Why do women like bad boys and men like inaccessible girls? Why impregnable girls first attract and then scare men.

The problem of the male battalion of the army of love is the fear of female pressure or obsession

Love and Dignity

Russian women of the 21st century are trying to learn how to get a vaginal orgasm, train certain muscles in order to finally see their man happy or show him their ability to do business in order to calm the desired partner: “I'm not interested in the bank account of the one with whom I go to bed to bed".

European women convince the male population that it is unpleasant for them to drink coffee for which the boyfriend will pay. Nigerian women, in an attempt to survive, come to Europe and engage in prostitution.

But any woman, whether she believes it or not, wants to give all her love to that one man who would personify for her father, husband and child, in a set. Unconsciously, since the time of the existence of tribes, female genetics requires self-realization in love for their man and their child, and male - in hunting the beast and bringing prey to the family.

The problem with women is that they looking for a chance to feel weak in the arms of a strong man, the problem of the male battalion of the army of love is fear of female pressure or obsession.

How to go from divine love to hellish revenge

A man who has been suppressed from childhood by his mother’s excessive love, which is expressed both in too much care, fear for his son or an exaggerated amount of caresses, and in constant control over his beloved child, up to jealousy for his girlfriends, grows up as an insecure female conqueror or or a lazy moral impotent. Two of the male inferiority complexes mentioned above are solvable, and intelligent men show their highest wisdom in the ability to transform from an insecure boy into a man who knows how to love ... not to mention the mass of attention that such transformed men cause from the opposite sex, returning to that human respect, gratitude and sympathy.

However, those who did not manage to develop their spiritual potential to the mentioned level of an adequate attitude towards themselves as a self-sufficient man who loves and respects himself make up the majority of men living on planet Earth to this day.

And it is not the desire of even a bright and intelligent woman to give love to her partner that excites such gentlemen, rather than the inaccessibility of a woman as such. Such men attract the attention of the opposite sex, however, they themselves are not able to feel the joy of being loved. Such men do not trust women, moreover, they do not perceive the trust of a sexual partner as a value.

If we analyze the relationship of a boy with his mother in his childhood, the habit of a child raised by an overwhelming mother and a weak father becomes obvious, to live in anticipation of true female tenderness from the mother, her affectionate attention, her faith in the strength of the future man and her respect for the personal boundaries of her son. The absence of such an attitude gives rise in the boy to the habit of wishing for an inaccessible mother, a prototype of a future sexual partner.

The result of such a childhood habit is a man's need for an inaccessible woman. In the case of a successful combination of circumstances in the life of two and the creation of a relationship desired by both, the problem of a man becomes his projection of the usual expectations of maternal love on his chosen one, his constant dissatisfaction with the lack of the necessary loving attention from a woman, his condemnation of his beloved and his inevitable betrayal of his once blazing passion, feelings for her. The problem of an abandoned woman is, of course, a complete confusion of feelings and humiliating feelings of anger towards her beloved man who once cared for her.

Probably, such situations - or stories about them - move the female sex to love pornography, which can be shared with a man, and to practice getting multiple orgasms in order to please a loved one. At the same time, the female sex forgets about its feminine essence: an orgasm occurs, first of all, on a spiritual level, and the male sex continues to unconsciously blame the “mother” for the lack of love on her part, to condemn the wife’s desire to see a respectful size of her husband’s bank account. With age, the faith of such men in the feminine feeling of love disappears altogether or turns into a desire to humiliate the woman as such. Revenge is generally a very seductive feeling for both sexes. Not only a feeling, but also a motive.

A woman who suppresses her son with her love in the form of fawning or in the form of excessive control, as a rule, is the unloved daughter of a weak father in childhood ... married to a overwhelming woman.

Why does a woman who dreams of protection, of a strong man, spend her life in a feeling of loneliness next to her once beloved? Perhaps the explanation for such a vicious circle lies in the weakness of the husband, whom his mother once disliked.

