Models of women's behavior. Wise behavior of a woman in a relationship
You invest yourself in a man, and in return you get something completely different from what you expected? Are you trying to keep the union, but the relationship is falling apart before your eyes? You may feel like you are doing everything right. But the results speak for themselves. A man perceives everything differently ...
And who taught you this?
Where did you get the behaviors that you now use in dealing with men? Parents showed a little, a girlfriend advised a little, and spied something in the series. This is how your behavior pattern is formed.
And very rarely this model is what a man needs!
So that you can avoid mistakes, let's look at the popular TABOO models of a woman's behavior in a relationship. You may recognize yourself in one of them.
Oh, how Slavic women love this model! Look around ... You will surely find such a woman (and not even one) among friends and relatives.
How to recognize a slave?
- She “pulls on herself” everything: raising children, taking care of the house, work ...
- Unquestioningly does everything that the man says.
- Ready to give up their interests in the name of HIS desires.
- Communicates with the elect, for whom the husband has given permission.
- Ashamed of himself and his negative emotions.
- She does not have her own interests and hobbies.
The whole world of this woman comes down to the satisfaction of a man, so it is not surprising that such unions often break up due to the fact that he finds himself a more interesting passion.
They say about such women that among ten normal men she will find one chick. And he will teach, correct, hone ... And then again teach, correct, hone ... Without end :).
How to recognize a teacher?
- She is ready to work without sleep and rest in order to make a “normal” man out of a man - the one who was drawn by her imagination.\
- Endows a man with non-existent qualities and falls in love with them.
- Ready to give advice at any time of the day or night to anyone and everyone.
- Corrects all the mistakes of his chosen one.
Experienced men bypass such women on the tenth road. Insecure or young chosen ones often fall into the teacher's trap. And from such a couple, something can even work out.
But ... there are no ideals, the work never ends. Education continues throughout life. And it usually bothers even the most patient man. He goes away or languishes and turns into a neurotic.
Absolute guardianship is at the forefront in such relationships. A woman is ready to take care, to give herself. She can ask several times a day if he dressed warmly, if he ate, if he liked the sandwich. And the more persistently the lady will take care, the faster man leaves.
How to recognize mom?
- The range of her interests is cooking, cleaning, health, useful needlework ...
- Often corrects a man in conversation.
- Expresses dissatisfaction with what the man is doing.
- Reminds, controls and patronizes ... sometimes 24 hours a day.
Mommy is a wonderful model. But only when mom uses it. A wife or girlfriend must be different in order to win the interest, attention and heart of a worthy chosen one.
We have considered only 3 negative models of behavior of women with men. In fact, there are many more! It is simply not possible to describe all of them in one article. And is it necessary...
Let's focus on the positive. Do you know what a successful man's woman should be like? What unconditionally “peck” the representatives of the stronger sex? What, in their perception, distinguishes a woman for one night from a woman-wife?
If you want to know, I give all this information in open webinars who are passing almost every evening. You will discover a lot of new things, learn to communicate confidently, “tasty” and witty with successful men become wiser and more interesting.
Try on attractive behaviors for men!
They will definitely suit you!
I'll be waiting for you at the webinars! (Look for invitations to them in the morning in the mail 🙂)
P.S. Maybe you saw yourself or a friend among these roles? Share in the comments how this woman lives.
In the article we will talk about destructive behavior patterns of women and their impact on relationships. I will tell you how our behavior depends on toxic experiences experienced in childhood or past relationships. You will learn why criticism, pessimism, insincerity and full inclusion in a relationship, coupled with the rejection of personal life, lead to a breakup or separation of partners. My recommendations will help you learn to analyze your behavioral reactions, identify destructive patterns in your actions and adjust your behavior according to your goal.
Destructive behavioral patterns in relationships
Neither strong feelings, neither the best intentions nor the maximum loyalty to the chosen one will save you from inevitable mistakes in a relationship. Making mistakes is normal, but you need to be able to notice the influence of your own behavior on the atmosphere in a couple in time and correct your behavior.
Despite the uniqueness of each union, most women follow certain destructive patterns of behavior to one degree or another, and do it unconsciously. The most common mistakes that we make are criticism and nit-picking, lies, pessimism, pressure on a man and a lack of interests outside of relationships, absolute involvement. Below we will take a closer look at these behavioral models of women that inevitably destroy relationships.
Pessimism
Inability to enjoy life and keep positive attitude has a variety of manifestations. The partner decided to please you with a luxurious gift, and instead of expressing gratitude, you reprimand him that the utility bill has not yet been paid and what was he thinking at all, he doesn’t earn so much to spend so much? Believe me, he will no longer want to try to please you, even if he hits the jackpot in the lottery tomorrow.
No one likes people who are difficult to communicate with and who are endlessly dissatisfied with everything. A woman who constantly complains, frowns endlessly and is not able to find joy in small things, is doomed to loneliness and a reputation as a grumpy aunt.
Have you noticed pessimism in yourself? Fortunately, it's curable. Control your statements in a conversation with a partner. It is not necessary to express your dissatisfaction with and without, leave it for really important cases.
Get in the habit of noticing the pleasant even in difficult situations. You can write it down so you can re-read it and remember it from time to time. good moments. Try to write on paper what you like about yourself, your partner, your job, your city, or anywhere else. Pay attention to the good details, and most importantly, feel free to voice your positive thoughts and feelings.
Nagging and criticism
The ability to discuss problems, tactfully express dissatisfaction and negotiate is a very significant component of a strong alliance. And this is not at all the same as criticizing and trying to reshape a man to fit your ideas.
If you regularly tell your partner that he is wrong, that it was necessary to do this and not otherwise, that he is like this, but should be different - rest assured, he has repeatedly asked himself why fate brought him to you.
It's one thing to discuss things that are really unacceptable to you and find a compromise, and quite another to find fault and criticize him endlessly for a cup left at the computer or sand from his shoes in the hallway. This also includes comparing a partner with other men not in his favor.
Don't want to turn into a grouch? Stop criticizing your partner. And if you really want to let off steam, instead of taunting, make a compliment, for sure there are plenty of reasons for this.
Pressure
All women want a reliable and confident man nearby. But just how can this man make decisions and be responsible for them if you put pressure on him endlessly, inclining him to a choice that is convenient for you?
Divide the areas of responsibility and never interfere in men's affairs until you are directly asked for advice.
Insincerity
Men no less than us want tenderness, hugs and emotional intimacy. Partners who are truly close are always sincere with each other. They know how to share emotions, both good and bad. Do not hide their feelings and do not ignore the feelings of another.
What do men like in women, and what repels? If you want to know about it, then it will be useful for you.
Insincerity alienates people because partners lose empathy and the ability to understand each other's feelings. Ultimately, you will find that under the same blanket with you lies a complete stranger to you. To prevent this from happening, share your emotions and never be afraid to open up to your partner.
Women's tricks
Of course, in some situations, all sorts of feminine things like tears, feigned resentment or jealousy scenes help to constructively resolve the issue. Men perfectly understand what's what, but sometimes they even like it.
The main thing is not to sin with such behavior too often. Otherwise, you risk turning into a capricious likeness of a woman who, instead of dialogue and compromise, prefers to make a scandal with hysteria. This is tiring and, to be honest, negatively affects your image as a whole.
If female tricks are your main way to resolve conflict situations, be prepared for the fact that soon you will have no one to cry and pout in front of.
A woman who respects herself and her partner does not try to manipulate him with tears and other female tricks.
