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What to do if the child cries. Screaming children are a big problem for parents

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The most common problem that new parents face is the constant crying of a newborn baby at the age of 1 or 2 months. The child is very small and he still cannot express his feelings and needs for anything in words. Maybe something hurts him? Or does he just want to eat? How to learn to determine why a newborn is crying? Why does a 1-2 month old baby cry in his sleep? How to calm him down, and is it worth it to see a doctor about this?

Reasons for crying

In fact, there are a lot of reasons why newborn babies cry a lot. The most common of them are:

hunger;
colic;
climatic conditions in which the child is located.

Basically, the baby cries because of the hunger he is experiencing. Today, most inexperienced young mothers adhere to a strict feeding schedule, which, as they think, has a beneficial effect on the digestive system. Perhaps they were told about this at and when they were discharged from the hospital. Yes, perhaps it is. But the problem is that the ventricle of a newborn is very small and, accordingly, he eats little. And sometimes he does not have enough of the amount of milk that he consumed during feeding in order to wait for the next “portion”.

Therefore, it is extremely important to feed the child not on time, but on demand. If a newborn baby cries, it is very easy to check whether he wants to eat or not. It is enough to attach a bent little finger to the corner of his mouth. If he starts to turn his head towards the finger and open his mouth as if he wants to grab onto it, then the baby is hungry. It's time to calm him down and attach him to the chest. A child of 1 month of life will eat, quickly fall asleep in his mother's arms, and hunger will not disturb him in his sleep for the next couple of hours.

Colic is the second reason why a baby cries. His digestive system has just begun to master its "new role". As a rule, colic bothers the baby for 1, 2 and 3 months of his life, in some cases they can last up to 6 months. If a baby who is 1 or 2 months old is constantly crying, know that this may be the whole problem.

Determining the crying of a child who is bothered by colic is just as easy. It is impossible to confuse it with any other. The child screams very strongly, jerks its legs and literally chokes from crying. The face becomes red, almost to blue. In this case, in order to calm the crying baby, it is necessary to give the baby a massage and give medicine (today there are a huge number of medications that help relieve the newborn from colic), or give him dill water.

Another reason why a baby cries is the climatic conditions in which it is located. Little babies sometimes cry because they can't stand extreme heat or cold. Each child is individual, so it is necessary to create exactly those climatic conditions under which your baby will feel comfortable.

Determine whether the baby is hot or cold, the following method will help:

take the child by the hand;
put your fingers on your wrist;
if the wrist is cold, then the baby is cold, it needs to be wrapped up more tightly, if it is hot or damp, it is hot, the child needs to be undressed.

Another reason why a baby cries is the negligence of parents who are simply too lazy to change the baby's diaper once again. An adult feels uncomfortable in wet clothes, and a baby whose diaper is full feels discomfort. Check frequently to see if the baby has a bowel movement. If an "accident" occurs, deal with it immediately to reassure your little one. By the way, for the same reason, the child may experience irritation in the inguinal region and in the folds, which can cause the baby not only discomfort, but severe pain and itching. If there is redness in the groin, try to minimize the use of diapers and treat the baby's skin with special creams more often.

Also, the cause of crying can be postpartum complications. Often, young mothers during childbirth cannot direct their forces in the right direction, that is, when they try, they begin to pout, but not there (in the face), due to which the time for the baby to pass through the birth canal has increased. As a rule, at this moment, in most cases, the child develops anemia (lack of oxygen), which negatively affects his nervous system. Because of this, a newborn can sleep poorly, shudder at every rustle in a dream, and constantly scream. In this case, it is necessary to contact a neurologist who will conduct a thorough examination of the baby and prescribe appropriate treatment. After completing the medication course, the baby's nervous system will improve, it will be easier to calm him down and crying will not disturb parents so often.

Very often, parents are faced with such a problem when a newborn baby cries with every urination and begins to sound the alarm. In fact, there is nothing terrible here, this is the usual fear of the child of what is happening. He cannot control the process itself, gets scared when he starts to write, as a result of which he starts crying. But still, you need to consult a doctor and take urine tests. Because sometimes there are cases when a baby cries due to pain during urination, which may be associated with:

with infectious diseases of the urinary system;
or with an incorrect location of the foreskin.

Pain during urination may also indicate a high concentration of urine, which, passing through the urinary canal, causes irritation and burning.

When a baby cries and has a frequent fever (the norm for a newborn is 37.2 C), you need to urgently go to the doctor. Perhaps the reason lies in an infectious disease that requires urgent treatment.

But our children do not always cry because of hunger or pain. Sometimes they just need the presence of their mother nearby. Before birth, the child was one with her, and now it is very difficult for him to get used to a new life. The baby needs the presence of a mother nearby and feel her warmth and care. Therefore, do not be afraid to spoil the child, take him more often in your arms, apply more often to your chest, put him to sleep in your arms to calm him down, talk to him. This will help the baby calm down and fall asleep quickly. Your care and warmth will definitely return to you in the future!

Why does a newborn cry in his sleep?

If the baby constantly cries in a dream, then it is worth first of all to inspect the baby's sleeping place. Perhaps something is preventing him from sleeping, for example, a sheet is curled under him or he lies on a nipple.

Also, the causes of crying in a dream can be night colic, which prevent the baby from sleeping, teething (in some children, teeth begin to erupt at 3.5 - 4 months), or the banal absence of a mother nearby.

If a child constantly cries in his sleep for 1-2 months, but nothing bothers him, maybe you should think about co-sleeping? The baby will feel calm next to his mother, especially since he can always eat without forcing you to get up if he is breastfeeding.

How to calm a crying baby?

First you need to find out why the baby is crying, and only after that begin to calm him down. If the reason for crying is hunger, feed him, even though it has not even been 2 hours since the last feeding.
If colic is the cause, give the child medicine and massage. And it is done like this:

put the child on the bed;
put your hand on his stomach, the palm should completely touch the stomach;
mentally draw a horseshoe on his stomach, the ends of which are directed downwards;
with smooth hand movements, follow the path of the horseshoe clockwise.

If this massage did not help your baby, then you can use another massage. However, it can be performed only from 1 month:

put the child on the bed;
bend both legs at the knees so that they touch the stomach;
With smooth movements, take the child's legs first to one side, then to the other. The legs should be tightly pressed to each other and to the stomach.

If these methods do not help, you can use the gas outlet tube. However, you should not abuse it, since the body can get used to the mechanical method of getting rid of gases and then it will be difficult to establish this process.

If a baby who is 1 or 2 months old is crying, and you have already tried everything possible, but nothing helps, it may not be colic. Try putting a heating pad on your baby's tummy, make sure it's not too hot! Give your child dill water or fennel tea.

Carry the child in your arms, press him with your stomach to you. Sometimes both gentle swaying and “dancing” can calm a crying baby. Some children find relief in waltzing movements, others in the style of a march. Try to hold the baby in various positions - vertically, horizontally, belly down. Perhaps you will find exactly the position in which the baby will feel relieved.

But remember that the reason for the crying of a child in a month can be not only in colic or climatic conditions. If the child is restless and cries often, it is best to take him to the doctor. At the appointment with a specialist, you can find out why your baby is crying and make sure that there are no or presence of any diseases.

Useful video about the reasons for crying a newborn

Many childcare manuals talk about crying. It accompanies life so naturally baby that it is simply impossible to forget about him. However, there is little mention of what a mother feels when her baby bursts into tears. We will figure out why a newborn often cries, whether it is necessary to take a crying child in his arms, how to survive and respond to crying in older children.

Everywhere you can read that "gradually, the mother learns to distinguish the sounds made by her child." With experience, you really begin to see the difference between the cry of a hungry wolf and the whimper of a sick baby. But no one mentions that any kind of crying is ultimately very exhausting.

Of course, the mother has enough intelligence and empathy to understand that the baby has no other ways of expressing itself. He screams not at all to annoy his mother, but only to ask her for help.

Of course, you all know this. However, for a fraction of a second you have the urge to shout: “Shut up someday, you little monster!”.

