Tantrum before bed for 2 months. Psychological factors of crying

When children sleep peacefully, parents are only happy, they have the opportunity to do something around the house or just relax. However, babies do not always rest for the 16-20 hours they are supposed to, sometimes going to bed is accompanied by real tantrums, the child starts yelling and it is simply impossible to calm him down. Moms and dads are shocked by such behavior, they give in to panic and sound the alarm, because something is clearly wrong with the child. However, in most cases, screams are the absolute norm, their origin is easy to explain. Let's try to figure out what the cause of this condition may be, how to fix it yourself and when you should seek help from doctors.

Sleep features of babies

When a baby is born, its nervous system and many other organs and systems are not yet fully formed. Children do not know how to distinguish day from night, this skill appears in them only at the age of one and a half months. Also, babies have their own special “script” of sleep. Their holiday begins with fast phase when the brain is working and there may even be muscle activity, then there is a slow phase during which the whole body shuts down. These phases change more often than in adults, and the transition from one to another, as well as the process of falling asleep, may be accompanied by screams or crying.

To help the child quickly adapt to the mode of wakefulness and rest, you need to daytime entertain him with active communication, do not close the curtains in the room, even when he is sleeping, do not keep silence. Parents can talk to each other, turn on the TV quietly or go about their business, but too loud sounds still need to be avoided, they can scare the baby.

But at night, you should close the curtains tightly, do not talk to the baby and do not play with him, even if he woke up. So that he can calm himself down and not get scared, leave a dim nightlight in his room. These activities will help children fall asleep faster and prevent tantrums before rest.

Psychological factors of crying

Organization nervous system the baby is imperfect, he has not yet developed a braking mechanism that quickly switches the brain from wakefulness to rest. The baby does not know how to cope with his emotions and express them correctly, so parents often face screaming before going to bed.

Let's consider what psychological reasons can lead to this condition, and how to deal with them:

Physiological causes

The crying and crying of a child before going to bed can also be provoked by physiological factors. Toddlers develop and grow, changes often occur in their bodies that are not always enjoyable.

Also, the natural needs of the little one can cause anxiety - it is through crying that he signals to his parents that he needs something.

Consider the most common problems that cause crumbs to throw tantrums before a night's rest:

1. Teething.

Experts say that if milk teeth erupted in an adult, he would hardly be able to endure such severe pain. But babies cope with it, but still they feel quite strong discomfort, especially if several cloves climb at once. Unpleasant sensations can occur in children 2-3 months before the very beginning of teething, at this time they try to pull their hands into their mouths, sleep restlessly and become irritable.

When the teeth are already on the way, the gums turn red and swell, the child may have a fever, often there is constipation or diarrhea. In that case, help special gels, which have an analgesic effect and make the tissues looser, helping the teeth break through. You can also use children's antipyretic drugs, give the baby special silicone teethers.

1. Colic in the abdomen.

With the birth of digestive system baby appears new task- digestion of food. To cope with it, there must be a certain microflora in the gastrointestinal tract, but it is fully normalized only in the third month of the baby's life. Until that time, he may experience colic in the tummy, due to which night sleep often disturbed by crying and screaming. Recognizing this nuisance is quite simple, the child has gases, he constantly tightens his legs and pulls them.

The fight against this problem is to alleviate the condition of the baby. Mom can stroke his tummy clockwise, make a warm compress, for this you need to moisten the diaper in hot water, sue to a comfortable temperature and attach to the baby's tummy.

It will also be useful to teach him to sleep on his stomach, so gas will move faster and cause a minimum of discomfort. In particularly difficult cases, doctors may prescribe fennel tea, dill water or special drops to improve microflora.

1. Hunger and thirst.

Babies are most often fed on demand rather than on a schedule. It is likely that evening screams are associated with the baby's hunger. Before going to bed, he must be fed, but not too tightly, as a hearty dinner can cause nightmares.

When the child is breastfeeding, make sure he sucks everything out of each breast completely. First comes the foremilk, which contains almost no nutrients, and only then - fatty. If the baby will consume only unleavened milk, it is likely that before going to bed he will want to eat again.

1. Cold and heat.

Temperature environment It can also interfere with your baby's sleep patterns. If the room is too stuffy, he will toss and turn, scream and act up, the same behavior is provided when it is too cold. It is important to create an optimal microclimate that will contribute to good rest peanut.

