Why do guys love inaccessible girls. Don't be easy prey

In every man there is natural instinct hunter, therefore, it is generally accepted that unapproachable girls are considered the most interesting among the opposite sex for them. After all, it is very difficult to win her, and this “turns on” real men.

All means to achieve the goal are included - gifts, flowers, often even persecution. And all this is only in order for the person you like to turn her attention to the person.

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It happens that this does not even happen from « Great love», but purely out of sport. In most cases, this very interest develops into something more. And sometimes the development of such relationships is much more productive than with mutual sympathy. After all, as you know, a man gravitates most of all to the lady who got him especially hard efforts.

How does that same impregnable stranger behave, and in general, by what signs can you recognize her in ordinary communication?

What means "to be an impregnable girl"?

It means to be real problem for men. Being touchy, you will inspire them to exploits, pump out all the strength and energy from them, devastate them morally, but ... greatly interest them! Affordable girls do not like anyone, even if they are incredible beauties. Can something be valuable that came into your own hands, that you didn’t have to desperately strive for, for which, in the end, you didn’t have to spend elementary money? Of course not! In any case, for a man, with his something "hunting instinct".

Even if you are madly in love with some guy, you should not demonstrate your willingness to hang on his neck right here and now. Otherwise, you will irretrievably lose his interest in you, even if there was one at first.

What is an impregnable girl?

Sometimes it happens that ostentatious inaccessibility for a woman is something like a tool for obtaining a certain profit. This applies to those who turn the good "dynamo" into men. They willingly communicate with members of the opposite sex, flirt, even allow hints of intimacy from the side of the admirer who appeared, but by all means they delay "moment of truth" as much as possible.

During that very “pulling”, a woman receives a lot of personal benefits - trips to expensive restaurants, theaters, concerts; purchases of equipment, clothes, fur coats and other things; vacation abroad. Some women don't chase material gain, and they do it simply in order to obtain moral satisfaction due to the constant admiration of their persons (which makes it no easier for rejected men). Is this how an impregnable girl behaves? Not really.

True touchy people do not actually pursue any goals. And all their "icy" visual component, as a rule, hides completely different problems. For example, failures on the personal front in the past, or psychological trauma. And some women, indeed, are almost impossible to please because of their wisdom or life experience. Young girls are almost always greedy for "sugary" guys. They like a pretty appearance, and for the sake of it they are ready to endure many character flaws, just to meet with the "king" of the school or university.

As she grows older and experiences, a woman gains worldly wisdom and learns to automatically "screen out" everyone who does not become a good candidate for her hand and heart. And sometimes this process becomes so fanatical that a woman completely ceases to notice any objective virtues in men.

All elements of courtship seem ridiculous and comical to them, all attempts to win their hearts are stupid, all real positive sides- insignificant.

So what is impregnability - a gift or a vice?

You can't say for sure. What is known is that each "snow queen" sooner or later, exactly the fan appears who is 100% worthy of her.

An impregnable girl definitely appreciates herself. She does not exchange for everyone she meets and does not fall into the arms of fans on the first date. Perhaps she does not intentionally “ignite” interest in herself with her behavior, but she always knows exactly what kind of man she needs, and she is looking exclusively for him. Or rather, waiting for him to find her.

What do men think about impregnability?

From the point of view of men, an impregnable girl is one that:

1. "Waiting for his finest hour";
2. “Trying to present himself as unique”;
3. “Behaves like she has a stone instead of a heart”;
4. "Not interested in guys at all";
5. "Want everything at once."

Despite the unflattering remarks, it is for such women that men are ready to give not only all their dignity and pride to the rest, but also, if necessary, their lives. It is in such women that they fall in love once and for all, knowing the value of owning them. These are the women who inspire men and keep them going. "on a short leash", and so skillfully that you can never tell about it from the outside.

If a girl loves herself, it can be seen by others, and people are drawn to her. But loving yourself doesn't mean "put on a crown" and be prejudiced towards others.

