Fell in love with an ugly man: what to do? Ugly man: what is the secret of attractiveness.

About the appearance of men in the context of building relationships, it is still somehow not customary to say “without cuts”. Rather, if the guy is clearly good-looking, then everything is a priori good, but if not, then ...

On the one hand, “female folk wisdom” invented strange sayings like “a man should be a little more beautiful than a monkey”, “do not drink water from your face”, etc. On the other hand, unsympathetic guys experience much more difficulties in their personal lives than cute handsome men, and the same girls contemptuously wrinkle their noses in the direction of “skinny”, “fatty”, “oblique”, etc.

So what can an ugly man really be, and how often do you meet in life “terrible on the face, kind inside” ?!

Some facts about ugly men

Let's start with the recognition of a simple fact - a man can be ugly! There is no need to scold yourself for intolerance and bias, if you can’t put an “equal” sign between the young DiCaprio and the neighbor Vaska. Vaskas are not pumped up, with paunches, pimply and all sorts of other things - you should not try to discern some aesthetics inaccessible to you in each of them.

But it is worth highlighting two types of male ugliness:

• The presence of irreparable defects. For example, strabismus, “hormonal” fullness, inharmonious facial features, early baldness, etc.
• The presence of correctable shortcomings (which, nevertheless, the man does not try to correct) and features of appearance caused by the lifestyle of this person. For example, teeth with a bunch of unfilled holes, excess weight from overeating and unwillingness to go to workouts, unkempt skin or swelling, which is a clear sign of chronic friendship with ...

As you understand, in the second case, an unsympathetic appearance is far from the main problem in a man. Even if you turn a blind eye to unkemptness, you will somehow have to face laziness, irresponsibility, stupidity, unambitiousness and other unpleasant qualities of this person.

Tip "Beautiful and Successful" - stay away from untidy and unkempt guys, they are nothing outstanding!

But I want to talk about men with incorrigible ugliness separately. Of course, an ugly man understands that he is ugly, and that this causes rejection among others in general and among women in particular. And here the strength of character and intelligence of this man should play their role.

• A smart man with a strong will will inevitably come to the conclusion that if he wants to have everything the same as the pretty minions of fortune, he will have to work three times, if not ten times more. Earn more and move up the social ladder more actively, develop intelligence and become an interesting conversationalist, use your talents - create yourself! Moreover, both sociable good-natured people and brutal “dominants” can be charismatic - if a man understands what image is really his own, and will “pump” this image, then he will be able to achieve a lot. And such a person in the sense of a relationship can be of much greater interest than a handsome boy, but we will talk about this a little later.
• If a man has low willpower, plus he is not seven spans in his forehead, he can simply give in to the insidious blow of fate that did not give him the appearance of Apollo. “I’m already ugly, who needs me - at least develop, at least don’t develop, women won’t look at me. And I don’t need much - beer, pillboxes and porn ... ”- this is a typical way of thinking for such a man. How often the fate of these characters develops, you can guess.

A beautiful girl and an ugly man: are there any prospects?

Beauty and the Beast, Princess Fiona and Shrek - such couples are often described in cinema and literature. The archetypal plot is as follows: the Beast, unloved by everyone, lives, Beauty meets him quite by chance (or she turns out to be saved by him), and thanks to her spiritual purity, Beauty sees the beautiful Prince in the Beast. Even if there is no literal external transformation, it is still emphasized that an ugly character finally reveals all his kindness, intelligence and other positive qualities, and all these treasures (often together with a good castle) go to Beauty, who has descended to a miserable freak. Is the fairy tale a lie, and where is the hint in it?

What can happen in real life if a pretty girl fell in love with an ugly man?

Firstly, the awareness of being attractive and necessary to the Beauty will give inspiration to any Beast. From gentlemen with an unpresentable appearance, excellent husbands often turn out - those who put all their strength into these relationships and keep the Beauty next to them. After all, unlike handsome boys who, from their youth, get girls literally “for beautiful eyes,” an ugly man understands that he can only keep the attention of his chosen one with his actions. And therefore, his Beauty can count on gifts, attention, long-term fidelity and other "gingerbread".