In an attempt to feel their masculine power, "boys" of all ages choose the behavior of a dictator and wean themselves from the feeling of love in general. Their daughters grow up unloved, and their sons grow up as unsure of their spiritual strength as their sad father.

Love and money

When a man believes that a woman loves his money in him, and not himself, then the man becomes greedy. It is worth mentioning only the results of studies by American psychologists who asked generous gentlemen a question: a man’s desire to offer a woman dinner in an expensive restaurant, pay for a beloved fur coat, or simply give her money, speaks of a man’s sexual desire.

Money is an unconscious way for a man to express gratitude to a woman for the opportunity to enjoy a sense of sexual satisfaction.

Greedy representatives of the “strong” sex almost always suffer from a lack of love in their lives, which is why they themselves do not want to give this love to anyone at all, and even more so to the woman who offended them.

In turn, the smartest female half of the population - out of fear of being defiled in their devoted feeling of love for the first man in their life (daddy) - decides to eradicate the feeling of respect for men in general and really stops caring about a partner. Or he begins to train his sphincter apparatus ...

And so men, meeting a woman's desire to practice pornographic humiliation of a feeling of love for a partner, joyfully realize their animal need, while confirming their opinion that a woman is not capable of love and that she only uses a man and his money. At the same time, the instinctive male - as well as female - thirst for mutual love suffers a 100% fiasco ... Ten orgasms per night, all organic holes are used for entry (and exit), all positions of the "Kama Sutra" have been tried, which is easy to find on the Internet in any language, but love feelings never arise. (Wow!..)

Vicious circle of insincerity

A person of any gender who condemns the opposite of their own is not able to enjoy the feeling of "being loved." This person is afraid of sincere relationships. More precisely, it will be the fear of the pain inflicted on those you love. (After all, mother was loved, her heart was entrusted to her ... and she left without even kissing goodbye! And she came in a bad mood ...) So many shortcomings! .. Just can not bear.

And now a man meets exactly that one and only, the sincerity of which he has dreamed of since he began to masturbate, but suddenly he feels her unusual "accessibility", i.e. her sincere desire to give love. The man gets bored and ends the relationship without even starting it. Boredom, as a feeling, is an unconscious human fear of making a decision.

And a woman falls in love once, twice, three ... Soon she finds herself a friend from whom she expects trust, responsibility for what has been said, generosity (in love as well as in money) and just fortitude, however, due to the absence of such masculine qualities , having given birth to a girl, shows her an example of how to despise the male sex, or, having given birth to a boy, begins to suppress him with her love ... which she once wanted to express to an adult man in bed. The “beloved husband”, in turn, waiting for the attention of his chosen one to no avail, sooner or later comes to the conclusion that female love is deceptive and that the illusions of youth led to divorce and the desire to forget the once beloved mother of her own children.

Live in the present without living the past...

A person will not be able to enjoy and live in the present while he is running away from his past. We are always where we are trying hard to escape. Those who are not aware of that report, live in their past - namely, unforgiven pain experienced as a result of this or that relationship of a loved one - are afraid of death. Those who live in the pain of their past are not able to enjoy love in the present. This person will simply be afraid of the truth of love if it arises in his life. He will be afraid of the pain to which he has become so accustomed since childhood, and he will certainly find reasons blocking his path to the found love and responsibility for maintaining the reciprocity of this feeling.

And so, men walk around the world ... waiting for love ... and enjoy pornography that degrades human dignity, as such ... and when they meet the one they were looking for, they begin to condemn it and can not cope with the feeling of many shortcomings of the one who just wants to give love.

The problem of a person who condemns loved ones or simply those he likes is the habitual condemnation of himself.

The only way to enjoy the daily details and the more important events of your present is the fact that a person forgives himself, in particular, his dependence on the expectation of love from the opposite sex during the period of growing up (well, for example, from mom, from dad ...).