How to love yourself and become touchy?

In this context, the expression "love yourself" does not mean at all what is usually meant by it.

Moreover, it needs to be done so that self-esteem grows. But to love yourself means not to exchange for every man. There are girls looking at whom you might think that they have despaired of looking for love.

They can be incredibly beautiful, smart, caring, loyal and economic, but suffer constant breakdowns in their personal lives. Partly because they do not love themselves, and give all their warmth to men who skillfully use it.

The expressions on the faces of these women seem to bear the seal of loneliness and suffering, and of course, they are ready to rush towards anyone who offers to pass the summer evening together.

The logic of men in the matter of choosing a partner is extremely simple - if no one needs her, then why do I need her? That's why impregnability always wins. Do you want to be "on horseback" and become the one « snow queen» ? We'll be happy to give you some tips!

How can you become an impregnable girl?

• When meeting a man, don't act like he's your last chance;
• Make it a rule not to call or text first;
• Pretend that you have many fans, and you are constantly being won (but not directly, but indirectly);
• Delay time when making a date - intentionally delay the date and show that you are a busy woman;
• Do not allow yourself to be touched during the first meetings, even if you like the man a lot;
• Do not agree to sex on the first date (and in general, it is better to wait at least two weeks with this matter);
• Love yourself. Really appreciate your personality, and in no case do not let a man offend you;
• Let your companion constantly think about how to win such an impregnable girl like you. But do not go too far and do not beg for anything in return for your attention;
• Give all the initiative in the hands of the stronger sex. Do not be humiliated and do not ask for anything. Don't push for the next meeting;
• If you're already in a relationship, don't make a fuss or do "silent" pressure. When a man is really guilty, pretend that you are very disappointed in him. It's better to be direct about it. Operates flawlessly;
• Stay impregnable always! Do not wallow in everyday life and do not place your personal time on the altar of household chores. You must be constantly busy with something. And be sure to be among people so that your man "achieves" you permanently, afraid of losing your attention when rivals appear.

Among pick-up artists, there are many versions of how you can conquer the “top” in the person of a woman who loves and respects herself. These are stupid messages. impregnable girls, and no less stupid gifts them, and, even worse, aggressive actions "snapping".

Which women are more attracted to men - those who are easy to achieve, or, conversely, inaccessible? Everyday opinions on this issue can be found very diverse: from "gentlemen prefer drunken blondes" to "a woman must be stormed like a fortress."

pure biology

Ethologists (specialists in animal behavior) explain female attractiveness like this: the female arouses the interest of the male if three basic conditions- there is a novelty effect, evidence of her sexual condition (the ability to produce offspring) has been obtained, and there is evidence of her sexual availability - that is, the male understands that he has a chance of success.

Sexual availability raises the biggest questions: how exactly should a female be available? Ethologists are vague: her behavior should indicate sexual interest and sexual intelligibility at the same time. It seems that the situation with human females is equally twofold.

Psychologists argue about bipedal tastes

One day, four university professors of psychology were arguing over coffee. The topic of the dispute was female inaccessibility. How attractive is she in the eyes of men?

Psychologists argued something like this. The value of a woman hanging around her neck is not great in the eyes of a man. This is easy prey, in the company of such a beauty can become a laughing stock, besides, it is not known whether she will soon begin to hang around the neck of someone else.

Inaccessible woman- here it is, the poet's dream. Especially if the poet is familiar with the theory of dissonance, which says: when a person is forced to expend a lot of energy to achieve a goal, the goal seems to him even more tempting. An inaccessible woman should raise the status of a man in the eyes of the public.

But here's the question: at some point impregnable woman should let you get closer. Otherwise, the game loses its meaning. Then how long is it permissible to break down so that a man does not lose all interest in you?

For others, the discussion would be over after drinking coffee, but a real scientist is the one who proves his words in practice. Therefore, the company, consisting of Jane Pilyavin, Edgar Berscheid and the Walsters, decided on an experiment.