In the cold season, you can additionally turn on the heater, but put the crib from it on long distance while humidifying the air. The temperature in the room should be within 20-21 ° C, and humidity - 50-70%.

On hot days, you can use the climate control system, which will clean and cool the air. In no case do not turn on the air conditioner in the child, it can provoke hypothermia.

1. Uncomfortable bed.

The whims of the child may be due to the fact that he is simply uncomfortable sleeping. Pay attention to the crib, whether it is too small for a little one, whether the mattress in it is of suitable rigidity, whether the pillow is too high. Perhaps this is the reason for the constant screaming.

Also, uncomfortable clothing can cause discomfort, it should be light, made of natural materials and do not restrict movement.

Carefully inspect the bed of the little one, even a small fold on the diaper or sheet can interfere with his peaceful rest. Make sure that the baby's diaper is dry, even innovative absorbent systems cannot fully protect the baby from moisture.

Let's summarize

When a child cries periodically before going to bed, you can find the problem of his anxiety and eliminate it on your own. However, if the tantrums continue for several days in a row, this serious reason to see a therapist. Similar state may indicate various diseases that need urgent treatment.

If the baby does not fully rest, there may be problems with his physical and psychological development so pay close attention to this important factor.

liliyag79 01/15/2010 at 10:45:15 AM

Tantrums before sleep and at night.

Girls, tell me how to be. Itself while I am inclined to that the child should be shown to the neurologist. The child is 1 year and 7.
For about 5 days, she throws tantrums before evening sleep, although I’m already laying down at about 11. (Before, at about 10, I told the child, let’s go to bed, there is a bear-doll-ko waiting. She walked, lay down, gave breasts, fell asleep).
Now he doesn’t want to go, if I put him on the bed, climbs out, breaks out, screams, demands a cartoon, dad, porridge. Don't let yourself be touched at all! You can't download. Yesterday, probably an hour of hysteria with interruptions. I closed myself in the bedroom with her, lay down on the bed myself, read books aloud, told how toys sleep. And she walked around, tried to pull me off to open the door. Then the child got tired, asked for a bed. For some time she sat roaring and did not lie down, then she fell asleep.
But what scares me the most is that he wakes up at night and it's just as impossible to put him down! In the dark, she rushes about the bed, does not let herself be touched, cries ... Tonight she also cried for a long time, after an hour of torment, I swaddled her like a little one in a blanket and rocked her (for the first minutes I held her tightly so as not to break out) ....
In the afternoon, too, tantrums, if something is not as she wants or I do not give something forbidden (dangerous). I explain why, I give something in return. There is no sense.
No teeth come out. The fangs are next in line, but they are not swollen, they have not yet come close to the gum.
All in all, I'm shocked. I don’t know, is this an attempt to establish their own rules (but why hysterics at night?) Or did something happen to the nervous system?
I'm afraid that these tantrums will completely exhaust her ...

Sorry it's long. Who will advise what?

• Drathir 01/15/2010 at 11:12:26 AM

  we had this during sleep sometimes, though during the day

  woke up and shouted for a long time, “no” to all questions, didn’t let him come up and touch himself, he started to fight. I tried to caress him, but he was very nervous, fought, shouted - it turned out even worse. As a result, she simply left the room or sat nearby until the tantrum passed. He also screamed at night, but dad took him to sleep with us and it passed. You may be dreaming of something bad. There were such seizures in a dream for about 2 years, for several months I don’t remember this (roar, not to fight).
  And just do some children crisis of 3 years begins when there are 2 more.
  When the elder started to get hysterical about sleep, we simply decided not to let him sleep. As soon as he heard that he couldn’t sleep, he immediately lay down, like I’m going to sleep. We conducted such an experiment a couple of times and realized that we have a classic crisis.
  Although, having reached the neurologist, we were still told that the child hyperexcitability etc.

  Other people's stupidity and their own achievements always seem greater

  tarnavka 01/15/2010 at 20:13:42

  Was there stress?

  My eldest at one time seemed to be hysterical. It started after the appearance of the youngest. And now, if I'm not in a good mood, I'm in a hurry, he feels very much and can give out in the evening before going to bed or burst into tears at night. It's always hard to calm down. I try to take care of myself, not to be nervous for no reason.