Usually the one who waits dies waiting; and the one who accepts life as it is, draws reasonable conclusions and forgets about the unpleasant moments of his fate. To forgive a mother (father) means to understand the motives of his actions and the apparent lack of desire of the parent to hurt the child. To forgive yourself means to stop criticizing yourself for the conclusion you made in childhood about yourself as a person unworthy of love. Stop criticizing yourself for anything at all means choosing to love yourself.

He who loves himself enjoys the pleasure of being loved by others. Such a person does not have to train his sphincter in order for his partner to experience amazing feelings of pleasure with him in bed.published

Should a woman be an inaccessible mystery?

Let's talk about inaccessibility. They write a lot about this in social networks, there is a video on this topic, that supposedly if a woman is very accessible, simple, then that's it - a man is not interested.

A man is a conqueror, he does not appreciate the woman he does not conquer, so a woman must be inaccessible.

Why is a woman unavailable?

This is her defensive reaction. Because if she understood that without these games, just being normal, she would meet cool men - everything would be fine.

But she has some kind of negative experience, because of which she decided to be inaccessible.

Plus instagrams, clubs - this image is promoted by society.

What happens to the inaccessible on a psychological level?

It cannot be said that there are no strong men in her life. It is clear that there are many men in her life who want to be with her, but let's pay attention to what they really want.

Do they want to be with her? Not! They want first of all - what? Crack this inaccessibility code and say to yourself: what a cool man I am! I got an unavailable woman!

Note that he does not have the desire "I want to make this woman happy." He just wants to win her over. If that's okay for you, then okay, keep being unavailable.

What kind of men are attracted to unavailable women?

Yes, there are many of them, yes, there are gifts, flowers, attention, admiration, but in fact - what? It's all for the body, and what kind of men?

Not serious, or worthy, but married.

And it seems to be - well, there are men, you just need to wait a bit and the very one will appear - worthy.

How is the life of an inaccessible woman?

Often such girls fall into the role of a mistress.

By chance, or on purpose, or later it turns out - she has already fallen in love with him, and he, it turns out, is married - most of these girls have typical situations.

Yes, some of these girls do get married - but this is only a small percentage.

It seems: a little more, and I will meet that one - worthy. This is an illusion.

There are many men around inaccessible women. But for how long?

What do these girls often worry about? They worry about age, the young are growing up.

And these men who love inaccessible women also love younger women.

Ask yourself a question

What do you think - this man is really healthy in mind - who wants to conquer women, to prove that I can conquer you, inaccessible,?

Or would you still like a man to strive to make you happy, and that his main goal in life was his business - he was well off and he would like to make you happy with these benefits?

Not to win you over - but simply because you are good! Because you're cool as a woman.

When a woman is conquered, what then happens?

He got what he wanted. If I want to make you happy, it is a long process, a long man-woman exchange.

And if I want to win, it's a very short process, once - and that's it. Conquered.

And then often what is the situation?

A man is at first a hero-conqueror, then he cools off, then he does not answer for his words, he behaves somehow strangely, and you think - oh, what strange men.

No, they are not strange, it's just that this strategy - inaccessibility - attracts just such men, and it seems that all men are like that.

Not all! Just, you know, if you go out naked on the street, you will attract certain men. not all

But based on who you will attract, it will seem to you that all men are like that.

Who are “all” men?

When a woman says “all men are like that”, what does she mean? "All the men who are in my environment." Understand? And not "all the men of the world."

What do we have to do?

I believe that a woman should show accessibility and normality, for this you need to understand your feminine power.

What is female power? And why does a man really need a woman?

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Why do I need a normal - not a conqueror who proves something there - but why do I need a man who wants to make a woman happy?

There are such men - there are many of them. Yes, there are fewer of them than most, but you don't need the majority, you need one, right?

Why am I to this man? What can I give him? What exactly does he need to give? And how can I be myself?

And this will be your path of female development. And then you will attract completely different men.