Depending on the age of the child, crying is perceived differently, and several stages can be distinguished in the perception of children's crying by parents.

: parents do not understand very well the reason for his crying, they feel powerless, frantically trying to find at least some solution, asking themselves if they are good parents (guilt - 5 points on a five-point scale).
A few weeks later: parents know why their baby is crying, and without hesitation find a solution (which they came to through sleepless nights and hundreds of dirty diapers).
After a few months: the infant has perfectly mastered how to get his parents to react, and begins to use all his power of persuasion. Parents are already hardened enough and know how to bypass the traps set by the little trickster.

Favorite time and place of a screaming baby

Middle of the night at the hotel.
In the supermarket under the vicious glances of aunts in curlers.
On the plane (especially during a long flight).
When mom is on the phone and she needs to write down important information about an upcoming meeting.
In the car when you are trying to find your meeting place.
During some ceremony, meeting, to which you were forced to take it.

A newborn baby does not cry the most, but it is he who is the most difficult to understand. You should always proceed from the fact that he will not throw tantrums just like that, and you should establish the reason with a little investigation. Don't worry, you will become a real Sherlock Holmes very quickly: it has been scientifically proven that within ten days after the birth of a child, a mother recognizes from 3 to 6 types of his crying.

Reasons for baby anxiety	signs
I want to eat/drink.	These are very loud cries of rage that do not stop when you pick him up. Often he puts his fist in his mouth. The only thing that matters to him right now is food.
I'm wet.	These cries are not as loud, rather plaintive, but much more annoying.
I'm tired.	The child whimpers, sobs, it is clear that he is uncomfortable. He wants you to hug him and comfort him.
I'm in pain.	Sharp, piercing, alarmed cries that do not stop when you take the baby in your arms. Up to three months, we are usually talking about colic associated with the immaturity of the nervous and digestive systems.
I need to unload.	These cries allow you to get rid of the stress accumulated during the day, and are accompanied by increased arousal.
Choice: I'm completely naked. I'm wet. I'm being squeezed. What is this noise?	Whimpering or loud crying, depending on the degree of discomfort.

Should I pick him up right away?

How do you choose between the instinctive desire to comfort your child and what the remnants of neurons that survived in the mother's brain suggest (“no, no, no, you need to wait a bit”)?

Answering the call of the child, you let him know that you are here and ready to console him and help. If the baby understands that there is someone nearby who can be trusted, he will grow up calm and self-confident.

Nevertheless, the baby will greatly advance in his development if he learns to comfort himself by finding the strength to calm down. A discreet and sympathetic presence - that's the right attitude of the ideal mother, isn't it?

When nothing helps

He is crying. As a rule, this happens in the late afternoon. You tried to solve this problem: dressed the baby, fed him. You rock him, caress him. Nothing helps. These are classic colic, arising from the child's need to get rid of the stress accumulated during the day, from the stress experienced (excitement, fatigue, joy, etc.). Haven't you ever wanted to discharge yourself from an excess of emotions?

In such situations, the stress and discomfort of the child become contagious: the mother feels powerless, begins to get nervous, tension builds up. Give the baby time to calm down by leaving him in his room, only occasionally come in to check if he is all right. If he continues to cry, you can walk with him from room to room, provided that you yourself remain calm while doing so ...

It will also be necessary to come to terms with these passing crises, they are inevitable, and try to experience them with dignity, without exacerbating the situation.

Crying older baby

A growing baby may develop new types of crying. As a person develops, his anxieties become more sophisticated. Having done away with primitive problems (hunger, thirst, sleep, wet diapers), the child enters the wonderful world of metaphysical worries: I want to attract your attention, I need love...

"Hey, I'm bored!" As soon as the child stops sleeping for days on end, he is seized by a thirst for discovery. Do not leave him in the crib, take advantage of the fact that he is still motionless and take a deck chair with him. He will be happy to watch how his mother washes dishes, cooks food, and cleans up.

Inexpensive and very entertaining toys

A small plastic bottle with a few paperclips, pebbles or dry beans (note: the lid must be screwed on very tightly).
Foil cardboard tube.
Well sealed box with cotton swabs.
Plastic bracelets.
A variety of boxes that can be opened and closed.
Food cartons (usually decorated with bright, beautiful pictures).

“You don’t let me touch what I want - I’ll give you such a tantrum now!” Frustration is perhaps one of the most painful feelings that children experience. Parents set boundaries and forbid them from touching sockets, light bulbs, fragile trinkets, etc. The baby needs to learn to deal with this feeling.

"No, mom, don't leave me!" Pretty quickly, the baby will learn the feeling of sadness, seeing how you leave. It is generally accepted that by 8 months he discovers "breakup anxiety", in other words, the fear that you will not return. Of course, each child is different: someone cries as soon as the mother goes into the next room, and someone does not remember her even after two days. In both cases, there is no cause for alarm, all this will pass.

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Yes, indeed. subconsciously understand what each scream, whimper, etc. means)

Our poor peanuts((

03/16/2016 18:50:01, Inna Poleva

I could never understand colic, wants to eat or just bored. I'll take note!!!

Thanks for the article, very useful information.

Useful information. I remember when the firstborn appeared in our family, we all could not understand why he was crying. Turned out to be colic. Go and guess if you don't know anything about children that worries them.

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11. When examining a doctor, can a doctor always make a diagnosis of premature rupture of water with certainty?
With a massive rupture, it is not difficult to make a diagnosis. But, unfortunately, in almost half of the cases, doctors even at leading clinics doubt the diagnosis if they rely only on examination data and old research methods.

12. Is it possible to make a diagnosis of premature rupture of water using ultrasound?
An ultrasound examination makes it possible to tell whether a woman has oligohydramnios or not. But the cause of oligohydramnios can be not only a rupture of the membranes, but also a violation of the function of the kidneys of the fetus and other conditions. On the other hand, there are cases when a small rupture of the membranes occurs against the background of polyhydramnios, for example, in the pathology of the kidneys of a pregnant woman. Ultrasound is an important method for monitoring the condition of a woman who has had a premature rupture of the membranes, but does not answer the question of whether the membranes are intact.

13. Is it possible to determine the leakage of water using litmus paper?
Indeed, there is such a method for determining amniotic fluid, based on determining the acidity of the vaginal environment. It is called the nitrazine test or amniotest. Normally, the vaginal environment is acidic, and the amniotic fluid is neutral. Therefore, the entry of amniotic fluid into the vagina leads to the fact that the acidity of the vaginal environment decreases. But, unfortunately, the acidity of the vaginal environment also decreases in other conditions, such as infection, urine, sperm. Therefore, unfortunately, a test based on determining the acidity of the vagina gives a lot of both false positive and false negative results.

14. In many antenatal clinics, a swab is taken for water, how accurate is this method for diagnosing premature outflow of water?
Vaginal discharge containing fetal water, when applied to a glass slide and dried, forms a pattern resembling fern leaves (fern phenomenon). Unfortunately, the test also gives a lot of inaccurate results. In addition, in many medical institutions, laboratories work only during the day and on weekdays.
15. What are the modern methods for diagnosing premature rupture of membranes?
Modern methods for diagnosing premature rupture of the membranes are based on the determination of specific proteins, which are abundant in the amniotic fluid and are not normally found in the vaginal discharge and other body fluids. To detect these substances, an antibody system is developed, which is applied to the test strip. The principle of operation of such tests is similar to a pregnancy test. The most accurate test is a test based on the detection of a protein called placental alpha microglobulin. The commercial name is Amnishur (AmniSure®).

16. How accurate is the Amnishur test?
The accuracy of the Amnishur test is 98.7%.

17. Can a woman perform the Amnishur test on her own?
Yes, unlike all other research methods, the Amnishur test does not require examination in the mirrors and a woman can put it at home. Everything you need to set up the test is included in the kit. This is a tampon that is inserted into the vagina to a depth of 5-7 cm and held there for 1 minute, a test tube with a solvent, in which the tampon is washed for 1 minute and then a test strip is thrown out, which is inserted into the test tube. The result is read after 10 minutes. In the case of a positive result, as with a pregnancy test, 2 strips appear. With a negative result - one strip.

