Angle, a belt and a day without a smartphone. How and for what can a student be punished

In each family, the questions of how and for what to punish a child - and whether to punish at all, how and for what to praise and reward - are solved in their own way. AT different cultures, in different countries there are certain traditions that are very different from each other. Somewhere children are generally not accepted to be punished until a certain age. For example, in Japan, it is not customary to even raise your voice to a child - neither to your own, nor even to someone else. In some countries, all corporal punishment is prohibited by law. In our country, when discussing this issue, heated debate flares up. Somehow, historically, in our country it happened so that the punishment of children was a matter of course. Let us recall at least an excerpt from Maxim Gorky's "Childhood", which we all read with horror at school, when grandfather punishes Alexei for ruining the tablecloth, and there is more than one such example even in literary works school curriculum...

AT recent times the situation has changed in better side, but even now many people consider the belt to be almost the most effective means of education. Today we will understand why parents resort to such harsh measures, whether they are justified, whether there are alternatives to traditional punishment.

It would seem that in Russia not so long ago there was a desire to abolish the excessively strict treatment of children, but the idea is far from new. Back in the 18th century, the French philosopher Charles Montesquieu said the following words: “Children must be treated kindly, because punishments harden them.”

Together with a child health psychologist Marina Metneva talking about education...

“First of all, I agree with Montesquieu that children should be treated gently. Moreover, I believe that punishment is a manifestation of the weakness of an adult, more strong man towards weak child. You always need to look specifically for what you are punishing, how you are punishing and whether this can be avoided. In the vast majority of cases, it is not necessary to punish, but it is necessary to talk, discuss, explain ... Unfortunately, parents often do not know how to talk with children. They are not taught this, because they did not do this to them in childhood either - they were simply punished and that's it. After punishment, the child feels offended and offended. The paths to the analysis of the act are cut off. Maybe he did something by negligence, or did not know something, or did not guess what could be done differently. A conversation is not a list of directives, orders "do your homework, step away from the computer, wash the dishes." Conversation is listening to each other, trying to understand each other's point of view. And you have to start from birth.

When it comes to a threat to life and health, a sharp, categorical reaction is also justified, but it is imperative to explain what the danger is and what the punishment is for.

You can often hear from parents that they are punishing for cheating. This is really unpleasant, always annoying, but you need to understand why children lie, you need to understand the motives for lying. Not in all hundred percent, but in the vast majority of cases, the lie is dictated by the fear of the child. Fear of being punished. He lies - and he is punished again. The task of parents is to recognize this fear, to understand why the child is afraid to tell that he did not learn his lessons, skipped school, broke a cup - did something really not so terrible. If these situations were sorted out in a dialogue, the reasons were explained, then, perhaps, the child would not need to lie. He would understand that he would meet an adult who understands and trusts him.

Parents sometimes find it hard to deal with irritation - it's true. Everyone has their own characteristics of character, and some people react very violently to what is happening. In such cases, it would be nice for parents to learn to admit their mistakes, to be able to say “I was wrong.” Trusting relationships then do not go away, the child understands that parents are also living people, they can break loose, but they can also admit their guilt.

Bargaining with a child over punishment is fraught with consequences. After all, "trade" is essentially blackmail. To induce any person (not only a child, but a child in particular!) to do something of his own free will means to provide this action or the result of the action with the experience of positive emotions. Understand that the driving motive for voluntary action (I don't mean fear) is positive emotions, which are not necessarily associated with material rewards. You clean your apartment because you like it when it's clean. You cook dinner because you like it when it tastes good. Yes, the child may not want to get out, this is not yet a value for him. Try to find something that can attract him. You can do the cleaning together, talking and laughing. The child receives joy from the fact that he is with you at this moment.

Measures are unjustified when, as punishment, parents choose actions that should bring positive emotions. For example, guilty - read 50 pages or push up 10 times. It turns out that these actions begin to be associated with negativity. Think about what you want from the child at this moment. Teach him? They don’t teach like that, they cause hatred for study and gymnastics.

Let's be honest with ourselves: punishment is often based on the desire to throw out one's irritation, to humiliate, to suppress the child. Adults do not admit this to themselves, because these are very ugly feelings, but, unfortunately, they often move parents when communicating with a child in a conflict situation.

Corporal punishment is recognized by many parents as dangerous and unacceptable, but not only physical measures of influence are dangerous. Sometimes parents stop talking to their children as a punishment. This is a lethal measure. There is a case when a mother did not talk to her child for two months, and he committed suicide. Psychological punishments can be even more severe than corporal ones.

The model of upbringing, punishments and rewards, parents often borrow from their childhood. Is it possible to take the good and discard the inefficient and cruel methods? In parenting competence training, I offer this exercise. Think back to your childhood. Was there a person in your childhood with whom you were very good? Who spoiled you “unpedagogically”, slipped you secretly “harmful” sweets, always listened to you, did not condemn? Who was this person? Almost everyone had such an adult. Either dad, or grandfather, grandmother, neighbor ... It would seem that he violated all the rules of the “correct” upbringing system, but you were the best with this person. Why don't you be the same "wrong" teacher for your children? A person who will always pat on the head, console, caress, no matter what happens. Let your child in childhood be good with you.

In our country, the point of view has remained that you can’t pamper a child, you can’t indulge him. What does it mean to indulge? I fully agree with Bulat Okudzhava, who said in the song: “let's live in everything, indulging each other, especially since such a meek life.” Admit it, you yourself want to be indulged? But few of us are ready to do this for others ...

Of course, it is necessary to analyze each specific case. Sometimes, if we are talking about a danger to health and life - only a harsh explanation, a ban, and, if necessary, more stringent measures. And if we are talking only about your ideas, how should it be - and who said that they are true? Adult perceptions can also be distorted. For example, one mother demanded from her daughter that at the age of three she sat neatly at the table and knew how to hold a fork and knife. But this is impossible! We should not confuse our sometimes absurd desires with a real need.

Ideally, when raising a child, parents should provide him with an uninterrupted stream of rewards for the slightest achievement. No one requires you to spend money, we are talking about verbal encouragement, emotional. Your praise does not cost anything, but it is very important for the child, it creates pleasant emotions if the child succeeds. If it doesn’t work out, you need to cheer him up: “It’s okay, you can definitely do it next time!” Try to protect the child from criticism as much as possible, otherwise he will not even want to try to do something. Remember, when you were three or four years old, and then, did everything work out right away?

Often the question arises about the acceptability of monetary rewards within the framework of family relationships. If you have a trusting relationship with your child, he is self-confident and knows how to behave - we now mean older age - then why not encourage him financially to the best of his ability? This is not the question. The problem is to maintain emotional intimacy, the joy of communicating with each other, not to replace this with only material rewards - that's what's important. Everything else is external and very secondary. At the same time, you must fulfill your promises, if you have agreed on something with the child, you need to keep your word.

To hang a sense of guilt on a child is to manipulate him. Take responsibility from yourself, a strong adult, and shift it to a weak little one.

Some children endure punishment quite calmly, a raised voice, while others, due to their nature, even the slightest displeasure of an adult causes tears. There are extremely sensitive children, there are those who defense mechanisms work better. Be sure to take into account the nature of the child. But this does not mean that if a kid or teenager calmly accepts punishment, you can punish him more.