  • Pregnant woman 01/15/2010 at 20:28:27

    I do you have a nightlight?

    and does it burn all night in the child's room? what I mean is that I still can’t sleep with the lights off and this fear since childhood ... maybe I had a dream and he was afraid to sleep again and stay in the room himself .... I judge this by myself from childhood. ...... at one time I dreamed the same horror stories every night and I was afraid to go to sleep, and my parents forcibly put me down and screamed for it ....

    • liliyag79 01/15/2010 at 11:58:38 PM

      no nightlight, but I sleep next to her. maybe scared...

Masasha 01/15/2010 at 22:02:47

I couldn’t figure out for a long time what was happening with my son (she fights back at night, cries for a long time and hysterically, wakes up with tears during the day) noticed some patterns. Suddenly it will come in handy for you. for us, this is dad's viewing) 3) Mom's nervous system failures, even internal, not visual:: (4) + 100% agree with children's fears (google a lot of articles) from an overabundance of emotions.
ZY by the way, teeth are also not expected in such periods.

I do not educate, I help to grow ....

• liliyag79 01/16/2010 at 00:19:05

  Thanks, googled about fears, very instructive.

Iriha 01/15/2010 at 02:23:03 PM

when the teeth move = it hurts a lot

even if they are not yet at the gums. my son after each such stirring was as if exhausted. so maybe teeth. even before going to bed, try to feed, maybe the child is hungry, so everything is wrong.

the past is forgotten
future - closed
real gift...

elenanemesida 01/15/2010 at 19:20:44

No neurologist needed

The neurologist will come up with some kind of pep. It's just that a child has a crisis of the 1st year that is how it manifests itself. He wants to stay awake, because there is so much to do, learn, see, and they put him to sleep. Here it is capricious. Especially when dad comes home from work in the evening. My son also behaved in the evening. But in the afternoon, when only the two of us are at home, he falls asleep even without me, he lies down himself - the time has come. You just be more persistent, turn off the light, tell him to sleep and do not follow the child's lead. At first he will cry, then he will understand that this does not help, his mother's word is the law, and he will sleep. I cried for a week before going to bed, now I have become calmer.

We have been living with my wife for half a year, I am her second husband, two children remained from my first marriage, a daughter of 5 years and a son of 3 years, I normally treat them as my own, though my son is boorish and ill-mannered, but I do not pay attention. So, their wife raised them alone for 2 years and spoiled them, there are a lot of toys, they eat at least a kilogram of sweets per day and play with them all the time and teach them to read, write and the like, plus it works, and besides, this is all that loves them madly, does everything for them, and I look from the side and see that they really don’t care about anything, they just feel comfortable sitting on her neck, they don’t understand at all that their mother is tired, that they want to relax, that at least on the weekend she can sleep longer in the morning, or at lunchtime, that is, they wake up early, but let them play, but don’t get her from the very morning, they would give her at least a little rest, but it wasn’t there, once he wanted to slap his son for disobedience, in response he heard - “don’t you dare beat my children", well, in short, I don’t participate in educating, because sometimes I want to educate with a whip, figuratively speaking, and she only gingerbread and fusses to them, this was a prehistory, now to the suia, in general, somehow they go to bed at 10 pm, at 5 o’clock in the morning the whole house can be heard, and even at 3 o'clock in the morning - moms, I can't sleep, can i come to you? Moreover, as one can charge it, so can the other, the mother will tell them a story - sleep, the second, then, okay, and goes to our bed, tossing and turning here, she herself or herself doesn’t sleep and doesn’t give us, I say once say it’s normal, they say adults, sleep in your bed and don’t yell, but try to fall asleep and be silent, but of course they still come without asking, and I say send it back, they will roar, take offense at night, then in the morning it’s all the same how they will be silk, without a mother, nowhere , neither tie your shoelaces nor wipe your ass, to which my wife always answers me - they say it’s none of your business, like, I bring it up the way I want. Attention experts, the question is, should I then live with this family? if we all live together, and only she educates, and she doesn’t educate, but pampers, one can only say, but both of us go to work in the morning, not sleeping and tired, I would understand if she said, they say I’m raising I don’t I get enough sleep, like, and so on, but you seem to be normal, they don’t bother you. And so we all live together, but you can’t count words for me, but you can only swallow everything 29.01.2019 04:52:13, Maksgreen