18. What if the test result is positive?
If the test turned out to be positive, you need to call an ambulance or go to the maternity hospital if the pregnancy is more than 28 weeks and to the gynecological department of the hospital if the pregnancy is less than 28 weeks. The sooner treatment is started, the greater the chance of avoiding complications.

19. What if the test is negative?
If the test is negative, you can stay at home, but at the next visit to the doctor, you need to talk about the disturbing symptoms.

20. If more than 12 hours have passed since the alleged rupture of the membranes, is it possible to test?
No, if more than 12 hours have passed since the alleged rupture and the signs of outflow of water have stopped, then the test may show an incorrect result.

Questions and answers about premature amniotic fluid leakage

1. How common is premature rupture of membranes?
True premature rupture of membranes occurs in about one in ten pregnant women. However, almost every fourth woman experiences some kind of symptoms that can be confused with premature rupture of the membranes. This is a physiological increase in vaginal secretion, and slight urinary incontinence in later pregnancy and profuse discharge during genital tract infections.

2. How does premature rupture of membranes manifest itself?
If a massive rupture of the membranes has occurred, then it cannot be confused with anything: a large amount of a clear, odorless and colorless liquid is immediately released. However, if the gap is small, which doctors also call a subclinical or high lateral gap, then it can be very difficult to make a diagnosis.

3. What is the danger of premature rupture of membranes?
There are 3 types of complications that can lead to premature rupture of the membranes. The most frequent and severe complication is the development of an ascending infection, up to sepsis of the newborn. In preterm pregnancy, premature rupture of the membranes can lead to premature birth with all the consequences of having a premature baby. With a massive outflow of water, mechanical injury to the fetus, prolapse of the umbilical cord, placental abruption is possible.

4. Who is more likely to rupture the membranes?
Risk factors for premature rupture of the membranes are infection of the genital organs, overstretching of the membranes due to polyhydramnios or multiple pregnancies, abdominal trauma, incomplete closure of the uterine os. An important risk factor is premature rupture of the membranes during a previous pregnancy. However, in almost every 3rd woman, rupture of the membranes occurs in the absence of any significant risk factors.

5. How quickly does labor occur in case of premature rupture of the membranes?
This is largely determined by the duration of pregnancy. At full-term pregnancy, half of the women spontaneous labor occurs within 12 hours and more than 90% within 48 hours. With a premature pregnancy, it is possible to keep the pregnancy for a week or longer if the infection does not join.

6. Can a small amount of amniotic fluid be released normally?
Normally, the fetal membranes are airtight and no, even the smallest penetration of amniotic fluid into the vagina occurs. Women often mistake increased vaginal secretion or slight urinary incontinence for leakage of amniotic fluid.

7. Is it true that in case of premature rupture of water, pregnancy is terminated regardless of the term?
Premature rupture of the membranes is indeed a very dangerous complication of pregnancy, but with timely diagnosis, hospitalization and timely treatment, premature pregnancy can often be prolonged if no infection occurs. With a full-term pregnancy and close to full-term, as a rule, they stimulate the onset of labor. Modern methods of diagnostics and treatment in this case allow you to smoothly prepare a woman for childbirth.
8. If there was a premature rupture of the membranes, but the mucous plug did not come off, does it protect against infection?
The mucous plug does protect against infection, but if the membranes rupture, the protection of the mucous plug alone is not enough. If treatment is not started within 24 hours of the rupture, serious infectious complications may occur.

9. Is it true that the waters are divided into anterior and posterior, and the outpouring of the anterior waters is not dangerous, is it often normal?
The fetal waters are indeed divided into anterior and posterior, but no matter where the rupture occurs, it is a gateway for infection.

10. What precedes a breakup?
By itself, the rupture of the membranes occurs painlessly and without any precursors.

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I try to take as much as possible with me everywhere. I never leave secretly. Even if the youngest is crying, I take her in my arms and sit with her, talking. If the categorical time comes to leave, I say, I love you very much, but I have to leave. And then I leave decisively. But in fact, most often it’s enough just to hug, sit with them, promise to come as soon as possible (if I leave for a long time, I say that it may seem to you that I left for a long time, but I will definitely return) They believe me. Because I don't sneak out. Switching to cartoons is also not bad, just switch to something, tell what they will do with the nanny without me ... By the way, it is very important who stays with them, maybe she doesn’t like that? We go to grandma only if we want to. And we stay as long as we want. But I tell how his relatives miss him, how they are waiting for him, how sorry and insulting they are that he is not going = at the same time I do not press. As a result, he decides (the youngest does not drive yet). But if you NEED to go, I say that it is necessary. Also think about what you say to her. Maybe you say something that he is afraid that you will leave her? Maybe give negative assessments of her behavior, or something like "I'm tired of you", "how I wish I had a rest", etc. I saw that children do not let their parents go when, for example, mom and dad have a bad relationship, they are afraid that their parents will part and dad or mom will leave forever because they hear them discussing the possibility of a break. Maybe she has someone already gone forever? Also an important question. There can be many reasons. It is important to find them and discuss with her. And then everything can change. Good luck.

Laris, how long ago did it start? Maya had such a period, though not very long, but just when it was not at the cash desk at all :) I went to study at a driving school and then my child, who had previously stayed with the nanny without any problems, began to throw tantrums . Moreover, she was always very reasonable and it was possible to persuade her, but there was no way. She literally tore a sobbing child away from herself and ran away. The nanny said that after my departure she more or less calmed down, but not quite, i.e. the mood is still bad, she remembered her mother all the time, periodically whimpered, but did not sob, and that's okay. This disgrace continued for about 2-3 weeks, I don’t remember right now, then the nanny went on vacation, my classes ended, and for about three weeks we didn’t part with my daughter at all, because. there was no one left. When the nanny returned, the problem was gone, again the child happily stayed with her. What it was, I really did not understand. The only reasonable explanation that comes to my mind is that before that we visited relatives for a couple of weeks and there Maya didn’t remember me at all, the whole day with her aunt, then with her uncle, then with her sister. Apparently, upon arrival home, she finally decided to talk with her mother, and then her mother quits :) And, by the way, then similar behavior was repeated again after her grandmother came to visit. Also, Maya did not get off her grandmother, mother on the side. And after my grandmother's departure, she suddenly began to sob in the garden, although from the first day she always flew there with a bullet. This went on for a couple of weeks, then it went away. All these stories took place in her 2.5 years, then it didn’t seem to be like that.
Regarding Zhenya, it seems to me that after all, she now has an increased need for her mother due to the birth of her brother. Our addition is only expected, and Maya is waiting for her sister with great impatience, but I see that she has already begun to demand more attention. What I would try to do, if possible: to push to all courses-fitness-kindergartens, and best of all, to throw off my brother more often to my grandmother and try to talk with my daughter alone to the point of stupefaction :) So that she is already tired of her mother and she herself is somewhere to thread kicked out :)
It's all about the babysitter and the contact between her and the child.

Babysitting 3 days a week

Consider a new nanny. Some may distract the attention of the child, and some may not. I noticed this when I was looking for the first nanny (the child was just 1.5), then - when they tried to study with a speech therapist at 2 years old. It was like this with a speech therapist: she gives him a task - he does not do it. The nanny asks the same thing - does it. He doesn’t sit with a speech therapist without me, he sits with a nanny without me. The second nanny also immediately switched the attention of the child to herself and the mother is not really needed.

Why does a newborn cry often: 6 reasons. But no one mentions that any kind of crying is ultimately very exhausting. Of course, mom has enough intelligence and sympathy to understand ...

Discussion

You know, when my daughter went to kindergarten, our morning partings were like hell .. :) Very often she began to get sick, adenoids ..
Now we don’t go to the garden - where did the sores go???? Not a snot!! From this I concluded that parting with my mother is like a tragedy .. especially if I don’t like it in that place without my mother. This is really the real stress, the result of which is most likely the sores. I think the health and happiness of the child is more important ..
You need less stress. And the output to the light in this case be more careful. It also seems to me that there are children like yours and mine, they may need society differently than those children who happily run to kindergarten or developmental rooms. This cannot be ignored. Is your developer really necessary? Is our kindergarten really necessary?