Lie
Statistics say that 80% of the population lies every day on average 4-5 times. Lying is an integral part of the social construct, it just so happened, but in a relationship it is often the deception that causes a break.
We do not talk about trifles like “I cooked this pilaf myself, and did not buy it in the department finished products" or "there was a promotion in the store and the second pair of shoes I got for free." We are talking about lies in matters of principle.
As you know, everything secret one day becomes clear. So when the deception is revealed, it will undermine the man's trust in you. If he catches you in a lie again, you will lose his trust forever.
Meanwhile, trust required component a strong union, without which it is impossible to build a healthy and reliable relationship. Think well what is more important for you - to do it your own way and lie, thereby endangering your union, or to save trusting relationship and find a compromise with a partner, tactfully and constructively discussing an unpleasant issue?
Lack of interests outside the relationship
This coin has two sides, and both are ugly. In the first case, you turn into a suitcase without a handle, because you simply have nothing to discuss with your partner. In the second, you experience a breakup extremely painfully, since there is nothing else in your life other than this relationship.
If all the same it so happened that a divorce is inevitable, then check out this one.
A woman who is completely immersed in an alliance with a partner risks losing her personal identification and becoming a shadow of her chosen one. Of course, a hot dinner for a husband, ironed shirts and a shining floor in the house are manifestations of caring for a loved one. This is a way to demonstrate affection, love, but not the purpose of the relationship.
Imagine a highly exaggerated, but very revealing situation: a husband communicates with people all day at work, learns new information, improves his professionalism. At the same time, you clean the kitchen after breakfast, polish your silverware, write a shopping list and go to the supermarket, then cook a hot dinner, then iron shirts and starch collars, make yourself comfortable and meet your spouse at home.
And at dinner, he tells how brilliantly he completed a difficult assignment, what a meaningful training was today instead of a planning meeting, what book they discussed with a colleague. What will you tell him? Why has the price of potatoes gone up?
And then one day your spouse realizes that it is unbearable to continue to live with a woman who is only interested in household chemicals yes prices at the nearest grocery store, and out. And if he doesn’t leave, he loses interest and respect for you.
It is very difficult to survive a breakup if you have nothing to rely on. Close friends, favorite work, an outlet in the form of hobbies and hobbies can become a real support. If this is not the case, a woman spends a much longer period of time on rehabilitation.
Of course, this is an exaggerated example, but the essence remains the same: in a normal relationship, both partners live busy life, separate from each other. Nothing in nature is static, if we do not develop, we degrade.
You should have a job where you could use your skills and talents. There should be a hobby that will allow you to constantly learn something new and interesting. You should have your own social circle, separate from your husband, where you have another social role where you are not a wife, but an individual.
All this - mandatory conditions harmonious relationship in which both partners do not lose interest in each other. Undoubtedly, to provide her husband with a reliable rear in the form of cozy home where he is taken care of is important and valuable. But this should by no means be your only occupation.
Projection of past experience onto new relationships
Despite the indisputable uniqueness of each person, we all follow certain behavioral patterns in relationships. AT pure form such patterns are rare or never encountered, most often a mixture of patterns learned from childhood experiences, traumatic experiences of past relationships, archetypal images from books, fairy tales and films, etc.
It seems to people that they act one way or another because of their character, habits, circumstances. rare person able to analyze behavior and determine the cause of their behavioral reactions. In fact, how we build new relationships is directly related to old experiences.
So, a woman whose father in her childhood was excessively strict and even rude, subconsciously enters into a relationship in a position of submission, allowing her partner to mistreat herself and considering this the norm.
A man whose teenage rebellion was suppressed in the bud by his domineering mother transfers into adult relationships the desire to dominate his partner and constantly demonstrate his independence and permissiveness to her.
People whose parents have allowed themselves to fight, scream, or even fight in front of their children behave the same way in their relationships and project these parenting patterns onto their children.
If you analyze your behavior, most likely you will find in yourself echoes of your parents or a projection of the experience of past relationships - intonations, gestures, and even whole phrases. It's okay to be like your parents and build on experiences, but more often than not, these behavioral patterns are applied unconsciously and harm relationships.
It is extremely difficult to deal with childhood traumas and their impact on relationships on your own. If you feel that the experience of your childhood or past relationships is preventing you from building strong healthy relationships, it is better to address to the psychotherapist.
For some reason, it is not customary in the post-Soviet space to use the services of psychologists and psychotherapists. But the truth is that it is difficult for people to dispassionately analyze their behavior and adjust it according to the goal. Experienced doctor It will help you understand your feelings and tell you how to get rid of the influence of the toxic experience of the past in a new relationship.
Correction of destructive behavior
It is impossible to insure against mistakes in a relationship. Neither advice on the forums, nor the instructions of girlfriends, nor grandmother's books on home economics will help when, at the peak of emotions, you cease to control yourself and begin to derogatoryly scold the chosen one for a fault or stage a performance with a scandal, thus trying to turn the situation in your favor.
If your relationship is not going through better times and you feel like more the fault lies with you, it makes sense to analyze your behavior and try to correct it.
To do this, take a pen, a piece of paper and write down the answers to the following questions:
- How do I behave?
- Why am I behaving like this?
- How does my partner feel when I do this?
- How does this affect our relationship?
- Do I want to behave like this?
Recording is essential so you don't miss out. important details trying to keep all the answers in memory.
If you were able to honestly admit to yourself that it is your destructive behavior that is the cause of more frequent conflicts and estrangement in a couple, then you are on the right way. Formulate exactly what behavior on your part leads to a deterioration in relations, and begin to carefully monitor yourself and your statements. In order not to forget about self-control, you can tie a red thread on your hand as a reminder.
By the way, the same thread, bracelet or ring can become great helper in the formation new habit, in our case, the elimination of a destructive behavioral pattern. Your task is to wear the jewelry chosen for the reminder on one hand for 21 days in a row. It is believed that it is this time period that allows a person to acquire a new habit.
If you break loose or forget about your intentions, you put the jewelry on the other hand and start counting the days again. This is a great motivation and a reminder of the promises made to yourself not to spoil the relationship.
Answers on questions
I love my husband, but I often get annoyed with him over trifles, I can raise my voice, insult, find fault with mere trifles. So I blow off steam and always apologize afterwards, and he usually said that nothing terrible happened and he was not offended. But lately I feel that he began to move away.
What you describe is called "abuse" in psychology. The stereotypical image of an abuser from films is a male psychopath who emotionally tortures his victim. However, often in a couple, it is women who demonstrate abusive behavior.
If you accept that your annoyance and nagging are negatively affecting relationships, you are already halfway to success. Track your behavioral responses and come up with a different ritual for yourself that would help you relieve tension without harming your partner. For example, when you feel that you are boiling, drink a glass of water in small sips, direct negative energy in right direction- wash the floor, beat off the meat, etc. Your task is to cope with irritation on your own, without involving a partner in this. Believe me, this is much easier to do than after trying to build relationships.
There is no feeling of emotional intimacy with a man, although we have been in a relationship for quite a long time. Everything is fine with us, but I don’t feel support and empathy from him, but I would like to. How to provoke him to emotions?
Analyze your behavior, perhaps you yourself do not show emotions, are secretive or prefer to reflect all experiences within yourself. There is no emotional intimacy without sincerity. Do not expect manifestations of empathy and care from him, say directly that you need it.