Anxiety, fear, aggression, negativism, unwillingness to communicate with parents - all these negative emotional manifestations are a signal that you went too far, did something wrong, and maybe you have already done something wrong many times.

It is a mistake to think that harsh treatment in the family is a preparation for the cruelty of the world. Preparation for this should take place exactly the opposite. If in the family a child develops self-love, self-respect, if his relatives love, support and accept him, then the terrible thing that can happen to him outside the family will be psychologically easier to experience. He will be able to resist the outside world adequately, as a strong and full-fledged person. It is a serious and profound delusion to think that by poking and humiliating parents prepare the child to confront the cruelty of the world. So you will achieve the exact opposite result - turn him into a weak, insecure, notorious person, a victim of someone's unscrupulous manipulations.

It is not necessary to idealize the world Yes, he's not perfect. But I am your mother, your grandmother, your grandfather, father - I love you, and you can always rely on me. If you encounter something terrible, you have a reliable rear. The model of behavior in the family is perceived by the child as true, correct. If you humiliate him and say that further - in the world - it will be even worse, then he will get used to being humiliated, and the humiliations of the outside world will also be taken for granted. Or he will be aggressive himself - depending on what position he takes.

I wish you to punish your children as little as possible and endlessly encourage them - for everything good, just for the fact that they are in your life.

The main methods of raising a child are encouragement and punishment. And if, in principle, no questions arise with the encouragement, then many parents associate punishment with the use of physical strength. One of the types of such punishment is the use of a belt, which, perhaps, we were all scared in childhood, and sometimes even used if disobedience went far beyond.

Is it necessary to punish children with a belt at all, because this is already violence, and, as every parent knows, it can inflict psychological trauma child for life. As scientists have shown, belt punishment, like any other physical punishment, is not only dangerous for the health of the child, but also negatively affects his intellectual development.

Punishment with a belt brings up fear

Using the belt as a way to punish their child, parents should be prepared for the fact that after a while he will simply be afraid of them. In addition, the fear of constantly doing something wrong, being humiliated and insulted for their misdeeds depresses the child. That is why parents, before using the belt, should understand the situation, what exactly the child did wrong, try to talk to him, find out the reason for his behavior, and only then think about the punishment that the younger will repent of what happened. As a result of such seemingly simple approaches and rules, the belt is not always the main method of punishment.

Also, psychologists do not recommend punishing children with a belt in the heat of the moment, because in this state, adults cannot always adequately assess what is happening, the degree of guilt of their child, and also correctly calculate the force. Having raised a hand against a child once, adults then suffer for a long time with guilt and regret that they acted spontaneously and possibly caused serious physical injury to their child.

When should the belt be used?

On the other hand, no one cancels the punishment of children with a belt, especially if there are reasons for this:

• When the child's behavior may pose a threat to his health or life;
• When the child's behavior threatens the health or life of others;
• When a child purposefully and consciously does it to spite his parents, not paying attention to any persuasions and appeals of his elders.

Consequences of punishment with a belt

Whatever the child's misdeed, it is important not to cross fine line punishment, because using the belt, the parents make it clear to him that, firstly, physical strength is almost the only means of resolving the conflict, and secondly, he must be afraid of his parents, who, in turn, are powerless in front of the child's pranks. In addition, punishment with a belt shows that the child is weak and will not be able to hit back the one who beats him, which means that it is possible and necessary to humiliate the weak.

It is especially important to clearly divide the punishment by gender, because punishing little girls with a belt and thereby achieving perfect obedience, as a result, you can bring up a girl who is unable to resist violence. In the future, perhaps her fate will develop in such a way that she subconsciously chooses the role of a victim and will live with her despot husband. As for the boys, especially if their mothers punish them, then in the future from submissive and obedient child a man can grow up who will look for a woman who morally humiliates and insults him.

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  Many parents find the use of a belt an ideal and effective method of punishment for their child.

What is the right way to punish children? Up to what age and how much to physically punish the child? How to punish a child? How to interpret passages from the Bible that say that children should be beaten (with rods)?

Father of two daughters, theologian and teacher Andrei Dolganov shares biblical and life principles right upbringing children, and also explains the scriptures that speak of the punishment of children.

Andrey, let's start with biblical advice about raising children. What does the Bible say about this?

The Bible says that education should begin from the very first moment - the acceptance of a child as a gift from God.

Scripture says that parents should take an active role in the education of their children. “Teach a young man at the beginning of his path, and he will not deviate even when he is old,” says the Book of Proverbs.

Parents should have a common understanding of how to raise a child. They need to know what skills he needs to acquire during the various stages of establishing him as a person. To teach a child to behave correctly at home, at a party, on the street, how to politely treat parents, elders, relatives.

Proper education begins from the moment when future mom finds out about her pregnancy. And at this moment, the parent and all relatives should accept this child and expect him with love.

If we talk about Proverbs, then the following is written there: “Whoever spares his rod, he hates his son, and whoever loves, he punishes him from childhood.”

This is very important point because education and punishment go together. They cannot be confused with each other.

Punishment is not education. Parenting is an understanding of the correct moral principles that parents want to instill in their child. And also - the creation of a physical, mental and spiritual safe zone for the child. And parents must take punishment to bring the child back to this safe zone if he starts to violate the boundaries, which can lead to physical injury or to the fact that he learns something wrong.

Punishment is not education. Parenting is an understanding of the correct moral principles that parents want to instill in their child.

Mom somehow punished me. Honestly, I don't remember why. But it was an army belt - I received it normally, and at some point a badge flew off from it and cut me in the head. I didn’t even see the blood, but I remember how scared my mother was. I don't think I ever saw the belt again.

I think your mother did not cope with anger, did not calculate the strength. Therefore, I would not recommend punishing with army belts. There is an understanding - a rod, such a thin twig. She won't do much harm.

It's good that you started talking about what parents should do. Here you have two daughters - did you have to punish them physically?

Yes, it was necessary, as the wise Solomon said: “There is a time for everything, and a time for every thing under heaven.” Our daughter was desired from the very beginning. We prayed for her, blessed her, but when, for example, she behaved provocatively in a store or on the street, and when words and persuasion no longer worked, then, of course, we had to punish her physically.

We had a special plastic ruler that I used. But that was only on occasions when she didn't listen to the warnings.

For example, we had one case. My family and I were going to go to the store - me, my wife and Anastasia.

Tell me, how old was she?

She must have been three years old. And I perfectly understood that when she was in public, she would want to expand her boundaries of freedom, she would want to manipulate us in order to get more. Realizing this, I talked to her in advance, even when we were at home.

I squatted opposite - eye to eye - and said: “Anastasia, we will go to the store now, but if you behave badly, I, like dad, will punish you. And public opinion will not affect me, because your upbringing is much more important to me. You understood?" She shook her head. I say: "Look - I take the ruler with me."

We go to the central store, she starts behaving very badly - screaming, demanding to buy something. I calmly took her by the hand, led her out of the store, sat down again so that my eyes looked into her eyes and said: “Anastasia, did I warn you that if you behave badly, I will punish you?” She nodded. “Therefore, you receive punishment for your disobedience,” I took the ruler and lightly slapped her on the pope.

On the street, among people?