How to improve the quality of men around?

You don't have to dress sexy, you don't have to dress super fashionable - just dress neatly, feminine.

And yes, there will be fewer admiring men around you - but they will be better men, with different intentions.

And if you want to understand this, dive into development! You're already on that path if you've taken the time to check out my blog.

With faith in your happiness
Yaroslav Samoilov.

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Many girls try to act inaccessible when communicating with the male half, because it is believed that men like inaccessibility. Is it right to think so? Naturally, all people are different, so you should not make hasty conclusions. It would be more correct to say that there are young people who really like to seek the location of an inaccessible girl. But there are those who do not see the point in wasting time on such courtship.

What kind of men are attracted to inaccessible girls?

First of all, it should be noted that the love of inaccessibility is laid down at the tender age of a man. If from childhood he was surrounded by the attention of women, then he will be drawn to inaccessible persons. He will simply simply not be interested in open women, because for him such communication will seem too easy. The girl who dares to refuse him will undoubtedly arouse genuine interest. It will be interesting for a man, for sure, to win the heart of a lady, to achieve her location. Difficulties along the way can cause a flash of passion in his chest, and now ... an inaccessible lady becomes the limit of his dreams!

Want to get married!

Any girl dreams of marriage, a beautiful wedding and the creation of a cozy hearth. But, unfortunately, most men are in no hurry to take the girl to sign in the registry office. Women begin to put pressure, hint about the wedding. This approach, by the way, is not effective. Most likely, such behavior, on the contrary, will repel a loved one. Men do not tolerate pressure from girls, especially when it comes to family life. Inaccessible girls take up precisely this, because they do not encroach on men's freedom, do not seek to ring the chosen one. Such an “equal” attitude encourages men to simply beat with a hoof, proving their own need, the seriousness of their intentions.

It is clear that each girl must decide for herself whether to hide her desires about marriage from her beloved or not. But if you do not talk about the wedding celebration in general, then the man will begin to worry about this. He, for sure, will begin to be tormented by doubts about whether the girl wants to be with him, how devoted she is to him. Therefore, sooner or later, such thoughts will push him to a marriage proposal. Undoubtedly, this is exactly what the beloved wants, so do not rush to talk about marriage. The most advantageous position for a girl is waiting. Yes, it is very difficult to wait, but the rush can turn into a break in relations.

What is the girl ready for?

Sometimes, women clearly show that they will do anything for a man. But it is precisely this position that is wrong, since not every man will be able to appreciate this. Of course, many will be pleased with such a "sacrifice", but the effect of it will be short-lived. Out of gratitude, a man is not able to stay close to a woman for a long time. To start a serious relationship, you need completely different feelings - passion, love, etc. Love in a man can only be born when a lot of work has been done to “overcome” the inaccessibility of the lady of the heart. He needs to conquer the girl, otherwise the value of the relationship will tend to zero.

A young man may like an accessible (direct, open) girl, there is nothing strange in this. But, if he constantly encounters this feature, then it will start to repel - everything is too predictable, ordinary, and as a result it becomes uninteresting in communication with the fair sex. That is why many men prefer inaccessible girls, even if they keep them at a distance for a long time.

Remember, "inaccessible girl" is a great tactic for building a serious relationship. The main thing is to know the measure! It is pointless to stretch the stage of courtship for years ...

If you like an inaccessible girl and don't know how to seduce her, you are lucky that you found this article. Here I will talk about how, with a high degree of probability, to seduce even the most impregnable woman.

Is it worth it to try to seduce an inaccessible girl

From my point of view, it is not necessary to try hard to seduce an inaccessible girl. There are several reasons for this:

1. Seducing such a woman requires a lot of time, which you could spend with other girls who initially respond well to you;
2. Trying hard to get an impregnable lady, you spend a lot of time and effort on it, as a result of which you deplete your resource and become dependent on the desire of the object of your addictions;
3. A girl should like you for who you are if you want to be yourself and feel comfortable in a relationship;
4. It's humiliating, being a normal guy, to kill yourself too much for a girl who doesn't care about you;
5. No one guarantees you that you will achieve it, and even if you achieve it, you will be able to build normal relations with her.