Men do not know how to read your mind, especially when the question "how are you?" you lie about how everything is in order, and then pretend to be offended and reproach him for being callous. Tell him that you had a hard day, that you are tired, or that something upset you. As a rule, men adequately respond to such a verbal call for sympathy and are happy to support their chosen ones, especially if they are able to solve your problem.
My husband often does things to spite me. We agree on one thing, but he still does it his own way, although he knows that I will be angry. What is the reason for such arrogance?
Your husband does not act in spite of you, but according to his convictions. Think you may be putting too much pressure on him when making decisions. Then the problem is with you.
Do you think you know the best thing to do and are always right? If the answer is yes, learn to delegate responsibility and don't try to keep everything under your control.
Your man is an adult who is able to make decisions on his own and be responsible for them. You don't have to be a warden, you are partners, not a boss and a subordinate.
Watch a video from relationship expert Nadezhda Mayer. Nadezhda will tell you why women repel men. Find out how to avoid it.
What to remember
- Past experiences always affect our current relationships in one way or another.
- Having no interests outside of relationships, we turn into a suitcase without a handle and experience a breakup more difficult.
- In a healthy relationship, both partners have well-defined personal boundaries and their own lives, separate from each other.
- Criticism for no reason, abuse of female tricks, lies in matters of principle, insincerity, pressure on a man and pessimism - right ways destroy relationships.
- Destructive patterns can and should be corrected. This can be done independently by analyzing your behavioral responses.
Greetings, friends! Today I have prepared a short article about what should be the wise, correct behavior of a woman in a relationship, in my opinion. I decided that I haven’t written an article on this topic for a long time (almost a month), and now seems to be the time to do it. Read on! 🙂
I hear and read a lot about how a woman should behave with a man. Honestly, it's already tired! And most of all, I'm tired of the fact that the lion's share of advice does not pass the test of practice, although it sounds great in theory, well, or so it seems to us. That is why I recommend that you never follow any competent recommendations from gurus that guarantee you and your descendants in the female line happiness in your personal life.
Think, analyze and, of course, check. I fell for this trap: I wanted to be the best, and I listened to everything. But very often the tips do not work and bring absolutely nothing. Or even deterioration of relations.
Let's take a closer look today at what a woman's behavior in a relationship with a man can be. Let's analyze the three main positions, roles that a woman can take.
- active position. In this position, a woman burns in relation to a man. She believes that he is the best, destined for her by fate, and in general the very best. A woman tries to be complaisant, good, in every possible way to please and show attention. Some of this happens unconsciously. Those ladies who are very pleased with their companion can become in such a position 🙂 But this is a trap, and such a role will not lead to anything good, since a man will eventually get tired of being the center of attention.
He feels that not only are you conquered, but you practically idolize him. This gradually kills his interest in you. Unconsciously. Over time, a man becomes more withdrawn, rude and far from being as good as he seemed to you a little earlier. And now another role. - passive position. The passive position is completely opposite to the active one, but not in actions and words, but in their content. woman in passive role considers a man not so good, mediocre, perhaps unworthy of her. She is cold towards him. In the first case, the woman is overly involved in the process, and in the second, she is removed from it. She is not interested in somehow charming a man and trying for him. In turn, a man may try to win favor at first, but very quickly abandons this idea. It is unpleasant for him that his woman is cold and in every possible way shows him her indifference, dislike. Disappointed in your relationship and after a while putting an end to them, as it seemed to him, you did, he also begins to behave detached, uninvolved, cold.
Note that both the first and second positions lead to approximately the same result: cooling of relations, mutual removal and resentment. Both of these positions are unprofitable, and relations with them can hardly be called harmonious, joyful, happy.
The behavior of a woman in a relationship should be different. To do this, there is a third position, which I try to adhere to and which I strongly recommend that you also adhere to. And that's why.
contemplative position. It can also be called a position of focus on oneself. Have you noticed that in the first two roles, attention is focused on the man, and not on yourself? This is the main mistake. You need to focus on your life, your interests and affairs. Participate in relationships, but at the same time be in the role of an observer, a contemplator. You should watch the relationship as if from the outside. This way you will avoid being both in love and not in love, both of which are not good for the relationship.
Change the angle from the man to yourself. There are a lot of men - and you are alone 🙂 Even if you are with the very best or, on the contrary, it is not at all clear which side the man turned out to be - shift the focus from him and direct the energy to yourself. Her excess in relationships spoils them, regardless of the polarity: plus or minus in relation to a man.
I hope I was able to convey my idea to you! I will be pleased if you agree with me. You feel like I'm right
Often we do not think about our behavior and set priorities incorrectly, and many problems come from this. When you love yourself, take care of yourself and develop, you become very captivating for your man. Unnecessarily plunging into relationships and concentrating on a satellite, you no longer have either time or energy for yourself.
Enjoy relationships as if from the outside, bring more lightness and relaxation into them. And this is possible only in a contemplative position.
I wish you to enjoy life, relationships, take care of yourself more and love yourself! It's never enough 🙂
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Behavior of men and women in relationships
The strength of a woman is in her weakness - they say so, and this is close to the truth ... if these words are understood correctly.
Without this, a woman will never have normal relationships or peace of mind.
Therefore, dear and lovely women, learn to say to your man "Yes, honey." This does not detract from your dignity and your independent value.
Yes, a man must be strong and must be able to put a woman in her place, but such men do not fall from the sky and, as a rule, there is no empty place next to them.
This is the main wisdom of a woman - you need to raise your man. Show him that he is strong and teach him how to use this power.
Therefore, stop expecting freebies from life. No matter how high you think of yourself, there will be no adult man next to you until you learn to be women - soft, flexible, strong and wise.
When a woman falls in love, she opens her whole soul to a man and completely dissolves in him. She is afraid of losing him and tries to be perfect for him in everything. And thus he makes a big mistake, because no matter how strong love is, you should never lose your individuality in a relationship. As soon as a woman loses herself, she also loses a man, such a paradox.
No need to try to be good for him in everything, you must always have your own clear boundaries, even with your loved one. Yes, it is necessary to give love and tenderness, but not unilaterally. Everything should be in balance and harmony, especially you and your inner world.
Mistakes of women in relationships with a man
1. Pity is not best feeling for love
They say that a woman loves when she regrets. From childhood, we are imposed such a sacrificial image of love. A man does not respect a woman and even raises his hand, but she forgives and pities him. A man behaves ugly towards a woman, but she still forgives and regrets, hoping that somewhere deep down he is very kind and loves her. As a result, a woman lives in illusions, constantly pitying a man and not looking at him really, with a sober look.
You don't have to feel sorry for the man! Remember this for the rest of your life. If a woman begins to feel sorry for a man and show sympathy for him, then he very soon turns into a rag, literally in six months or a year. And after he turns into her, he exhausts all the woman's nerves and eventually sits on her neck.
Always remember that men who feel sorry for women are not respected, and, accordingly, they do not appreciate and do not love and are often abandoned. Pity yourself! And a man, he is a man, to solve his problems on his own. And not only their own, but also some of yours.
2. Self-respect is the key to raising your worth.
If you respect yourself and have your feminine pride (not pride!), then a man will respect you. And respect and love for men are interconnected, as has already been written above. Pride and self-respect is necessary elements for a man's love for you.
Self-respect goes along with self-confidence, without which it is almost impossible to build normal, healthy relationships.
3. Obsession kills his interest
This is one of the most common mistakes in relationships with men. If a man needs you, then he himself will show constant signs of attention to you. But if you do it much more often than he does, he will lose interest in you pretty quickly.