Yes. And at that moment a pregnant girl who smoked approached us and began to resent that I was raising my child incorrectly. What struck me was my daughter's reaction. She turned to her, looked menacingly and waved her hand: “Aunt, go away!” That is, she began to protect our family values.

Physical punishment lasted up to about five years, after which I stopped punishing my daughters like that.

Punishment must be causal. It must follow wrong behavior, be driven by it.

At what age did you start?

Since then, when the child began to understand and listen to warnings that his behavior is now wrong, and this can lead to serious consequences.

Andrew, I have two small children. I feel sorry for beating them, is it possible to somehow educate them without physical punishment?

I don't think that will work. While the child is small, he does not understand the instructions, he still cannot logically compare his act and the consequences to which this may lead.

When three year old daughter will climb into the socket with two fingers, but I will not stop it with the words: “You know, an electric current is very painful, it can hit you very hard or even kill you.” At this point, you just physically punish the child, and he has a causal relationship: "I should not climb there, because it is very dangerous and physical punishment may follow."

The next moment is when the child begins to emotionally unwind, and at that moment he can neither listen nor understand anything. Then for him nervous system physical punishment would be better. It will be like cold shower- he will cry a little, but he will come to his senses and immediately calm down.

Punishment must be causal. It must follow wrong behavior, be driven by it.

But how to punish so as not to harm the child?

In my youngest daughter's class, there were kids running around whose reaction I saw how they were being punished at home. If a child hides from an outstretched hand, it means that he gets cuffs on the back of the head, and if a child clings to his arm, I already understood that he was being punished normally.

Therefore, for punishment to be some kind of subject. The Bible wisely says that you need to beat with rods. A rod is a thin stick that is used to hit a soft spot. It gives a painful effect, but is not able to deeply affect the tissues.

In no case should you punish with a hand, under any circumstances! The hand should be associated with protection, parental affection, tenderness, provision and help.

As a child, my daughter was afraid of the ruler, not my hand. She even hid it, and I had to look for it. Or somehow she took this ruler and began to threaten me, showing that now she has power and authority over dad. I laughed, of course, took the ruler and explained that if she hides this one, then I will buy another one.

And the next very important point - you can never punish in anger. In anger, you can step over pain threshold child and hit so hard that he will have physical problems later.

Punishment must be causal. It must follow wrong behavior, be driven by it. It is impossible to postpone punishments for infringements for a long time. This should be as soon as possible so that the child does not forget.

And the next important point - having punished the child, it is immediately necessary to accept it. After I punished my daughters, I immediately hugged them, pressed them to me and spoke in my ear in a calm voice: “Dad loves you, that’s why he punishes you. If dad didn't love you, he would be indifferent to your behavior. And I'm not indifferent, because I want the best for you.

What to do if you could not restrain yourself and punished the child in anger? Apologize? Or not? And if so, then how?

We said that children are a gift from God. Therefore, from the very early childhood we must appreciate them as individuals, at the same time, children must understand that we are also people and can make mistakes. Therefore, humility is that in front of a child you are ready to admit a mistake and ask for forgiveness.

There were several cases in my family when I could not cope and punished in anger, shouted, maybe a lot. Then I then asked for forgiveness from my daughters. I just leaned to make eye-to-eye contact and asked: “Anastasia, forgive dad, dad was wrong.” She smiled, kissed, hugged me and said: "Daddy, everything is fine."

Scripture says that parents should take an active role in the education of their children.

Did it happen that the child was not to blame, and you punished?

There might have been a crack. We did not check which of them messed up at home, and I asked both the youngest and eldest daughter forgiveness.

My mother, when she wanted to apologize, she asked for forgiveness in some way - she would either cook food or buy something, but without words. Is it normal to do this or is it still necessary to say?

I think we still need to speak, because the word shows our humility before the child. If the parent simply prepares food, then this is a kind of payoff from his act, and the child does not have a causal relationship. And he must clearly understand that the right deed is followed by approval, encouragement and blessing in his life, and the wrong is followed by punishment.

If the parents made a mistake, it is necessary to speak about it out loud so that the child realizes that we can also make mistakes, but through these words they feel respect for themselves as a person.

Even when my child was 2-3 years old, I knelt in front of him to look into his eyes, thereby respecting him as a person. There were cases when the daughter rested her hands on her hips. I told her: "Put your hands away, you're still small, stand like that."

Can God punish parents for wrong upbringing children?

Of course, because children are a gift that God gives. And children come to the family for a while.

The child must clearly understand that the right deed is followed by approval, encouragement and blessing in his life, and the wrong is followed by punishment.

As a father, I understand God's hierarchy of power, which the Apostle Paul writes about: “Christ is the head of every husband, and the husband is the head of the wife,” and then dad and mom are the head of the children. I educate them properly, discipline them properly when necessary, and trust God that when I am old and unable to work, my daughters will repay me and take care of me.

The punishment for parents who do not properly raise their children is that their children may not care for them in their old age. Such punishment may be because God's principle of raising children is violated.

Therefore, our best investment in the future is the right education of our children. We need to take care of their physical health, education and their spiritual condition.

All children are different. What can you advise parents whose children are very energetic and naughty?

First of all, it is important to spend more time together in active games and play sports. Unfortunately, many parents concentrate on the satisfaction of physical and intellectual needs and spend little time in joint games with their children. But it is in joint lesson games or hobbies create an emotional attachment. Therefore, if the children behave badly, it is better to go play football or volleyball with them, and when they run out, go home and calmly talk about some other things.

Our best investment in the future is the right education of our children. We need to take care of their physical health, education and their spiritual condition.

And if parents have different views on education and there is no common position?

Mom and dad should see unity in matters of education and punishment.

If the wife punishes our children, I simply say: “Mom is right, she must be obeyed,” but if I punish the children, then the wife says to the children: “Dad is right.”

But there is a problem when, say, dad punished, and the children immediately run to mom. And she says: “Oh, dad is bad, but mom is so good!” Children will then begin to manipulate, there will be no integrity in education. Children will then be very difficult to bring to sincere conversations, they will look for ways to expand their boundaries - for example, in order to come home late or start smoking cigarettes.

Have you and your wife agreed to support each other in this matter?

Of course, from the very beginning of our life together When we were still expecting children in our family, we agreed that we would have a common understanding in matters of upbringing, and none of us would violate the authority of a parent in the eyes of children.

What do you do in situations where, for example, one of you has punished a child, but the other parent does not know this? Do you talk about it afterwards?

We usually communicate this to each other. For example, if I work with children all day, then I briefly tell my wife how they behaved. At first alone, then in the presence of children, so that they see as little disagreement as possible between father and mother in matters of upbringing.

I also wanted to say thatthere is different kinds punishment. The first one is commentwhen we try to stop the child with words, say that his behavior is wrong, and he should stop. If that doesn't help -warningwhen we report that because of their behavior the child will be deprived of certain pleasures - sweets, or some kind of walk. After we deprive the childmobility. You can put him on a chair, or put him in a corner. When he stands in the corner, his attention is not occupied by toys, cartoons, and he has time to change his mind, to think about his behavior. And already last moment - physical punishment.

An important point - the punishment should be commensurate with the misconduct. The more the offense can harm the child or family, the stronger the punishment should be. Then the child is fixed understanding that this can not be done.