Therefore, the first and main advice: date only those girls who like you initially, and do not waste your time on those who need to be pursued.

The girl who likes you will seek you herself. And it will be much easier to sleep or build a happy, harmonious relationship with her than with the one you are indifferent to. The more interesting you are as a guy, the more women like you. In fact, your task is only to diversify your personality and choose women from those who like you. And the more interesting you become, the more girls you can choose from.

But the paradox is that often we ignore those who like us and try to get those who do not care about us. Often we are not interested in the woman that we achieved without much effort. On the contrary, we are attracted by a girl who has yet to be conquered. This is especially acute in adolescence, although mature men also often leave their families to win an impregnable beauty.

Why girls are unavailable

Understand that your attraction to a girl and her to you will rarely be the same. Usually a man acts as an interested party, because we want sex an order of magnitude more than they do. In addition, a woman is hammered into her head from childhood that she should be modest, that it is indecent to write and call a guy first, etc. Moreover, such behavior is inherent in her at an instinctive level by nature itself. After all, her task is to filter out hundreds of unnecessary males who will make their way to her in the hope of getting sex, and choose only the best among them, to whom she will be ready to give herself.

Woman is the successor of the human race. If she gave all men in a row, weak in body and spirit, our species would soon die out, because such offspring would be unsuitable for survival. Therefore, a woman is forced to be inaccessible to most men, so that only the strongest, cunning and brave of them could get her.

Let's get to the heart of the matter

Remember, if a girl is unavailable to you, she is PERSONALLY unavailable to you. Imagine that Leonardo DiCaprio would have been in your place - probably, the girl would have behaved a little differently with him. In the same way, and vice versa, if you managed to seduce a girl quickly and easily, this does not mean that she is an indecent woman. This means that she is available to you because she is interested in you as a man. But for another, less interesting, it will no longer be available.

Therefore, if it is difficult for you to achieve this or that girl, most likely, you are not captivating her yet, like a man. So, in order to get her, you need to become interesting in the eyes of this girl. To do this, you may need to change your behavior, appearance, communication style, etc.

It also happens that a girl just plays inaccessibility, because she knows that such women turn on guys more than those who are ready for anything at once. Usually it’s hard not to notice such a game: the girl tries to seem impregnable, but as soon as the guy’s attention weakens, she herself tries to make contact. From here it becomes clear what to do with such a girl - just do not react to her whims. First, play along with her a little, show yourself to be a wonderful guy, try to seduce her, and then disappear. With a high degree of probability, she herself will then make contact and begin to seduce you. If not, you will need to repeat everything until you get your way. Well, now let's move on to the question of how to get an inaccessible girl who initially reacts badly to you.

Inaccessible girl and how to deal with it

An inaccessible girl is exactly the same woman as all the others. She just doesn't like you yet. Don't worry, we'll fix it. As I said above, in order to please an impregnable girl, you need to become the kind of man who will captivate her. From my point of view, changing yourself in order to get one single young lady, when you can be yourself and have dozens and hundreds of others, is stupid. But it's up to you, maybe you need it for something.

If you decide to conquer an inaccessible girl, you will have to change yourself. And change not in such a way as to fit into her fantasy of an ideal guy, which is often unrealistic and delusional in itself, but in principle. That is, you need to become a more interesting man that most girls would like, and she in particular. Ideally, you become interesting as a person, adjusted for her personal fantasies. For example, if a girl is an outrageous rocker and you are a nerd, you can become an interesting man, plus add something rocker to your appearance, but this change should look natural in her eyes. Although it is not necessary to do so. It’s enough just to become an interesting man, then the girl herself will adapt to you to a certain extent, if you do everything right. I can’t guarantee that this will help build a relationship with her, since people of different worldviews get along together is difficult, but you can sleep with her.