The experiment failed

At first, psychologists decided to get off easy and simple: to find out everything that was of interest to a group of teenagers - after all, the hormone plays in them, and questions social status and personal appeal are painfully relevant to them.

Teenagers were shown pictures different couples and told how these people met. In one case, it was said that one of the couple showed a very strong interest to another at the first meeting. Others reported little interest. Teenagers were then asked how socially attractive "very interested" and "indifferent" people turned out to be for them.

The researchers assumed that "very interested" would look uncool in the eyes of teenagers - they are literally hung around their necks. It turned out, exactly the opposite: the more directly interested a person was, the more attractive teenagers found him.

Perseverance and hard work lead to nothing.

Psychologists were surprised, but did not despair - just think, they are undergrown, what they understand in life. It was decided to experiment with adults. However, three subsequent experiments ended in complete failure. All of them were related to the service of computer dating and blind dates, they were all based on the hypothesis: if a man cannot assess how attractive the woman he invites on a blind date is, then he will focus on indirect data. In particular, he can judge how attractive a woman is and how highly she values ​​herself by how quickly she agrees to a date.

So, the men who participated in all three experiments, even in absentia, did not like women who had to be persuaded for a long time.

But this failure did not confuse psychologists. They decided to get to the heart of the matter: sexual relations. And they acted boldly: this time several prostitutes acted as experimenters - after all, aren't these the most accessible and reliable women?

It was decided to create a situation in which the prostitute became less accessible to the client. Girls, before performing their professional tasks, reported that now they would not be able to meet with everyone in a row, because they entered the university, they would have less time, and they would have to become more selective. After that, the prostitutes had to evaluate how much the client liked them, how generously he paid for their services, and most importantly, how many times he would turn to her services over the next month.

The researchers failed again: clients lost interest in the “learned” prostitute, did not seek her services in the future, and did not demonstrate great joy from the last meeting.

Truth speaks through the lips of a student

After five unsuccessful experiments, psychologists lost a little scientific zeal. So it remained unknown whether a woman should be impregnable or agree to everything. The teachers shared their sorrows with the students. There was a spontaneous and stormy discussion, during which the students put the situation on the shelves.

A woman inaccessible and a woman who agrees to everything are extremes, something like Scylla and Charybdis. For real male choice strongly influenced additional factor: how accessible a woman is to specific man and inaccessible to other surrounding males. This is how she acquires value in the eyes of a man.

The embarrassed teachers, who did not include an additional scale in their study, only had to conduct a final experiment that could confirm or refute the opinion of the students. The dating service was activated again. The men who posted their profile and photo there were given a dossier of a dozen women, allegedly selected by a computer. Each applicant was told that the woman was choosing between him and several others - and here are the points she put up for each potential groom. Needless to say, men chose for the first date exactly the woman who gave them a high score, and rated all other applicants low.

The moral of this story lies on the surface: sometimes students understand practical things better than teachers, sometimes scientists show amazing perseverance to understand simple truths. And women always choose a man, not vice versa. Be carefull.

Svetlana Malevich

Sexology Analytics

Why do women like bad Boys, and for men unavailable girls?

2015-04-30

How true are stereotypes about relationships, says MED-info expert, sexologist, psychotherapist, psychiatrist Evgeny Alexandrovich Kulgavchuk.

Let us consider these phenomena not only from a psychological point of view, but also from an evolutionary and biological one. So, bad guys. What exactly is attractive about it? Probably not slovenliness or bad habits whether it be tobacco or alcohol. After all, it is unlikely that anyone will be attracted by a sloppy alcoholic with the smell of a long unwashed body and bad smell. That's why bad guys like that don't inspire, right? Now we take, for example, a biker, on a fast, powerful and beautiful motorcycle, bold, self-confident, even with tattoos on his right shoulder and a penetrating look. And a slightly different picture. Keywords- confidence, integrity. A courage that takes both cities and female hearts. This is power. . sexual attraction. Pressure, from which sometimes some ladies weaken their legs and feel dizzy. This is the ability to protect and obtain livelihood from less dominant males.