But, of course, this is an ideal scenario - if it always worked, we would advise all our readers to fall in love with an ugly man! But ... there are many "pitfalls". For example:

• A very ugly man, no doubt, repeatedly “burned himself with milk” - he was given contemptuous glances many times, he probably faced female refusals, he was used to the fact that women do not like him (and if they do, then it’s definitely not for appearance) ! And here it is very easy for a man to make a strategically incorrect conclusion: “All women are corrupt, they all need either handsome men or “sponsors” - I can’t be handsome, but I don’t want to be a “sponsor”, so I’m a lone wolf ". Self-doubt and complexes in such a man are accompanied by incredible arrogance towards women! If you have seen angry male comments on the Internet on the topic “All women are ..., but I am d’Artagnan” - do not hesitate, ugly men write this with an insult to the entire female sex. There is a way out of this situation for an ugly man - in addition to appearance, women love in men willpower, intelligence, charisma and good character. But if a peasant is also unlucky with these qualities (or he is too lazy to develop them), then it turns out that such a character is absolutely unsuitable for life, which is almost impossible to correct.
• If an ugly man is at least a little bit smart, but at the same time he has the same complex of resentment towards women, he can (consciously or not) become an abuser in relation to the lady. This is what happens: the girl fell in love with an ugly man, he, of course, reciprocated, but ... after a while, he begins to carefully look for flaws in the woman herself and systematically point them out to her - starting from her supposedly feminine commercialism and ending with soup not like mothers. The alignment that the abuser seeks: the girl should think that she, using her beauty, offends and oppresses in every possible way "on the face of a terrible, kind inside." And yes, sometimes even the beauty of a woman is called into question - with high conceit she can inspire a woman that she is not so good, and as soon as she stops bothering him, the divorced Angelina Jolie will immediately appear: she will cook the right soups for him and her mother-in-law call mom. Then everything depends on the girl’s self-esteem: the sooner she realizes that clucking over the “poor and sick” will not bear any fruit, and she deserves a much more interesting gentleman, the sooner she will leave an ugly man. He, of course, will be even more offended by the female sex and will be convinced of the idea that all women are corrupt ... but ... these are his personal problems!

Ugly man: what to do?

First, decide for yourself whether you want to do something about this person at all? Not all women like ugly men - even with the most "golden" characters and extraordinary brains. If you understand that you can never sincerely love your unsympathetic boyfriend, and his appearance will always be a kind of painful “stumbling block” for you, it’s more honest to tactfully refuse him right away.

If the appearance of a man is really not important for you, then be attentive to everything else - far from always “spiritual beauty” is hidden under an ugly appearance, alas.

Be especially vigilant in the case when the external flaws of a man are clearly fixable!

Just think - why does he continue to eat like crazy instead of diets and trips to, because of which he did not reach the beauty salon in order to finally bring out acne colonies by the age of thirty, why he bypasses the tenth expensive dentist and where is his deodorant ?!

Of course, you can tactfully hint to a man that you are a little embarrassed by his flaw, but you know the way to fix it, you are ready to help him with this and. Some men, inspired by female support, lose weight, swing, dare to visit a beautician, etc. But remember that you shouldn’t insist too much - an ugly man has every right to do (or not do) with his appearance what he wants!

Tom Hiddleston

In recent years, the world has gone crazy over Benedict Cumberbatch and Tom Hiddleston. Their, let's say, extraordinary appearance is valued no less than acting. Odin captivated hundreds of hearts by playing Sherlock Holmes in the series of the same name, and continues to drive girls crazy just by appearing on the red carpet. Another gained incredible popularity among the ladies, playing a completely negative role in the movie "Thor", and then struck on the spot in "High-rise". So what's the secret?