By your obsession, you make it clear that you need him more than you need him. That you cannot live without him, but for some reason he can, calling you once a week. Read the article “Male obsession is the main cause of relationship problems.”
Excessive activity and initiative can go along with obsession. Now women have become emancipated and are often active in relations with men, which, in principle, is not bad. It’s bad when activity becomes excessive and a woman simply changes roles with a man and begins to conquer and achieve him. Give the man the opportunity to take the initiative and act at his own pace, do not rush things and do not try to do everything for him. I advise you to read the article "5 lessons of falling in love OR why you shouldn't run after a man."
There can be many types of addiction, such as physical or emotional. When there is an addiction, there is a fixation and fear of loss, which can lead to a cooling relationship.
Now we are talking about the most banal dependence - material. Yes, the main task of a man is to be a provider and protector. And a woman should not try to earn more than a man and be absolutely independent from him. But you should always have your own source of income, even if it is insignificant. After all, you are an independent self-sufficient person, right? You are not a little girl who is completely under the protection and care of her father. You are an adult woman who is fulfilled in life and has her own source of income.
Do not leave your job without special circumstances and very carefully give up sources of income, whatever they may be expressed. If the work takes a lot of time and tears you away from your beloved man, then it is quite possible to find a job on a free schedule or part-time. Your sense of independence, which your personal source of income will give you, will preserve your self-respect and pride, and most importantly, the respect and love of a man.
Be careful with your property. You should not immediately sell it and buy something together with a man, while your feelings have not yet been verified and you are not married to this man.
Quite often, a woman puts the interests of a man above her own. And thus commits a gross mistake. You act in his interests today, tomorrow, the day after tomorrow, putting them first. And at some point, the man realizes that you simply do not have your own interests. And when a person does not have his own interests, he becomes uninteresting! And when there is no interest, there is no liveliness and brightness of feelings, boredom and routine come.
Your interests should come first, and then the interests of a man, children and family should come. And this is not selfishness, but healthy self-love (read the article "How to distinguish self-love from selfishness"). No one will appreciate your self-sacrifice, simply because no one needs it.
There are women who “dedicate” their whole life to their husbands or children, and then demand gratitude from them and constantly stifle them with a sense of guilt and duty.
Men are much more likely to fall in love with developing personalities and have very little interest in women who stop developing.
Men do not particularly respect corrupt women and prefer those women who are not for sale. They often fall in love with such and marry such. A man, looking for a wife, is also looking for a friend for life to some extent, and proceeds from the fact that such a woman rejects direct or indirect attempts of a man to buy her.
Men admire such female principledness, they love and respect such women, and forgive them a lot. After all, “not venality” testifies to a high and beautiful soul, but beautiful soul impossible not to love. And, on the contrary, a corrupt and ugly soul repels forever.
7. Should a woman be smart?
No matter what jokes say that men love stupid people, this is far from the case. It is clear that normal men absolutely do not like stupidity in one form or another and smart women they love and respect much more than stupid people. Yes, men don't like women. male character who play on their field and are proactive in male type(read “Feminine and masculine strength. How to stop playing on a foreign field?). But they are very fond of intellectually developed feminine women who do not stick out their minds and do not try to beat and defeat men in everything. Their mind, their intellect, their sense of humor always arouses great interest in men.
If men loved stupid women, then everyone would fall in love with ladies with mild mental retardation, but there is no such thing, right?
8. Inability to manage money
If a woman does not know how to manage a budget, then such a family is unlikely to ever be prosperous. No matter how much a man earns, such a woman will just let everything go to the wind. The ability to manage a budget is important quality and it is very useful, even if the man himself knows how to spend money wisely.
Different views on the material question lead to constant quarrels and scandals. And they arise not so much because of small income, how much due to the lack of a reserve at a time when the family urgently needs money, as well as due to thoughtless spending and bills not paid on time.
If you learn how to properly manage money, you will not only receive the respect of a man, but also keep peace in the family. Read the article "Management and planning of the family budget".
In a word, no matter how cruel it may be, but do not spoil men excessively and do not let them sit on your neck! Often women try to treat men "humanly" as their girlfriends or children. But with men this “does not work”, and experienced, wise women have long understood this. In general, a man should be treated a little harder than a girlfriend or a child, just so that he does not sit on your neck, legs hanging down and still not shout that you are running slowly. First, women will do it, and then they become unhappy in marriage and constantly complain that everyone is pulling on themselves. So who is forcing you? They themselves put themselves in such a position, pitying the man and treating him “humanly”.
Let men be men! Strong, brave, caring, your earners and protectors. And for this, be feminine, interesting and a little bit mysterious, and do not make the above mistakes. I also suggest that you visit the website of the psychologist Alexei Chernozem, who, both as a psychologist and as a man, gives very important, valuable, and, most importantly, working tips and techniques. Come in here and learn the psychology of men, as well as all the secrets and tricks for building a happy relationship.
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12 deadly mistakes women make in relationships with men
The formed couple goes through several stages of rapprochement, but if this does not happen, then it can be difficult for her to lay down a good relationship.
1. Attraction. Men are interested in appearance, and women, in turn, are interested in intelligence. A lady seems special to a man, and he feels a disposition towards her, is attracted.
2. Uncertainty. The man manages to get the location of the woman, and after a while he doubts the correctness of his choice. Not far off and some distance. A time full of worries and excitement is worth waiting out and not stopping courtship. A woman during this period needs to be calm.
3. The desire to be the only one. He wants to be close to his beloved woman, trying to make the relationship sensual and deep.
4. Affinity of souls. Lovers do not represent their lives separately, they are already quite familiar with each other. This time is distinguished by stability, good relations, there is mutual understanding and trust.
5. Engagement. The period after which marriage occurs. At this time, most couples break up, as the realization comes that everything is fine, but there is no readiness to spend life together.
Men do not know how to show emotions, so it is necessary to understand their feelings. He experiences love when:
Afraid of losing a woman. Of course, this is not one hundred percent proof of love. Behind such fear lies something else: self-love, fear of being alone, insecurity.
He surrounds his beloved with care, feels pity, protects her and tries to make life easier. He will make it clear that from now on she is his only woman, will take care of financial issues and provide everything necessary so that her beloved does not know the need for anything. And this behavior, of course, indicates love, moreover, in return he receives pleasant sensations because he cares and takes care of her, not expecting words of gratitude.
Admire the beloved. At the beginning of a relationship, a man is delighted with the qualities of a woman who amazes him with her ability to understand, be faithful, enchants with her charm and beauty. It is undesirable for a man to feel that he has found a woman forever. And if she is independent and strong personality, it is sometimes worth pretending to be weak. A loved one can show best qualities. A woman needs such behavior, even if the couple has been together for a long time.
He strives to take a leading position due to his qualities: determination and perseverance, aggressiveness and quick reaction, the ability to resist failure and the desire to win. Feels pride in his assertiveness and will, but does not show it openly and freely. And yet a man is subject bad mood, but knows how to restrain negative emotions.
It is important for men to feel independent freedom, to be an individualist with high self-esteem. They pay attention to the assessment of society, but sometimes they forget to compliment their beloved. Criticism, reproaches, mention of his imperfection and past failures hurt pride. A woman does not need to harbor a grudge for a long time, it is better to speak out and no longer discuss this unpleasant topic.
When communicating with a woman, a man usually says what he thinks, and if he intends to deceive, then this becomes clear. When everything suits him, he is laconic and does not think about the need to negotiate. If a problem arises, he will not sort things out, but will deal with it. A woman may mistakenly perceive silence for indifference and indifference.