We had this for about 3 years. Before I went to work, she also did not let me go anywhere, but when I went to work, she took it quite calmly. For several evenings I persuaded her not to go to work, but nothing more.
After I went out with my daughter, my grandmother began to sit and at the same time began to lead in a circle. There, all the children have been walking since autumn and quietly sitting alone. And they started taking Lizka in April - she sits in these classes and does not let her grandmother go anywhere. He does not even look at the teacher - he makes sure that the grandmother does not go anywhere. By May, she began to get a little distracted, but without her grandmother she still roared.

Often, young mothers are faced with baby crying and cannot understand what is wrong. It is almost impossible to calm a newborn without eliminating the cause of crying. What to do? How to understand why the baby is crying? How to calm a newborn baby and provide him with comfort?

Why is the baby crying

If the baby screams and does not let up, then there is a reason for this. It must be understood that a newborn child uses crying as a means to convey to others his dissatisfaction with something. A baby still does not know how to manipulate and seek mother's attention by crying. Therefore, when you hear children's cries, you need to take it seriously and look for the cause.

The main reasons for the crying of a newborn baby:

Hunger.
Colic.
Wet diaper or diaper.
The baby is cold or, conversely, he is hot.
The child is tired and cannot sleep.
Fear, anxiety.
Desire to satisfy the sucking reflex.
Malaise, illness.
Response to geomagnetic and weather conditions.

How to eliminate the causes of crying baby

Hunger is easily eliminated by giving the baby a breast or a bottle of milk or formula. It is necessary to feed the baby on demand or follow the regimen and avoid interruptions in meals for more than 3-4 hours. For children of the first 3 months of life, the intervals between feedings should be no more than 2-3 hours.

It is enough to replace a wet diaper with a clean one, and the baby will immediately stop crying. You can not miss this moment and forget about changing diapers. A long stay in wet diapers threatens not only discomfort, but also inflammation of the skin (diaper rash).

Colic is a very common problem. Dealing with them is not easy, but possible. In this case, it may help:

tummy massage clockwise;
riding a ball (the baby lies with his stomach on the ball, and the mother, holding the child, gently rolls him back and forth);
anti-colic drugs;
frequent laying on the tummy;
a warm heating pad or diaper to be applied to the baby's stomach;
use of special anti-colic bottles.

A cold baby needs to be warmed up. To do this, it is enough to dress him warmer and vilify in his arms. You can use a heating pad wrapped in a diaper. It is better not to use heaters, as they burn out oxygen in the room, which is very harmful for an infant. Their use is advisable only if the room is really very cold.

Often babies cry out of a desire to satisfy the sucking reflex. This can happen both in sleep and while awake. In order to calm the baby, it is enough to give him a pacifier, a bottle of water or a breast.

When a child is hot, everything must be done to eliminate the cause of the heat. If this happens on the street, then you need to go into the shade and give the baby a drink of water. If possible, take off any excess clothing. At home, you can turn on the air conditioner or open the window, while making sure that the direct flow of cool air does not fall on the baby. It is also necessary to install a regulator on the radiators in order to prevent excessive heat in the room.

If the baby is tired and cannot fall asleep from overexcitation, then the mother needs to retire with him in a quiet room, shake slightly, breastfeed, sing a song. In 99% of cases, these measures will be enough to make the child fall asleep. In a similar way, you can calm a child who is experiencing fear or anxiety.

A child may also cry because of some disease, such as otitis media. In this case, it is difficult to immediately determine the cause. It is necessary to monitor the body temperature of the crumbs. If the crying continues for more than a few hours, then the best solution is to go to the doctor.

Also, crying can be caused by geomagnetic storms, low atmospheric pressure, etc. Unfortunately, in this case, it is impossible to eliminate the cause, one must be patient and be constantly near the baby, thereby alleviating his ailments.

Why else can a baby cry. How to help him?

A lot of babies cry while swimming. There can be several reasons - too cold or hot water, fear (especially during the very first baths), discomfort, for example, associated with a cramped bath or other factors. It must be remembered that bathing should bring joy and pleasure, so a crying child should be immediately removed from the water and the procedure should be postponed until the next time.

Sometimes babies cry a lot in their sleep. This may be the so-called scanning cry, when the baby checks to see if the mother is nearby. This is a subconscious reflex, and the child unconsciously screams without even waking up. It is enough just to take the baby in your arms, give him a breast or a dummy, say a few kind words to him, and the baby will immediately calm down.

Also, crying in a dream can be associated with an uncomfortable posture. In this case, you need to carefully turn the child over so that he lies freely and not pinched. You can put it on your tummy. This position relieves the pain of colic, and many babies intuitively prefer this sleeping position. Also, many children love the pose "on the side, a little falling on the tummy." This pose can also relieve colic spasms.

Another common symptom is crying after feeding. This suggests that the baby is tormented by discomfort. You can wear it vertically, lightly pat on the back, facilitating the release of excess air. The baby will immediately stop screaming as soon as he burps air or excess food.

Babies often cry because of teething. This is inevitable and painful, but it is possible to alleviate the condition of the child. To do this, you can use special teething toys, anesthetic gels for gums, peeled and washed carrots from the refrigerator (it can only be used for those babies who do not yet have teeth, otherwise the child may bite off a piece and choke). Of course, all these methods provide only temporary relief, so you have to be patient and wait until the tooth finally erupts.

Often children's cries are associated with uncomfortable clothes - things are tight and small, rough seams rub the skin, poor-quality dye causes allergic itching and rashes, the fabric of the product is unpleasant for the skin. In this case, you need to pay great attention to the children's wardrobe and choose only high-quality children's clothing. It is better to buy the size of things a couple of values \u200b\u200bmore than necessary. Firstly, such things will definitely not be cramped for the child, and secondly, they will last for a longer time.

Sometimes children cry from loneliness. This happens in those families where the child is not given enough time, and the parents are busy with work and personal affairs. What to do in this case? Of course, remember the role of mother and take care of the baby. The worldview of a one-month-old baby is such that he feels like a part of his mother, her presence and tactile contact are of great importance for his development and psychological comfort.

Crying for no apparent reason is characteristic of children who are easily excitable. They experience strong emotions, but cannot yet cope with them on their own due to an immature nervous system. It all results in constant whimpers, whims, screams.

What to do if the baby is crying for no apparent reason

Sometimes the child is constantly crying, and the mother has already done everything to make him comfortable, but he does not let up.

Sound sleep is the best medicine for these babies, but putting them to sleep is just not easy. Here are some tips for calming and putting a crying baby to sleep:

Tight swaddling helps a lot. Of course, you should not constantly swaddle the baby. This is harmful and does not contribute to development, but this method can be used during sleep.
"White noise". Strange, but many children love monotonous hissing sounds. It can be a hair dryer, a vacuum cleaner, an out of tune radio that does not broadcast any radio station. Now you can even download a music file with such sounds and turn it on to your little one from your smartphone or mp3 player.
Many experts are against pacifier training, but it can be a panacea. A huge percentage of children up to a year and older can only fall asleep with her. No need to suffer - give the baby a pacifier if he likes it. When he grows up, the need for it will disappear by itself.
Light rocking in the arms is an ancient and proven way to calm and lull a child. But do not do it too hard and abruptly. This is harmful, and the baby may even lose consciousness. Only light and smooth movements with a small amplitude, like a dance. By the way, such a modern gadget as a deck chair or an electric swing can help here.
Children sleep most soundly in a kind of cocoon from a blanket. You need to make a kind of nest by tucking a blanket under the back and tummy of the crumbs. In this position, he will be warm and comfortable, the baby will fall asleep faster and will sleep much calmer.
A mother's voice can have a very good calming effect on the baby. You can sing a lullaby, read poetry, talk to your child in a quiet, calm voice. This will help stop crying.
Millions of women have already appreciated the benefits of a sling. In it, the child is as close as possible to the mother, while his posture is quite physiological, and the woman's hands are free. With the help of such a device, it is easy to rock the baby, if you just put it in a sling and walk around with it.
Sometimes switching the attention of the child helps to distract from crying. For this purpose, you can use rattles, clapping, rustling with a bag or paper. After the baby calms down, it will be easy to put him to sleep.
Some excitable babies are helped to fall asleep by a long walk in the fresh air or by bathing and then getting a massage.
The benefits of motherhood cannot be underestimated. No need to be afraid to carry the baby in your arms. This is natural and normal. Contrary to many opinions, it is impossible to “accustom” a baby to hands. If a child wants to be close to his mother, then this is not a whim, but a natural desire. Next to mommy, any baby feels good and safe. This is the most effective way to calm the baby.