I will say right away that it can take a lot of time to get an inaccessible girl. Often guys do not stand up and in the process of their changes they find another woman an order of magnitude better than the first one, who likes them the way they are. Many stop there. In any case, both the first and the second result are worth starting to change, and now we will talk about how to do this.

How to change to win an impregnable beauty

Women meet and love different men, but there is a universal type of guys who, all other things being equal, like the vast majority of girls an order of magnitude more than others. These guys have the following qualities: confidence, masculinity, willingness to take risks, calmness, a sense of humor, an interesting lifestyle, health and visual attractiveness, material security, the ability and desire to communicate with women, and are respected by other people.

If you initially do not have one, several or all of these qualities, it is quite possible to develop them in yourself to a good level from scratch in a few months. To do this, you need to do just a couple of specific things, which I will list below.

Do some sports

This is the first and most important thing. Sport will give you health, self-confidence, beautiful appearance. It is best to sign up for contact martial arts - they form a male character. If not, then any sport from tennis to football will do. is that you can do it right already and thus change your life. If you can’t find a job or don’t have money for new clothes, just start going to the horizontal bars in the yard or doing 100 push-ups every day, and you will already change in many ways and become attractive to women.

your appearance

This is the second thing that can be changed quickly. Take a shower every day, use men's cosmetics and personal hygiene products. Buy nice clothes that suit you and wear them. If you don’t know what suits you, ask a person who understands this. Focus on the classics, you can then wear it for years, despite the change in fashion trends. Nails and hair should be neatly trimmed. Shave your beard if it doesn't suit you or doesn't grow well. If your face, on the contrary, looks youthful, try to grow a beard and take care of it.

material security

You can already earn twice as much as now. Even if you are a student. People simply do not want to work and are lazy or immediately want to be bosses, successful entrepreneurs or directors, but this does not happen. Can't make a lot of money in one job, find 2-3. Often the main job allows you to do some other activity in parallel. You can, for example, work at your main job during the day, and in the evening write term papers or articles for websites, you can breed dogs or make dumplings. In general, there would be a desire. Of course, you don’t need to work hard all your life, because this way there will be no time and energy left for vivid impressions and seduction of new women, so gradually strive to open your own business or at the same time look for a job that will provide you with the same income that you you can get at 2-3 ordinary jobs, but you will spend much less time on this.

Some guys don't understand why they need to work hard and make a lot of money. Believe me, if you have a car and your own house, it will be much easier to seduce women. And what beauties can be picked up in expensive clubs or in famous resorts of the south. And in general, money gives a lot of opportunities, makes life easier and more interesting, so if you are wondering if you need a lot of money, I will definitely answer yes!

Talk to women a lot

Preferably not as a friend, but in a sexual context. The more experience you have with girls, the less inaccessible women you will meet on your way. Over time, you will intuitively understand how to behave with this or that young lady in order to get what you need from her. No books and articles on pickup will give you even a fraction of what personal experience will give, and you can only go this way yourself. The task of trainings, books and articles (by no means all) is to make this path as easy as possible for you. But it does not happen that you read a book and immediately began to successfully seduce women. You can't learn boxing from books either. So experience is everything.

If you have a particular unapproachable girl that you want to seduce and don't know how to do it, leave her for a while and try to seduce other women. Even if you like them less and need only her alone, force yourself to do it by willpower. Having seduced a dozen other women, you will understand how to seduce your beloved or realize that you do not need her, because there are many women better than her. Plus, no one has canceled such a feeling as jealousy. If you start communicating with other girls, and you score on your beloved, perhaps jealousy and a sense of ownership will jump in her, and she will already begin to seek you, and not you.