How to behave with an Aries man?
An energetic Aries man is delighted with mischievous girls who know how to surprise. He will never choose a sensible woman who has all plans scheduled by the minute. His beloved should be with a twinkle, even a devilry. He likes funny, witty and inventive girls. His character is not easy. With him you need to be ready for a flurry of emotions. He knows how to be truly caring and gentle, but romance is alien to him. But with him you will never be bored.
At the beginning of a relationship, a girl should be as inaccessible as possible. Aries loves to seduce and woo women. For him, conquest is a game of chance. Difficulties do not scare him. The more problematic partner he comes across, the better. He will not be afraid of the presence of rivals or the disapproval of the parents of his beloved.
If a girl wants to interest Aries, she needs to new meeting look a little different than on the previous date.
But keep in mind that romance among the representatives of this sign are extremely rare. Don't expect an Aries to shower you with gifts or host a candlelit dinner. He seeks to quickly conquer a woman, does not waste time on sentimentality. He may come across as rude and arrogant.
Proper behavior with this fiery man- pledge strong relationship. You can't give him a reason to be bored. It is necessary to amaze the imagination of Aries with talent and unpredictability. He loves extreme and new emotions.
He is a dreamer, does not like to stay at home, so you should not dream about quiet evening front of the TV. You have to be ready to go on a trip with him, because the unpredictable Aries can arrange an unexpected date in the mountains or the center of Europe.
He expects from a woman honesty and enthusiasm, as well as some humility. This does not mean that the girl should completely obey her partner, she should only give Aries a sense of superiority. It is extremely important for this sign to feel like a real man.
Aries is very vain. He loves praise much more than representatives of other signs. In relations with him, one cannot stoop to rudeness, but Aries himself does not skimp on epithets, he can be very rude in quarrels. He is quite windy, loves to flirt with all pretty ladies without exception. But he will not forgive such behavior to his partner, because he is quite jealous.
In order for a man to be satisfied with a woman, you need to behave with him competently, without making mistakes. If a lady is satisfied with a fleeting romance, it is enough to intrigue him, but if a long relationship is planned, you need to meet his expectations.
Correct behavior with Aries:
With Aries, you need to be constantly on the lookout. Passionate love is replaced by complete apathy and indifference.
Even if the lady can not wait to be in bed with Aries, you need to moderate your ardor. The initiative must come from the man. They like to dominate not only in love, but also in the intimate sphere. Nevertheless, you need to be active and bright. A man of this sign will appreciate if the partner moves well. They love poses that show their leadership. They are turned on by the position when a woman is on all fours. But they will also be delighted with the pose of the rider.
It is worth being ready to support all his crazy ideas. He loves to try new things. Sex and love are synonymous for him. If he does not want a woman, then he does not love.
A partner without complexes, ready for experiments, will be able to satisfy him. Need to flatter him, praise him physical abilities. He will be especially pleased with the comparison with the previous partner, in favor of Aries, of course. He can’t talk about shortcomings, because this sign is very vulnerable.
They love touching their hair and face. Erotic massage turns them on, especially when the woman is dressed in lacy lingerie. They are passionate lovers of sex in a quick way. Therefore, you need to be ready to communicate in a car or plane. After an erotic game, for sure, the clothes will be torn to shreds, and the partner will be spanked. He is not a fan of long preludes, but 2-3 short acts are just right for him.
Aries do not feel remorse from connections on the side. Natural honesty forces them to talk about love story wife. He sincerely asks for forgiveness and convinces that he loves only his wife. Thanks to the charm of Aries, often everything gets away with it. However, more often men of this sign turn novels in their heads than in reality.
A sensual woman ready for self-sacrifice can satisfy him:
Whatever sign a woman belongs to, one must remember that with Aries one should not expect calm and stability.
Behavior of a woman with a man
Every woman strives to make her relationship with her beloved better, to bring them into an “ideal” state, the meaning of which, only she herself understands. What we just do not use for this: fashionable clothes, perfumes with pheromones, sexy underwear, special "attractive" behavior, and sometimes such aggressive forms as scandals, jealousy, resentment, and most importantly women's weapons- tears!
Here is a far from complete list of women's arsenal designed to help us in the battle for our love. But are the methods justified? And is the result perfect? Sometimes, the road to hell is paved with good intentions, isn't it?
Striving for one result, we get the exact opposite and are surprised that we again did not succeed. And it won't work, trust me! If you are aiming for a long-term relationship, for a sincere union of two hearts, then what, excuse me, does the stage of a large theater have to do with it? After all, when you come face to face in the morning in the kitchen, or in the bathroom, you will be unarmed then, what reaction should follow - disappointment and mockery in the eyes of a loved one? Or the tenderness and caress of your still sleepy lips? Of course the second! And in order to achieve exactly harmony in relationships, do not forget that men are people too! Here are some gold rules of conduct with men that no woman should forget:
1. Rule number ONE: Treat your man exactly the way you expect him to treat you. It stands for this: if you want your man to respect you, appreciate, love, reckon with you, open up to you, be honest, then respect, appreciate, love, reckon, be honest and open with him.
2. Do not forget that your man needs your love and reciprocity no less than you. The decoding here is also simple: Imagine for a moment that you want to confess your love to a man ... when will it be most convenient and easiest for you to do this? Probably when you feel loved and you have the opportunity to open up. Therefore, one should not think that men are molded “from a different dough” and are not capable of deep feelings and experiences. If you think so, then such men will meet on your way.
3. Don't play games with a man. Competition, deceit and stealth are the qualities of a player who has a specific goal - to win. But you are an adult, smart, kind and honest, and women like diamonds are one, in a million dummies. And do not consider a man more stupid than yourself - he feels your game, just as you would feel him.
4. Find out everything you need to know before you move into the "closer" relationship. It is also deciphered very simply: imagine that you are buying new furniture, without even asking about the color of its upholstery, not to mention the parameters of functionality and manufacturer. Represented? Do you think this is correct? I think your answer is no. Toga why, some women consider the manifestation of sincere interest in a man, in his character, habits, lifestyle, plans for the future, immodest and importunate?
5. Do not allow yourself to communicate with men who are "inaccessible" to you. What does it mean? Yes, very easy! If a man is married, dating and sleeping with other women, engaged or hopelessly in love, he is inaccessible to you, do not cause yourself suffering, dooming you to dependence on his “former” and “present”. Use this rule before starting a relationship so you don't go too far before you know the truth.
6. Choose a man according to your heart, not your wallet. I understand perfectly well that this is easier said than done, we live in a materialistic world, where inner spirituality and refinement are given less importance than external gloss, and there were moments in life when I wanted to give up on everyone and everything and fly away into the “beautiful” and easy life. The temptation is great, but there is a question, what next? After all, “nothing at all” will pass and you will want to run away from the “golden cage” to hell. Therefore, remember, if you choose a man on the basis of "material solvency", then be prepared that soon this relationship will become burdensome for you.
7. Be fair, do not use "double standards". What does it mean? Double standarts- this is different attitude to people based, for example, on gender or other criteria. In this case, it is an attempt to lead to the desired result, acting in reverse. For example, in order for a man to call you more often - do not call him yourself, restrain your emotions and admiration so that he does not think that you are crazy about him and other such nonsense. It is a matter of your sincerity and true worth.
8. You can not fall in love with a man, in the hope that he will change. The problem may arise when you cannot understand who is actually dear to you, this man or the armor in which you dressed him? You can waste your time in vain, to help, improve, change, but in the end, it turns out that no one needed your help. So, make sure you love this man here and now and just like that!