If the baby cries often, then you need to be more attentive to him, and the reason will become obvious, and by eliminating it, you can easily achieve peace and quiet in the family. If the cause cannot be eliminated (teeth, geomagnetic conditions), then you need to be patient and survive these moments, they happen to everyone.

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Baby why are you screaming?

The cry of a newborn can cause panic and despair in inexperienced mothers. Over time, of course, a woman begins to distinguish the shades of a cry, and after a month she can already say exactly what her baby is “signaling” about. Let's see why the baby may cry and what you can do to calm the baby as soon as possible.

One of my friends, an experienced mother, once told me: “Baby only needs to be dry, full and mom is nearby.” Actually, it is. When a child starts screaming, first of all, look at the clock - when did he eat? Couldn't you be hungry already? In any case, pick up the handles and continue to figure out what's wrong.

If you have determined that the cause of tears is not hunger, check the baby's diaper. Children make it clear when the "diaper" is full and it's time to change it.

Be sure to keep these three simple steps in mind when rushing to the aid of a little sob. It often happens that it seems that she was feeding an hour ago, and the diaper was literally just changed, and the little one comes in. Check again - is it dry? It happens that the diaper slipped, and the baby urinated. And you have to change again.

After about three weeks, such an attack as colic (they are gaziki) appears in the life of a baby. How to understand what they are? For no apparent reason, the child begins to scream and cry loudly, arches strongly and blushes. By the way, sometimes he shows the same behavior when feeding - you know, most likely, his tummy hurts. This can last from 10 minutes to several hours. Colic often happens in the evening or at night.

I wrote earlier about the fact that drugs for bloating (Espumizan, Infacol, dill water) should be stored in advance. But sometimes they don't help 100%. What's left for mom to do? Bend, Raise the baby's legs - such a charge will help the harmful gases to come out. Try putting it on your tummy - on yourself or on the crib. Rock it. Rock it some more. And patience, patience, patience...

I once had a strange situation. The child cried for a long time for no apparent reason. My husband and I decided that it was colic and gave the baby dill water to drink. And we would have remained in the dark even further if the pediatrician whom we decided to call had not asked how many milliliters a child eats in one feeding. How to breastfeed against intestinal colic, read here. I was sure that the baby was getting enough milk - it seemed to “hang” on the chest for a long time. The next day we rented a scale, and it was then that it turned out that the child was eating a little more than half the norm, and I didn’t have as much milk as I thought. It turns out that all this time the baby was screaming from hunger, so if your baby is exclusively breastfed, and you can’t really understand why the baby is screaming, weigh him often before and after meals.

Sometimes the baby starts crying while suckling the breast. Maybe it's, again, gaziki. As an option - a lack of milk, the child is angry that little food is allocated. Or, on the contrary, there may be too much milk, too strong a flow is unpleasant for the child, he does not have time to swallow and chokes. Pump a little or offer a different breast, depending on the situation.

Unfortunately, not a single baby in the world is immune from sores. Therefore, if you have the slightest doubt that your baby is completely healthy, immediately get in touch with your pediatrician. Remember, in a child's body, the disease develops much faster.

However, if everything is fine with your baby, and he just whimpers periodically, do not wind yourself up. Maybe he just communicates in this way or asks to be held by his mother!

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Why is the child constantly screaming?

Alyonka is already five years old, and her parents constantly listen to her cries and cries. If she suddenly wanted something, didn’t work out, got lost, banned - the whole family will listen to the screams. Stomping of feet, tears and throwing things can still be added to screams ... He demands his own, otherwise wild scandal and hysterical squeals cannot be avoided. How so? Where did she learn all this from? And most importantly - what to do with it?

Causes of baby cry

The first reason is that the child imitates adults.

It is sometimes difficult to admit this fact, often parents themselves do not notice how often they communicate in raised tones. Of course, the child, observing such a picture every day, completely adopts and copies this manner of communication. Watch yourself - maybe you are too loudly defending your case in a dispute? Or are they not accustomed to asking, but only demanding in a tone that brooks no objection? Then everything is very clear - the baby simply imitates.

The second reason is that the cries of the child are heard by adults.

The child quickly notices that the whole family instantly runs to his constant screams. He asked quietly - they ignored it, as soon as they started yelling - at least they listened to what was the matter. The kid will instantly take this technique into service if it gives a result. Admit to yourself that sometimes you are ready to fulfill the request of the child just to calm him down and stop the op. Such behavior will be perceived by the baby as highly effective, leading to the fulfillment of the goal.

The third reason is blackmail.

Sometimes a little screamer gets so into a rage that it scares the whole family in earnest. Parents are unable to stop the raging child. Confusion and helplessness on their faces. This means that the power in intra-family relations has passed into the hands of the child. Adults give in to the situation and the child wins a psychological victory. Children feel great moments like this. It is worth showing the baby that you do not know how to behave and how to react to such behavior of the child, and screams will become a favorite tool in the arsenal of the little manipulator!

How to be?

To begin with, you will have to start with yourself and learn restraint all together. All adult members of the family must adhere to the same line of conduct: no one screams in our house. State all requests firmly and calmly. All your claims must be substantiated and justified. The kid should understand why something is required of him, and not follow instructions under the influence of pressure.

At first, the child may begin to provoke you to scream. The main thing, having chosen a line of behavior, is to follow only it and not break into the previous style of communication. Calmly tell the child that you are ready to listen to him only when he speaks quietly, and you simply do not hear his cries. Have patience and courage and ignore the provocative behavior of the baby.

When the child is calm, talk to him about how he looks screaming from the outside. Try to act out a scene with his favorite toys when someone demands something and screams at the same time. Discuss with your child how this character makes him feel? And then try to teach the screaming toy together to ask calmly and politely. Pay attention to the child that it is more pleasant to fulfill such requests and everyone’s mood remains good.

At the moment when emotions are running high, when everything in the child is seething with passion and protest, help him relieve the tense situation and let off steam. Offer to play "call names". Most importantly, come up with funny, but not offensive words, for example, “You are a fly agaric!”, “And you are a hare's tail!” etc. You can also shout out invented words that no one knows, children love this very much. In the process of such a game, the negative coloring of emotions is replaced by a positive one. And in the end, the screams are replaced by roaring laughter. At the end of such fun, hug the baby and say affectionate words: “You are mom's sun!”.

And most importantly, think about whether the rights of the child are infringed in your family? Does he have the right to vote? And why does he draw so much attention to himself? Only by understanding the answers to these questions can you effectively solve the problem of screaming in your family once and for all, eliminating the cause, not the effect.

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The child screams and arches

Events when a baby is born intertwine boundless joys with many problems. Only some of them are not difficult to resolve, while others baffle mom and dad. Few parents know what to do when a newborn baby arches and screams.

Why does the child arch and scream?

It is important for parents to know what it means when a child screams and arches. This will prevent further health problems.

Why does a child cry when lying on his stomach? This phenomenon is characterized by two reasons: either the baby has a tummy ache, so it is not comfortable for him to lie down, or there is muscle tone. In the second case, you need to undergo a massage course, if necessary, but only a neurologist should prescribe treatment after examining the child. The mother herself can clearly determine whether there is a tone: the legs are in constant tension, or, conversely, always shaking.

Why does the baby scream when you put it on your back? If the neurologist did not find any pathologies (a birth injury, as a result of which a displacement of the vertebrae formed), then, most likely, the baby simply does not like this position. Intracranial pressure can also be one of the reasons.

