check phones, social networks, read correspondence, climb into pockets and bags. It is not worth sinking so low and losing your own dignity in order to confirm your suspicions and prove you right. Often it is enough just to be attentive and take the position of an impartial observer.

Signs of a mistress in a husband:

1. The husband began to often linger at work, go on long business trips.
2. Hides the phone.
3. Changing passwords on pages of social networks, setting a password on the phone.
4. The faithful suddenly began to more carefully monitor his appearance, choose clothes and take care of himself.
5. Your relationship has changed. Your lover is no longer sexually interested in you. Yes, and in communication you moved away, stopped talking, sharing the innermost.
6. There was less money, it was no longer enough even for basic needs. This is especially suspicious if the man at the same time began to work more.
7. The man began to spend more time with friends, although before that he did not burn with love for friendly gatherings.
8. The husband increasingly ignores your calls, does not pick up the phone, does not answer SMS.
9. Scandals over trifles became more frequent in the family.
10. A man is constantly irritated with you.
11. Frequent SMS.
12. Stealth.
13. Clear evidence: traces of lipstick on clothes, the scent of women's perfume, elements of clothing and various women's trinkets in his car, etc.
14. Strange phone calls during which the man is unnaturally reserved or leaves the room.
15. Groundless jealousy. Often, cheaters project their behavior onto their spouses and become jealous for no reason.
16. Excuses are out of place. If a man begins to ignore serious remarks about himself, but at the same time begins to make excuses for any naive joke or statement, he subconsciously feels guilty and tries to convince his wife of his innocence.

Of course, one of these signs is not irrefutable proof of infidelity, but the combination of two or more items on this list can already reasonably alert.

Perhaps you are mistaken

In most cases, female intuition does not miss, but sometimes a man receives accusations of treason undeservedly. It's doubly insulting to be a suspect when you didn't even think about exploits on the side. To avoid an awkward situation and not offend your beloved husband, eliminate the possibility of a mistake.

As you can see, suspicious behavior is not always a sign of connections on the side.

Causes of male infidelity

The reasons for male infidelity can be very diverse and this is not always sexual dissatisfaction. Often men are looking for spiritual intimacy and unconditional love, a woman who will allow you to take care of yourself, will give joy and smiles in return.

All causes of change can be divided into two main groups:

• The man is dissatisfied with the relationship;
• He is constantly looking for new emotions on the side and, in principle, he doesn’t care about his woman or relationships.

In the second case, everything is clear. Is it worth wasting time on a man who does not love you and will constantly cheat on you, whatever you do to save the relationship? Of course not!

In the other case, everything is much more complicated. First of all, you need to understand what the real motive of treason is.

What is your relationship?

• Ask yourself as many questions as possible.
• What is the relationship between you?
• That they are dominated by care and love or indifference and cohabitation?
• Maybe you have long become just neighbors and strangers?
• Do you have common hobbies and interests?
• Is there something that binds you, and if so, what exactly?
• Has the degree of intimacy between you changed? Is there passion?
• Do you often quarrel?

Complete this list of questions with others and answer them in as much detail as possible. This will help you understand what is happening in the relationship and whether it makes sense to restore the marriage.

Have you changed?

Answer the question honestly: have you changed? Of course, age takes its toll, but do you take care of yourself as before, do you dress beautifully, take care of your makeup and hair, do you devote time to yourself? Men love with their eyes. And this does not always mean that you must be an impeccable beauty, but you must always take care of yourself and love yourself.

In addition to external changes, unpleasant changes in the inner world can also repel a man: complexes, fears, guilt. Any partner will be driven to despair by a woman who refuses intimacy because of complexes, or a spouse who puts her husband at the center of her life and does not notice anything but him, or, on the contrary, a confident careerist who does not pay any attention to a man, or an aggressive vixen, always complaining and giving instructions.

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Man's lifestyle

Sometimes a man is pushed to cheat not by new bright feelings, but by his personal self-doubt. He starts sexual relations in order to prove to himself his masculinity and sexuality. It may sound strange, but in such a situation, he can even sincerely love his wife, and perceive his mistress as temporary entertainment.

Relationship is over

Sometimes betrayal makes you realize that it's all over. There are no more feelings, and everything that binds is nothing more than a habit, joint obligations and mutual convenience. Such a couple may even have joint plans for the future and outwardly everything will look quiet and calm. Just neighbors with no feelings.

In such a situation, the appearance of a mistress is a natural expected fact.

How to behave if your husband has a mistress

And now the fact of infidelity is confirmed: the husband went to his mistress, was caught at the scene of the crime, or confessed himself.

Do not accumulate emotions in yourself, cry. It is better to take a time out and leave the common house for an unknown period. So you and your spouse will be given the opportunity to evaluate his act and you yourself will pay off and think about what to do next.