It is necessary that children see as little as possible disagreements between father and mother in matters of upbringing.

What is the most important principle in education?

It all starts with the understanding that a child is a gift from God, that we must accept it with love, as a gift.

We need to pray for the children and bless them. The Bible says that little children were brought to Jesus, He laid hands on them and blessed them. This principle works in my family because I believe in Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior. Therefore, I bless my children, pray for them every day, and when I go on a business trip or see them off to school, I be sure to ask God to keep them from all evil.

Unfortunately, punishing children with a belt for some kind of disobedience is a fairly common occurrence. Many current parents were also victims of such upbringing in their time, but their opinions regarding the punishment of the child in this way differ. Some prefer not to subject their child to such tests, while others prefer the opposite. They believe that it is spanking that contributes to the normal process of education.

As for the opinion of experts, resorting to spanking has not only a physical impact on the child, but also an emotional one. Also, the use of brute physical force by parents automatically reduces their self-esteem in the eyes of children.

It has been proven that the sources of teenage cruelty and aggression lie in deep childhood. small organism not only vulnerable to viral and infectious pathogens. Mental health at such a young age is also vulnerable. Disrupt the normal formation process different factors. An elementary fright, even from a dog, can shake the emotional health of a baby. Therefore, with the help of assault should not be present in.

It's no secret that young children are not distinguished by unquestioning obedience. The child is trying in every possible way to know the world and win his place in society. The key to successful education is the method of reward and punishment. With how to encourage a child, as a rule, there are no problems. Unconditional, if the baby is guilty, it is also impossible to leave this without due attention. He must learn to understand what can and cannot be done, since not all pranks of the crumbs are harmless. But before hitting a child on the pope, it is recommended to mentally put yourself in his place.

According to the research observations of psychologists, children who were exposed to physical violence, in the future they become malicious and selfish personalities, but it may be different - cowardice and deceit develop.

Children imitate their parents

The next time, before punishing a child with a belt, it is recommended to think about the future of your child and that one of these moments of upbringing can break the psychological health of the baby.

After each such pedagogical episode, the child is fraught with anger. Sometimes children begin to hate their parents and, at the first opportunity, try to harm them. Given the aspect physical advantage, children from such families, where a belt is practiced as a punishment, reimburse all the accumulated anger on their own. Other social problems arise from this.

Aggression at such a young age, caused by physical punishment for every offense, is not an indicator that the child is bad. The fact is that such upbringing leads to the formation of the concept that in order to achieve one's goal and prevail over the others (in this case- over those who are weaker), you need to show your physical superiority.

Another important feature of such upbringing is trauma to the child's body. Some parents can simply slap the strap on the bum without applying any force. In this way, they kind of scare their baby that next time everything can be for real. But there are mothers and fathers whose behavior can be called despotic. They are capable of beating their child severely. There are many stories about how parents in educational purposes make their children disabled.

Reasons for child disobedience

Before you carry out a belt for his disobedience, you should understand the reasons for this behavior. All problems can be solved without resorting to violence, but in the process of a calm conversation.

According to the observations of psychologists, the main reasons childish disobedience are as follows:

• struggle for self-assertion;
• one of the methods to attract the attention of parents;
• feeling of insecurity;
• the desire to always contradict;
• lack of normal education;
• permissiveness;
• excessive demands on the behavior of the baby.

After birth, within about a year, the baby learns the world and is formed as a person. Even small child, who does not yet fully speak the language, but already understands what others are saying to him, has his own self-esteem. Children, unlike their parents, do not consider themselves small and therefore often defend their position as best they can, that is, whims.

Most often, the reason for doing everything in defiance lies precisely in the attitude of adults towards their child. If parents do not pay enough attention to him, then the child tries all sorts of things to get him. Another provocateur of such behavior may just be the resentment that the little man is fraught with for the fact that mom or dad punished him, and especially if physical force was used.

The abstraction of children often occurs on the basis of constant pulling from the parents. The child's mind tries in every possible way to protect itself from all reproaches from the elders. After a fairly short period of time, he completely ceases to perceive what adults tell him, if this is not beneficial for the baby himself. Additionally, self-doubt begins to form.

The feeling of confusion and unwillingness to fulfill all requests can be provoked by a sufficiently large number of people who accept Active participation in education (grandparents, aunts, uncles, nannies kindergarten and others). The child is lost in the demands that “merge” on him from all sides. This does not mean that the baby is surrounded bad people. The fact is that every adult develops his own concept of proper education. For some, for example, smearing clothes is an occasion for a serious conversation, for others it is a trifle that does not require attention, and for others it is an occasion for punishment with a belt, and so on. The totality of such requirements makes the child not obey anyone and always defend his point of view, that is, to do everything in defiance.

One of the reasons for the child's capricious behavior is the lack of consent among adults.

Quite often, parents demand the impossible from their children. They firmly stand on their position and for the absence positive result resort to punishment. Constant exposure to such pressure is psychologically depressing for the child, especially when he cannot fulfill the whim of his parents due to his physical abilities or age. Often the result of such actions of parents is that the child completely refuses to listen to the elders. In addition, such stories often end with the children running away from home.

Raising a naughty baby

In Japan, according to their traditions, a child under 5 years old cannot be given any educational impact. In their opinion, given period time is considered sacred, therefore, education with a belt is not even considered here. But what about parents when their child is trying in every possible way to do everything in defiance and does not listen to their elders? This question is individual for each child, do not forget that the baby is small, but still a person. According to psychologists, at the moment of disobedience, it is necessary, first of all, to calm down the parents themselves and restrain their wave of aggression. In order to calm the child, you can:

• Distract the little one from the source that provoked his emotional contradiction. You need to focus on another object.
• Change environment. You need to be taken to another room.
• Try to create a dialogue and agree on a compromise solution to the problem.

In order to attract the attention of your child, you can raise your voice to him, take his hand or, on the contrary, let him go. It is also not recommended to conduct a dialogue for educational purposes in raised tones all the time. If a child hears a cry all the time, at some point he will simply refuse to listen and will continue to act up with even greater zeal. Even small man- this is a rational being who is able to understand the information that is conveyed to him in a language accessible to him.

You need to try to explain where he made a mistake and what consequences the actions of the baby could lead to. For example, if a child broke a cup and did it on purpose, you need to ask what prompted him to such actions. Perhaps he was wondering what would happen to an object if thrown on the ground. Do not forget that children learn about the world around them over a long period of time. There is also a possibility that the cause of the broken kitchen appliance was a childish dislike for this item (did not like the drawing or the cup was heavy and uncomfortable). Stories about what will happen if the baby beats all the dishes (he can cut himself, there will be nothing to drink from, etc.) should independently push the child to the fact that in the future this cannot be done.

Kindergarten and other public institutions

Kindergarten, school and other places where the child not only spends a significant part of his time, but also forms as a person, should not be the object of bullying for the baby.

Quite often there are incidents when children are physically punished by educators or teachers. If a child complains about bad attitude from teachers or other children, you need to take this into account and take appropriate measures. No one has the right, and even more so strangers, to practice raising children with a belt. But before you fall into hysterics and threaten the offenders of your child with the involvement of the police, you should understand the veracity of the words of the baby. Some children try to attract the attention of their relatives in this way, or they simply do not want to visit such public places.