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The correct behavior of a woman
Believe it or argue, but only by learning to yield to her man can a woman be truly happy.
And the point, by and large, is not in concession, as such, but in the fact that for her this is the only way to defeat her pride and at once solve all the problems she generates.
Most big secret correct behavior with men - learn to put up with a man's choice and stop running ahead of the engine. Humility is a trait that so many single women lack.
If this is not done, if you allow yourself to take over a man - and you are strong in this! - you will cut down the branch on which you are sitting.
For everyone strong man there is a strong woman who managed to be weak for him and, thereby, forced him to be strong.
There are no weak men, there are only those who have forgotten about their masculine essence. And it is a woman who can awaken this essence in a man.
And then you look back, and wow - next to you is a man you never dreamed of.
Being soft and wise is the right thing to do. But what about the fact that a man is often unable to deal with difficulties and hides behind his wife, like you are so smart with me, you sort it out.? Of course, you can leave such a man and try to find yourself another one - strong and decisive. But where is the guarantee that this is available. therefore, I believe that female weakness is appropriate in moderation, and even more so, one cannot exaggerate attention to the fact that you are weak and defenseless.
Oh, how I agree with what was written in this article! Convinced by my own experience. When I tried to be strong, to cope with everything myself - all some unhappy men were staring at me. Then she decided to relax and try to accept the help of people, in particular, men - she told herself like a mantra “I gladly accept the help of men”, and no longer ran herself to fix everything, change, carry, etc. And the men themselves began to appear and offer their help!
Even some 10 years ago, I would have begun to resent this text, they say, what I want to be, I will be like that and there is no need to teach me. But now, after 7 years family life, I, perhaps, agree with all of the above, tk. I came up with this by trial and error. The hardest part is learning to come to terms with my husband's decision, especially in situations where I know how to make it easier and faster. But it's worth it, believe me.
Yes, the Internet with its Facebook and friend feeds eats up a lot of time. There is even an anecdote: “5 minutes on the Internet last 2 hours.” For efficiency, it is useful to prioritize the first-priority tasks that must be done, and the secondary ones, which can be started later, and possibly abandoned altogether. Sometimes we ourselves take on more than we can do, as a result we spend a lot of time and energy, and then it may turn out that no one really needs a good half of these things.
It is high time to introduce domostroy into family relations. Otherwise, with these “emancipes”, only shards will remain from the institution of marriage. By the way, this would solve many problems of young families, if even from school, and on the example own parents girls and girls saw who should be the head of the family. Some figures, when in Russia there are 75 divorces per 100 marriages, should force us to draw conclusions.
I half agree with this. Indeed, a woman should raise her man. But it can only be grown with love. Yes, and a man must correspond to this woman, he must love her so much that he must yield to her in some way. I believe that husband and wife should be good friends. In this case, the wife will definitely yield to her husband, and the husband will certainly consult with his wife before making a decision.
After reading the article, I understand that I could not break myself like that. In general, I am for harmonious relationships, why do anyone need to prove their superiority. If a woman does her job, she is feminine and takes care of her husband. Is it in this case good man does not reciprocate. Not trying to make her beloved woman comfortable? Maybe all the problems are made up of the fact that people were drawn too inappropriate to each other. Breaking yourself and always adapting is difficult and, in my opinion, a thankless task. Everything should be mutual
80% of divorces are because of you girls, there are many reasons, you stop taking care of yourself after marriage, you think that you are the navel of the earth, and you think too much about yourself - a normal man does not need this.
In life, it is so arranged that not all girls are equally happy and satisfied in a couple. It often happens that some are deprived of attention and care, while others bathe in love. Why is this happening? The reason, as a rule, is the manners and actions of a woman. Male psychology is designed in such a way that a man subconsciously builds himself perfect image companion and falls in love with the one that matches him. It will not work to influence his thoughts and correct this portrait. But you can change your behavior and adjust to your partner so that you stop complaining about the lack of attention and neglect. family responsibilities with his hand.
Do not neglect personal interests and your comfort for the sake of your loved one. Men like smart and self-sufficient women. In order to become a full partner in his eyes, you must be a person, and not just his complement. Remember, only a union of two full-fledged individuals be strong and happy. Otherwise, one partner will suppress the other. Therefore, defend your space for work, sports and your favorite hobby.
No need to drop your business and run headlong to him on demand. Let learn to respect your time and needs. Try to complete your free time useful deeds and events that contribute to your development and make you an interesting conversationalist.
Sign up for fitness classes, yoga, buy a subscription to the pool, learn English, visit various exhibitions and presentations, help charitable organizations. Whatever, there are many options. The main condition is that you should like what you are doing. So you can share positive emotions and impressions from your classes. Just do not go to extremes, the lack of attention to your partner negatively affects family life. Your position of neutrality between overprotection and indifference, the young man should not interpret in the direction of the latter.
Being a faithful and devoted partner is very important in any relationship. At the same time, a woman needs to be able to remain neutral, and not completely dissolve in a man. You should not live solely for his sake and take care of your loved one like a child all day long: cook, wash, clean, write reports for him, take responsibility for all affairs and solve his problems.
The fact that you want to earn his love in this way and become necessary to him as air is necessary can be understood. There is some sense in this. But such guardianship still does not guarantee that he will not go anywhere. You run the risk of teaching him not to cope on his own even with commonplace problems. There is also the possibility that he will begin to take everything for granted and lose interest in you as a woman. This does not mean that you should not make time for your significant other and ignore their needs. There must be a measure in everything. Try to find a compromise in your relationship without any extremes.
This rule follows from the previous one. No matter how much your loved one needs your care and guardianship, let him be strong and decisive. A man should not forget that he is still a support and protection. And he needs to make decisions on his own, even if in fact you pushed him to solve some problem. Show weakness, let your partner take care of you and feel like a hero. Your task is to build relationships in such a way that, under your strict guidance, he fulfills all your desires, but at the same time he believes that he himself wanted it. Then everyone will be content and happy.
Do not run after a man every time after a quarrel and do not beg for forgiveness. Do not call several times a day and do not bombard with SMS messages, no matter how much you would like to hear his voice. Stay neutral. Let's have a chance to miss you. Otherwise, you risk becoming an irritant. He will unconsciously start avoiding you.
Praise your loved one for their actions and deeds. Thank you for your help and be sure to emphasize what you couldn't have done without it. Admire his strength and intelligence, but not to the detriment of his qualities. Do not underestimate your dignity in his eyes, so that he does not think that you are incredibly lucky that such an enviable groom paid attention to you. Speak compliments in a way that is rewarding and inspirational, not the norm.
Male psychology is arranged in such a way that during a quarrel turning into a tantrum, a man becomes isolated and does not respond to your cries and tears. You can dramatize and lament for hours, but you will not achieve anything from him except irritation. You are a balanced woman. Instead of throwing up a scandal, try to speak with restraint and give intelligible arguments and arguments during the dispute. The stronger sex reacts to facts, not emotions. In a calm environment, finding a compromise and agreeing will be faster.
It's not about everyday duties and affairs. For example, if your husband does not want to help you with household chores, you have the right to demand the opposite from him. In such matters, a man subconsciously understands that this is his duty and does not resist doing it. The point is different. Ask any male representative about what he does not like. And everyone will answer that they sincerely do not understand why he should go shopping with you, choosing the next shoes, watch Dom-2 and listen to the stories of your girlfriend's unsuccessful novels.