After the first flurry of emotions has passed, ask yourself the question: how do I want the situation to be resolved?

• I want to save my family and forgive my husband;
• I will never be able to forgive my husband.

Based on your answer, make a decision and stick to it strictly. Throwing from side to side will deprive you of mental balance, and even physical health.

In addition to divorce and the preservation of the family, there is also a third option: life in a triangle. In this case, you take a passive position and wait for a decision from a man. In the meantime, everyone suffers: you, the husband, who, for the most part, is tormented by guilt, the children, the mistress. A man often cannot make a decision, and even a child from his mistress is not able to force him to leave his former family.

By the time the situation resolves itself, all participants in the triangle will have a whole list of diseases, children will grow up without an example of a happy family and a healthy understanding of family values. Such a position is very humiliating for women and only speaks of low self-esteem and lack of self-love. The husband, if he is there, will be only as a physical body. Do you need it?

Psychologists give the following advice to women who have experienced adultery:

• Accept it with dignity!
  No matter how impossible it may seem, but first of all - try to keep your cool. After all, revenge is a dish best served cold. Therefore, remember once and for all: you will never achieve anything with tantrums. Some insecure ladies, on the contrary, sacrificially take full responsibility for what happened. But this is also one of the most common mistakes, because both are always to blame: both the husband and the wife.
• Assess the situation as much as possible, understand what the problem is;
• Take care of yourself. It's time to start fulfilling your desires, realize your career, find your favorite thing, treat yourself to travel, shopping or pleasant procedures;
• Let go of the situation. Tears, tantrums and sentimental conversations will not return the husband, but your calmness, detachment and self-interest may well awaken in the traitor a desire to return;
• Step back. If possible, live separately, go on a trip, visit relatives, rent an apartment;
• Understand your own feelings and desires;
• If you are wondering “What is wrong with me?”, Contact a psychologist. Perhaps in this situation there is part of your fault, but the man is also to blame for what happened;
• Don't wait for your husband to make a decision or come home.
• We are dealing with financial issues, so don't panic!
  If the husband goes to his mistress, leaving you without livelihood Well, that says a lot about a man. Of course, no matter how difficult it is, you will come out of this test, but can you respect the person who deliberately went to such meanness? This is unlikely.

For you, this situation is the best opportunity to prove your worth to both your ex-spouse and your parents. You need not to give up and suffer while waiting for someone to take pity on you, but to draw up a clear step-by-step plan of action and not deviate from it.

Even if it suddenly happened that you got married too early and did not have time to get any profession, in any case, you have some talents or elementary skills. Do not be afraid to take on any job: as soon as you prove yourself, your career will immediately go uphill.

And even for mothers on maternity leave, not everything is so scary.

• First, you are legally entitled to claim child support.
• Secondly, thanks now. The main thing is to believe in yourself, and then everything will definitely work out.

And although they assure that you cannot enter the same river twice, that you cannot glue a broken vase together, we are ready to argue with these “age-old” truths. On the contrary, those families that managed to move from the state of the Cold War to the stage of constructive dialogue became even happier than in the first months of married life. And all because the ability to admit one's mistakes and correct them is the position of adults and sane people.

In general, according to statistics, only 5% of husbands leave families, and then only when they decide to create a new family. But can this be considered consolation? Are you ready to put up with the fact that there will always be a "third wheel" nearby? It all depends on how to properly prioritize. But if love is still alive, it is worth fighting for. Is always.

Distance yourself from the man. The first two weeks will be the most difficult, but within a month and a half, the mental pain will become dull and life will begin to improve. Unless, of course, you yourself want to get rid of the pain and start living a full life.

What absolutely should not be done

Psychologists have also compiled a list of some behavioral taboos that can only make things worse. Not worth:

• Scandal, constantly crying;
• Behave like a nervous hysteric: rummage through things, maniacally track down her husband, etc .;
• Throwing his things from the balcony or into the entrance;
• Take revenge on a man and make lovers (sex without feelings will devastate you even more);
• Revenge mistress;
• Blame yourself for everything;
• Constantly blaming the husband;
• To mock the tastes of her husband and his mistress;
• Discuss the situation with friends and family.

Such behavior will only push the man away from you and finally destroy the relationship.

Is it worth it to forgive a traitor

Should I forgive my husband after infidelity? Each woman must decide for herself whether such a betrayal is forgivable for her and, most importantly, whether she can truly forgive her man from the bottom of her heart. After all, even if you stifle resentment in yourself, outwardly show concern and pretend that nothing happened, you still won’t be able to trust your husband. So, happy, strong relationships will no longer work.

In addition, think about whether it is worth keeping a person next to you who has already betrayed you once? And why do you need a man who is unhappy with you, and you with him?