In that case when physical punishment strangers turned out to be true, the child needs to know that his parents stand up for him and will not leave this moment without attention.

Children should always feel the support of their parents.

Children without whims

According to experts, normal healthy child simply cannot be completely obedient in everything. Of course, it is much easier for parents of such children to raise their children. Absolutely obedient children can be for several reasons, and all of them require increased attention:

• phlegmatic character. As a rule, this feature is not a pathology. In his behavior, the baby is always measured and calm. Such children are not punished and they greatly facilitate the process of education for parents. The disadvantage of this feature is the fact that it will be difficult for a child to adapt in a society dominated by sanguine and choleric people.
• congenital diseases. Any disease, and even more so congenital, reduces immunity and partially “takes away” energy force crumbs. So his curiosity to the world around him may decrease.
• Fear of being punished. Children, frightened by cruel punishments, close in on themselves over time, and in order to avoid "reprisals", they often prefer to remain without attracting too much attention to themselves. They do not ask questions, they do not touch anything, because they remember how their parents punish them at their slightest mistake.

Ideal parents do not exist, but before you belt, try to find another way out of this situation. Do not refuse the help of professional psychologists.

Spanking with a belt

Spanking - effective and effective method in BDSM punishments. Actually, you can just flog for your own pleasure or according to the scenario of the thematic session, but there is one psychological nuance! For many people, punishment is associated with spanking with a belt on the buttocks since childhood. Everyone knows from childhood that the word "belt" means the belt itself to support the pants and directly flogging them on the fifth point, in case of fault. And even if no one has ever whipped you, then all the same, from the stories of other people, this association has already been sitting in you from a young age.

In addition, the device has other options for use. For example, they can be used to bind hands and feet, or used as a leash. The undoubted advantage of the belt is that the Top always has it at hand, i.e. in trousers. Which can be useful if you feel like having a small session outside the home.

There is no doubt that the Dominant gets pleasure from spanking and punishing the girl with a belt, and the Lower one completely survives an orgasm, but in this case I want to present precisely the aesthetics of punishment with this device, and not spanking followed by a subspace.

When choosing an accessory, taking into account the specifics of its use, it should be borne in mind that the strap should not be made of thick leather (any denim biker options are not suitable), it should not be rigid, it should not have metal rivets and other accessories. The belt should be soft, not very wide, classic and without sharp inserts, with a small buckle (so as not to interfere), not 3 to 5 cm wide. A narrow belt causes more intense pain. Wide inconvenient to work.

Given the above psychological aspects of the application, the device should not be used too often. And it is better in moments associated with punishment. Spanking is carried out with a device folded in half, quite strongly. At the same time, hitting with a badge is unacceptable - I don’t think that a bruised girl’s butt is a pleasant sight. In a word, in the hands of a real master, this is a good and pleasant device.

To flog the priests with a belt, it is better to wrap it doubled over a fist, holding the buckle in your hand, strike with a free flexible part 20-30 cm long.

A true subwoofer is always ready to bring a strap in her teeth to the Owner, faithfully looking into her eyes, wagging her ass and whining impatiently in anticipation of severe punishment.

Rod

The right House should always have in its arsenal such an attribute of a classic spanking as a rod. This device is a flexible and thin rods of trees (shrubs), collected in a bundle, or used singly. Previously, they were widely used in corporal punishment in everyday life, in courts, in educational institutions. Nowadays, they are adopted by the BDSM community.

We rightly believe that the rod is an easy-to-use and environmentally friendly, disposable device. It's hygienic. They combine flexibility and toughness. If they are selected and used wisely, then in working with the lower girl, you can simultaneously deliver significant pain without causing any harmful effects to the body. Yes, traces of course remain, but they quickly pass if you don’t try hard in blows.

By the way, there is an opinion that whipping on the buttocks with rods also has a healing effect ... We cannot confirm or deny this. But, at least, we know for sure that the use of this device in BDSM has a strong educational and psychological effect on the lower girl. In addition, if a girl is a masochist, then whipping her buttocks with rods will be simply pleasant for her.

There are different rods for punishment: walnut, willow, mountain ash, birch, etc. We prefer:

walnut - for stronger effects

birch and willow - for the weaker ones.

In addition, in the conditions of the middle lane there is no problem to collect the right amount of vicious material. good quality and completely free. Which tree to choose for you - try to experiment with different ones and stop at the best, depending on your tasks and the degree of impact.

The ideal rods are cut in the spring while they are damp and flexible. In appearance, they are straight, long (up to 2.5 meters) and even rods. They have sufficient strength and weight, as well as other necessary qualities for the correct and good spanking of the naked priests. Basically, you don't even need to soak them.

An important step in preparing for punishment is the processing of cut rods. To maintain flexibility, it is better to use freshly cut branches. Then the branches dry quickly, so it is customary to soak them. By drawing in water, they become more flexible and heavy.

By the way, if you are going to the forest for rods, know that it is better to choose " golden mean» rod - cutting off the base and top, and leaving a device about 1 m long. At the tip of the rod, it usually has about 2-3 mm. For a dozen of these classic rods, you should stock up on a couple or three with 5-6 mm at the tip, so to speak, for the most obstinate slaves, whose behavior may cause you serious concern.

It has been established empirically that for Verkh optimal length the rod is the distance from his (her) neck to the fingertips of the outstretched hand. This length contributes to the most virtuoso and efficient use.

Despite the fact that the branches seem to be a very harmless device, whipping can be bloody, depending on how much effort you put in and how much time you spend. But in any case, it will be superficial, and the device itself will act as a limiter of excessive exposure - it will simply break. The main thing when choosing not to forget about the optimal diameter of the rod.

Depending on the task or the degree of fault of the lower rod, you can punish

direct springy wrist strike,

rigidly with a pull (in this case, traces are guaranteed).

The undoubted positive quality of the device is that you can quite easily calculate the strength and direction of the blow.

When spanking, pace is important. The pain that you feel bottom girl, over time after the impact does not weaken, but rather increases in the range of 15-30 seconds following the impact. Therefore, it is better to pause between beats.

You can act as single rods, or tied into a bundle of 3-6 pieces. If the rods are very thin, you can collect up to 15 pieces in a bundle.

Note also that if you want to punish the bottom as efficiently as possible, then the best option for this - soaked rods with completely peeled skin. They are the most painful!

Also good practice flogging with rods is considered to be the alternate use of twigs from different breeds wood.

How to flog with rods and a belt correctly and safely

Let's try to summarize the information we have on such an important issue as punishment with rods and a belt:

1. Any percussive device used for spanking and punishment requires practice. If you are a beginner, practice hitting an inanimate object.

2. If you practice spanking regularly, then the skin becomes physically resistant to shock, less prone to rupture of capillaries. And your devices "soften".

3. Before whipping the priests with rods or a belt, if you have a kind of ritual, it is advisable for a girl to take hot bath or shower, relax as much as possible.

4. The most gentle pose - on the lap of the Owner (it is difficult for him to swing strongly). The most painful - standing bent over clasping his knees (when the skin is stretched, sensitivity to pain increases).

5. The inner thighs are the most painful part of the body to hit. However, this does not mean that it should not be hit.

6. The safest area for spanking is the convex surface of the buttocks, the top of the thighs. The outer side of the thighs, sides are prone to bruising.