The male gender reacts negatively to the manifestation of jealousy and considers it a sign of distrust. You should not constantly check the pockets of his clothes, read sms and mail. You do not need to control his every step, constantly call and find out in detail where and with whom he is. Give your loved one more space and show that you are a confident woman and you have nothing to worry about. In addition, you will have the right to demand from him the same response from him.
This rule applies to all aspects of your life together. And the position of neutrality is inappropriate here. Feel free to take the initiative in your own hands and try to diversify your life with your loved one. Surprise your partner and arrange surprises for him. He will definitely appreciate a spontaneous romantic dinner and a trip out of town organized by you. More better man will respond to the initiative in the implementation of his erotic fantasies. Try to be different and interesting. This woman will make your head spin.
These rules will help build the right behavior towards your loved one and build a harmonious relationship with him. It will become easier for you to achieve mutual understanding in a couple and guess each other's desires. And most importantly - there will be a mutual natural need to please a loved one, make him happy and receive attention in return.
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The differences between the fair and the strong sex is such an inexhaustible topic that hundreds and thousands have already been devoted to it. literary works, scientific works, works of art, etc. But all these searches still did not give a final answer to the question, what is the main difference between male and female behavior what causes contradictions in the relationship between men and women and how to overcome them. There is a lot of advice, recommendations, practices of a very different nature, but none of this can be called a recipe for an ideal relationship.
Therefore, we suggest that you consider how the psychology of a woman works in a relationship with a man. And in order to understand this, it is necessary to delve into the reasons for the peculiarities of male behavior. After all, when the reasons for this or that act become clear, both the act itself and its consequences acquire meaning. Only a deep understanding of the causes allows you to find the right solutions to a variety of problems, including problems in relationships.
As planned by mother nature, men should be hunters, earners, strong, courageous, tireless. This is the image that most try to stick to. modern men, despite the fact that the 21st century no longer requires hunting trophies, enemy blood and mammoth carcasses from them. However, these concepts modern society found adequate replacements - money, career, success, women. Male psychology is the key to explaining male behavior. It is she who allows us to explain the male approach to life and find our place in the male picture of the world.
Most of the problems between members of different sexes is that people simply do not understand each other and do not want to make the slightest effort to gain mutual understanding. When building relationships, one should never forget that each person is a separate world, with its own laws, rules, boundaries, laws. However, we are all alike in some way. Important common features unite the psychology of all men. The most important of these features is the concentration on exclusively important things. The focus of male consciousness focuses on solving specific issues, they are not able to think about several situations at the same time and solve several problems at the same time. There must be only one goal. This feature of thinking largely determines the behavior of men, and their priorities, values, entertainment.
As a rule, men tend to hide the sensual component of their lives. But the state of falling in love can make serious adjustments to the behavior of the stronger sex. This is a manifestation both in external changes - a man begins to monitor himself more closely, tries to look attractive, and in behavior. Gesticulation, facial expressions, and speech also change. Numerous state studies male love allows you to name the most accurate likely signs the fact that another man was slain by Cupid's arrow mark:
Even in the old song it was sung that in our world, according to statistics, there are 9 guys for 10 girls. Today, this ratio has changed even more not in favor of the fair sex. In other words, there is fierce competition among women. And for worthy men, in general, serious battles often flare up. In the struggle for personal happiness, one should not forget the main feature male psychology: all men are hunters, therefore easy prey is of no interest to them. At the same time, too complex schemes for conquering male attention may also be a waste of time. Studies show that quite simple and understandable components cause interest in men:
The main reasons for male infidelity
Domestic Violence: Main Causes
Bullying is a terrible phenomenon from which many women suffer. The consequences of such behavior are always dire. They irrevocably leave a negative imprint on relations, break the fate of both parties to the conflict, and also adversely affect the development and mental state children, who often witness domestic violence. Often victims of beatings do not tell anyone about their plight, thereby only aggravating the situation. Each of these situations is purely individual and requires personal work with psychologists, but the main most common causes of domestic violence can still be named:
Jealousy is a feeling familiar to everyone. At least in the weakest form, but everyone had to be jealous. But the degree of this feeling, its sharpness, soreness depend on the temperament and characteristics of each individual, as well as on education. In men, the desire to possess undividedly is inherent at an instinctive level. And jealousy is most often the product of such phenomena as a lack of self-confidence, uncontrolled alcohol intake, features of education that infringes on the rights of women, an overdeveloped imagination, too violent expression of one's own emotions and feelings. Most often, women face jealousy in the form of mistrust, suspicion, persecution. But often it also takes rude forms - insults, beatings.
The basis of differences in women's and male behavior is that women give themselves to feelings, and men to actions. Men often remain silent because they prefer to see rather than hear. Hints, allegories, riddles - all this for men remains, in fact, an empty phrase, since their brain is imprisoned for specifics, certain tasks, clear and simple goals. And also all the details and minor elements pass by the male attention, as it is focused exclusively on the essence of a particular issue or situation.
Men, like all people and living beings, in general, are also afraid. And it can be difficult for them to cope with it, because men need to constantly maintain the image of a fearless defender. The most common fears of men related to relationships are the fear of being rejected, the fear of becoming dependent on a woman or being unnecessary, humiliated, the fear of not meeting the requirements. Among other common male fears, psychologists call:
- Fear of failure. This applies not only to the financial component, but also to all others.
- Fear of ruining your own reputation;
- Fear of being deceived;
- Fear of loneliness;
- Fear of being manipulated.
- Constant mention of one's own merits. Often these virtues seem obvious only to their owner;
- Complete denial of one's own shortcomings, backlash when they are mentioned by other persons;
- Indifference towards relatives;
- Perfectionism. Over time, the pursuit of perfection leads to the fact that a person experiences continuous dissatisfaction with himself and others;
- Idealization own life, the desire to prove their own superiority in any field;
- Demonstration of self-importance.
Male greed is a common phenomenon. In some cases, it manifests itself as moderate stinginess, aimed at reasonable economy. But in other situations, it borders on total control over finances and real miserliness. The most common reason for this behavior is, of course, upbringing. If the family in which the man grew up experienced financial difficulties, and the child felt all the humiliation of such a situation, the fear of poverty, a reverent attitude towards money and the desire to save it will remain with him for life. And also people who are unsure of themselves often become stingy. tomorrow. Egoists do not like to share money. But all these reasons suggest that only the man himself can cope with this problem by contacting a psychologist or psychoanalyst. No woman's tricks will make a miserly spendthrift.
Self-admiration is less common in men than in women. But recently, this psychological phenomenon has been observed in males much more often. Often a man admires himself secretly, to himself. Sometimes he does it openly, not embarrassed by his own behavior. Be that as it may, narcissism in a person cannot be defeated if he himself does not want it. Therefore, with such a situation, it is worth contacting a psychologist and working hard on yourself in order to achieve harmony between self-abasement and narcissism. Signs of narcissism in men include:
Ending a relationship is a difficult time for both parties. Some women assume that there is nothing difficult for men in parting, but this is not so. Its behavior is largely determined by the situation in which the gap occurs:
We hope that knowing these nuances of male psychology will help you build relationships with your loved ones more harmoniously!
Eight golden rules of behavior with men
Every woman strives to make her relationship with her beloved better. Here are a few golden rules of behavior with men that no one should forget
The correct behavior of a woman
A few words about correct behavior women, or when a woman behaves like a woman, a man is forced to behave like a man.