Behavior and mind

There are enough examples in the world of cinema when men with a peculiar appearance became unimaginably popular. Take at least Rowan Atkinson, beloved by many Mr. Bean. He is known all over the world, but unlike Cumberbatch or Hiddleston, they do not take him for a sex symbol. It is logical to assume that the point here is in the role. Benedict plays an aesthete, not deprived of intelligence and taste, and Rowan - a clumsy fool. The first time you see Cumberbatch on screen, you think, “Wow! How ugly! ”, And in half an hour you dream of being with him on a desert island. His manner of speaking, behaving with people (albeit often and sharply), sharp language and deep thoughts about anything turn an unsympathetic guy into an ideal of beauty. This is how easy inner peace, upbringing and restraint can cover external shortcomings.

Benedict Cumberbatch

Style

Style should be understood as a general manner of looking: how certain things suit him, how neat he is, whether he knows how to wear his clothes. The more a man looks organically in his style, the more he will be attractive to us. Have you noticed how often even beautiful men scare away, but dressed, for example, not for their age, and how easily we forgive the external unattractiveness of stylish guys? Remember Vincent Cassel. His characters in films cannot be called positive or beautiful, he almost always plays scoundrels, so there is no need to talk about the love of fans because of the roles, but his passion for well-fitting costumes has done its job.

Vincent Cassel

Charisma

This mysterious word turns any even the most unattractive man into an object of female fantasies. What lies behind this very charisma? Some special personality trait, ability to communicate, incredible charm or what? It is difficult to say what specifically distinguishes charismatic people from those whom nature has not awarded this gift, but they are definitely on different levels. Take even Javier Bardem without any special style or expressive image, but there is something in him that is directly “Ah!”.

Javier Bardem

Masculinity

A good quality that, in theory, every representative of the strong half of humanity should have. Unfortunately, not everyone has this necessary attribute of attractiveness. Where are those males who are ready to turn the world upside down for the sake of a woman and will do anything to protect their beloved? It seems to us that Daniel Craig is definitely masculine (it’s not for nothing that he became the most popular and most brutal 007 agent in the history of the franchise), which means that he is attractive, despite all his appearance flaws.

1. Hugh Laurie

Everyone loved Hugh for Dr. House, of course. Rather, at first they fell in love with the doctor, and only then - Hugh himself. And it's very strange. Because with such an appearance, being also an aggressive sociopath is completely you. Apparently, minus times minus gave plus. Definitely. Because while Laurie was playing comedic roles, no one would think he was cute.

2. Benedict Cumberbatch

You know the joke about Cumberbatch being confused with cheese? So, it's not just about the surname. The actor really is somewhat reminiscent of a stale dairy product. Or a dead ferret. But what the hell does it matter if he's a genius?

3. Serge Gainsbourg

Four marriages, many mistresses and an incredible number of admirers. But how? We do not know. If you guess - tell us, please.

4. Adrien Brody

A long-nosed tower with eyes full of sorrow. Yes, it is, perhaps, precisely in this look of the basset hound. Brody is always so unhappy that it's impossible not to love him.

5. Danny Trejo

Every Trejo hero is a simple Mexican guy with the intelligence of a stool. But how cool is he, go crazy! Tattoos, motorcycles, machetes - that's it. He's the same in real life, that's the beauty of it.

6. Mickey Rourke

Once upon a time, trees were big, ice cream was delicious, and Mickey Rourke was so handsome that you couldn't take your eyes off him. Since then, everything has changed dramatically. But I am glad that there are still things in the world that do not change: Mickey's charisma, for example. What does it matter what he looks like? He's beautiful, period.

7. Gerard Depardieu

But Monsieur Depardieu, even in his youth, could not boast of an attractive appearance, and with age he completely turned into a caricature of himself. Well, that's for the best. Because he was just cute, and now he's cute and funny. Mi-mi-mi!