7. Blows are delivered measuredly. The strength, pace, amplitude and magnitude of the swing increase gradually. If you exclusively play role-playing games and a light erotic spanking is required without visible marks, only with reddening of the skin - do not strike with a full swing and measure the effort. It’s easier to work in general with an “elbow swing” when the shoulder joint is relatively immobile. It is also necessary to ensure that the belt does not get ribbed.

8. If after spanking you have marks or bruises, use special preparations to treat them. (for example, troxevasin)

9. For the first spanking, choose products from soft skin(if it is a belt) and thinner rods.

10. It is necessary to know the sense of proportion - it is better to flog ten times during the day than once, but strongly and for a long time.

11. It usually takes about 30 minutes to spank women and girls in the buttocks with a belt or a rod.

12. If you are just starting to use such practices, take the time to find the optimal posture, find out which places it has the most sensitive and resistant to shock, calculate the required impact force so that the first experience does not discourage the desire to repeat.

In general, in order to properly fill the girl's ass with rods or a belt, you must first fill your hand.

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Spanking like punishment belt

Jack: The belt always hung in the kitchen where I was flogged. It was not used as an element of clothing.

Roma: belt hanging on the chair

mickey: This is not a belt in the usual sense, but the object of punishment was always in one place.

ROMA BAGIEV: located near the place of punishment, well, dad could take another belt, it all depends on the punishment, or is it planned in advance, or dad decided recently to use a rod, he is an opponent to use

Potap: the belt always hung on a chair in my room, they used it only for spanking, in special occasions father used a wide soldier's.

Glory: belt. Once dad carved some kind of wire.

Muddy Jan: Mickey writes: ]This is not a belt in the usual sense, but the object of punishment was always in one place. And what was that object? Potap writes: the belt always hung on a chair in my room, they used it only for flogging, in special cases my father used a wide soldier's belt .. And what special cases those were.

Potap: The belt always hung on a chair in my room - it was used only for punishment. In special cases, dad took a wide sodatsky.

Alex: I bring it myself - what they say

MaximSr: The spanking was not "planned". She rarely got a job and only for special offenses such as lying. Therefore, there was no special, “honorable” place for the belt. It hung in the closet along with other belts and belts.

blackhawk: I usually bring a belt from the wardrobe myself, there is a chance to choose at least not the hardest one, sometimes my mother gets the belt - it's much worse

oleg zadorkin: brings grandma

amber: hang on the wall

Danya: dad takes off his belt or takes it from a shelf

oleg zadorkin: both for the celebration of a festive tablecloth, and for spanking a separate belt, for many fathers, it is not the punishment of their offspring that is important, but the words spoken, so that the belt would now be brought from the fofaner

lady_oksana: Oleg Zadorkin writes: for many fathers, it is not the non-pronunciation of their offspring that is important, but the words spoken so that a belt would now be brought from the fofaner I understood correctly: it is not the result that matters. what about the process?

oleg zadorkin: for some fathers, saying these words has more meaning and grandeur than punishments and the need for spanking

lady_oksana: Oleg Zadorkin writes: for some fathers, saying these words has more meaning and grandeur It looks like I understand everything correctly 🙂

Pavel: A word can kill. But stroke with a terrible blow to the head -?

oleg zadorkin: I beg your pardon, I wanted to express myself, screaming loudly, as if stroking the head gently

Den: An army belt taken from the closet specifically for spanking. Or my uncle took off his jeans (but he almost did not differ from the army one).

antoinetta: A thin leather belt, kept in my closet. At the dacha I received a rod, they didn’t carry a belt with them. Once I was flogged with a braided belt, there was no other. Very painful.

Pavka: The father himself brings a belt or skipping ropes, they lie in the closet. And in the summer in the country he cuts the rods from the willow bush just before the flogging, and at this time I have to lower my pants and lie down.

: usually the father himself brings a belt or rope,

fox: The one who flogged brought

Mermaid Anya: I cut the rod myself and the subject of punishment - I also bring it myself, what they say.

Kristina: No experience. But the belt, it's kind of bonal.

Natasha: The belt is still hanging on the wall above the sofa in my room. So you don't have to go far for it. And a rolling pin, but this is rare, my mother brought it herself.

Natasha: The belt is still hanging on the wall above the sofa in my room. So you don't have to go far for it. And a rolling pin, but this is rare, my mother brought it herself. And dad always flogged with a belt.

Marina: Belt only. Or dad got out of his trousers, or mother from the closet. A thin belt hurts more, and the traces didn’t go away for a long time, and dad also tore mercilessly with a wide one, but still not as much as it hurts from a thin one.

pendant: the rope hung in the parent's bedroom near the stove, on a rope, if necessary, my mother took it, and the belt in different ways, when my mother pulled it out of my trousers, if my belt was used, when she took it out of the wardrobe. the cord was usually attached to the tape recorder and mother disconnected it before the spanking.

Arina: mom brings it herself

Oksana: With a narrow belt, it hangs on a hanger. I bring it myself, just not to add it. last time Mom whipped her with a belt, and when dad came home from work, he whipped her again, but at the request of her mother with a skipping rope. Because of the pain, circles swam before my eyes, I wanted to climb the wall, and he flogged and flogged. Now I’m afraid of the ropes, horror, and my mother warned that from now on they will definitely flog me with it.

Artemka: Mom smacks with a belt, step sister thrashed, stepfather doesn’t touch with a finger

Mika: My grandfather had a belt on his belt. The wire was unfastened from the equipment. He often carried a skaklka with him. Nettle so go out and kick, and I kicked. It was so said go to the cabinet with belts, take the belt. I took a more non-bitting so for this, at my 7 years old, another 20 blows, plus yes, and for screaming +10

Maxoid: The “educational” belt lay on a shelf in the closet, and so did the rod, and tried the wires

Muddy Jan: Maxoid writes: The “educational” belt was lying on a shelf in the closet, as well as a rod, and I tried the wires And for what the belt relied for what the rod and for what he received the wire

Victor#1: A soldier's belt hung in the corridor. My father always brought it.

Muddy Jan: Victor #1 writes: A soldier's belt hung in the corridor That is, only a belt was used for your punishment.

Tarelkin: they always flog me only with a belt, once they flogged me with rods

Denis: Menja sekut rozgoj po goloj spine gotovjat rozgu pered samoj porkoj. Denis 17 let.

Lech: Flogged mostly with a belt. Most often, I took it out of the closet and carried it to my dad. Sometimes dad took his belt out of his trousers. And several times they flogged me with a skipping rope and a wire. Well, it's only in extreme cases. And the wife told me that she often received a dog leash.

Bus driver: Flogged only with an army belt!

Matvey14: My father usually flogs me with a belt. The normal belt he currently wears. There is no special belt for punishment. Several times the truth was a wide soldier's belt. Sometimes I get whips from my grandfather, but this is rarely very.

Ruslan from Donetsk: There was a belt hanging in the closet. The rods were in the kitchen, behind the sink, but they were rarely used.