“The duty of parents is to explain to their daughters from childhood the essential difference between a whole man who is able to achieve his goals, who knows how to overcome, and an antisocial type with defiant behavior.”

The irony of fate is that, poorly distinguishing shades of personality and behavior, intoxicated with endorphins,. And a bold, romantic hero may eventually turn out to be really just excitable, who can hit his lady in the face just because it seemed to him that she smiled at a friend. “Oh, mommy, I rode on a sled with the wrong one ... As a mommy, you were right ...”, one famous song sang. This stage is especially important for girls when they are just starting a relationship and looking for their hero. And some "heroes" can leave wounds for life. Parents can be very worried about their daughters at the beginning of a relationship. Therefore, their duty is to explain to their daughters from childhood the essential difference between a whole man who is able to achieve his goals, who knows how to overcome, and an antisocial type with defiant behavior. After all, a challenge, a protest can be interpreted as inner strength. Although in reality a person may simply have nothing to stand out with, except as a protest. There are such people: “against” they can, but “for” they cannot. But these two personality types are diametrically opposed, aimed at destruction or creation. The difference in worldview, and in fate is sometimes huge.

Now about the inaccessible. Here the situation is somewhat similar. There are girls who know their worth, and there are those who stuff it. Although the price is not entirely, probably the correct expression and gives rise to specific associations. So, a girl who knows what she wants in life, with adequate self-esteem, not exchanging for trifles and petty relationships, may be inaccessible. And you can say - selective. Perhaps this is a harmonious option. She is not on the sofas of loving gentlemen, she believes that these are not body movements, but above all. And, probably, it’s not bad that she is looking for her man, whom she can admire. Yes, she can refuse others along the way. smart and kind woman can do it in such a way as not to humiliate or offend a man. At the reception, I often remind women simple truth about the importance of treating people the way you want to be treated. After all, everything will return: both evil and good. If someone does not know how to properly unstarted relationships, this needs to be learned.

“If the relationship was built on inaccessibility, when receiving a prize, a man can often simply evaporate. After all, the quest is completed, you need to look for the next exciting game.

Now let's move on to the delusions of perception. After all, there are ladies who behave emphatically cold and even aloof. Among them there are those who are tired of various offers, and this is already a defensive reaction. But nevertheless they continue to wear defiant and too revealing clothes, and this is interpreted by some men as "the girl is available." After all, we indirectly shape our environment without even thinking about it. Inviting forms, bare legs, jumping breasts, jeans below the coccyx - a bold attempt to get to know each other. And suddenly "unavailable". Men get a failure in perception. And boys are curious. And at 5 years old, and at 50. It seems to them that this is where they are hidden virtues. And hidden for everyone. But he (men are also hunters) will achieve his goal and in this he is still trying to subconsciously compete with other males. He can even thus assert himself at the expense of her in front of others, "rejected". Become better than them through it. And the siege begins. This game is like a woman. This also fits into the system of “ritual squats”, the analogues of which we see in the animal world. Many animal species test the male for loyalty before mating. That is why the female (it turns out, also inaccessible) often runs away from the male. There is a joke on this topic: “A hen, running away from a cockerel, thinks to herself:“ Am I running too fast? Therefore, in some ways this phenomenon comes from nature.

"The notorious" golden mean“is to know what you want in life, to strive for it, to know with whom you can achieve it, and to find your person.”