8. Vincent Cassel

The whole world, with bated breath, is waiting: when, well, when will Kassel's horns, hooves and tail finally erupt? Here's a lesson for you, dear children: be afraid of your desires, they come true. Kassel wanted to be demonic so much that he really turned into a devil. The face, at least, is definitely damn. Mmmm, there's something to it.

9. Christopher Walken

And Mr. Walken did not turn into anyone, he was born that way right away, I guess. In any case, we remember the times when he was quite attractive - but only in dark glasses and with his mouth closed. Because these whitish eyes and a shark smile terrified us even in kindergarten. Now we have grown up - and love to be afraid. Invigorating, you know.

10. Javier Bardem

Classic Beast from the cartoon about Belle. Terrible on the face, kind inside. Well, Javier's eyes are kind, that's for sure. But from his nostrils I want to stay away. Have you ever been sniffed by a very large dog? It is like a vacuum cleaner running at the lowest power. Bardem reminds us of something like that. But it's a monster! We love monsters. We love straight.

11. Mark Anthony

Creepy type. But we seem to understand why the beauty J. Lo married him. Some people like "pocket boys". We love too. We, perhaps, would not refuse a manual gnome either.

12. Tim Roth

Tim Roth is an amazing person: he can play anyone. No, in fact - there is no such role that would not suit him. For this we love him - for the mystery. How does he manage to transform into such different people? And where, excuse me, does his strange face go? Mystery of the century.

13. Daniel Craig

Yep, got it! You can not deny: everyone watched German porn and dreamed of sexual plumbing. Asked - receive: here it is, radiating sexuality Daniel. With the face of the plumber Semenych, who sewed himself up yesterday, and now suffers.

14. Alan Rickman

"Listen to Metatron, the messenger of the Almighty, the voice of the true God!" The creators of the film "Dogma" took the actor for the role of an angel, because they decided - if the Almighty has a voice, then this is the voice of Alan Rickman. Watching films with Rickman dubbed is a crime, honestly. Subtitles only! Rickman is also Snape. Severus Snape. What else can be said here? Just this: he's a genius and Severus. Dot.

15. Adriano Celentano

We give the honorable first place and the title of the most terrible sexy man to dear Adriano. First of all, he really is the ugliest. And secondly, he is generally the very best: the most talented, the sexiest, the cutest, the most ... Because we love him from the cradle. And we will never stop loving. Well, because our moms loved him. And it is very likely that our daughters will love too. He's great, yeah.

In the early stages of dating, women often avoid ugly men. The laws of aesthetics dictate their own rules, and the lady wants to see a handsome gentleman next to her. But when a relationship crosses the line of falling in love, the fair sex often prefers outwardly imperfect men.

What is the secret of the attractiveness of ugly men?

Pretty boy

When nature endows a man with excellent external data, he begins to actively use it. As, however, and the woman. From a young age, all the girls in the class love such a boy, teachers make concessions to him, and his housemates admire his beauty. The guy gets used to being the center of attention and universal love. He is well aware that his brown eyes with lush eyelashes, cute face and torso of Apollo will help to overcome many difficulties.

But in adulthood, such a man turns out to be a bad match. He gets so used to a good attitude that he does not want to understand other people. The young man believes that he is worthy of great love only for his beauty.

A lady in a relationship with a handsome man often has to rely on her own strength. Handsome will not conquer her and support her in family life. Why would he overwork himself? After all, he is “not like everyone else,” which means that in the event of a failed relationship, other girls will quickly come running to him.

As practice shows, handsome men are more likely to get bored of a monotonous family life. With age, they become irritable and capricious; beauty is leaving, and with it the number of privileges that were given out for "beautiful eyes."

not handsome

Otherwise, the life of ugly guys develops. Fate does not indulge them with an excess of attention and additional privileges. To get the attention of girls, an ugly guy needs to skillfully look after them; and good academic results are achieved through persistent mastery of the material. An ugly guy understands that life will not provide him with gifts, so he directs all his efforts towards career success.