The baby screams and arches during feeding. Perhaps the baby does not grasp the breast correctly, suffers from colic in the tummy. The moment when the baby screams and arches after feeding can also diagnose the onset of diseases such as childhood thrush or pharyngitis.

Mom needs to constantly make sure that the baby's nose always breathes well, because during feeding it is difficult for him to breathe and eat, this causes crying.

Restless sleep. If a child screams and arches in a dream, this is a clear sign of hyperactivity. But the baby should be examined by specialists, perhaps there is increased intracranial pressure. It is impossible to exclude the fact that at night the child is very hungry and lets his parents know with his squeal.

3 month old baby screaming all the time

Many reasons have been put forward by pediatricians, often it is the wrong daily routine. In children at this stage, the interval between dreams increases, so mothers need to correctly compose a regimen for their child. Thus, the baby will not experience starvation.

Why does a 3 month old baby scream:

intracranial pressure;
colic, bloating, digestive problems;
the temperature in the room is too high or too low;
the newborn is frightened;
hungry state of the baby;
pain in one place or another;
early appearance of teeth;
filled diaper;
meningitis.

Often, mom and dad watch a three-month-old baby scream after guests. The first thing that comes to mind is the evil eye or fear.

To help parents solve the problem will help the recommendations of past generations:

cross your forehead with your tongue 3 times and spit over your left shoulder;
draw an arc with your tongue, starting from the left cheek, going to the middle of the forehead and going down to the right cheek. After, spit three times, then walk the hem of a dress or skirt in the same way;
after the guests leave, wash the child with church water and put on a baptismal shirt.

If a three-month-old baby screams during feeding, arches, it is recommended to pay attention to the following points:

when feeding, strangers are present: the baby feels uncomfortable;
does not want to eat;
milk does not flow well from the breast, the baby does not have the strength to pull it;
can't go to the toilet for the most part;
sleepy.

Crying cannot be attributed to the whims of babies, and untimely access to doctors can lead to sad consequences.

What to do if the child screams a lot and arches?

Starting from the first week of his life, the baby considers his mother as an extension of himself, so he takes on all the experiences, fears, and stress. You need to monitor your behavior, try to get enough sleep, get more rest: so the baby will see a cheerful, perky mother.

when crying, mom is recommended to attach the baby to the tummy. It is this place that he considers paradise for himself;
with frequent crying, you should visit a doctor to identify their cause;
observe the baby, perhaps he needs more feedings, and if the milk is low-fat, then complementary foods will be required with the permission of the pediatrician;
regular walks in the fresh air should become mandatory;
sing your favorite tune. Surely every mother sang children's songs during pregnancy. At this point, the baby will be familiar with the melody, so he will be able to calm down;
timely airing of the children's room.

If screams and arching are associated with colic, gas, it does not interfere with drinking dill water or taking pharmaceutical remedies for pain in the tummy.

When the mother is sure that the child does not scream only in her arms, you can do so, but it is undesirable to abuse it. Otherwise, you will have to wear the crumbs for a long time just like that.

At any age of the baby, parents should not remain indifferent to the crying of the newborn. If a three-month-old child screams, it means that he expresses discomfort, needs parental help, attention.

When all the “home methods” have been tried, but a positive result has not come, an examination of the newborn in a medical institution is required.

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How to calm a baby when he cries, if he has a tantrum or at night

A newborn baby does not yet know how to communicate, and so far he can only declare any change in his condition by crying.

Of course, the mother first of all needs to learn to understand her baby. None of the babies scream just like that. But it happens that the baby cries for no apparent reason, and the parents no longer know how to calm him down.

What to do first

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Mom or another person caring for the baby needs to pull himself together, calm down. You can temporarily transfer the child to another family member.
Find out why the baby is crying.
Eliminate the cause of the anxiety.

Peace of Mind for Mom, Peace of Mind for Baby

Infants are very sensitive to the mood of adults. The baby can be nervous when he feels that his mother is restless. Therefore, it is impossible to calm the child, being in a state of stress.

A baby's cry can be long and exhausting. Not every mother will be able to remain calm in such a situation. In this case, you can resort to the help of loved ones and ask one of the relatives to replace the mother.

And mom will have time to rest and gather strength. It is very important to remain calm, noticing that a tantrum has begun in a baby. A baby can only be reassured by someone who radiates calmness and confidence.

Why do babies cry

A baby never cries for no reason. Even if at first glance the essence of the problem is unclear. There are several main reasons why a baby cries:

Hunger.
Cold or heat.
Feeling of discomfort.
Fear.
Boredom.
Overwork.

If it is not clear what specifically caused the crying, you can try to eliminate each one in turn.

How to deal with baby crying

The baby cries when he wants to eat. Even if he has recently eaten, it is likely that something distracted him, and the baby looked up from food before he was full. The baby may swallow air during feeding and experience a false sense of fullness. When excess air burps, the place in the stomach will be freed up, and the baby will again feel hungry. In any case, it will be useful to offer the child to eat.

The body of young children has difficulty maintaining a constant body temperature. Any changes in ambient temperature are hard to perceive by the baby. Mom must examine and touch the child.

If the top of the baby's back is hot to the touch, the baby is overheated. If it is cold, and at the same time the child tries to move a little, he is cold. Next, you need to create comfortable conditions for the baby - either warm him up, or undress him, or replace clothes with lighter ones.

When dressing a child, it is important to choose things that are comfortable for the baby. Any fasteners located on the back or on the tummy, when the baby already knows how to roll over, can cause him discomfort. Sloppy seams, tight elastic bands - all this will not go unnoticed by the baby. Perhaps he cries because of the discomfort caused by clothing.

Any sharp sounds or bright lights can scare the baby. If the mother noticed something like this, it is necessary, first of all, to eliminate the source of fear of the baby.

Perhaps the child is crying because he is bored. The kid is tired of being alone, he requires the attention of an adult. At first, the baby begins to groan softly, giving signals. If they are left without attention and the mother does not come soon, the child may begin to become hysterical. Do not delay and wait for the child to scream. It is advisable to approach him when he is just starting to act up.

Overwork is a common cause of whims. Tantrums happen at the end of the day when the child is tired. His day was long and eventful, he got a lot of new impressions. The nervous system, unable to cope, gets rid of stress in this way. For children, an established regimen is important, timely going to bed, the correct alternation of activity and rest. Children who live according to the regime are more calm and self-confident.

Crying can be caused by pain

All these reasons are taken into account provided that the child is healthy. If none of the methods helps to calm the baby, perhaps something hurts him.

There are some physiological conditions that are not associated with the disease: indigestion, infantile colic. These conditions cause discomfort and pain in the child. It is advisable for mom to examine the baby: whether his tummy is swollen, whether there is a rumbling.

If the child is breastfed, it is advisable for the mother to monitor her diet. Perhaps the baby reacts to certain foods.

If colic is the cause of concern, the baby can be offered fennel-based tea, which has a calming and digestive effect. Sometimes the child may refuse to take the medicine. Then a nursing mother can include this tea in her diet. Chamomile tea is good for digestion. Before using any means, you should consult your doctor about the methods, duration of administration and dosage.

With colic, it is also important to establish feeding, make sure that the baby takes the breast correctly, does not swallow air when feeding from a bottle, does not overeat and burps excess air in time.

If redness, a rash are noticed on the baby’s body, he has a fever, he spits up profusely, refuses food, while screaming heart-rendingly, you should see a doctor or call an ambulance as soon as possible. Perhaps the reason for crying is in the disease, and the baby needs treatment.

0 to 3 months

For infants, there are several ways in which they can be easily soothed. The baby, living in the womb, is used to certain conditions. The memory of this state is preserved for up to three months. Some actions will remind the baby of his intrauterine life. This will give him a sense of confidence and calmness.

What are some ways to help your little one calm down?

Swaddling.
wiggle.
Monotonous hiss.
Side laying.
Sucking on a pacifier or breast.

Trying to calm the child, you can alternately use all the techniques. Careful swaddling reminds the baby of his stay in the womb in the last months of pregnancy, when he no longer had enough space for free movement. When the mother moved, the baby experienced swaying throughout the pregnancy.