Living with family is work. Difficult, boring work. You and your wife need to talk, come to an understanding that now these are your children, and not just hers. This is what she needs to understand first. And you need to talk with children, explain both about fatigue and about a separate bed. Try to unload your mother yourself, let him sleep on the weekend, and you will take care of the children for you, as a husband and father cannot leave education, otherwise everything will turn against you later. After all, you are not an empty place, but the head of the family and must learn to be one, although this is much harder in your case, because. she's been with mom and dad for so long. 02/10/2019 08:54:01 PM, JustWo

Children's tantrums can complicate the life of any, even very patient adults. Just yesterday, the baby was a “darling”, and today he has been replaced - he screams for any reason, squeals, falls to the floor, beats his head against the walls and carpet, and no exhortations help. Such unpleasant scenes are almost never one-time protests. Often, tantrums in a child are repeated systematically, sometimes several times a day.




This cannot but disturb and puzzle parents who are wondering what they did wrong, is everything okay with the baby and how to stop these antics. Authoritative famous pediatrician Yevgeny Komarovsky tells moms and dads how to respond to children's tantrums.




About the problem

Children's tantrums are a ubiquitous phenomenon. And even if the parents of the little one say that they have the calmest baby in the world, this does not mean that he never makes scenes out of the blue. Until recently, it was somehow embarrassing to admit to tantrums in one’s own child, the parents were embarrassed, suddenly others would think that they were raising a little one badly, and sometimes they were completely afraid that their beloved child would be considered mentally “not like that”. So they fought, as best they could, in the family circle.







IN last years they began to talk about the problem with specialists, child psychologists, psychiatrists, neurologists and pediatricians. And an insight came: there are much more hysterical children than it might seem at first glance. According to statistics available to child psychologists in one of the major Moscow clinics, 80% of children under the age of 6 have tantrums periodically, and 55% of such children have tantrums on a regular basis. On average, children can fall into such attacks from 1 time per week to 3-5 times a day.







A child's tantrum has certain basic symptoms. As a rule, an attack is preceded by some identical events and situations.

During a tantrum, a child can scream heart-rendingly, tremble, choke, and there will not be so many tears. There may be shortness of breath, an increased heart rate, and many children try to hurt themselves by scratching their faces, biting their hands, hitting walls or the floor. Attacks in children are quite long, after which they cannot calm down for a long time, sobbing.




In certain age periods, tantrums acquire stronger manifestations; at such “critical” stages of growing up, emotional outbursts change their color. They may suddenly appear, or they may just as suddenly disappear. But tantrums should never be ignored, just as a child should not be allowed to manipulate adult family members with the help of screaming and stamping their feet.

The opinion of Dr. Komarovsky

First of all, Evgeny Komarovsky believes, parents should remember that a child in a state of hysteria necessarily needs a spectator. Toddlers never make a fuss in front of the TV or washing machine, they choose a living person, and from the family members, it is the one who is most sensitive to his behavior that is suitable for the role of the spectator.

If dad starts to worry and get nervous, then it will be he who will be chosen by the child for a spectacular tantrum. And if the mother ignores the behavior of the child, then throwing a tantrum in front of her is simply not interesting.

How to wean a child from tantrums will tell Dr. Komarovskaya in the next video.

This opinion somewhat contradicts the generally accepted opinion of child psychologists, who argue that a child in a state of hysteria does not control himself at all. Komarovsky is sure that the baby is perfectly aware of the situation and the balance of power, and everything that he does at this moment does it quite arbitrarily.

That's why main advice from Komarovsky - in no way show that the children's "concert" touches the parents in any way. No matter how strong the tears, screams and stamping of feet were.

If a child ever achieves his goal with the help of a tantrum, he will use this method all the time. Komarovsky warns parents to appease the baby during a tantrum.

To give in means to become a victim of manipulation, which will, in one way or another, constantly improving, continue for the rest of your life.




Preferably calm tactics of behavior and rejection of tantrums were followed by all family members, so that mom's "no" never turns into dad's "yes" or grandma's "maybe". Then the child will quickly understand that hysteria is not a method at all, and will stop testing adults' nerves for strength.