This is the key that will help win the heart of an impregnable girl, and any other. Women are attracted to interesting men. If you go in for sports, look good, are financially secure and are constantly surrounded by many ladies, you are already becoming interesting for any ordinary girl. You can increase this interest if you are something else strikingly stand out from the rest of the crowd of men. For example, you will have a hobby that is your real passion and in which you will understand better than many others. For example, you can play the guitar beautifully, compose poetry, do acrobatic stunts, be just smart and educated, understand a lot of things, speak beautifully. These guys are very attractive to women.

In order to become an interesting person, you must be interested in something else besides work or study, or do something interesting in life. For example, if your work is related to travel, creativity or inventive activity, then you don’t need a hobby either.

An interesting personality is a personality that is harmoniously and diversified. Therefore, develop physically and intellectually. Enrich your knowledge with new experiences, reading fiction and specialized literature, watching cinematic masterpieces and scientific and educational films. Along with this, train your body and communicate with other women, and in a couple of months you will appear in front of your inaccessible beauty with a completely different person, whom you cannot help but fall in love with.

How to behave with an impregnable girl to seduce her

Changing as a person, you can already take concrete steps to seduce an inaccessible girl:

1. Get lost for a while. The longer you communicated, the longer the period of time you should disappear. Do not worry if the girl starts dating someone at this time. You can even take away from the family later, if you really need it. During your absence, your old image will be somewhat erased in her head and it will be easier for you to appear before her as a different person;
2. Chat with an inaccessible girl in the same way as with all other women. Girls subtly feel when a guy likes them. And the guy, trying to please the woman of his dreams, often starts to behave like a donkey. Therefore, if you want to seduce an impregnable girl, communicate with her in the same way as with the girl with whom you just want to sleep, but who is generally indifferent to you;
3. Besiege her in waves. A drop sharpens a stone and after a long siege any fortress surrenders. It is important not to waste all your strength at once, but to be prepared for a long-term impact. Seducing an inaccessible girl is not a sprint, but a marathon. It is not the fastest who wins, but the most enduring and patient. Therefore, if you want to achieve such a woman, seduce her gradually, but surely. You pay a little attention one day, then you ignore it for two days. These terms are very conditional - it all depends on the specific situation. If you only do what constantly show signs of attention, you will quickly get bored with her. But even if you ignore it for a long time, she may not understand your intentions. In general, when you are with her, be persistent. Often it helps to change her no to yes, but if the young lady clearly protests against your pressure, be flexible and take a step back;
4. Let her do something for you. Unobtrusively put her in such conditions that she willy-nilly herself showed you signs of attention, let her confess her love to you, as if in jest, or say that she likes you. These words and actions themselves can make her reconsider her attitude towards you.

Conclusion

I hope this article turned out to be complete and voluminous, and gave you the answer to the question of how to seduce an inaccessible girl. In conclusion, I want to say that a weak little girl lives inside every young lady, and they often do not know what they want. Feel this weak girl in a woman and understand that if you are an interesting man and confident in your victory, if you wish and show your will, you can get any woman you want.

Which women are more attracted to men - those who are easy to achieve, or, conversely, inaccessible? Everyday opinions on this issue can be found very diverse: from "gentlemen prefer drunken blondes" to "a woman must be stormed like a fortress."

pure biology

Ethologists (specialists in animal behavior) explain female attractiveness as follows: a female arouses the interest of a male if three basic conditions are met - there is a novelty effect, evidence of her sexual condition (the ability to produce offspring) has been obtained, and there is evidence of her sexual availability - that is, the male understands that he has a chance of success.

Sexual availability raises the biggest questions: how exactly should a female be available? Ethologists are vague: her behavior should indicate sexual interest and sexual intelligibility at the same time. It seems that the situation with human females is equally twofold.

Psychologists argue about bipedal tastes

One day, four university professors of psychology were arguing over coffee. The topic of the dispute was female inaccessibility. How attractive is she in the eyes of men?