Alex710: Grandfather himself took out a belt or “two-tail” from the closet, except for two cases when I was flogged with my own belt (he had a good buckle), which I myself took out of shorts when, being alone at home, I “did things” and out of shame I prepared everything for punishment (see the topic of spanking on request). And so my “duties” included pulling down my pants, shorts and lying down. Never forced children to bring a belt. In my opinion, it is enough that they themselves exposed their ass and lay down for punishment. Not everyone is capable of this either.

Alex710: And I saw a belt hanging in the "terrible corner" from a classmate. In my opinion, it's terrible to stand in the corner and see a belt in front of your very nose, which may or may not flog you. No wonder the boy was a coward.

Denis: Mudryj i drevnij Solomon skazal: rozga prednazdnachena dlja spiny neponimajuschego. A nash, sovremennyj chelovek, dobavil k etomu spisku, skakalku, provod, shnur, i drugoe. I porjat ne toljko po spine, or po zadnice, no i po zhivotu i po drugim chastjam tela. Neuzheli glupostj cheloveka, ne imeet predela?

Alex710: Denis writes: Mudryj i drevnij Solomon skazal: rozga prednazdnachena dlja spiny neponimajuschego. A nash, sovremennyj chelovek, dobavil k etomu spisku, skakalku, provod, shnur, i drugoe. I porjat ne toljko po spine, or po zadnice, no i po zhivotu i po drugim chastjam tela. Neuzheli glupostj cheloveka, ne imeet predela? King Solomon, of course, was wise. This was recognized even by his enemies. But he also stumbled in life. What honestly wrote in the Bible. And the rod was intended specifically for the “uncomprehending”, and not the notorious criminal. And the criminals were punished with terrible whips with knots, woven bones and metal balls, and then only on the back and lower. And as for jump ropes, wires, etc. , then in our time they are sometimes intended, alas, not for criminals. namely, “not understanding” and this, of course, is excessive cruelty. A rod or belt is enough. As for spanking in the stomach, this is generally savagery worse than anyone ancient. You can just cripple a person.

einars A: I don't understand it. I remember well how it was for me and what I felt. I was taken to my room. No one said what would happen, but I already understood it. On the way, the father took the rods, which were usually prepared and stood on the closet. Then there was a short question about what had been done and an order to drop his pants. I automatically touched the top of my pants, but more to hold than to pull down. And, of course: “I won’t do it again. Sorry. No need. etc." Then they took off my pants, put me over my knee or on the bed, and the process began. I tried to cover with my palms, turning them against the rod and trying to get the rod as far away from the priests as possible. My only thought was that it would end soon. Before the start of the flogging, the thought would have been superfluous to somehow delay, or at least delay time. Any action aimed at getting a spanking would be unnatural. I got whipped, but they didn't break me. I had the right to not want, which is very important. When I screwed up. I tried to follow the same principle. True, there have been some changes. If you need to find out some details, this can be done right before the spanking. When the ass is already cooked and the rod is in hand, it's time to ask questions. If the child knows that for any attempt to lie or whistle from the answer there will be a whistle of a rod, then the answers will be reliable.

Alex710:inars writes: I tried to cover with my palms, Doesn't the rod hurt on the hands? einars writes: The only thought was if it would end soon So the sooner it starts, the sooner it ends. And so there will be an "additive". einars writes: I got whipped, but they didn't break me The one who repents and understands that he deserved the punishment, rather than the broken one, can bring the “instrument” for punishment. einars writes: If you need to find out some details, this can be done right before the spanking. When the ass is already cooked and the rod is in hand, it's time to ask questions. If the child knows that for any attempt to lie or whistle from the answer there will be a whistle of a rod, then the answers will be reliable. And if it turns out that already lying with a bare booty is not guilty? Then what, to say: "get dressed" ?. No, you need to find out the details earlier, and not when the child has already prepared. And it resembles psychological torture, when people were put against the wall and shot above their heads. This is where it can break down.

einars: 1. The child has the right not to want. He has the right to hope that a miracle will happen. He may hope to be forgiven. Repentance is just for that. 2. In this way, details and other actions can be clarified, and not the fact itself, is it necessary. The presumption of innocence is not only for the rod, but also for suspicion, as far as possible. The child must be sure that at least at home for no reason he will not be accused of anything. If he expresses suspicions, then he knows the reason.

Alex710:inars writes: The child has the right not to want. He has the right to hope that a miracle will happen. He may hope to be forgiven. Repentance is just for that. It is unlikely that a miracle will happen from resistance. Rather, on the contrary, he will receive more. einars writes: The presumption of innocence is not only for the rod, but also for suspicion, as far as possible. The child must be sure that at least at home for no reason he will not be accused of anything. If he expresses suspicions, then he knows the reason. I agree. But the "word for defense" should come before taking off your pants.

einars: 1. And it just depends on us whether there will be supplements and for what. I don’t need to be listened to just because I can give a butt. My requirements are always justified and explained. If I am forced to take rods, then I will explain this. I do not dispute the opinion that smacking is wrong, but enticing has its own arguments why I'm in specific case I do it. The child has the right to believe that spanking is the wrong means. Forcing him to do something for his own spanking is to challenge his right to an opinion. I don't need a slave, I need free thinking person grow up. Maybe this will not turn his mind back, but still I don’t need it. I'll take off my pants and put it on my knee myself. And I will hold my hands and legs. It's not that hard, why didn't my parents manage it? 2. I agree. Never claimed otherwise.

Alex710:inars writes: I don’t need to be listened to just because I can give a butt. My requirements are always justified and explained. If I am forced to take rods, then I will explain this. I do not dispute the opinion that smacking is wrong, but enticing has its own arguments why I do this in a particular case. The child has the right to believe that spanking is the wrong means. Forcing him to do something for his own spanking is to challenge his right to an opinion. I don't need a slave, I need to raise a free-thinking person I agree with almost everything. It still seems to me that a child should be afraid not of the spanking itself, but of the actions that can lead to it. Bringing the belt to the child himself, of course, is not at all necessary, but he must realize that the punishment is well-deserved, and not just because they wanted to beat him. And with the realization, it’s quite possible to prepare yourself (to lie down and expose your ass without resistance). But to force under the threat of additional punishment is also impossible.

Svetka Bekky: Mom brought.

Nikita-80: Dad always brought the belt himself or took it off his trousers. Once he asked me for a belt for his brother. To my remark: “You have your own dressed,” he quietly answered: “No, it hurts” (my brother was about 5, so, wanted to intimidate).

Monya: Dad took off his trousers or brought from the closet. Mostly with a wide belt. The whipping is very strong and painful.

Monya: Usually flogged with a regular belt that he is currently wearing.

SS: Monya wrote: Dad took off his trousers or brought from the closet. Mostly with a wide belt. The whipping is very strong and painful. they write here, and common sense suggests that it is difficult to flog with a wide belt.

Svetka Bekky: Monya wrote: Mostly with a wide belt. The whipping is very strong and painful. SS writes: they write here, and common sense suggests that it is difficult to flog sick with a wide belt It will hurt, of course. But compared to the narrow one, as my childhood friend Igorek would say: "complete nonsense."

Svetka Bekky: Monya wrote: Usually he flogs with the usual belt that he is currently wearing. Does he walk around in trousers with a belt? Most of the house in "training shoes" walks.

Monya: Not wide, but regular. At home I went in "training shoes". But if he came home from work and immediately found out what he had done, he removed the belt from his trousers, and if he found out later, he took it from the closet.