Correct behavior of a woman towards a man
In life, it is so arranged that not all girls are equally happy and satisfied in a couple. It often happens that some are deprived of attention and care, while others
Psychology of a woman in a relationship with a man
Psychology of a woman in a relationship with a man? Women's secrets in the understanding of men? The relationship of a man to a woman? What are men afraid of
Types of female behavior are formed depending on age, life experience, upbringing, family scenarios, cultural traditions and other living conditions. They can be mixed or change over time. This division is very conditional. I just want to give as an example a certain model in order to visually show how female psychology works in action. So, before us are the main types of women:
.Woman - mother
. Woman is a predator
.Woman is the boss
. Woman - colleague (friend)
. Woman is a child
A woman is a mother this type is very common in life, we can say that in our country it even prevails, especially in women aged forty and older. Outwardly, they are always pleasant, sweet and endearing persons. They often have a plump or even very curvaceous figure, with very pronounced female forms.
They prefer classic clothes and, more often, care little about their appearance. People around appreciate such women for their responsiveness, openness. Men in them find warmth and caring, which, at times, can reach the point of absurdity. A mother woman treats men as a source of eternal problems and troubles, but at the same time, she cannot imagine her life without a "man", whatever he may be, she is ready to sacrifice herself and carry this "burden" until the end of her life. Her unconscious goal is to be revered, almost a martyr in the eyes of those around her. Which men choose this type of women and why? Firstly, these may be men who have lacked maternal warmth and care since childhood, Secondly, those who are infantile or do not have independence and purposefulness, who always need a mother's breast in order to feel psychologically safe. mother woman, has a huge feminine energy, which attracts men. She in a man evokes the image of a kind mother who will always accept anyone, feed him pies and pancakes, and even console him. But, she is practically devoid of female power, since she herself suppresses it. She is ready to completely "dissolve" in a man, but cannot motivate or induce to activity, achievement of high goals and success. A woman like soft pad, with which it is so good that you don’t want to get up and do something. In family life with this type of women, men often suffer from alcoholism.
Predator woman, this type can also often be found, but the age of women here is predominantly younger, on average 20-35 years. These are very active and purposeful girls. For them, a man is prey, and they are hunters. Their goal is always wealthy men who are almost always married, but these women even like this complication of the task. Predators have a bright attractive appearance, always watch their figure and emphasize their sexuality in all ways.
Surrounding such persons are not unambiguous, they can be respected for their confidence and active life position, but they may not be loved for their selfishness and aggressiveness. They attract men with their looseness and ability to keep themselves. A female predator treats a man as a trophy, a source of money, pleasures and opportunities, but at the same time, he is a big burden for her when he needs to pay attention, care and time. Her unconscious goal is money and power. feminine energy the predator is weak, but it has a huge female power, which is mainly expressed by sexuality. What kind of men like this type? There is no specific type of men who exactly like cougars. Here the question is what kind of man did the female predator like, who became her target. And then no one can resist, anyone can be in her skillfully placed "nets". These women are always looking for already successful or potentially successful males. Therefore, they do not need to “invest” a lot in a man, but if necessary, they will motivate and guide him, but in order to “squeeze” everything out of him to the last. In family life, such women from affectionate cats turn into aggressive tigresses. Sometimes, men, having come to their senses, run away from them themselves, leaving everything, just to "carry their feet." Next to such women, men always strive to be "on horseback", otherwise they will lose respect and her approval. Financial difficulties or any difficulties that lead to trouble become fatal for family relations with predators. In such a situation, marriage with predators will not last long, since having received everything from one man, they rush in search of the next, more successful and "strong" male.
The third type is the female boss. These are women with a tough, strong-willed, almost masculine character. They are self-sufficient and independent, their leadership qualities any man can envy. Outwardly, they also do not seek to emphasize their femininity, even if they wear female attributes (jewelry, etc.), it is only because etiquette or social status requires it. Surrounding them are valued for their great capacity for work, the ability to solve any problems.
They may even be afraid. If they appear somewhere, then they will definitely be the bosses or simply manage everyone. Their unconscious goal is to prove their strength and power. What kind of men choose this type of women? Of course, those who have a weaker masculinity, but they can also be very talented and gifted people (artists, musicians, scientists and philosophers), in general, those who are far from real life and the desire to make money. Men are afraid of such women as fire, but more often they simply surrender as captives, giving themselves and their fate at her full disposal. For these women, a man is needed as a subordinate, domestic and obedient "pet", an addition to her status, who will fulfill all her requirements unquestioningly. The boss woman herself achieves everything in life and the man either has to put up with it, be on the sidelines and idolize his partner, or if he is gifted and talented, then she will manage his achievements and career growth. Behind it, a man can hide like behind a "stone wall" and go with the flow. In family life, it can also look like this: a man becomes a householder and takes care of children and the house, or he is a "boy on parcels" in the business of his domineering wife.
Now let's move on to the next type, which is called female companion (friend). This type of woman can be found among any age category. They are very self-sufficient and purposeful individuals. People around them appreciate them for their high moral values, versatility, good humor and flexibility of mind. Outwardly, these women are always fit, athletic and look youthful with age. They attract men not by external, but always by their internal qualities, such as: strength of character, intelligence, sense of humor, reliability. With a female companion high requirements to yourself and to a partner who is nearby.
They strive to build their relationships with men on the principles of openness, mutual understanding, support and equality of interests. Which men choose a female companion? First of all, these are young modern type men who care more about the quality of relationships, interesting and productive communication, its saturation, as well as a partnership that helps both grow and develop. But in this case, a man treats a woman as an equal being and will never condescendingly treat her female weakness, sensitivity and emotionality. In her face, a man always wants to see faithful friend, a good adviser. He himself is ready to be a reliable friend. But their relationship is often built on competition, who is more successful or better in some business, which can be a positive stimulus in the development of a person, career, but may be the reason for the breakdown of relationships. Therefore, in family life, a man and a woman comrade-in-arms, it is always necessary to maintain harmony and balance, to clearly distribute roles, then such unions can be very long-term and successful.
The last type in our classification - a woman is a child. This type of women, already from the name says a lot: their age and behavior. Age until about 30 years old, when you can still look and act like a girl. As a rule, capricious, spoiled, infantile, but not defenseless and weak.
They attract men with their seeming naivety, almost childish immediacy. They arouse in men the desire to protect and help, to protect and satisfy any desires. Such women unconsciously choose a "daddy" for themselves, who will love, pamper, carry in their arms and solve any problems. Which men choose this type? These are men with big power complexes and intimophobes. It is difficult for them to build relationships with mature, experienced women, as they can see through their weaknesses. These men simply cannot provide normal family relations due to their complexes and immaturity, sexual problems. It is easier for them to act as a noble savior of a bad or defenseless girl, buying her love with money, their authority and power. Men are happy to make them expensive gifts, they buy luxury cars, apartments, businesses, in general, everything so that the girl does not need anything. A girl can behave badly, create problems for herself and others, have problems in the past with alcohol or drugs, but this is not important. Men like to save her, provide, give gifts, the main condition is that she does not grow up, does not become an ordinary adult woman, and even worse, an aunt, with a blurry figure and wrinkles on her face. The union with a woman-child can be long enough until the girl grows up, that is, she simply becomes much older, and then such a relationship breaks up for several reasons. Firstly, a woman can become wise herself and understand that she simply does not need a relationship with such a man. Secondly, the man will again be in search of a new girl, naive and a little eccentric. And such a relationship scenario for one man can be repeated several times.