If the grandmother begins to show softness, feel sorry for the offended parental abandonment child, then she runs the risk of becoming the only spectator of children's tantrums. The problem, says Komarovsky, is the lack of physical security with such grandmothers. After all, usually a grandson or granddaughter gradually ceases to obey them and can fall into unpleasant situation, in which they can be injured on a walk, burn yourself with boiling water in the kitchen, put something into the socket, etc., because the baby will not react to the calls of the grandmother.







What to do?

If a child is 1-2 years old, he is quite quickly able to form correct behavior at the reflex level. Komarovsky advises to put the baby in the arena, where he will have a safe space. As soon as the tantrum began, leave the room, but let the child know that he is being heard. As soon as the little one is silent, you can go into his room. If the cry is repeated - go out again.

According to Evgeny Olegovich, two days are enough for a child of one and a half to two years to develop a stable reflex - “mother is nearby if I don’t yell”.




For such a “training”, parents will need truly iron nerves, the doctor emphasizes. However, their efforts will certainly be rewarded by the fact that through a short time their family will grow adequate, calm and obedient child. And one more important point- how earlier parents apply this knowledge in practice, so it will be better for everyone. If the child has already exceeded 3 years, this method alone is indispensable. More painstaking work on the bugs will be required. First of all, over parental mistakes in raising their own child.







The child does not obey and is hysterical

Absolutely any children can be naughty, says Komarovsky. Much depends on the character, temperament, upbringing, norms of behavior that are accepted in the family, on the relationship between members of this family.

Do not forget about the "transitional" age - 3 years, 6-7 years, adolescence.

3 years

At the age of about three years, the child understands and realizes himself in this big world, and, of course, he wants to try this world for strength. In addition, children at this age are not all and far from always able to express in words their feelings, emotions and experiences on any occasion. So they show them in the form of hysterics.




Quite often at this age stage, night tantrums begin. They are spontaneous in nature, the child simply wakes up at night and immediately practices a piercing cry, arches, sometimes tries to break away from adults and try to run away. Usually night tantrums do not last so long, and the child "outgrows" them, they stop as suddenly as they began.




6-7 years old

At 6-7 years of age, new stage growing up. The kid is already ripe in order to go to school, and they begin to demand more from him than before. He is very afraid of not meeting these requirements, he is afraid of “failing”, stress accumulates and sometimes spills out again in the form of hysteria.







Yevgeny Komarovsky emphasizes that most often parents turn to doctors with this problem when the child is already 4-5 years old, when tantrums occur “out of habit”.

If, at an earlier age, parents failed to stop such behavior and unwittingly became participants in a tough performance that the baby plays in front of them every day, trying to achieve something of his own.

Parents are usually scared by some external manifestation tantrums, such as a semi-conscious state of the child, convulsions, "hysterical bridge" (arching the back), deep sobs and shortness of breath. Affective-respiratory disorders, this is what Evgeny Olegovich calls this phenomenon, are characteristic mainly of children early age- up to 3 years. With strong crying, the child exhales almost the entire volume of air from the lungs, and this leads to blanching, holding the breath.

With such manifestations of hysteria, it is still better to consult a pediatric neurologist, since the same symptoms are characteristic of some nervous disorders.




• Teach your child to express emotions in words. Do not get angry or annoyed at all, like anyone else normal person your child can't. You just need to teach him how to express his anger or irritation correctly.
• A child prone to hysterical attacks should not be overly patronized, groomed and cherished, it is best to send him to kindergarten as soon as possible. There, says Komarovsky, seizures usually do not occur at all due to the lack of permanent and impressionable spectators of tantrums - mom and dad.
• Hysterical attacks can learn to anticipate and control. To do this, parents need to carefully observe when a tantrum usually begins. The child may be sleepy, hungry, or he does not tolerate when they begin to rush him. Try to avoid potential "conflict" situations.
• At the first sign of a tantrum starting, you should try to distract the child. Usually, says Komarovsky, this “works” quite successfully with children under three years old. With older guys it will be more difficult.
• If your child tends to hold his breath during a tantrum, there is nothing particularly wrong with that. Komarovsky says that in order to improve breathing, you just need to blow in the face of the baby, and he will definitely take a breath reflexively.
• No matter how difficult it is for parents to deal with the tantrums of the child, Komarovsky strongly recommends that you go through with this. If you let the kid beat you with a tantrum, then it will be even more difficult. After all, a hysterical and completely unbearable teenager of 15-16 years old will one day grow out of a hysterical three-year-old. It will ruin the life of not only parents. He makes it very difficult for himself.