Selena: Monya wrote: Mostly with a wide belt. Monya! Everyone knows that a thin strap beats more painfully, and a skipping rope is even more painful! So you don't get the hardest option. Although I know when they beat me with a dress brush, the pain was also not so sharp in the process. But she got up, and did not feel her ass. And then the pain did not go away for a long time and seemed to be concentrated in the depths of the buttocks. Any spanking is painful.

Oksana: the rubber rope hurts the most

Svetka Bekky: Selena writes: Everyone knows that a thin strap beats more painfully, and a skipping rope is even more painful! So you don't get the hardest option. oksana wrote: the most painful rubber jump rope Girls "know a lot". "Our".

zhivago: Mermaid-Anya privet

Alex710: zhivago wrote: Mermaid-Anna privet Eh you to whom? There are no mermaids to be seen here.

Kaori: The belts were always in the same place - hung in the closet. When it was necessary, they simply got out of there.

Lola25: He took off his trousers or brought a belt from the closet.

katya: Removed from trousers or brought from the closet

Nikita-80 katya wrote: Taken off trousers or brought from the closet Well, just as copied from the previous post. Who brought it? How did you shoot - slowly or pulled off? And the closet was in the same room or in another, also an exciting moment. It's one thing when you hear the belt buckle ringing against the closet door, and another thing when the belt "appears" in the room unexpectedly in a punishing hand.

katya: If he took off his trousers, then he pulled them off. And if from the closet, then he went to another room and took from the closet.

uip: Ruslan from Donetsk writes: Rods were in the kitchen, behind the sink, but they were rarely used. And where were the rods harvested in urban conditions?

Katia: Well, my father was in the military, there were enough belts in the house - both military and civilian, and there was a harness. So when you flogged an officer, it didn’t hurt so much, but with a belt. Well narrow belts It also hurts a lot .. Either he took it off his trousers or got it out of the closet.

luna58: The father or mother removes the belt from the jeans, which usually hang in the closet.

Carlson: He took his belt out of his trousers or took a dog leash from the hallway, wicker, leather and very long. With a loop at the end. That hurt them a lot. And there was no gradation - for this is a belt, for this a leash. What was closer and then took.

Nadya2550: Father takes off his trousers.

Irina-1960: The father himself took out the belt from the closet, such an old army one, and when he switched to rods, he also brought the tub from the closet.

Woe onion: And I already wrote that only my mother punished me, and even then humanely, with a belt through my pants. And that was painful. I got acquainted with real rods and jump ropes later, when I played with my wife, let's say, in the Cossack robbers. I am naturally a robber, my wife is a Cossack, but what does a Cossack do when he meets a robber? (Tsapki not count, it's vice versa). Correctly. Punishes. It usually happened in the village, in a log house almost a meter thick. so scream all you want, from real devices. Well, what can I say, it's so painful that I don't even understand how children endure. But I'm not talking about that now. The rod is a charm, of course, but not for me, I'm afraid like fire. Jumps are different. There is a new sample, some kind of soft synthetic cut, thin, even I sometimes endured. Old? harder rubber, real, pain at the level of the rod. But I have some old thickened jump ropes. I highly recommend it, once I received it and hid it from my wife as a device incompatible with life. But in general, on my profile picture, my photo is still at a tender age, well, how can such a sweetheart be so painful? By the way, where is the avatar?

Juliana: Woe onion writes: Well, what can I say, it's so painful that I don't even understand how children endure. Onion grief, children have no choice.

Woe onion Juliana writes: children have no choice. That's for sure. It is a pity that not all parents understand that raising a child does not have to be spanked.

Juliana: Woe onion writes: It is a pity that not all parents understand that raising a child does not have to be spanked. Woe is onion, because this is nowhere taught how to properly raise children.

terry Juliana writes: this is nowhere taught how to properly raise children.. How to properly spank children.

Juliana:terry wrote: .how to spank children correctly. terry, and you also need to be able to smack correctly.

terry Juliana writes: you also need to be able to smack correctly I do not know. You see better 🙂

Juliana:terry wrote: You see better 🙂 Yes, terry, I know better from the top and bottom.

terry Juliana writes: I know better Julia, I have already told you many times: you finally choose one thing. How can you be both above and below? We have to decide.

Woe onion Juliana writes: Yes, terry, I know better from the top and bottom. Yulianochka, this can only mean one thing, that you are not in the subject, but the subject is in you.

Juliana: Woe onion writes: Yulianochka, this can only mean one thing, that you are not in the subject, but the subject is in you. Onion grief, it's all the same ... like on the forehead, on the forehead, everything is one.

Ttt: the belt is usually dad, and after his disappearance, the neighbor was pulled out of his trousers and kept ready, folded in half, while I was getting drunk.

nika50: Father brought from the closet or took off his trousers.

Jury Juliana writes: children have no choice. Children have a choice - to behave as their parents require. Well, if you don’t always want it, then there is no choice, be patient.

Juliana Jury writes: Children have a choice - to behave as their parents demand. Jury, parents, unfortunately, still have a bad mood.

Jury Juliana writes: Parents, unfortunately, still have a bad mood. Well, you yourself said that you flogged only for the cause (in their opinion), and did not beat you simply because of a bad mood. The severity of the punishment depended on the mood, as I understand it. For triples, deuces were always flogged, but how hard it hit, it really depended on a lot of circumstances, including mood. But the choice was yours - to study and do homework so that there were no triples or twos

Juliana Jury writes: The severity of the punishment depended on the mood, Jury, and strictness too. And it also happens that you get almost nothing. Just because the mood is bad, and you asked your parents something.

Jury Juliana writes: Just because the mood is bad, and you asked your parents something. And here you don’t need to ask such inappropriate questions, for which you can immediately get a bum!

Juliana Jury writes: And here you don’t need to ask such inappropriate questions, for which you can immediately get a bum! Jury, you never know in advance what you will get and what you won't.

Jury Juliana writes: so you never know in advance what you will get and what you won't. Oh, well, this time I really don’t believe it. Surely these were some kind of “tricky” questions, with some kind of subtext, or maybe a question about resolving something known in advance that is not permissible. 🙂 But you still wanted to hear the answer “no!” again, and still continue this conversation, why not, and when it will be possible, and why Mashka, Sasha can, but I can’t?

Juliana Jury writes: Surely these were some kind of "tricky" questions, with some kind of subtext, Jury, there were quite normal questions, expressions of one's opinion, to which the answer was: I see, are you too smart with us?

Jury Juliana writes: quite normal questions, expressions of one's opinion Here you go! That's what I said that they were not quite such harmless questions, for which you could get a pope. And this opinion expressed in the question was certainly different from the opinion of the parents. And, most likely, you already knew that this is so.

Juliana Jury writes: You probably knew beforehand that this is the case. Well I was smart beyond my years

Jury Juliana writes: I was smart beyond my years I already knew about it

Juliana Jury writes: I already knew about it Truth? And how long?

Jury Juliana writes: Truth? And how long? Well, like this By grains, having collected everything you wrote here, an image of such a pretty, smart and very positive girl was created

Juliana Jury writes: the image of such a pretty, smart and very positive girl was created

Leda25: Father brought a belt.

Leda25: The father takes off his pants or brings from the closet.

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