But here, too, accidents happen. After all, the female may not have hidden abilities and benefits, or maybe just afraid of relationships. For example, after talking to the bad guy from the 1st paragraph. The results of such games can also be disappointing (literally - the disappearance of the spell). And if the relationship was built on inaccessibility, when receiving a prize, a man can often simply evaporate. After all, the quest is completed, you need to look for the next exciting game. If a woman pulls her “thousand and one nights”, remaining inaccessible, a man’s interest may also disappear over time. If, during this period, the couple can create a 2nd series in the format of like-minded people, already a joint quest, then when they win, interest may not be lost, but deepened. But in order to create a common, you need to know what you want from life. Good in this regard for people from full happy families. They were able to absorb the kind of relationship they wanted to create. The one who himself does not really understand what he needs may remain inaccessible or be an eternal test drive without a desire to acquire. In these cases, the help of a sexologist can be very effective, which will help you understand where and who you need to look for in order to find your happiness. After all, divorces and separations are very expensive both materially and emotionally. By choosing not those, we are both ourselves and that person, because we can take the place of someone who, perhaps, would be happy with him.

Concluding thoughts on this interesting topic, we can summarize that the notorious "golden mean" is to know what you want in life, strive for it, know with whom you can accomplish this, and look for your person. To be able to distinguish courageous from asocial, to become and self-respect from arrogance and arrogance. Not an easy task, but a prize in the form family happiness worth it.

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If at any moment you are ready to put aside all your affairs and run away to meet a girl, then you will be less interesting to her than if she knew about your employment and tried to get a couple of hours of your time at her disposal. important to be inaccessible for a girl and know exactly how to do it.

Why does a girl show unavailability

When a girl shows - she tries to fill her price and wants to check how much you need.

Unfortunately, guys who don't know much about girls make "closer" in these moments. And they show a willingness to do whatever the girl wants.

Of course, this not only does not give a result, but also worsens the situation, because the girl perceives this as a weakness. At this moment, the girl instantly sends the guy to the alternate airfield.

And so that the girl understands that you, too, "do not bastard" ...

Why is full accessibility bad?

Society and television make young people believe that a girl needs to be pursued, taken to restaurants and always be ready to help.

But, remembering all your rich life experience, we understand that the more effort we have spent to get something, the more we appreciate it and are afraid of losing it. Each person even produces a hormone that makes him act further to get what he wants.

The same is true with girls. If a girl has done a good job of developing your relationship, then, accordingly, she will appreciate them more. To do this, you need to let her try a little and enjoy the fact that she will seek your favor.

How not to be easy prey

Let's consider two "variants" of behavior demonstrating .

First: you are in no hurry to show a strong interest in a girl and show with your actions and words that you need to earn it. Your entire meta message in this case should be about how she needs to get out of her skin in order to build your relationship. In order for you to be able to do this naturally, you need to be in the appropriate.

Second: you communicate with her very well (make "closer"), but at the same time you often do not have enough time to meet with her. This option is the most "thermonuclear". By the way, if you communicate with her positively, say compliments, and then stop communicating, you will only increase the effect.

She may smile sweetly at you or show interest in some other way, but do not allow yourself to react enthusiastically to this. Otherwise, she will understand that your inaccessibility is just a mask that you clumsily pulled on yourself. If you do not want to fail in the process of seduction, then lead your game into inaccessibility in accordance with your plan(allowing her to gradually gain your interest) rather than according to her reaction. I know that you often want to go to a meeting and meet a girl faster. But you need to be able to force yourself to endure your impulses in order to get a real result.

Let her know that you have a lot in life interesting activities and that you will always find something to do if she refuses to meet you.

Once you overcome the stereotypical delusion that you need to always be persistent, you will be surprised at how far and quickly you can move in a relationship. inaccessibility- this is not only the prerogative of women, as some people think. It can (and should) be used by men to interest a girl.

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The problem of the male battalion of the army of love is the fear of female pressure or obsession

Love and Dignity

Russian women of the 21st century are trying to learn how to get a vaginal orgasm, train certain muscles in order to finally see their man happy or show him their ability to do business in order to calm the desired partner: “I'm not interested in the bank account of the one with whom I go to bed to bed".