How to resurrect love

If you realize that you are ready to forgive a man with all your heart, restore relationships and awaken love, the following tips will help you:

1. Start remembering. Remember your first date, kiss, night. Visit your favorite places that have so much to do with.
2. Pay a lot of attention to yourself. Get back up and do what you love. New fans will only spur her husband's feelings.
3. Go in for sports. And it's not about the shape. Movement is very beneficial for your health, both physical and mental.
4. Show your husband. Show that you still want him as a man.
5. Praise your spouse for small and big victories.
6. Ask your husband for help, ask for advice, show that you need him.

Change is a difficult test. But do not forget that everything in life happens for the better.

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Oh, this female curiosity, sometimes it leads to incredible discoveries that can turn life around 180 degrees. This is especially true of convicting her husband of treason.

Every woman whose husband does not even think about cheating on her wants to be 100% sure of his fidelity. So, how to determine whether a husband has a mistress, and whether it is worth forgiving an ungrateful one - we will consider in the article.

Causes of betrayal

Before proceeding to the definition of betrayal of a spouse, it is necessary to understand whether he has objective or subjective reasons for this, which push him to such a desperate step.

It is better to think about the reasons in advance, because, as often happens, many women are sure that this fate will certainly bypass them, however, after a while they will find out about the infidelity of their beloved.

1. Frequent claims of the wife- when the spouse all the time points out shortcomings and makes increased demands. The spouse will begin to look for a person who loves him for who he is.

2. Lack of proper rest. Women do not understand everything that men rest at home, and work at work. As a result, the man is looking for a new home where he can relax.

3. His suspicions that you are cheating. For example, if you decide to act cunningly and once gave a reason to be jealous, then wanting revenge, the spouse can go the same way.

4. If there is no intimate relationship in the family. Over time, there are so many troubles that a woman does not pay due attention to her husband. When one of the partners is dissatisfied, betrayal occurs.

5. Lack of communication is another reason. The husband wants to be understood and listened to. If you don't know how, you can prepare for the fact that someone does it better.

The wife's pregnancy is the most common reason. During pregnancy, not every woman becomes attractive. If for someone this is a reason to “bloom” and become noticeably prettier, then some of the fair sex, through their own fault, make this a disease.

Toxicosis, excess weight, pallor, desire to lie down, capriciousness, reproaches to the spouse for everything. There can be no talk of any sexual relations. There is a high probability that a man will “go left” while his wife has turned from a cute beauty into a small “monster”.

Is it worth it to forgive? It all depends on the reason for the betrayal. First of all, after giving birth, talk to your husband. The main rule is no reproaches, otherwise you will lose your loved one once and for all. Try to understand his actions.

There are nuances of behavior that can betray a cheating spouse. If they are, you should immediately deal with the elimination of communication with the homeowner and the establishment of relations in the family.

1. Delays at work and frequent business trips . If earlier your faithful came home from work on time, and on weekends he spent time with children or alone with himself (fishing, hunting), and now it's all gone somewhere, this is another reason to be on your guard.

If the husband has a promotion, and he began to bring more money to the family, you can trust him, but if such a huge amount of work does not affect his income in any way, then there is reason for doubt.

In this case, it is worth trying to figure it out on your own by asking your spouse a few questions. If the answer is confident and clear, this is a plus in your piggy bank, if it is vague and uncertain, keep acting until you get the truth.

2. Changes in behavior - the husband has become more indifferent, "cold", rarely makes contact. He is indifferent to family problems. Or vice versa - became more gentle and attentive. In the second case, he tries to smooth over the guilt before his wife.

3. Intimate changes. Finding an "outlet" for a man is a way out of a situation of sexual dissatisfaction. If he does not even talk about the bed, then most likely he has already acquired a mistress. If he does have sex with you, then the intimacy will change. Maybe he wants something new.

4. External changes are also cause for concern. Men who have found a young and beautiful mistress strive in every possible way to match her, therefore they pay due attention to their image and wardrobe.

5. Small but suspicious details: the husband is mysteriously and mysteriously cracking on the phone, trying to leave so that they would not hear him. Or he smells of new perfume, he brings home new gifts, and so on.

Each of these nuances can signal the presence of treason.

What are the actions

First of all, it is important to talk heart to heart with your husband. It is possible that he simply lacked understanding in the family, so he found him on the side.

Try to change and surprise your husband, in a couple of weeks he will forget about his mistress. Things are much worse when he loves another woman.

The main thing is to prevent this fact and fall in love with your spouse again.

How do you know if your husband has a mistress? Does your husband have a mistress? Or is he loyal to you?
Such a delicate question has arisen in women since ancient times. For example, rich ladies specially hired detectives, spies, so that they would follow their husbands, or their beloved men. Russian women, as they say, are women from the people, they found out if their husbands had mistresses, with the help of some fortune-telling or signs.