Monotonous hissing is the sounds that reach the baby: maternal breathing, food moving through the esophagus. The position on the side with legs tucked in resembles an intrauterine position. Sucking is one of the first reflexes that wake up in a child. While still inside the mother, the child actively begins to suck her thumb. Then this skill helps him get food from his mother's breast or with the help of a pacifier.

From 3 months to 1 year

Methods that work for babies under 3 months old are no longer suitable for older children. From three months old, the baby is interested in the world around him with might and main, this can be used for his benefit. The easiest way to save a baby from a tantrum is to abruptly switch his attention to another subject.

First of all, it is necessary to eliminate the causes of crying. But if it came to hysteria and the baby does not want to calm down, you can suddenly interest him in something. Mom, watching the baby, will definitely notice what objects, sounds or situations can capture his attention. For example, a baby fascinates how the light burns.

At moments of crying attacks, you can bring the baby to the included lamp, which he will examine with curiosity.

These situations are individual. There is no universal recipe. All children have their preferences. For the mother, the main thing, studying the interests of the baby, is to offer him at the right time something that will distract him.

Before bedtime

It will be easier to calm the baby before bedtime by following a ritual that will symbolize the baby that it's time to sleep. Soothing baths can be one of the ritual items. Warm baths taken at night help to relax and tune in to sleep.

You can take baths with soothing herbs. Melissa, chamomile, sage, valerian, motherwort are suitable for children. Dry herb tea is pre-brewed and added to the water before taking a bath. Herbal tea, absorbed through the skin, has a relaxing effect. Baths with infusion to improve sleep must be used in a course.

Excessive use of the infusion can cause the opposite effect, before any use of medicinal herbs, you should consult your doctor.

On sale there is a special children's collection - herbal tea that helps the baby calm down before going to bed. In pharmacies, children's drops of natural or synthetic origin, which have a hypnotic effect, are common.

Before using herbs, medicinal tea, drops that have a hypnotic effect, you should consult a specialist. All these drugs can not be prescribed independently. Any of them has contraindications, side effects and must be dosed correctly.

After the bath, the child should be put to bed immediately. It is necessary to lay the baby at night no earlier than three hours after daytime sleep.

A crying baby is always trying to signal a problem. The first thing parents should do is to understand the situation, find out the reason why the baby is crying. Perhaps, after the elimination of the cause, the hysteria will immediately stop.

Some babies, due to their temperament, find it difficult to calm down. They are active during the day and hardly go to sleep. A certain ritual can help mothers, symbolizing the baby that the night has come and it's time to fall asleep. Soothing baths taken before bed can become part of such a ritual.

When all else fails, pharmacies have a large selection of remedies, such as soothing teas, drops, and other medications. Do not forget that any medicine must be prescribed by a doctor. And even harmless herbal tea can cause the opposite effect or allergy. Therefore, any medicine can be used only after consulting a specialist.

Why does the child arch and scream?

It is important for parents to know what it means when a child screams and arches. This will prevent further health problems.

Why does a child cry when lying on his stomach? This phenomenon is characterized by two reasons: either the baby has a tummy ache, so it is not comfortable for him to lie down, or there is muscle tone. In the second case, you need to undergo a massage course, if necessary, but only a neurologist should prescribe treatment after examining the child. The mother herself can clearly determine whether there is a tone: the legs are in constant tension, or, conversely, always shaking.

Why does the baby scream when you put it on your back? If the neurologist did not find any pathologies (a birth injury, as a result of which a displacement of the vertebrae formed), then, most likely, the baby simply does not like this position. Intracranial pressure can also be one of the reasons.

Mom needs to constantly make sure that the baby's nose always breathes well, because during feeding it is difficult for him to breathe and eat, this causes crying.

3 month old baby screaming all the time

Why does a 3 month old baby scream:

intracranial pressure;
colic, bloating, digestive problems;
the temperature in the room is too high or too low;
the newborn is frightened;
hungry state of the baby;
pain in one place or another;
early appearance of teeth;
filled diaper;
meningitis.

Often, mom and dad watch a three-month-old baby scream after guests. The first thing that comes to mind is the evil eye or fear.

To help parents solve the problem will help the recommendations of past generations:

cross your forehead with your tongue 3 times and spit over your left shoulder;
draw an arc with your tongue, starting from the left cheek, going to the middle of the forehead and going down to the right cheek. After, spit three times, then walk the hem of a dress or skirt in the same way;
after the guests leave, wash the child with church water and put on a baptismal shirt.

If a three-month-old baby screams during feeding, arches, it is recommended to pay attention to the following points:

when feeding, strangers are present: the baby feels uncomfortable;
does not want to eat;
milk does not flow well from the breast, the baby does not have the strength to pull it;
can't go to the toilet for the most part;
sleepy.

Crying cannot be attributed to the whims of babies, and untimely access to doctors can lead to sad consequences.

What to do if the child screams a lot and arches?

timely airing of the children's room.

If screams and arching are associated with colic, gas, it does not interfere with drinking dill water or taking pharmaceutical remedies for pain in the tummy.

When the mother is sure that the child does not scream only in her arms, you can do so, but it is undesirable to abuse it. Otherwise, you will have to wear the crumbs for a long time just like that.

At any age of the baby, parents should not remain indifferent to the crying of the newborn. If a three-month-old child screams, it means that he expresses discomfort, needs parental help, attention.

When all the “home methods” have been tried, but a positive result has not come, an examination of the newborn in a medical institution is required.

Our grandmothers and great-grandmothers treated infant crying quite philosophically, believing that during crying child“develops the lungs”, and therefore will cry - and stop. However, the point of view that crying is a request is now more popular. baby for help, a message that he has problems that need to be resolved as soon as possible. Parents should not be afraid to spoil the child by reacting to his every cry. According to child psychologists, spoiling baby up to a year is not possible. At the age of up to one year, you can either create a baby confidence in the safety and reliability of a new environment and environment for him, or destroy this confidence. An attentive mother, listening to her baby, gradually begins to distinguish the reasons for his crying. These reasons may be different, but one thing unites them: the discomfort that the baby feels at this time and about which he tries, as best he can, to tell adults.

When a child is missing something...

Perhaps most often child crying when he wants to eat. The most natural, healthy and necessary nutrition for a small child is breast milk. In addition, during breastfeeding, there is contact between the baby and the mother. Now, more and more often, doctors advise to feed the child “on demand” - it is believed that nature itself will tell you the correct mode of eating. Need for physical contact with mother- also one of the main causes of children's crying. Taking the breast child feels mother's warmth, mother's hands. In general, he feels good, warm, safe, comfortable. And he calms down. It is not for nothing that in primitive civilizations that have survived to this day in some African countries, mothers, at the first cries of a child, take him in her arms and immediately give a breast. Children of Americans and residents of Western Europe, according to anthropology and sociopsychology, cry much more often and for longer, which is associated with a slow reaction of the mother to the crying of the child. The baby may just cry from boredom and loneliness. According to teachers, a big mistake of parents is that they have little contact with the baby when he is awake. The baby is waiting for your attention. Therefore, do not remain indifferent when he calls you to cry. In each of the three cases described, the mother will hear the so-called invocative cry, which consists of alternating periods of screaming and pauses. Moreover, if you do not pay attention to the child, the pauses become shorter and the cry longer. Take baby on your hands, stroke him on the back, move your hand along his tummy (it is better to make these movements clockwise), then along the chest, head. Has the baby calmed down? So he needs your attention. Does he keep crying? Then take it in your arms, press it to your chest, shake it. If a child shakes his head, opens his mouth and smacks his lips, then most likely he is hungry. hungry cry starts with a call. But if the baby does not receive food, crying becomes angry, and then turns into a choking cry. One of the main rules of mother's behavior when child crying is to take him in your arms and give him a breast. If a child cried in your arms, give the baby a breast and shake it. If the baby does not calm down and refuses to take the breast, you should look for other reasons for his discontent.

The child is crying because something is bothering the baby ...