European women convince the male population that it is unpleasant for them to drink coffee for which the boyfriend will pay. Nigerian women, in an attempt to survive, come to Europe and engage in prostitution.

But any woman, whether she believes it or not, wants to give all her love to that the only man, which would personify for her father, husband and child, in the kit. Unconsciously, since the time of the existence of tribes, female genetics requires self-realization in love for their man and their child, and male - in hunting the beast and bringing prey to the family.

The problem with women is that they looking for a chance to feel weak in the arms of a strong man, the problem of the male battalion of the army of love is fear of female pressure or obsession.

How to go from divine love to hellish revenge

Man depressed from childhood excessive love mother who expresses herself as too great care, fear for his son or an exaggerated amount of caresses, and in constant control over his beloved child, up to jealousy for his girlfriends - grows up as an insecure female conqueror or a lazy moral impotent. Two of the male inferiority complexes mentioned above are solvable, and intelligent men show their highest wisdom in the ability to transform from an insecure boy into a man who knows how to love ... not to mention the mass of attention that such transformed men cause from the opposite sex, returning to that human respect, gratitude and sympathy.

However, those who failed to develop their spiritual potential to the mentioned level of an adequate attitude towards oneself, as to self-sufficient man who loves and respects himself - make up the majority of men living on planet Earth to this day.

And it is by no means a desire that excites such gentlemen, even if it is bright and smart woman to give love to your partner, rather than the inaccessibility of a woman, as such. Such men attract the attention of the opposite sex, however, they themselves are not able to feel the joy of being loved. Such men do not trust women, moreover, they do not perceive trust. sexual partner as a value.

If we analyze the relationship of a boy with his mother in his childhood, the habit of a child raised by an overwhelming mother and a weak father becomes obvious, to live in anticipation of the true female tenderness from the mother, her affectionate attention, her faith in the strength of the future man and her respect for the personal boundaries of her son. The absence of such an attitude gives rise in the boy to the habit of wishing for an inaccessible mother, a prototype of a future sexual partner.

The result of such a childhood habit is a man's need for an inaccessible woman. In the case of a successful combination of circumstances in the life of two and the creation of a desired relationship by both, the problem of a man becomes his projection of habitual expectations. maternal love on his chosen one, his constant dissatisfaction with the lack of the necessary loving attention from a woman his condemnation of his beloved and his inevitable betrayal of his once blazing passion, feelings for her. The problem of an abandoned woman is, of course, a complete confusion of feelings and humiliating feelings of anger towards her beloved man who once cared for her.

Probably, such situations - or stories about them - move the female sex to love pornography, which can be shared with a man, and to practice getting multiple orgasms in order to please a loved one. At the same time, the female gender forgets about her feminine essence: an orgasm occurs, first of all, on a spiritual level, and the male sex continues to unconsciously blame the “mother” for the lack of love on her part, to condemn the wife’s desire to see a respectful size of her husband’s bank account. With age, the faith of such men in feminine feeling love disappears altogether or turns into a desire to humiliate a woman as such. Revenge is generally a very seductive feeling for both sexes. Not only a feeling, but also a motive.

A woman who suppresses her son with her love in the form of petting or in the form of excessive control is, as a rule, an unloved daughter in childhood. weak father... married to a overwhelming woman.

Why is a woman dreaming of protection oh strong man, spends his life in a sense of loneliness next to the once beloved? Perhaps the explanation for such a vicious circle lies in the weakness of the husband, whom his mother once disliked.

In an attempt to feel their masculine power, "boys" of all ages choose the behavior of a dictator and wean themselves from the feeling of love in general. Their daughters grow up unloved, and their sons grow up as unsure of their spiritual strength as their sad father.

Love and money

When a man believes that a woman loves his money in him, and not himself, then the man becomes greedy. It is worth mentioning only the results of studies by American psychologists who asked generous gentlemen a question: the desire of a man to offer a woman dinner in an expensive restaurant, pay for a fur coat of his beloved, or simply give her money, speaks of sexual desire men.