A couple of three years pass and “not handsome” is simply not recognizable. From a young man with a pimply face and a thin figure, he turns into an imposing man who knows the value of life. He learned not only to earn money, but also to skillfully handle the fair sex. His smart compliments, self-discipline and enveloping eyes do not leave beautiful ladies indifferent.

Therefore, it is not surprising that beautiful girls connect their lives with ugly, but self-sufficient men. After all, it is much better to know that your chosen one will decide everything himself than to search for another job while a handsome partner admires his reflection in the mirror.

Why are ugly men a profitable match?

• They do not rely on external data. They are characterized by ambition, determination and perseverance.

• They develop the habit of self-discipline and constant work.

• A man with an average appearance better monitors his health and lifestyle.

• To the lady, who did not push him away due to external imperfection, he tries to be attentive and respectful.

• According to statistics, ugly men are more patient and caring.

• They often become good fathers and faithful husbands.

Another amazing fact: by the age of 40, ugly men are stunningly prettier. In the meantime, this has not happened, the lady can derive other benefits from such a relationship. Indeed, against the background of a partner who is not ideal in appearance, a woman will seem even more beautiful. Such a contrast will play into her hands: the lady will always be in the spotlight, adding additional success to the image of a man.

Who needs ugly guy? Well, certainly not for me, one will say, and the other will think: why not. There are women who believe: if a man is not a handsome prince at all, then there will be less trouble with him, and happiness is quite possible in such a relationship. Is there any truth in this opinion? It is known that beauty is just a technical issue, and there is no dispute about tastes. However, they still prefer to go out with an attractive, rather than with ugly guy.

Real love

Are relationships with ugly guy help you find that true love? First of all, you need to clearly clarify the question for yourself: the person who does not like his partner is considered ugly. But other women may find him attractive. Many believe that a man who is not distinguished by his beautiful appearance will never hurt or harm his beloved, because he is, after all, a freak. He should thank fate that such a beauty descended to him, to put it mildly, ordinary. Therefore, he must carry it in his arms.

Who is a freak?

But what if while the girl secretly thinks (but, of course, does not speak in person) that her partner is not handsome, he at the same time thinks of her in the same way? Or he knows perfectly well that he is not attractive in appearance, but at the same time he is so confident in himself that he will not allow himself to be pushed around by any girl who is seduced by him, ugly guy. Perhaps he thinks he deserves someone who will not perceive him as a freak.

All is decided

If a girl has decided on a relationship with a young man whom she does not find attractive, then she has already made her choice. All said and done, and physical attractiveness no longer plays a special role. This guy hooked the girl, but not because he is handsome, but because they suit each other.

As for hurt feelings: how can you hurt the feelings of someone who does not feel anything in relation to his partner. So, despite the shortcomings, feelings for ugly guy yet there is. And, according to the experience of older generations, these feelings only intensify with age. So if an unattractive young man fails to hurt feelings in any way, then this is hardly love, which defies logic at all.

Love

Even if a guy is completely unattractive physically, this does not mean that a girl cannot be into him. And all because the real attractiveness is more related to innate qualities than what is visible from the outside. The external gloss disappears very quickly, it is worth getting to know the person better. However, spiritual and spiritual beauty is a more stable substance. So if you meet with an unattractive man for a long time, then one way or another it is quite possible to fall in love with him. And as soon as this happens, then now he will already be able to inflict pain and suffering.

Instead of focusing on whether a young person is attractive or not, and whether it is worth spending your efforts on such a relationship, it is better to leave all these thoughts and start just dating people. This is the only way to learn what you like and don't like in ... relationships. It may seem that everything has been known about yourself for a long time, but every time you can learn something new about yourself, not to mention other people. And if there are any hobbies, and a person who is close in spirit does not differ in ideal parameters, then to hell with her, this appearance. The main thing is spiritual closeness. And appearance is not the main thing.