• Doctor Komarovsky

Tearful sobs, convulsive twitches of pens and heartbreaking cries with the demands “buy ... I won’t ... I want ...” are signs transition period in life two year old baby called "crisis period".

Most mothers are concerned about the strange actions of their little one, and some believe that a tantrum in a child at 2 years old is a sign of a terrible mental illness. Actually it is not.

In children in two years old certain principles and criteria of one's personal "I" begin to form. Toddlers try to distinguish themselves in front of their peers, parents, and even completely strangers, throwing tantrums in the most inappropriate places, for example, in a clinic or right on the street.

Showing their independence in front of others, they fix in their memory the response of the “spectators”, remember it and begin to build some boundaries of permissibility in their heads. If adults constantly indulge the absurd whims of their children, then children remember these actions as “normal” to achieve their goals. "No" - then I will cry and still get what I want - becomes the "motto" Everyday life little crumbs. And tantrums in such families will have a regular character.

To help children form their desires correctly and at the same time lend a helping hand to poor, exhausted parents, one should understand the causes of the “torture” of the nervous system.

What is the cause of tantrums in two-year-old children?

Tantrums in a child at 2 years old occur by different reasons. Let's consider the most frequent ones.

1. Physical needs (desire to sleep, hunger, thirst). Frequent whims flare up when there is no proper satisfaction of the physical needs of the body.
2. An urgent need to get something. If the desired object, constantly in the field of view of the child, is out of reach, then it can cause nervous outbursts.
3. Periodic indulgence of reckless desires. In order to avoid long annoying tears or an awkward situation that threatens to unfold in all its glory in front of unwitting witnesses, mothers are trying to “make amends” for the conflict - they are doing the will of their little “master”.
4. The inability to explain disease state because of the small vocabulary. In this case, the crumbs begin to seek solace in the most beloved and important person, and if they do not receive it, they begin to act up.
5. Hyperactivity. Most of the kids in this age period begin to learn actively the world. Disorder in behavior is manifested in excessive observation and curiosity. Emotions caused by an object or situation ( new toy, watching a cartoon) can be reversed: laughter appears when you are surprised, crying when watching a cartoon, etc.

Ambulance during a storm

It is important for mothers to know that every “storm” has its own harbingers. Before the onset of an emotional explosion, the child's behavior changes: he begins to look away or to the floor, raise his upper lip to his nose and sniff. Eyes fill with tears and the first sobs begin.

• If you start to act immediately, then the situation can still be saved and the hysterical fit in a two-year-old will not come into full force. In such cases, it is imperative to switch the attention of the "little master" to another object. You can go with him to the next room and look for the hedgehog hiding under the bed, go for a walk or read your favorite book.
• Under no circumstances should it be applied physical punishment(corner, strap), all the more shout out offensive words. Even at two years old, a baby is already a person who is able to hold a grudge and throw out all the negativity on his mother at a convenient moment. In more late age Aggression can be expressed by inadequate actions.
• Maintain the conversation in a firm but calm voice. Be sure to give reasons for your refusal in an accessible form. For example: "I know you're angry, but you can't cry in the store."
• Teach capricious to express own feelings Not with bursts of emotion, but with words. For example: “Are you crying because you couldn’t draw a car?”
• Allow yourself to do some things yourself more often, for example, collect toys in a box or sweep the floor with a broom. You need to make it clear to the baby that he is already an adult and has his own responsibilities.

Tantrums in a child at 2 years old before bedtime

With an increase in nervous outbursts in the evening before going to bed, it is required to establish their motives. Most likely, overwork during the day or the weather that changed outside the window played a role.

But there may be serious reasons leading to frequent nervous breakdowns- nightmares, nightly "visions" of fictional characters. In this case, the visit to the doctor should not be postponed.

To eliminate tantrums at bedtime in a two-year-old baby, you should:

• Follow the daily routine.
• Set aside enough time for play during the daytime. Do not overwork the little man.
• Come up with special rituals for going to bed: singing a calm song every time before going to bed or reading your favorite fairy tale. May I help warm bath for legs with the addition essential oil chamomile or mint (in case the crumbs are not allergic to herbs).
• Try changing the curtains in the bedroom to softer and warmer tones.