Today, you can find out if your husband has a mistress or he is faithful to you using several signs, that is, you can analyze the behavior of your man. With the help of these few signs that we will now list, you can really find out if your man is faithful to you or he has found a new love on the side.

Signs that your husband has a mistress

E If your man has some kind of additional job, that is, I’ll enter, whether he began to linger at work, whether he had any frequent business trips, the boss gave him additional work, although this had never happened before. In this case, we do not have to introduce workaholics, because there are men who constantly work and get great satisfaction from this. Be sure to pay attention to why your husband began to linger, why, since on the side to have a relationship with a mistress, this naturally takes time, in 10-15 minutes you cannot establish any contact on the side, some kind of relationship, communication, on it just needs time.

T he also began to leave home often, began to meet with friends, some kind of constant meetings, or somewhere he spent the night there with a friend, or some kind of constant hiking, fishing. Perhaps they are, of course, in fact, but you better see for yourself. That is, if before he was not fond of sports, but then he took it and signed up for a gym for fitness and spends all day there on the simulators, just check his schedule of visiting the gym, whether he really goes there all day or is only booked for an hour, and spends the rest of the time with his mistress.

Husband takes good care of himself

You have noticed that your husband has become very attentive to himself. He began to take care of his body, began to take care of his appearance, his clothes, which I will introduce, he began to shave more often, watches how he is dressed, if he still could wear a trowel or a jumper that you bought him, and now he goes to shops and buys clothes without you. That is, he would like to be at his best in the eyes of his mistress and look 100%, so he must take care of his body and his appearance. You like him like this with a tummy, but he tries to lose weight, tries to use some new perfume, maybe even starts to take care of his skin, maybe he asks for anti-wrinkle cream, although he never did it. It's just that at this moment he is trying for another woman, not for you. If you see such an ambiguous behavior of your man, you should already be wary.

The husband became indifferent or rude

If your husband has become irritable towards you. If your husband says that you don’t dress like that, you don’t look like that, you don’t talk like that, you don’t do everything, then he compares you with his mistress. Especially if he starts making comments about your appearance. For example: your legs have become fat, or you have gained weight in your hips, your stomach has become large, and so on. It is he who simply compares you with someone, with the one whose figure is better, she is thinner, perhaps even she is younger than you. That is, when you got married, he did not make such remarks to you, everything was fine, but several years passed and reproaches began about your appearance, this suggests that there is simply a comparison with another woman. Pay attention to this.

He flies in the clouds. Naturally, if a new feeling of new love has come to him, then he does not concentrate, that is, he is with you in body, in your house, he is with his family, he is with children, but he is somewhere in the clouds with his soul and thoughts. He has a natural feeling and this feeling is strong enough. If he is talking to you and simply does not look at you, does not look into your eyes, somewhere he is in the clouds, then this should also alert you. If your man doesn’t make contact with you, you just want to talk, he’s busy all the time, or he’s not in the mood right now, he just walks away from the conversation, he’s just afraid of making a mistake during a conversation with you, which may give himself away he has a mistress.

The husband began to "rush" with his mobile

Pay special attention to how your husband began to "rush around" with his mobile or laptop. If a man even goes to the toilet with his phone, then he has something to hide from you, from his family, if he receives frequent SMS in the evening, if he hides email or computer from you, or leaves the room to talk with a friend or a colleague and talking in a low voice, this should also alert you. As for SMS, mostly women in love like to write SMS, but during the day you don’t write to your husband how he is loved, how good he is, how desirable he is, and a young mistress usually starts to write to him which he is the best, she admires them. This is very pleasant for a man, and he must somehow answer this, that is, for this he will need to retire.

Financial condition of your family. Since the candy-bouquet period lasts quite a long time, a man spends a lot of money on his new passion. You noticed that he is somewhere greedy for you, does not want to buy you gifts that he easily gave you before, or asks you to save somewhere, his salary disappears somewhere or his income has decreased a lot, and it is not clear where it disappears. That is, it is clear that he spends money on his new girlfriend or mistress. Therefore, carefully monitor the financial situation of your husband, well, unless of course he saves for a new car or furniture.

The husband has cooled off, the husband does not want intimacy with his wife

The eighth sign is your intimate relationship. You must be very careful here. How often do you have sex, perhaps these classes have become much less frequent, and the husband says that he is tired today or he is not in a good mood, or something hurts him and it can last a week, two, three, then you should definitely pay attention to it's attention. Either everything is fine with you in this regard, but some new desires of your husband, new postures have appeared, that is, somewhere he has already experienced this on the side. Perhaps he has become too rude, or vice versa gentle, so he behaves with his mistress and then projects it onto you.
These are the simple signs by which you can analyze the behavior of your man and find out if your husband has a mistress and how