Psychologists argued something like this. The value of a woman hanging around her neck is not great in the eyes of a man. This is easy prey, in the company of such a beauty can become a laughing stock, besides, it is not known whether she will soon begin to hang around the neck of someone else.

An inaccessible woman - here she is, the poet's dream. Especially if the poet is familiar with the theory of dissonance, which says: when a person is forced to expend a lot of energy to achieve a goal, the goal seems to him even more tempting. An inaccessible woman should raise the status of a man in the eyes of the public.

But here's the question: at some point, an impregnable woman must let you get closer to her. Otherwise, the game loses its meaning. Then how long is it permissible to break down so that a man does not lose all interest in you?

For others, the discussion would be over after drinking coffee, but a real scientist is the one who proves his words in practice. Therefore, the company, consisting of Jane Pilyavin, Edgar Berscheid and the Walsters, decided on an experiment.

The experiment failed

At first, psychologists decided to get off lightly and simply: to find out everything that was of interest to a group of teenagers - after all, the hormone plays in them, and issues of social status and personal attractiveness are painfully relevant for them.

Teenagers were shown photos of different couples and told how these people met. In one case, it was said that one of the couple showed a very strong interest in the other at the first meeting. Others reported little interest. Teenagers were then asked how socially attractive "very interested" and "indifferent" people turned out to be for them.

The researchers assumed that "very interested" would look uncool in the eyes of teenagers - they are literally hung around their necks. It turned out, exactly the opposite: the more directly interested a person was, the more attractive teenagers found him.

Perseverance and hard work lead to nothing.

Psychologists were surprised, but did not despair - just think, they are undergrown, what they understand in life. It was decided to experiment with adults. However, three subsequent experiments ended in complete failure. All of them were related to the service of computer dating and blind dates, they were all based on the hypothesis: if a man cannot assess how attractive the woman he invites on a blind date is, then he will focus on indirect data. In particular, he can judge how attractive a woman is and how highly she values ​​herself by how quickly she agrees to a date.

So, the men who participated in all three experiments, even in absentia, did not like women who had to be persuaded for a long time.

But this failure did not confuse psychologists. They decided to get to the heart of the matter: the sexual relationship. And they acted boldly: this time several prostitutes acted as experimenters - after all, aren't these the most accessible and reliable women?

It was decided to create a situation in which the prostitute became less accessible to the client. Girls, before performing their professional tasks, reported that now they would not be able to meet with everyone in a row, because they entered the university, they would have less time, and they would have to become more selective. After that, the prostitutes had to evaluate how much the client liked them, how generously he paid for their services, and most importantly, how many times he would turn to her services over the next month.

The researchers failed again: the clients lost interest in the "learned" prostitute, did not seek her services in the future, and did not show great joy from the last meeting.

Truth speaks through the lips of a student

After five unsuccessful experiments, psychologists lost a little scientific zeal. So it remained unknown whether a woman should be impregnable or agree to everything. The teachers shared their sorrows with the students. There was a spontaneous and stormy discussion, during which the students put the situation on the shelves.

A woman inaccessible and a woman who agrees to everything are extremes, something like Scylla and Charybdis. The real male choice is strongly influenced by an additional factor: how accessible a woman is for a particular man and inaccessible to other surrounding males. This is how she acquires value in the eyes of a man.

The embarrassed teachers, who did not include an additional scale in their study, only had to conduct a final experiment that could confirm or refute the opinion of the students. The dating service was activated again. The men who posted their profile and photo there were given a dossier of a dozen women, allegedly selected by a computer. Each applicant was told that the woman was choosing between him and several others - and here are the points she put up for each potential groom. Needless to say, men chose for the first date exactly the woman who gave them a high score, and rated all other applicants low.

The moral of this story lies on the surface: sometimes students understand practical things better than teachers, sometimes scientists show amazing perseverance to understand simple truths. And women always choose a man, not vice versa. Be carefull.

Svetlana Malevich