Money is an unconscious way for a man to express gratitude to a woman for the opportunity to enjoy a sense of sexual satisfaction.

Greedy representatives of the “strong” sex almost always suffer from a lack of love in their lives, which is why they themselves do not want to give this love to anyone at all, and even more so to the woman who offended them.

In turn, the smartest female half population - out of fear of being defiled in their devoted feeling of love for the first man in their life (daddy) - decides to eradicate in themselves a sense of respect for men in general and really stops caring about a partner. Or he begins to train his sphincter apparatus ...

And here are the men, meeting female desire to practice pornographic humiliation of feelings of love for a partner, joyfully realize their animal need, while confirming their opinion that a woman is not capable of love and that she only uses a man and his money. At the same time, the instinctive male - as well as female - thirst mutual love suffers a 100% fiasco... Ten orgasms a night, all organic holes used for entry (and exit), tried all the positions of the "Kama Sutra", which is easy to find on the Internet in any language, and love feelings does not arise. (Wow!..)

Vicious circle of insincerity

A person of any gender who condemns the opposite of their own is not able to enjoy the feeling of "being loved." This person is afraid of sincere relationships. More precisely, it will be the fear of the pain inflicted on those you love. (After all, mother was loved, her heart was entrusted ... and she left without even kissing goodbye! And she came to bad mood...) So many shortcomings! .. Just can not bear.

And now a man meets exactly that one and only, the sincerity of which he has dreamed of since he began to masturbate, but suddenly he feels her unusual "accessibility", i.e. her sincere desire to give love. The man gets bored and ends the relationship without even starting it. Boredom, as a feeling, is an unconscious human fear of making a decision.

And a woman falls in love once, twice, three ... Soon she finds herself a friend from whom she expects trust, responsibility for what has been said, generosity (in love as well as in money) and simply fortitude, however, in the absence of such male qualities, having given birth to a girl, shows her an example of how to despise the male sex, or, having given birth to a boy, begins to suppress him with her love ... which she once wanted to express to an adult man in bed. "Beloved husband", in turn, waiting for the attention of his chosen one to no avail, sooner or later comes to the conclusion that female love deceptive and that the illusions of youth led to divorce and the desire to forget the once beloved mother of her own children.

Live in the present without living the past...

A person will not be able to enjoy and live in the present while he is running away from his past. We are always where we are trying hard to escape. Those who are not aware of that report, live in their past - namely, unforgiven pain experienced as a result of this or that relationship of a loved one - are afraid of death. Those who live in the pain of their past are not able to enjoy love in the present. This person will simply be afraid of the truth of love if it arises in his life. He will be afraid of the pain to which he has become so accustomed since childhood, and he will certainly find reasons blocking his path to the found love and responsibility for maintaining the reciprocity of this feeling.

And so, men walk around the world ... waiting for love ... and enjoy pornography that degrades human dignity, as such ... and when they meet the one they were looking for, they begin to condemn it and can not cope with the feeling of many shortcomings of the one who just wants to give love.

The problem of a person who condemns loved ones or simply those he likes is the habitual condemnation of himself.

The only opportunity to enjoy daily details and even more so important events of his present is the fact that a person forgives himself, in particular, his dependence on the expectation of love from the opposite sex during growing up (well, for example, from mom, dad ...).

Usually the one who waits dies waiting; and the one who accepts life as it is, draws reasonable conclusions and forgets about the unpleasant moments of his fate. To forgive a mother (father) means to understand the motives of his actions and the apparent lack of desire of the parent to hurt the child. To forgive yourself means to stop criticizing yourself for the conclusion you made in childhood about yourself as a person unworthy of love. Stop criticizing yourself for anything at all means choosing to love yourself.

He who loves himself enjoys the pleasure of being loved by others. Such a person does not need to train his sphincter in order for the partner to experience amazing feelings enjoyment with him in bed.published