Feeling tired, general discomfort is often the reason that the baby is naughty, whimpering. Crying when you want to sleep is accompanied by yawning, child closes his eyes, rubs them with his hands. Rock the stroller or crib baby, sing him a lullaby - after all, mother's voice calms the best. If a to kid cold or hot, he can also express his displeasure by crying. There are several ways to recognize this situation. Touch the baby's nose (in such cases, you need to touch the baby's skin with the back of the hand, since the skin there is more sensitive). If the nose is warm, then its owner is warm and comfortable. If the nose is hot, most likely the baby is hot and you need to remove one layer of clothing from him. If you are at home, undress baby give him a drink. If the nose baby cold means child freezing. A sure sign that the baby is cold is hiccups. You can also touch the handles baby, but not the hands, but a little higher - the forearms, since the hands can be cool when the baby is generally warm. A frozen baby should be covered or dressed warmer. Another common reason for baby crying is wet and dirty diapers. Usually just before the moment of urination or defecation child makes a sound like a squeak or whimper, and after the action itself, if the mother does not provide assistance, such sounds of discontent can turn into a scream. Discomfort in this case can be exacerbated by skin irritation. Many parents note that their baby begins to cry every day closer to six o'clock in the evening. Crying at the end of the day – a kind of means of discharge, giving way to the accumulated fatigue, nervousness. Take the baby in your arms, shake it, sing a lullaby, give him a drink, and when he calms down, put him to bed. Negative emotional states occur in children due to violations of the daily routine, changes in the usual course of life. The baby will be capricious both in the case when he did not sleep well, and when he was overexcited and cannot fall asleep. Negative, conflict family atmosphere adversely affects behavior baby: there is nothing surprising in the fact that when adults quarrel, child cries. Trying to calm the child, the mother herself must be calm: her anxiety, excitement are transmitted to the baby. Wrong care It can also cause discontent and crying of the child, his bad behavior during feeding, bathing, changing clothes. The child cries when bathing, and even at the mere sight of bathing accessories, if he has gained a negative experience in this activity - for example, the water was too hot or the soap stinged his eyes. If adults accidentally pinched the skin of the child when they fastened buttons or buttons on clothes, pulled the handles, the baby may resist and cry when dressing. Loss of appetite, crying and other defensive reactions can be caused by force-feeding, very hot or cold food, situations when an overflowing spoon is placed in the child's mouth, the next portion is brought to the mouth too quickly, while the baby has not yet swallowed the previous one. The habit of sucking on a pacifier often calms the child, but this prevents the correct growth and development of the jaws, the formation of a correct bite. Children with hyperexcitability can be given a pacifier before falling asleep, but after the onset of sleep, it must be carefully removed from the child's mouth.

anxiety symptoms

Child's ailments, pain- the most unpleasant causes of baby crying. As a rule, there is no clear localization of pain in infants due to the imperfect development of their nervous system. Therefore, with pain in any part of the body, a small child behaves the same way: cries, screams, kicks his legs. By the behavior of the infant in response to a painful stimulus, it is impossible to say with accuracy that he is in pain. Therefore, sometimes it is difficult even for a specialist to determine what is actually the cause of concern. baby. Crying in pain is crying with a hint of hopelessness and suffering. It is quite even, continuous, with occasional bursts of screaming, which probably correspond to the sensations of increased pain. The most common and common ailments that cause a baby to cry include pain in the tummy (colic), pain during teething, headache (the so-called infant migraine) and increased sensitivity of the skin when it is irritated, diaper rash occurs, "diaper dermatitis". Bloating and abdominal pain (colic) usually disturb babies up to three to six months of age. At this age, the process of digestion and movement of food through the intestines is imperfect due to insufficient contractility of the muscular layer of the intestine, low activity of enzymes, and the intestinal microflora that has not been formed or is disturbed for any reason. Other reasons may be inaccuracies in the diet of a breastfeeding mother; erratic, unreasonably frequent feeding baby; the introduction into the diet of crumbs of food that does not correspond to his age. Colic can also be one of the signs of diseases of the gastrointestinal tract. The occurrence of colic is due to the fact that food does not have time to be absorbed by the intestines and gases are formed in an increased amount. With each feeding, this process intensifies and reaches its peak in the evening hours. At the same time, children cry, kick their legs and pull them to the stomach, their sleep is disturbed. In case of colic, it is necessary to allow gases to escape: massage the stomach in circular motions clockwise; put the child on the stomach, bend the legs at the hip and knee joints (frog position); you can put the gas outlet tube into the anus, lubricating it and the tip of the tube with oil, insert the tube into the anus by 3 cm with a slight twisting motion. You can also put it on your stomach baby soft warm cloth, take it in your arms and press it with your stomach to yourself - the heat will relieve colic. Try offering your baby a special dill-based baby tea that promotes gas. If colic recurs, you should consult a doctor. He will conduct an examination, prescribe drugs that help reduce excessive gas formation, restore normal intestinal microflora, which will also lead to a decrease in gas formation, normalization of the stool, and, if necessary, adjust the diet. Headache, or "baby migraine", occurs most often in newborns with perinatal encephalopathy syndrome (PES), including increased intracranial pressure, increased or decreased muscle tone, and increased excitability. Such children often react to changes in atmospheric pressure, weather changes. They behave restlessly in windy, rainy, cloudy weather. Like an adult, a child with a headache may experience a general malaise: nausea, vomiting, indigestion. In this case, you should definitely contact a specialist who will select the right treatment. Teething- always stress for the crumbs. The child may be naughty, cry, he may have a fever, loose stools may appear. At this time, the baby is very susceptible to infections. To facilitate teething, there are special teething rings with liquid inside. Usually they are cooled (but not frozen!) in the refrigerator and given to the baby to chew on. Even just stroking your gums with your finger will reduce the pain. But if all this does not help, and even more so - if this process has led to an increase in temperature and a violation of the stool, consult a pediatrician. You may need pain medication (such as gum gel). Skin irritation may cause baby significant concern, so the condition of the child's skin should be given considerable attention. Diaper dermatitis is manifested by redness, the appearance of an inflammatory rash on the skin of the buttocks, perineum baby, child becomes irritable, cries, especially when changing diapers. Urine, feces in contact with the skin of a child violate its acid-base balance, causing irritation and damage to the skin. To prevent such complications, it is necessary to thoroughly clean the skin of the child, change diapers more often (in newborns - at least 8 times a day). In cases of severe irritation or the development of an inflammatory process on the skin, you should consult a pediatrician. As your baby grows and matures, he will cry less. In the meantime, mother's affection, mother's hands, mother's voice, mother's warmth will be constantly needed to calm the baby; nothing and no one will replace them for your baby. Remember that you can solve "educational problems" only if your child surrounded by love, attention and is in constant contact with the people closest to him.

Before each feeding, take care of the prevention of colic, the natural escape of gases: tighten the legs baby to the stomach and at the same time do a light massage, apply a woolen scarf (heated diaper, heating pad) to the stomach, put the child on the stomach for a few minutes (on the sofa, and even better on your or daddy's knees), while stroking the back.
When eating, make sure that the baby tightly wraps his mouth around the nipple or nipple. If bottle feeding is necessary, get special nipples that do not allow air to pass along with the food. After feeding, do not rush to put the baby to bed, but hold him upright for a while (as a rule, he spits up “extra” air).
Try playing melodic, calm music. Many mothers claim that the music they listened to during pregnancy, wanting to relax, becomes their lifesaver during periods of uncontrollable crying of the child.
Sometimes you need a change of scenery. First, leave the room with the child. Let him see another room and objects that can attract his attention. If possible, we recommend that you take your baby for a walk.
The bath has a calming effect on both children and adults. In addition, if your child likes to splash in the water, bathing can be the best way to calm him down.
Most importantly, never lose your temper and yell at your child.
And the last, although the most difficult, recommendation: try to anticipate the desires of your child. Almost all children unconsciously make certain gestures when they want to eat, sleep, etc. Try to remember them and satisfy the child's desire before he bursts into tears.

Most importantly, never let to kid scream to the point of exhaustion.

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